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Na GEJ fault.
He tolerated APC lies and propaganda that they used the media to peddle.
Gave them the window to spread lies about him.

Una never see anything.
The witch hunting is only starting.

Too bad.
RIP young man.

5minsmadness:

Na only me talk say make she retaliate?
But honestly I feel that's the best course of action, talking from experience.
The guy is taking it like play, probably doing it out of 'love'. Ignoring won't help IMHO.

I could be wrong though. Let's see how it goes.

Me a wife

That's a first

Well you're the first person.
So I guess the snide jabs must be meant for you at least before those supporting your POV.

Kpele (no I don't really mean it)


Ok seriously though.
I don't see how abusing him back will help them but then I don't have a better opinion.
So...

all4naija:
What that thing you see in him that you admire, lady?

I can't place my hands on it.
But something in his eyes.

Oya leave me before I begin misyarn now

fam24:
your father is childish.Do you know what those hate campaign could do to one's reputation ?

oh now someone knows hate campaign is damaging.
iLaugh.

Too many wives dey affect the men

Ok on a serious note, are they after getting pregnant or quality sex because I'm reading they are kind of mixing up the two in the text.
Goodluck una sha.

Massive divorce
Massive government sponsored weddings again.
Cycle continues.

So you're one of these tout wives who insult their husbands?
I don catch you today.
Your case don be.
See folks taking indirect swipes at you
You go hearam

5minsmadness:
1. Insult him back. Use his exact words. Most people don't know how harmful their behavior is until it is thrown back at them.

Or

2. Next time he is verbally abusive, throw a hissy fit. Be dramatic about it. Break glass, tableware(but for the love of god, not the TV!) something that will shock the living daylights out of him. Then break down and cry and ask why he keeps insulting you. If this doesn't work then am sorry but your husband is possessed.


Do not ignore. Ignoring, although easier to do, doesn't work, at least not on men.

all4naija:
I smell something like favoritism there.

Well maybe.

I don't know really know about that .
I just think he's sexy.
After all He's not the only nigerian-Hollywood actor, there's chiwetel ejiofor and nonso anozie et al.(some even better actors than him) so the favoritism isn't because he's from Nigeria.

He's just .... Mmmm

yhusiee:
A woman should be successful, no doubts. It is an orderly procedural thing starting with her family. Especially her husband. If she can adequately take care of her family and handle her job, then it's not a problem; but that is not the case in most cases, we women tend to focus more on one more than the other. Most of us are just not that strong. Kuddooss to the strong ones anyway!

If you're not my dear, doesn't mean others are not.
Most women I know manage work,home and even extra studies just fine.

all4naija:
The movie is Pompeii and that is a Nigerian-British born actor Adewale Akinnuoye. Agbaje

Yea I know who he is.
More reason why I like him.
Plus I just found out the name of the movie too.
Will find it and watch it later.

Pebcak:
[size=28pt]ghen ghen bros J don vex [/size]

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what show/movie is that clip from? Looks familiar. I like that black guy. Always love to see his movies.

Edited. Never mind. I see you already posted it in response to someone else

It's a mate snagging kind of thing.
Anything to appear better than the other woman so as to get the male attention.

gbosaa:
So they called off what would have been a happy marriage because of the dad's bad toilet habit? The bee made a mistake, it should have hammered his nut sack with venom.

It was simply a warning that he should not be urinating at that very spot. People can be miserably superstitious.

Phew.

Thank you.

THe misery of superstition.

bukatyne:
Lol!
I need to get tape rule immediately

Vickybee:
Must men want women to worship them? Jeez!
Even if she's not successful that doesn't mean she should worship him. For what?
Respect is reciprocal. Husband and wife should respect each other, irregardless.

Yea respect is reciprocal and husband and wife definitely should respect each other.

bukatyne:
Absolutely!

Their reasons might be:

She will be heady
She will be uncontrollable
He will not have a say
Etc. Etc.

All back to 'headship'

It is all about the head.
Always has been

Who's head is bigger?
"My head is bigger than yours. damn right. It's bigger than yours"

elantraceey:
will you get married to a woman who is far richer than you without feeling inferior at times?

my dear you will only feel inferior if you're really inferior as a person compared to Your partner. Money or not.
So if a guy feels inferior to his woman, he's probably truly inferior.

If you're a great quality person, even the one with money will respect you willingly or unwillingly.
You will just command the respect without trying to.

So it's all about head huh?

bukatyne:
Nigerian society measure the headship or 'goodness' of a husband based on his pocket.

They also see the headship as a license to do as they wish aka unquestionable

A typical Nigerian husband wants to be the 'head' So his pockets has to be heavier than that of his wife.

