₦airaland Forum

crackhaus:
It was only a matter of time before someone with that mentality sees my comment, hates it, and goes into auto-defense.
Ain't got no daughters, how I will raise them when I do is none of your bizniz - you can keep your advice to yourself.

I'm curious though, what makes you more special than the women who have lived and succeeded in their polygamous marriages?
Education? Beauty? Intelligence?
Please enlighten me, but I bet you won't be able to think of something reasonable.


I'm sorry to say, but it's that same overestimated sense of self you girls have that keep making you trade your pvssy for a man's attention, thereby objectifying yourselves in the process.

You need proof?

You women should carry out this experiment:
Withhold sex from your husband/fiance/boyfriend for three months and see what happens - it's an easy experiment that has being carried out by some research professors in emotional psychology.

The results will stun you as it becomes clear that the most important thing a lot of men gain from a relationship with women these days is sexual - once the idea that he ain't getting none begins to take hold, he's connection with that woman wanes...the only exception is when the woman offers/provides something else tangible in that relationship.

Women with a healthy dose of self-esteem, emotional security and confidence in themselves know that they can make a difference in their lives and in society whether or not they are first, second, or third wife - that is what you should have been taught, instead of developing a princess-complex on account of having a vag!na or on such a fleeting thing as beauty (black woman syndrome).

Polygamy does not stop a woman from being all she wants to be and achieving her greatest potential, only vain women think themselves too special to share a husband for fear that the other woman might fvck him better than she does.

Don't be upset!

alutacontinua:
That reply is epic!
I've read it like 10 times in the last 5 minutes

alutacontinua:
Aswear, my wife is just becoming badter by the day
Go girl!!! I love you plenty


@5minsmadness, thanks for the summary
I did not even read the original pass one line

rabbaba:
What of me that get married in 2013 april13 and she park and left to her papa house. Not as if am beating her or dat my people drove her she on her on parked and even carry our load back to her fathers house. Just tell me is that not madness? Now the bush girl is calling me to come and take back the brid price I paid for her head and d moncky thought I will wake up and drive down to do that as if I don't have anything doing with my time

kamez:
Pawns in a chess game..


Its better for me to die for my pet dog, than to die for any current "Made in nigerian politician"


Wat a waste!!

crackhaus:
My paternal grandfather(late) had three wives, only one wife is alive to this day and now holds the title of oldest living person in my hometown.

I can't quite say I have firsthand experience of how they were able to live in unity, but from stories my father told us and seeing how well he and his siblings relate with their half brothers and sisters (the ones I've met), it's obvious the stories of my grandfather uniting them are true - because till this day, that unity and togetherness still exists...even though I have at least thirty cousins I have never even met.

Polygamy isn't all doom and gloom, it only got more difficult to sustain in recent times considering the standard of living and how many modern women desire and feed off attention.
Even for a man with the resources to cater for more than one woman and the resulting children, it'll be hard finding a woman these days willing to share her husband's attention/money with another - probably something to do with the prevailing I'm-too-special,princess mentality

Ilekeh:
I'm playing along.

I thought iyalodes were busybodies and amebos.

I learn new things everyday.

Actionleap:
I feel so sorry for most Nigerian youth. They are so gullible and uninformed. What Agbaje said needs no interpretation. Yes. A serious govt can reduce the cost of land. Gov. Amosu did it in Ogun state.
The cost of land is not not how much you buy the land from "Omonile" but the huge cost of perfecting your land titles. Until you perfect your land title, your house can be a bad investment. You cannot use it for collateral to secure a loan or anything of such.
The cost of C of O in Alausa for a land in the mainland is far above N2m not to talk of more than N2m you will have to cough out for Alausa boys in Lands ministry.
I won't blame most of you much. Most youths are still shamefully staying with their parents at 30yrs!

Mopolchi:
Thanks. God knows why. Tomorrow my village members will communicate to the husband of her demise. I am praying that God gives my uncle the fortitude to bear in is his condition.

Ilekeh:
Lol what kinda thread is this?

Im iyalode sha, but I no be witch oo.

Mopolchi:
My aunty and her little son were in the crushed bus. My thoughts are stuck on them. Thinking of the great pains they felt and the unrealized hope of people extricating them they had before their demise. Not just that, she was the livewire of the family with her petty trade at Mile 12 market since her husband is suffering from or only recovering from a long term stroke. I feel for the children and the husband, my uncle. God gave and He has taken. He knows why? I won't question Him. I will only pray that He rests them in His abode. Aunty, your thoughts will be in my heart. Its an honour having known you. Jee nke oma!

aisha2:
You sha know Nigerians can be nosy, singles and trying to conceive women are their victims

A.friend shared her story when she was trying to conceive, every outing turns into a pity party with people bringing up different suggestions and making her feel as if she wasnt trying enough everytime she will go home and cry her eyes out. Her ex husband wasn't making it any better.

