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Tallesty1:
Cococandy
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carefreewannabe:
What an intellectually stimulating contribution! Irreconcilable differences arise when women don't know how to behave properly. The cause is clear so women behave yourselves. End of discussion.

mutter:
Poster so sorry about it.


What you have to do now is get yourself involved in the marriage plans and attend the wedding.
Then make sure you correct that bad behaviour you have been exhibiting for so long.
If you are lucky the woman would change when she gets in and your husband will see the good in you. She might not stay.
But if you do not behave yourself he will replace her with someone else.
But you knew your husband is very traditional and conservative so why did you not sit up and adjust, why did you disobey him in such a manner as to get him so pissed.

Onegai:
My dear. Please allow me to tell you a few facts:

1. Your insecurities messed you up

2. Two wrongs do NOT make a right

3. You are dating a classic Passive-Aggresive man. He is quiet, therefore your madness is "Apparently" your fault. He will always blame you.

4. He is the financial breadwinner of his family. Your husband is most likely supporting your family and will most likely support this new wife's family. So he is being welcomed with opened arms.

5. No decent woman and man will EVER let their child be a 2nd wife. Everyone wants their daughter to be the first. I can testify on a bible to that truth, even in the old days, my 100+ year old grandmother said First Wife was all-powerful. I went on 2 dates (nothing happened oh!) with a man who was separated from his wife. Every single female in my life I told was quick to advise me to end anything. Miraculously, this new wife's family is seeing things differently. You mentioned 2 houses your husband owned. In this poverty-stricken Nigeria, I have seen a man comfortably send his 25 year old daughter to be a man's 4th wife (so she would train the rest of her siblings that way). Na today??


6. That new wife is the biggest pretender. She fought with the man, she called you up all sweetly to check on him. Are you not a woman, are you that docile? Is anybody? My stepmother was like this too at first, quiet and docile. I'm glad my father saw her quietness and docility to the last before he passed away. Whatever he saw in my stepmother when she was turning his head and my mum was losing hers, 20 years later, he regretted it. She had used him to get a better job and a nicer lifestyle. When she could get no more, she quietly and "docilely" relocated to the US, conveniently in his old age when he needed care. I found out as an adult that her calm nature covered up a very cold heart, when I discovered SHE WAS MARRIED BEFORE AND LEFT HER 2 KIDS WITH HER EX-HUBBY TO MOVE ONTO A MARRIED MAN WITH CHILDREN AND START A NEW FAMILY WITH HIM, LIKE THOSE OTHER KIDS DIDN'T EXIST!!

But men will never listen...

7. Your family sold you to this man. That is why your brother is willing to let him disgrace you like this (the financial benefits of your hubby outweighs his behaviour). I have 5 brothers, the way they insulted me because my family friend started to make me compete for his affections with another girl, makes me laugh when I see all these male posters telling you "it's your fault, you better accept it". I assure you, they will slap sense into their sister if she were in your shoes. Unless of course, her hubby was the source of their income and livelihood...

Decide what you want to do. I'm so sure this story will end one day, with a remorseful husband. No good girl of decent family will allow their child to do this (unless the man is Razak Okoya, then so-called Christian moral scruples will conveniently be swept aside for "African" Values).

You must be Edo. Are you?

mentorandfriend:
Ah ah. Maka why na? I seriously will want to light up your weekend. #winks.

mentorandfriend:
Alrite. Happy weekend. How you wan take flex this weekend?

coogar:
like you dunno nigerians......
he will try & get as many as possible and start selling them to other folks in his area

mentorandfriend:
I so love this lady ehhn. You should go and study law, or are you one already cococandy?

jaybee3:
This is a classic example of when it's absolutely necessary to date someone before marrying them. Say no to matchmaking especially when it comes from the family.

