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Mtchew.
Waste of space

SMH

tchidi:
#turnItUp!!
#HappyBirthdayToMe!!

Where dem bakers art?? Bake me a cake!

happy birthday

ozoigbondu:
The ancient one was testing the water to know the reactions of Nigerians when he smuggles back his decree.He did not expect this type of backlash thats why he denied it.The guy still thinks we are in millitary era and 1984 where he can do anything he wants and jail anyone who opposes him

#DAURADULLARD
#BABAONECHANCE

exactly

Why would she go through your sister's phone?
SMH.

That part ruined it.

pickabeau1:
Speak plainly


How is same sex relationship mutual consent based when u have anti gays too

lol. Who's consent do you need for a relationship besides those in it? How can you say it is not mutual when the relationship is not forced on any of the partners? If one gay partner didn't want to be gay and the other is forcing it in them, then you can say it is not mutual.

For polygamy, many of the women aren't in support but they are told to suck it up or leave and in some cases religion is used to justify it. How is it mutual? Pickabeau chai.
If the wife would rather have her husband to herself but the man insists on marrying another wife, does it define mutual consent between the man and the woman?

There's no basis for comparison between polygamy and homosexual marriage.
They are different things that don't belong in the same broad group.

chisom18:
yes dear they do absolutely beautiful in their attires. love em all. asusu igbo amaka ooooo yes dear they do absolutely beautiful in their attires. love em all. asusu igbo amaka ooooo

yes o

If they are his family how didn't they know he was dead until after two months?
Family indeed.
Maybe they only call him 2x a year. With no live-in help at his age.
They were probably waiting for when he would give up the ghost.

well even if he didn't say it, it is about time someone said it.

which kind of foolish thing are you saying OP?

Fajita wrap.
Pollock fillet filling.

level10:
thanks again..I would stop going tru her phone..

I haven't talked about it on serious terms with her..I am trying to avoid being tagged as *needy*..You know dats one easy way some ladies trivialise issues..how do I go about it.

there's no science to it. Just pull a straight face and tell her you deserve better.
If she insists on her stance that you're free to check elsewhere, by all means check elsewhere.

It may only take her being left by you and being treated like shyt by someone else to realize what she's lost.

They all look so awesome in their native attires

bukatyne:
What shall I say?

How are you and yours?

Besides, the woman might just be an attention seeker

we are doing great

Yours?

This one Na foolish attention she dey seek.
She will just attract her death with her own words if she keeps giving off the message that she's fine with being hit.

5minsmadness:
154views and only 6posts
Diarisgoduo!

What were you hoping to see?
More gay bashing?
Lol

Stale things

armyofone:
Haba now coco so you no wan chew that nice vegetable na eba you take hide am
I love raw cauliflower.

nice invention

I don't like chewing it. Nor broccoli.
It's like hiding your pills inside a ball of eba.
(Used to do that a lot as kid)

Chillisauce:
Looks great.
I bought cauliflower this evening. Will be trying it too with cocoyam flour.
Your Okra looks yum yum.

Thanks

Flytefalls:
If being westernized means my sister who is in my home must respond to my call for peace, at the risk of being asked to leave nicely first, and not so nice subsequently, then heck yeah! Perhaps I'm not really that nice

All this pussy footing around one emotional woman, I don't have time for it (I do have patience, but none for stale inaction). It's in no one's best interest to leave her sulking, creating a dark cloud with nothing in the name of resolution happening soon. Sorry, but go home if you can't respect your brother's request for some insight into your troubles and peace in his home. Sometimes the threat is enough to make one open up .

Some people just want to create drama over nothing, and even worse are the spectators who have their time (that includes us)

parismarc:
Lol, na them sabi.

Thanks dear, God has compensated me.
How are you and yours?

you're welcome.
We are fine and dandy

I can't sincerely answer that.
Maybe she's seeing him, maybe she's not at the moment. Maybe he's still wooing her and she's considering dating him. I don't know without any FACTS.

But I must tell you that you should not be checking her phone. That's her privacy.
Quit it.

I do think you've something to worry about and it is not another guy(because you can't prove it yet).
What you have to worry about is that you find her full of herself and treats you with contempt.
So even if there's no other guy in the picture and she's all for you, that attitude is not something you should swallow especially if you intend to settle with her.
She may wreck your self esteem if you let her.

Have you tried to talk to her about it?

level10:
thanks for your contribution, I appreciate....please, I need you answer on this second question. from a lady's point of view.

I called her yesterday and her line was on *call waiting for about 10mins..I asked her who she was on phone with..she said it's a friend. ..so, today I went tru her phone and saw a particular guy's number...he calls her like 3times a week...(long calls).....

question

1) is it a norm, that a girl receives long calls from other guys when she claims to have a bf..

2) do u think I have anything to worry about.

They will say you're lying too.
Lol.

Anyway Thank God for you. Sorry about your first baby.

parismarc:
Labour pain is damn painful, when the doctor told me my son is breached and I would have to be delivered via CS, I danced azonto, I said to myself, Parismarc, u have escaped labour pains

My first child was a still birth, it was a vaginal delivery, the baby went into distress, 2nd was CS, she survived, my sis inlaw tried to shame me, she called me and said, so it's even cs, I said yes o!, I was nonchalant.

My 3rd child was vaginal, the pain ehhh, no be for here, so when d doctor recommend CS for my 4th, Kai! I was overjoyed cos I've been cracking my head since my 5th month on how I will endure the pain.

