₦airaland Forum

iiichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] An calm individual can still project hostility if not a more virulent and effective form,you of all persons should know that or maybe you prefer holding brief for the deranged cow?.[/color]

EfemenaXY:
Thanks dear.

Yep, I published my debut novel last year. The e-version is available in over 10 retail outlets including Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Apple i-store, and a host of others...

I also have the paperback / hardcopy version of the book stocked in a couple of selected stores in London. The information is all on my website (www.mimizz.com)



Yep I did publish it. The title is Mysterious Depths: An African Adventure

iiichidodo:
[color=#9030BC] Because some cooch skinned fleabag placed 'fhuck' and 'our mother' in the same sentence and to add insult to injury we never had any prior exchange with the pig tailed fleabag to warrant such cowardly unprovoked verbal attack.Go figure. [/color]

edwife:
I will wait for it on DvDs or cable

Hibiscuss:
I witnessed a scenario while I was in school. An old man riding on his bike on his way from his farm was stopped at a checkpoint. He was asked for the particulars of his bike...sure old people like going about with their docs. This man presented his bike's documents but one of the officers at the point insisted they should confiscate the bike and take it to the station. He jumped on the bike, started it and wanna make a U-turn. Unluckily for him, he was hit and killed by an overspeeding expatriate.
Though the oyibo man was arrested, he gave baba 70k to go get himself a new bike and the stubborn officer met his untimely death.

This happened on the express way linking IJU and IKERE together in the year 2012.

edwife:
Lol,i watched the trailer,it's out in cinema only....

ivyy:
You alwys mk sense.I applaud that

babyosisi:
Nobody is cooking today abi
Because of election
Are you people fasting?

Askseek:
@OP, I have been married for 15 years and will relate my xperience with my MIL and how my husband handled it. My relationship with my MIL was ok, I was independent and that did not agree well with my MIL mindset. Fast forward to the real story.
My inlaws marriage was over and they were in the middle of a separation for whatever reason one night she left the apartment and asked my husband if she could stay with us for 1 week. He called me and asked me that his mother needed to stay with us for a wk. we lived in a 2 bedroom and had 3 kids. With no hesitation I said yes, it was late and as far as I was concerned my husbands mother needed help who am I to say no. So set the mattress and made space she came and 1 week turned into a month. I realized there was no end to her stay and started to talk to my husband about finding a 3 bedroom apt. He refused, adamant that if we did that she wouldn't leave and he did not want to make her too comfortable. He wanted her to go. I continued to plead and cajole coz I knew if it was my mum I would want her to have her own space and privacy instead of sharing with kids. Eventually after about 4 months he agreed and when d lease ended we moved into a 3 bedroom and furnished a room for her. Let me add here that this move was a significant increase and I took a second job so we could afford it. There were many pettiness which I swallowed and never mentioned a word to my husband. Stuff like telling my kids I did not know how to cook otherwise I wouldn't be feeding them the kind of food they ate. She made her own meals, woke up at 4 am (no exaggeration) to sweep and clean, tell my oldest daughter I sleep too long (after working 16 hrs). No problem it's all good it's my MIL now so I said nothing. Still working on her behalf begging her son to give her house key coz he refused to didnt what her to be too comfortable (his words). One evening we got home late and she was waiting outside, the first thing she said was "what ur wife is doing by not giving me the house key is not good" I was livid but could not blame her, the eye I gave my husband and walked out on them. I don't know what he told her but he begged me for a long time but still refused to give her key. MIL had a relative visit her for 2 wks from England. I and my husband didn't get the curtesy of being told we would have a visitor. I came home and was introduced to this person. Ok no problem. The end came one evening, my husband asked me to come with him to the auto store so I could sit in the car while he went in the store to buy a new battery. Asked MIL if she didn't mind watching the kids especially baby who was just about 7 months. She said ok, baby started crying as usual and we left. Went down and the car refused to start. He tried to get it to start and it wouldn't. All dis time the baby was crying when it was about 20 mins and he still couldn't get the car to start I suggested taking a taxi while I go back up to calm he child down. Our last born unfortunately has a disease and stress an trigger a crisis so I figured the car is not starting let me go up and carry d child and that is where I went wrong. Got back up said to MIL d car did not start let me carry isoken. She did not answer me, I stretched out my hand to carry baby she pushed me(not play push, a real firm push). I said ha, mummy let me calm dis child down she has been crying since she said its her child am I saying she can't carry her child? I said no ma but she has been crying stretched out my hand and attempted to take my daughter and she hit me and pushed me away. At this point I said "see dis woman oh!behave urself now" I called out to my husband while still trying to pick up d child that was still crying. He came up and I told him d issue. He puts me to the side and goes to his mother asked her to give hike the child so he can carry she refuses and gets up going off on me with all sorts of curses. In my head I am thinking this is d person I work 2 jobs to make comfortable for. Her son is by her side trying to cLm her down and get the child next thing she bends down and pulls my legs I hit my head on the hard wood floor and she was on top of me with my child in one hand and hitting me with the other. My other 2 kids by this time came out of their room so my husband is trying to shield them, yanks the baby from her before pulling her off me. I told my husband "I love you and that is the only reason I did not hit your mother back cow I will kill her but she is gone from my house today, now not tomorrow or the marriage is over. Me or your mother chose" he reminded me she had nowhere to go and I said she should have thought about that before. Then she started to cry and beg me It was d devil. She had no where to go. I told her to go the shelter, but she will not stay in my house and her son can go with her or I leave them in the house and go. I left to my room. He told her to pack her stuff, she crossed the line and she spent a wk in d shelter before finding a place to stay. She then got upset insisting I apologize to her bringing up the I am your mother, and then my husband started to tell her in the presence of the people she brought all d things she did to undermine me in my home and how she attacked me. He made it clear she owed me an apology and if I did not want her in d house he would stand by me. My stand since then with my MIL is to be cordial that's it. I owe her nothing. If I am having an event in my house she can come but no visit or sleep over. I didn't tell my parents and so when my mum was visiting she showed up to d house under the pretext of Visiting and planned to spend the night. When my husband told me I said ok and dropped d phone but d man knows me well knew I was not coming home he showed up at my job to pick me up. I was angry. We got home and he called his mom and my mom told my mom the whole story so she could understand the tension she was sensing on my part and made it clear to his mom to stop being manipulative and to leave first thing in the morning. I have always loved this man and my love and respect for him grew exponentially after that incident. He cares for his mother but does not allow that to affect his role as my husband. And that incident defined and put boundaries on my relTionship with MIL. On a side note the other 2 sons for whom she hand picked wives have both divorced, their wives could not deal with MIL interference and husbands who always deferred to her. I won't tell you what to do but will encourage you to be wise.

