₦airaland Forum

Ngokafor:
....at the risk of digressing,abeg who started this red pant and bra thing? ..I have been reading it around and i keep wondering how?..
..Imagine my husband cheating and i am thinking of 'red pants and bra' with perhaps a plastic smile or a frown on my face forming sexy or what? ..ridiculous!

edwife:
chilli there is a problem o. I am starting to look like a bodybuilder-my upper body is somehow ,masculine.I stopped with the weight lift,i am now focusing only on the lower abdo.

It is not funny,i did not bargain for this ...i still need my feminine body....they advice me to take a 2 weeks break,but that won't be possible,i need by abdomen pack.

damiso:
Ok let me confess I added roast chicken I nefa reash to chop veg without carbs or protein. see below the actual meal

No skin though and it was roast chicken breast. I tried bland oats this morning. Yuk. Normally have Alpen fruit and nuts or granola with fruit and yoghurt but efemenaxy I don't think that bland one is for me o. The bananas made it a bit bearable though

pinkhill:
no he didn't make other kids
i would v shared my personal story but i cant...when i see things like this i use my mom's story to give others hope...she experienced a lot but stood strong in it...





if i were in her shoes with my upbringing....the man is dead and gone
re marrying is not in my option
it is not easy but God will make a way

pinkhill:
Do you question God
A case i witnessed but the man did not marry the other woman but he did abandon his wife and three children...she prayed and seek the face of God while she worked hard to fend for her children....i wasn't told,i witnessed it..after years the man came back...how the turnaround happened nobody can explain...since she has life there is hope

she should not use this trouble period to find solace in the bed of men or indulging in unspeakable act so her children wont see life that way..
well as for the divorce issue...when a man and a woman fight,they use te third party to settle..whatever decision on divorce she wants to take should come from within her

pinkhill:
It is quite painful cause no one would want to be in her shoes or even sniff it.
it will be wrong to advice her to divorce her infidel husband but all her hopes should be on God...notwithstanding as a woman and a mother she should live a life her children will learn from... i hope she is working,if not she should dust her cert or any trade she is into...and work for her children and forgetting the tales of one man....


it is not easy but she shouldn't end her life because of him..and she should take her health into consideration

let her sit her children down and tell them the reality of life..and encourage them to pray as an individual and as a family

no infidel man is worth dieing for

babyosisi:
You and all her friends are advising her against divorce but to pray for God to intervene and in all these years you have been praying,the number of wives are increasing
No intimacy for a year,he goes weeks without coming home to his bonafide wife and kids and provides nothing for their upkeep
You have been telling her that she will laugh last but instead her tears are flowing like River Niger and Benue combined.
I think you folks and your prayers may be her biggest problem and hindrance from moving forward
My prayer is that God sends her some new friends quickly

Cherlene:
Yes it is me on my PROFILE DISPLAY and VIDEO.

Thank you, aaw.

Cherlene

Cherlene:
Today I prepared:

Tomato stew and rice.
Sponge cake - ready to be SANDWICHED with whipped cream, sliced bananas and strawberries NAM NAM.

Cherlene

babyosisi:
Lunch today at work

Moi moi with chicken and my sinful drink
Yes people I can't quit cold turkey ,working on it
a bag of chips
Had the pear already

repogirl:
respect must be earned but that is another discussion.

I agree that one shouldn't treat the wife that way, but in the event that he does, what should the wife do? That is the question.....

repogirl:
we all know what's not okay...... The way forward and how to achieve a peaceful coexistence with her husband is what's really important here.

I sincerely hope they work out their differences, at least he apologised with gifts...... But if it becomes a pattern, fight-break bones- gifts, then there is a problem.

Like I said earlier, this is still a young marriage, you two are still getting to understand living together, OP should apply subtlety and wisdom and hopefully it will turn out well.



I agree that its wrong but I was pointing it out as what's the worst that would happen if he did.... If you follow my post later on, I said if she had returned with the door locked, that was when to give him a piece of her mind .

Okay so.... She seized the wallet because he might lock her out and then that led to the struggle where she was injured.

What if she had just said okay, keep the keys and then the next day, called him to tell him when she would be arriving and make the key available? And if he failed to make them available, that was when to unleash her fury (not even necessary sef cos he would feel guilty already keeping the key from her)

Besides he had the kids to take care of, so common sense would tell you he was going no where, or would he carry them around to his office and other places he needed to be?

All this could have been avoided! That's just it.

repogirl:
oh please, even a saint has his days.

Herzumpther:
Chai it haf tae o.

Cococandy I'm relocating to your street, you want to kill me with longer throat abi I don't need to be cooking because you have been feeding me all this while

My small lunch o jawe. I'm back from my small break.