Shame ke, not in my dictionary. I love CS

Flytefalls:
Thank you! What can be made of the word 'normal', but surely it's not normal to remain in such a house if you have just cause for the entire family to stand up to their son regarding his wife. This inclines my thoughts towards the SIL having issues she should deal with. Otherwise she's just bored and playing with power.

Kick her out!!!!

@bold. Not easily accomplished.
You're too 'westernized'
Nobody kicks an in-law out without being the bad guy for it.
Didn't you read where she threatened to leave if her brother didn't drop the issue? (Even though she didn't really mean to go anywhere or she'd have done it)
That's because she knows once the word is out that her brother and his wife sent her out of their home, they are the bad guys regardless of what happened. So that's a nice weak spot to use in making them Uncomfortable. Like you said "playing with power"

The couple don't want trouble from their family so they obviously have no choice than to wait it out until she opens up on what's really making her upset.

level10:
sometimes it's just so difficult to leave.the feeling of starting a fresh . The feeling of not having her in my life..The feeling of a wasted investment of time . I really want out..but when I think of all these and something pops in my head that *nobody is perfect*...

That's true but nobody being perfect doesn't mean they should treat you like shyt.
There's no human being without a fault (temperamental, wasteful, sloppy, etc) so while you make efforts to accommodate each other's short-comings, always draw a line at the point where you're made to feel like you're worthless and being with you is an act of charity from them.

You're setting yourself up for emotional abuse.
If you value yourself, never be in a relationship with someone who's acting like they are doing you a favor by being with you.

Flytefalls:
So, SIL threatened to leave, husband convinced her to stay. His family aren't happy with him, wife is to blame. SIL and brother are now feuding. No acknowledgement from SIL to wife and now hubby to SIL. Wife unhappy, confused but can't solve anything. And all living under one roof.

Is this a Nigerian thing? I don't get why a grown woman with a fraction of installed sense cannot leave of her own accord if she felt unwelcome in her brother's house . How will anything be solved if SIL is not responding well to hubby or his wife? What kind of authentic foolishness do people put themselves through in this lifetime smh

The face-carrying is because she's the same age as the wife and maybe can't really do anything to her.
If she was older, maybe wifey for dey chop slap for not respecting her in her own brother's house.

Not saying the wife is without blame but if she's not being a good hostess, then the visitor should leave at her earliest convenience for her own peace of mind.
I can't imagine someone disrespecting me for being in their house and I'll keep staying when I can arrange to move out instead of 'moodying' about the house waiting for husband and wife to fall out because of me.
Worse still not saying what the problem is so that we can all settle the matter peacefully.

bukatyne:
Very few people get to meet their soul mates

How are you and family?

lmao

Violent people everywhere

all4naija:
Taking her on a special dining, outdoors,etc impress some ladies. What you listed are usually secondary to impress most women. Uh-huh! Let's go!

Well I guess I'm talking from my own preference.
Besides he wants to surprise her in her office.

The romantic dinner can't take place in her office Na

Lol. Return ko.
The only money they owe him is the bride price and his property if she really carted them away.

Was the wedding feast for her alone?
So she should refund him the money he spent on entertaining his friends from abroad?

Funny guy.

bosunjohns:
Thanks cococandy, but dont you think that would be expensive You could help me recommend an affordable one if you have a contact.

Sadly I don't have any contact I can recommend.

But if you shop around, I believe you will find someone affordable. He doesn't have to be R.Kelly you know? It is always the thought that counts even if the person is not a pro.
Even your church violinist/guitarist can do it if he's good with the instrument.

This is sooooo annoying.
Will you kindly kick his assss to the curb?

I wonder why parents even bother to train their daughters since after all that, one man from somewhere will be the one to decide if she gets to have a life or not.
Mtchew.


Modified. I see you made your decision. Way to go

PearlO:
Goodevening everyone...........I once posted and wished I could share my problems, the ones I ve not been able to handle yet from d various solutions discussed here......One of them jst happened recently...

First, am engaged to this very strict person. Therez no harm in being strict but not when itz extreme.....Tho I was raised by a very strict mum (single parent) it never got to dz extreme....I was allowed to air my views

I jst graduated waiting for service....I decided to do smfing in the interim sinz d usual allowance isnt forthcoming anymore

Nw this happen to be my crime......He wants me to stay home all day...or work where he wants me to

I applied smwhere and I was lucky enough to be taken...D pay aint rily d issue but atleast I have where to out to evryday and b useful to myself and d society bt dat is a big issue to my darling fiance coz I jst became a disrespectful wife-to-be

Meanwhile I have on countless times called or threatened to call off d whole engagement drama because of his attitude towards things bt evrybody is always blaming me coz d all feel am too impatient....They all say I shldnt try to measure up with him bt I am nt. am just trying to have a voice....I want to b heard to bcoz I feel I have dat right......

Now he is threatening to call it off jst because I refused to heed to his instructions and went ahead to take up d job..
As for me I dnt care if he does dat or not bt I will really love to knw if I did the right thing or am jst being disrespectful as he claims

if he is right I would go ahead and apologize to him and drop evrything that has to do with the job


I would really love to hear from d men's point of view as well as evrybodyz opinion as well


please forgive my typing
Anything you dnt understand ask questions I will answer
Am not in a very kul mood but I bliv in all ve typed, ve been able to make sense....
Thank you so much and am very sorry for the long epistle