Sophyrocks:
So you are not married and you could point fingers at another person for being single. Nigerians and hypocrisy! Why? Remove the rafter from your eyes before removing the straw from another. I have not seen you point out the fact that the Op's mother was wrong for daring to slap his wife. She was the troublemaker here. What sort of mother goes about fighting in another person's home? Will such a woman get the respect she deserves? You dnt go formenting trouble expecting a pat in the back. Respect begets respect. If a MIL does not have such mentality in dealing with others, she should expect disrespect.

iiichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] Sob story of an irritant Woman prick...Better not infect the OP with your disease as his case is far more different and will need balls of steel to resolve.Else his life will be governed by mad women,a condition we observe you're very comfortable with. [/color]

Chillis:
I don't even know.
The thing looks like ugu

First time using it, not bad.
Ok, I just Googled it

Its called Chard.
When I was eating it.I could fell more blood forming in my body

GoldenDr:
Please drop the link.

Roland17:
The relevance of today's election in Nigeria can not be overemphasized irrespective of location and party affiliation, Nigerians in diaspora what is your level of participation in the current polls? I understand we are not afforded the opportunity to vote but there are several ways we can participate to show support for our dear nation.

As for me, it's the weekend and I'm loving it, I have two devices, my laptop and tablet streaming two live Nigerian TV stations all day, one is channels TV, whose analysis has been impeccable, accurate and onetime and the other is Wazobia live TV all day and of course hitting the refresh button on Nairaland to get on time rumors, un-certified information, pictures, videos and reading comments from participants from the elections..

I am very passionate about Nigeria and I believe an election that is credible, free, fair and devoid of violence would boost and help improve Nigeria's already dented image.

So, let's hear your's.

CC: Coogar, Raumdeuter, Cococandy, Babyosisi

An0nimus:
That kitchen thread sha, Lord have mercy. See food kwa.

I'm always touched anytime I visit that thread. If only I can receive that anointing for exploits

perfectionist:
Thanks, Cococandy. Your advice is always appreciated on this forum.
As to the reasons behind their animosity I cannot say but I do suspect my wife believes my mother is against her and may want to harm her.
The other women present tried to separate the fight to no avail. Even neighbours assisted but they just won't let go until I came.
I've always advised my wife to avoid any situation that would lead to a quarrel or fight with my mother. I guess she chose not to listen.

perfectionist:
My wife's behaviour was very bad and I've made her to understand that.

perfectionist:
My wife would gladly do that but my mother has threatened fire and brimstone if I ever show up at her place with my wife.

babyosisi:
Thank you for the kind words
It's exciting to know that the thread achieved its purpose
Thanks to all the contributors who shared their personal stories and experiences and words of advise from the heart

dubemivan:
ummmm..... maybe, maybe not
But hey! you beautiful too..........

ElekeNtioba:
Actually there is...in some states in USA, gays are not allowed to marry. In some countries that allow gay marriage, they are not allowed to adopt a child. There are still some companies in d west that deny gay couples same benefits dat heterosexual couples enjoy.

America practices federalism which means states are allowed to have separate laws on gay rights.

I hope there are no more ambiguities.

You are very stubborn girl.

dubemivan:
its obvious you dont understand antichrist........ cos Obama and his bills has clearly affirmed that to be veracious!!!
Meanwhile refering to gay..... its way beyond that! those men are EVIL

Eluwilussit:
Obama is a bloody Islamic apologist. He is the enemy of the true friends of America. He is a disgrace to his African heritage.