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Hotstepper:
Today is 'Obim's ( my Heart) Birthday. Please say a prayer for him that God will continue to bless, guide and protect him for me. Thank you

ElFenomeno1:
Full blown illiterate..... I am wasting my time here

ireneidiva:
Meaning?

soonest:
But will the embryos be frozen till eternity? The case strong no be lie

ElFenomeno1:
Come to think of it..... Do you really deserve to be paid your allowance?
Undergraduate who cant even string a correct sentence together.... SMH!
What is the meaning of blackwash?
Fu....cking illiterate!

nickibarb:
my first choice of who the kids stay with is my MIL, not because I don't think my mum will do a great job, but because I know that's what my husband will be most comfortable with. I'm trying to be the good wife here, to do what pleases my husband as much as possible.

gloryl:
yes sweerie (cococandy)......how's you i miss u plenty; even more than lorry drivers miss sleep

nickibarb:
no, he wasn't on the phone with her all through. it was more like after seeing my text message, she calls him to talk about it. I didn't hear her side of the conversation but I know she asked if he was sure he could take care of the kids and he replied in the affirmative.

also, after he pushed me down, (i won't say beat up cos it was more like a struggle to take possession of the wallet), he called his mother after it had happened. while he was talking to her, i started screaming in a bid to make her hear me through the phone, that he was trying to kill me and she has refused to intervene by taking my call).

my husband said he doesn't like my mum cos when we were preparing for our wedding, she was trying to impose her choice of wedding vendors and other details about the wedding on him. i had told her to handle things like caterer, decorations, venue, etc cos i hadn't relocated to Nigeria yet. he relocated before me. i also told him that I had asked her to make decisions on my behalf. he eventually had his way, we did everything the way he wanted and got defrauded by the wedding vendors he chose. I've told him that whatever happened then, is not enough to cut her out of his life and prevent her from having access to her grandchildren. i wish i knew what else to do about it.

Jahblessme:
I wonder why you are focusing on your mil?
Your husband is the one who pushed you and you sustained a head injury.

Your husband is the one who locked you out of the house.

Your husband is the one acting like your parents can't care for your children.

You both have issues which are deeper than you are letting on and I feel the focus on mil is a way to deflect.Take care to discuss with hubby that getting physical is something you will not accept! You too be careful what you do.

Your husband and his mother have huge plans for your kids,with you in the picture or not.You are not even allowed to make decisions on the care of your own children.Locking out of house And you are busy focusing on MIL

You'd best start sorting this out before the river will swallow you.
You are the woman of the house,better solidify your position there.You can ignore or patch up with MIL later,your choice.Of course you will be forced to say sorry for something you aren't guilty of,forced to say sorry for her disrespecting your parents too.That's the naija method...total humiliation.

What did your parents do that they are not allowed to care for their own grandkidsThey will be cut off very soon unless you stand up for them and refuse to allow this nonsense.Abi they are not as rich as your hubby and therefore underlings??

Good luck,you will need it!!

bellong:
In a related news

gloryl:
I like them this simple and natural

airzzee:
You also do not know the circumstance that brought about the sleeping and pregnancy. Do you think only ladies are raped these days? He might have been seduced, drugged or something...

pcguru1:
[size=18pt]am curious there's no correlation between the story and her rape issue, other than to paint her character different [/size] .

babyosisi:
Where is azubuike to read that number 11
Sometimes when we are laying in bed,I see him writing in the air and calculating things

Lanadelrey:
This story doesn't ring true. But if it is, the lady in question has the right to decide not to forgive her husband's infidelity and leave the marriage afterall marriage is the union of 2, even the bible in corinthians says divorce is wrong except for the sin of adultery. So before god and man she is allowed to decide if she can forgive this and as it seems she can't, she's allowed to move on with her life. And to the person who said she should be lucky a man married her after being a victim of rape, you're absolutely vile and disgusting for that statement. This woman has been through a traumatic experience already and knowing this country she didn't get any counseling or and psychological rehabilitation after the incident and from what you say she didn't get justice either, she worked through this entirely on her own strength and willpower and knowing the stigmatization in Nigeria she must have endured her fair share of mockery but she decided to be strong and she got married in hopes of a happy life full of love with her real life Prince Charming, since this man can't be that for her, she should leave and go find happiness alone or with someone else. The man is an absolute douchebag and the only spell he's under is that of his utter selfishness. You find a broken person trying to heal, make them love and trust you, then break them even further. Humans are poison!!!

ucheokpara100:
i was sleeping on bare floor, jst eating and paying rent till all my money finished and the flat owner asked me to move out, at this point i 've sold evrything i came with phone etc, i slept outside for 2 months untill i got a job to wash plate in a restaurant when i got my first pay i paid rent then back to flat again. mind u some sleep outside for close to 4 months before they come back including nigerian graduates unlike me, mine was 2 months outside, at the point of sleeping outside u will mix up with people who are addicted to drugs thats the point where some people start selling drugs or start taking it.
no one will help you including your fellow nigerian unless you are ready to push drugs for them.

Enoquin:
My mum is a beautiful woman, kind hearted, strong, tolerant and wonderful woman. I have rarely seen her deeply angry and I fear her anger more than my strict dad's own because it means not seeing her smile for a while.

But this human story isn't about her. It is about our last born. I want to touch on what he did for me last year that touched me deep.
He is in year 1 now but last year when he came for his second post-utme because the first didn't come out well, I felt bad that he was cooped up in the house most times; there aren't many places to goin Uyo so I usually allowed him to go and watch matches by giving him money especially since he had exhausted what my parents gave him.

We all needed to go for my aunt's wedding september and my parents thought it wise, he waited and came along with us and so of course I needed to fix my hair before traveling. The human hair I was to fix had been kept in readiness but while sorting out the hair bag, I saw another human hair and instructed my sister to wash it for me. She did and because the cloud had darkened prior to her and my brother going to church, she didn't hang it out to dry but spread it on nylons in the house.
It was still cloudy when I left for church, so I didn't spread it out either. I don't attend the same church with them and mine close pretty late, so on my way back, I received a call from my brother. He wanted to know if I was coming home soon, I replied that I was.

When I got home, I met him fanning the weaves. I stood with mouth agape for a while before I asked him what he was doing.
His reply "You are fixing your hair tomorrow, I want the weave-on to dry for you"
I was speechless and humbled. I quickly told him, that wasn't what I was going to fix before the dude jump up talk say im wan go watch match wey don start

That event has stayed with me and makes me more proud of my siblings...you see, our mother raised us well...so it's still a happy mother's day to her

ghost1718:
miss. U should be happy that u grow with ur twin. My father the type that believed females will dull his only son. I have never lived up to a year with my family. Each time i returned. My father will call one of my uncle for me to live with him

naijababe:
Easy, peasy!

Two over-ripe bananas
50g of butter
75g of sugar
Flour - (your choice here, could be white or wholemeal, these days I use 3/4 wholemeal and 1/4 coconut flour)
Walnut pieces (optional)
Some nutmeg and vanilla essence (optional)

Method:
Mash bananas until it forms a smooth paste, add eggs and beat together. In a separate bowl, mix sugar and butter until mixture is creamy looking and fluffy. Add the eggs/banana mixture and fold until thoroughly mixed; use a balloon whisk if you have one but a wooden spoon will do the job just as well. Gently fold in the flour in small quantities, it is always best to add in bits otherwise you will end up with a dough that's too thick, add the walnuts, nutmeg and vanilla essence. Pour mixture in an oil bread ban and bake in a pre-heated oven for twenty minutes.

If your dough become too thick, you can add some cold water to get a smoother dough. That's it