₦airaland Forum

Yomieluv:
Loving friends more than the family broke my brother's marriage..

He would be at home,yet be chatting with his numerous babes outside,he keeps late niteout,he drinks alcohol like a drowning fish.

He does opposite of a married man,the marriage only lasted 3years,the rest is history..

I can't just allow my marriage to crash,I pray God gives me a very good wife,who understands,and values the essence of marriage..

Op,nice point.

More reason I love Nairaland.

anitank:
Honesty I think the only reason this is conflicting for her is the fact that her mum said he is not the will of God for her. I hate it when mothers get in the way using religious sentiments. She should be able to make decisions based on her own choice.

Yes, I am one of those super ambitious ladies and I understand how she wants to make her own money and be independent, but getting a masters degree does not in anyway guarantee she'd get a decent job immediately, talk-less that dream job. And besides if she really wants to get a masters degree, can't she do so after her wedding? [I'm sure that's the reason the man gave her an ultimatum and not because he doesn't want her to further her education.

Then again, getting married to a man who works in an oil company may be all she needs to get that dream job, even without a masters degree, as she would get to meet her husband's friends and colleagues who have the connections to get her one. You know how it is about getting jobs in Nigeria

People should stop blaming the man as I do not see him as one who is controlling and doesn't want the best for his woman. At 27, the lady is still very immature when it comes to decision making. She knows what she wants but doesn't known how to set her priorities wisely

adozie:
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I am a well educated professional in the same field with my wife. We both have advanced degrees. I have 4 daughters who are all smart and have high asppirations. I am sorry to say that I do not believe that any man who is willing to derail your pursuit for higher education truly loves you. He should embrace your interest in undertaking a masters degree.
Now let me tell you what I tell my girls on daily basis ; 'that man is only interested in you today because of what you have done for yourself". If you were a secondary school drop out, he will not be interested in you.
Intellectual and financial freedom is the only way a woman can protect herself from abuse from men (husband included). You can not give your husband absolute power over you, and you do so be denying yourself these two important survival tools in the modern world.
Honestly I can not understand why a successful like he is will think of not encouraging a future partner (note"partner" to pursue higher education, unless he intends to dominate her. I am very worried that he is giving you the option to choose between your education and him. Mark my words, this is the begining of the many of such ultimatums to come[/b].

BoboYekini:
I think I may have a headache, from the sheer volume of niggling and haranguing on this thread. And I only just read the last page. Women can complain sha. If it's not this, it's that.
Me, I would trade all the career woman power couple for a simple woman that won't nag me under the pretext of 'driving' me. Making me develop HBP trying to keep up with the Joneses. And we're not even married yet? Fhuck that.
I mean really, is that the new imperative? If you can't/won't get a ready-made man, pick some amenable and distinctly ok physical specimen, then proceed to mould him into a nervous wreck with no life outside of furthering your hypergamous objective.
The horror.

Herzumpther:
Lol.

Recipe for fish balls.

Ingredients.

Mackerel fish (Titus fish)
Seasoning (Maggi and salt)
Vegetable oil
Spring onions
Onion bulb
Habenero pepper (fresh pepper)
Egg

Procedure.

Cut and wash your mackerel fish (Titus fish), add a pinch of salt, diced onion and water. Cook till tender. allow to cool off then debone. After deboning you mash the fish with your bare hands. Wash and slice your spring onion and add to the mash fish. In another bowl, crack your egg, do not beat. With a spoon or spatular, extract yolk (the yolk is not needed) then add the egg white into the mased fish. Dice your habenero pepper ( fresh pepper) and add the mixture . put pan on fire, add vegetable oil, heat to medium temperature then mould fish mixture in balls and fry for a minute, turn over and fry till its light brown. Serve with tea or coffee. Its best taken as breakfast and its really delicious.

Feraz:
Exactly my sentiments. They wanted GEJ to solve decades of the myriads of Nigeria's problems and attacked him. Now, they are saying four years will not be enough to fix 16 years of inept leadership like Nigeria was a utopia before the PDP started ruling. When they say both parties are same side of a coin, they attack whoever that says that.

I will not start assessing GMB as he has not yet taken over. I will only watch.

Herzumpther:
main meal.

I'm tired of the everyday tomatoes stew, veg soup and all. I beg mum to let me make something else like rice and curry sauce, fish balls for breakfast or just let me try something else mum will say no and dad will keep requesting for heavy foods which we all much go with so I changed to cooking for them and eating something different.

Its good tho because my figure emmm figure 2 Is gradually coming back to shape.

EfemenaXY:
She's teasing you.



Hahaha!

Why na?

@ Moca: Yes, Cashew nuts are a healthy choice as long as you don't overdo it. Moderation is the key. I usually take just a handful in the evenings to take the edge off cravings...



Same thing here but it's punishment I tell you. Having to cook mouthwatering stuff for the family (including their fry-ups) while I have to restrict myself. Not fatty oils, no processed sugar, and minimal salt. Arrrrggghhhh! It's tough jare. Hubby doesn't help when he cooks our typical African soups (Egusi, Ogbolo, etc)

I remember one time eh...it wasn't with my clear eyes that I found ma self in da kitchen making serious poundo to go with his Egusi soup with stockfish and cow leg. Chei!

Flets:
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When Nigerians unachievable high hopes meets reality in few months, they will be speedily back singing a different change song.

We lack patience and we are heavy complainants. Instead of support GEJ, we expounded on his weaknesses and made mess of our steady and slow progress.

Buhari would not be spared too. Not sure he will allow the free press for numerous attacks and insults like GEJ but time will tell.

It gets worse if the creeks go haywire and force is definitely not an option for such region.

I strongly believe that in 24 months or less, posterity would have judged GEJ right and then we will understand that GEJ didn't lose an election but rather 'Nigeria lost GEJ'

He is already on the way out with his head up high. I wish him well[/size]

Akposy:
Breakfast

Custard(milo & soy milk) with indomie(enuf pepper), egg and bread.

Dont mind my bad camera

babyosisi:
Please chicken is not healthy
Go and roast tofu or cabbage

babyosisi:
Gosh
This looks like what my mother eats
Lettuce inside bread,carrots inside oatmeal and a cup of prune juice and slices of raw onion for dessert
Yuck!
The crunchiness when she chews it even annoys me

chiedu7:
The Igbo dont have any wahala oh!

It's the rest of Nigeria that hates the igbos

Listen to their leaders speak.

FOR A LONG TIME THE NORTH HAS HAD THIS HATRED OF THE IGBOS.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8y1Zpk4DrlA

D9ty7:
Can anybody provide the list of those who refused to concede defeat?

Bifwoli:
GEJ lost simply bcoz the muslims wanted "one of their own" and not bcoz of all that hogwash.

GEJ did pretty well in all areas given the circumstance.