Truth is the poster is clearly uncomfortable and unhappy with so many events where she has to be grilled, interrogated and possibly humiliated especially by those who will be asking " how far, any show" every single time they see her at an event.
She can attend the ones she can tolerate and talk with her husband explaining how she feels to him hopefully she stays home watches some nice TV and have her sanity for one weekend, instead of attending these things and crying her eye out the rest of the weekend

damiso:
Like someone else has said its like that sometimes with close knit families..I know a family who must all go to grandma's house after church every Sunday for lunch while its such a sweet close knit thing for them (i like the idea cos my family can be like that of we lived close) but some of the spouses found it stifling as everyone is just all up in each others business. Sometimes people being all up in your business is annoying but sometimes its an expression of love.

Speak to your husband and try to let him know its not in anyway about you not liking them but how you feel after such gatherings. He in turn can kinda shield or help you avoid those awkward conversations.I strongly believe in spouses being the mediators and bridges betwen their partners and their family.

If you can though just make an appearance and leave early. His elder sister son is your husbands nephew and yours by extension. You can go because of the nephew( i modified to you can it depends on you just a suggestion) I love my husband's nephews and nieces and at some family gatherings I spend more than half of the time interacting with the younger ones more than the adults sef.They see me as a 'cool' aunty cos I sometimes help them beg their 'archaic' mums for lil concessions (they don't know aunty might actually be more archaic with her own kids)

napa:
His people are not mean but there's a way people pity we that are ttc, ask you some unnecessary questions and begin "prayer sections" because of your condition which I don't fancy. I prefer not being there than anybody pitting me unnecessarily and at times you just feel like being on your own which is how I'm feeling at the moment.

Chillisauce:
Still trying to get my recipe for healthy eating.

Yam, half ripped plantain porridge.

I decided to add little cheese , baked it After its almost done because I didn't want the fish I used to shred.

added a little cheese , cos it's healthy eating

but taste better with lots of cheese, I assure you .
Before baking and after

Herzumpther:
Yepeee malaria has freed me a bit o, I was able to use grinding stone for my pepper and made fufu straight from the cassava. I pounded too.. Thank God o.

My heavy lunch of fufu and okro soup.

Chillisauce when I grow up I will want to be like you. Please teach me healthy eating too...I love you mummy chillisauce

anonimi:
Na bad thing to answer the question from your friend, ilugunboy again

Anyway, Agbaje was trying to adopt the Jakande model for low-income housing in Lagos state but obviously did not get his message across correctly unlike the daft & dumb pretender of a pensioner who said he will dash N5,000 to 25 million unemployed people, which totals N1.5 trillion in a year i.e. 1/3rd of our 2014 budget

The old soldier has not changed from his military DICTATORSHIP misrule of two years (1983-1985) when factories were closing left, right & centre as he was indiscriminately importing sugar, rice, milk, vegetable oil and other essential commodities "Essencos" through the Nigerian National Supply Company, NNSC.


What a confirmed DULLARD Buhari is

datguru:
Na you go tell us how much to sell our lands? Abi you want fix price


just like buhari is going to stabilize world oil price. May God help us all in this country.


Politicians! There's none good among them, not even one.

chaircover:
Becasue they are not insured to drive any of the cars, so they just cant just "borrow" the cars.
. . . .and to add more pepper into the soup, not all men are hooked up on their cars.
I driver a newer and better car than my hubby . . He bought it by the way.
Why? . . . becasue he said, rather he broke down and had to waiting on the side of the road for assistance than me and the kids and according to him, we come first in his life
So here is another example of something else that is "Wrong" by some peoples standards but works fine for us even though you didnt ask me the question

bukatyne:
How don't they relate

We keep the car keys on the center table....

What stops our guests from driving off in it to get something from a supermarket

chaircover:
Cococandy you said it all.
It’s not a matter of right or wrong . . .It’s a matter of different and that is what I am trying to get across and I gave a true working example of what happens in my home which works for me, but is different to some other peoples.
Does that make me less of a Yoruba woman?
Does that make me ill mannered?
Buky wants to prove that she is right . . .Yes she may be . . but that right line ends outside my own front door and that is what she needs to understand.

bukatyne:
Women 'cherish' their kitchens, men 'cherish' their cars

Hope you don't mind when a colleague of your wife's decide to drive it out without your permission as the perfect host.

doctokwus:
A guy borrows N60m of someone's hard earned money and refuses to pay, attempts are made to get him to arrange method of payment,yet he adamantly refuses, trying to use his fame,the lender goes to court to get him to pay his debt and you call it beefing?
The corrupt life lived by politicians and the shady ways of some famous people has made some people to fail to realise that good,clean money is not that easy to make,so when its made, one would be a fool to have an artiste try to use his fame to 'steal one's cash.
He may feel its a joke, but if he doesn't do the sensible thing of finding amicable ways of settling this debt, his carrier maybe on the line. Don't forget he's an international artiste to some extent and has endorsement contracts,so he's looking at travel ban,loss of those endorsements and other image damaging sanctions from the court and many corporate entities don't like dealing with people with court sanctions.
Bear it also in mind that he would spend money on getting lawyers and court days may disrupt some of his shows.
No sensible artiste should toy with a court summon!

Truckpusher:
Nothing.
Do they call peoples name for some kind of reasons all the time?

Why are you cranky these days ,you dun catch belle?

Truckpusher:
Some people won't say anything now but if it were to be the other way round ,ehe! you go see dem finish.

cococandy, you dey see how women dey abuse us for here?