A number of women do not want to marry a husband that is not the 'head'

Some of the women who earn higher are also very heady too

olumba69:
Gizzard + dodo + shaki = ? what would you call this? Recipe here.... http://www.myactivekitchen.com/blog/2015/4/26/giz-dodo-on-point

that looks so good. Did you cook that?

Lunch.

I Wasn't feeling so well and he's like close your eyes let me make you some comfort food.
It's going to be ready in 10mins.
I closed my eyes and wondered what kind of food cooks in 10mins except noodles.
Well 10mins later, tada!
I for say na.
10min food

He's just too good for me.
Blush*

Good for you.

So sweet.

EfemenaXY:
OMG!

I feel so inspired after watching this! After the first 3 minutes, it really heats up...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zh9qH5-g4Sw

Steve is a clown .

Wow those ladies making me feel old.

moca:
Awh!
See smoothie!

I need rescue o, I dey munch icecream now like part two no dey.

Imagine me and ice cream.
Ok o.


Efe,i hear u

ice cream? See you see fat o. Abeg run o.

pickabeau1:
In these paternity fraud cases, DNA does not really help

It typically allows the woman to have a strong say in who she thinks the father and bam!.. you are liable

any link of such examples?

I'm just finding it hard to believe a DNA result would say something different in a contested paternity case and the man will still be ruled as the father.
If there's no contest, then it is a different thing.
And if there is a contest with no DNA testing, it is also a different thing.

Only 21? We still have a looooong way to go.

pickabeau1:
Lol
You are right...its that's not there

My bad

Legal option is definitely better than murder however will you get that sense of justice considering he would have been barred from DNA much earlier or d results not regarded even if had one

Well I didn't see where it says that he was barred from DNA much earlier in the post.
So maybe then he didn't ask for it.

But it could get worse than that.
The legal option in my opinion only helps him avoid as more losses as possible.
It doesn't really guarantee him justice.

If the woman's defense can prove she didn't intend to defraud him, he may not be given any financial settlement on that score.
she could say she slept with the other man within days of sleeping with her husband and didn't know the pregnancy wasn't her husband's.
'Didn't care to know' isn't a crime.
'Was reckless' isn't a crime. Too bad huh?
The law is kind of too straight forward it is almost tricky. The burden of proof is on the accuser.
If they can't prove intent to defraud, there goes the case.
They can prove she cheated on him (which is not a criminal offense) and she can pay emotional damage for that if applicable.
But they may not really be able to prove that she set out to defraud him(which is the criminal offense. Or should be if it isn't already).
Except they can find correspondence between her and the real father of the child in which she let slip that she knows he's the father and her ex-husband is not. Then he can have something to hold on to.

There's not much justice in all of that for him.
Just the lesser of two not-so-good outcomes.

JustCalMeDBoss:
Funny that type of hate is gradually creeping over me and most times I feel like take a gun and blow the brains out from my dad skull.

hmm. nna Biko kwa.

pickabeau1:
But your suggestion is exactly what he has done
Your initial post suggested there was a less attritional route

No pickabeau.

My first post is 'that's a better way to go about it.

Meaning he's doing it the better way compared some other guys who have been in his shoes.

You misunderstand that post.
Or maybe just looking for something that's not there

I didn't say 'there's a better way to go about it'.

Okeikpu:
honey what's d problem （・∀・）

SMH. Who's your honey?

Ina ara nwanyi ajadu maka Na ima ebe di ya no.
Okwa ma mgbe Ana-elibeghi nwoke mmadu?

Onye ahu ochokwara ka mkpuru obi ya zuru Ike Na ndokwa?

barcanista:
Girls of these days wey de "fire down" even before the thought of marriage , but I no blame them cos body no be wood

Maybe virgins got married when you were in Okrika but they may decide to opt out from this stuff due to personal or religious belief. All the same, it is a thing of pride sha... When am I seeing urs btw?

Lol. I know. I had girls with one, two or more babies in my class. I fear them sef because I was like a small girl compared to them in the ways of the world

Look atew.
See my what?

Don't worry when my daughter is getting married, you will be invited.

pickabeau1:
Must every thing be a fight?

I wanted to hear your opinion since you thought tgere was a better way

Legal options also have issues but what will u suggest since he lost a lot of money to this fraud

Who told you I'm fighting you?

Anyway Read my first post again.

I said 'that's a better way of going about it'

You know, as against killing or doing anything violent that may lead him to jail and compound his losses.

Now that he has taken it to court, the judge will determine what's best. Maybe a fine or repayment. Even though I can say if all the money is returned to him (if at all possible) there isn't much that will pay him back for what he really lost (a son).
But It will help him prevent further losses that could occur if he takes the law into his own hands.