Veave you scarce o.

babyosisi:
That one is nothing in a place like Nigeria when they can be slapped and kicked and cheated on at will and everyone will tell them to pray harder and submit everything including their brains.
Staying married at all costs is the mantra
Locking her out like a disobedient house girl is very minor
She's even lucky he allows her to keep a job

repogirl:
See, I have been married a few years now and the best advice I can give a woman is know your husband and pick your battles wisely.

No point in fighting what you won't win but will only strain your relationship. Talk in a calm sensible manner about your issue when tempers are cool and most times just let him win. I am not saying be a pushover but just be wise about your confrontation.

Okay, he doesn't like her mother...... So she should force him to like her? I don't get it, did he marry her mother also?

How was she even sure she would be locked out? Has he done it before? And even if he does, that is when you should take up the issue with him. Not before,that is what will made her get injured.

Had I been in her shoes, I would have kept calling earlier to let him know I was on my way and he should make preparations to get me the key if he wouldn't be at home.

Besides she even has a help, so the help will not be around also to open the door?

About the mother in law, the OP should just forget about her since she has distanced herself from her. The OP should settle her matters in house and read her husband.

This is a young marriage and if the OP keeps a cool head, things will sort themselves out but if she wants to fight fire with fire, hmmmmm someone is gonna get burnt for sure.

For me when my husband begins act irrationally as men often times do making unnecessary rules and demands, I don't bother talking. I will want to tell him some truths too but in order not to aggravate things, I just say what I want to say in my head.

Mind you, I do lose my cool o but I lose it when its well deserved and him sef will know he has probably gone too far but when a woman consistently barks, you don't know when she is barking or when she wants to bite.

Finally if the OP is also looking inward, analysing herself and how her own actions might be affecting the situation, then that's a good start to things being better.

repogirl:
Stop stalking your mother in law!

Is not by force that she should love you, you seem so needy self. Abeg leave the woman jare, is it by force to get her approval?

She doesn't pick your calls because she doesn't want to hear you reporting her son to her as if she didn't train him well enough. So, mind your marriage and settle your issues within your immediate family and stop trying to force your self on her.

Your husband will always be her son and you will never have that sort of bond with her. Since you have tried your best, leave it as it is.

Be respectful from the distance she has put you, accept it and live your life.

PS, u sef are a stubborn woman, how will you collect your husbands wallet of all things? You were looking for trouble.
What is there if he locks you out? Will you die? Isn't it for a few hours? All this began because u insisted on taking the kids to your parents am sure, cos if u didn't he wouldn't have insisted you gave him your key.

You better calm your Strong head down, am even sure your mother in law is tired of you attitude and wants to distance herself from you as a result.

Finally my point is, instead of pointing fingers begin by analysing yourself.

thorpido:
Belated happy birthday to your hubby.May your home be blessed.

Lanadelrey:
True!!! Pro-Choice is the way to be. They won't legalize abortion. They won't provide a running foster care system to ensure unwanted babies are cared for. I really don't know what Pro-life underdeveloped Nigeria expects of these women who are forced to undertake a responsibility they obviously don't want. This will keep happening till a rational stand is taken on unwanted pregnancies.

babyosisi:
What are the alternatives for unwanted babies
Unless Nigeria can provide a viable alternative where these young mothers can drop off unwanted babies without repercussions,no questions asked,babies will continue to be sold and thrown under bridges.
It's easy to condemn the mother and criminalize her actions and rightly so but how do we prevent future occurrences?
There are ministries of women affairs,what is their say on this matter and why can't they devise a plan to end this
The truth is that there are people with babies they didn't plan for and don't want to keep.
The earlier the country addressed that the better
Here in the USA a mother can take a baby to any hospital emergency room,police station or fire station ,drop it off and walk away,no questions asked.She can call and say where she left the baby and state that she doesn't want it and she won't be termed a criminal.
Is there any public service announcement on what these girls in Nigeria can do

babyosisi:
I mean
How can a grown woman ,a mother of children not realize that the MIL has no case to answer?
The man who does has kissed her and bought her Italian clothes and she is disturbing an Innocent woman
In short I am done with the topic
Hope you enjoyed Mother's Day my dear

babyosisi:
No I didn't see this
Kai menene
Tell us the truth how many hospital visits so far and how many beatings have you received sotay your MIL doesn't even want to hear your sorry stories anymore
I don't blame the woman jor even me sef don taya
Why must she be stressed out with your issues
Oya pick out the fine dress they may use to lie you in state next time the glass pieces decide to embed themselves inside your brain
At least you have an option now to make sure you look very pretty on that day as people walk by
This is the most stoopid thing I have read
How old are you sef?

ElFenomeno1:
Your father nwa mpki
Anuofia

iwatch:
Would any lady appreciate a gift like this on her birthday? Help me with your opinion and other ideas. Thank you.

bukatyne:
Happy Birthday to Mr. Hotstepper & Mr. cococandy.

God bless your homes and make your homes even more blissful

Long life and prosperity.