@OP
You cannot force yourself on a man. His mind is pretty made up and absolutely no point you staying in an unhappy environment when it's almost certain the situation will eventually snowball into uninvited health challenges.
Learn to love yourself and know you deserve more.
Your life and happiness ought not to revolve around a man. He has at least agreed to provide financial assistance for the kids so make something out of your life period

mentorandfriend:
You see, i purposely asked you that question, and thank God you browsed it up. Continued, indiscriminate use is the issue here. Even in normal cases when MCS results show that the organisms are sensitive to a particular drug, you dont still abuse that drug by continued, indiscriminate, persistent dosing. Summary is that on fora like this, we try to profer little help while advising people to check out the nearest hospital soon. I find no abuse in online help. That's why people visit sites with intelligent folks as nairaland. To glean quality information.

nedu2000:
Op ur ignorance is baffling,everyone knows they disappear na

mentorandfriend:
If a lady presents to me with this issue, I can make up my mind on what to commence her on without vaginal swab MCS results after careful history taking. Nystatin will be foremost on my mind once it is a smelly vagina. You mentioned resistance. Educate me on that please. I dont know about Nystatin and resistance yet.

Nystatin, the most commonly prescribed anti-fungal agent. Nystatin works by disrupting fungal cell walls. Nystatin is not well absorbed in the gastrointestinal tract. This anti-fungal agent should not be used indiscriminately or as a preventative. Candida may become resistant to Nystatin from continued use, from inadequate or improper dosing regimen

mentorandfriend:
You're right. But note that fungal infections overwhelm the normal bacterial flora of the vagina. Perennially smelly vaginas are almost always fungal, such as the vaginal candidiasis you mentioned. Bacterial causes such as Nisseria gonorrhaea are cheaply handled with antibitiocs, such as the quinolones. Most times, the normal bacterial flora can even contain them. Not so for fungal infections.

mentorandfriend:
I dont like all these kind of threads, but I have to comment, seeing that it is almost an issue to ladies and gents alike these days on NL Saw a silmilar thread somewhere in romance section. Ladies, have you tried the effectiveness of Nystatin tablet inserted vaginally, and left overnight? That's a bye to smelly vagina.

RoyalRoy:
Hmmmm.... Why is it only women who complain about their In-laws?

Rarely do we hear men going on and on calling their in laws all sort of names.

Can we conclude women are a bit more emotional to issues than men?

Or can we say men generally just get along easily with "other people" than women?

Or maybe women have all just concluded their in laws will be from "devilsville" even before they meet?


I do not just understand this issue.

50calibre:
Some mutations are good, in fact we as humans mutated to what we are right now and so it will continue.

However the bad/disease causing mutation is what we as humans can seek to eradicate or bring to the barest minimum. more than 60% of all mutations are hereditary while the rest are down to environmental factors. same way some people are more genetically predisposed to developing cancer later in life than the others, while some develop cancer from what they've been exposed to or their diet. That's why they advice people with history of diseases like cancer, diabetes in their family to screen themselves early so that gene can be stopped early. heck!! even some women are cutting off their breast these days.

you're right though, it may not be possible to eradicate every disease but the next generation can be given a better surviving chance by little tweaking here and there. I have seen private hospitals offering genetic engineering, they are capable of adding new traits (not present in the parent) to a child, they are also capable of isolating and getting rid of defective genes in the parents to make sure they aren't passed on to the kids.

So i don't believe humans cant be perfect, if science can map out the complete human genome, put a man on the moon, send a robot to another planet million miles away, then perfection is possible.

I know you like a moderate, not too religious not too secular. My best guess, you're probably catholic so we can agree to disagree.

50calibre:
I see no reason why the foetus can't be terminated at the early stages once it's discovered to be carrying a severe disability, it's cruelty in my opinion. Wilfully bringing a child into this world to suffer, that's not love, it's cruelty.

Most of these diseases plaguing the human race can be wipe out in a hundred years if only humans can think logically without letting emotions get the better of them.

Artificial selection is the way to go, it doesn't matter if you or I or anybody are carriers of a disease, with selective breeding those disease could be wiped away when we all die off, giving rise to a new healthy generation.

There are already medical services offering rich couples the opportunity to create a super-baby devoid of any genetic problems but disabled rights campaigners & of course the Catholic Church are against it. They want a society riddled with diseases & genetic flaws.

I don't care what people think, I'm never going to accept that kind of severly disabled child, it's painful to the child, it painful to me. Life is too short, I'd rather be childless or adopt healthy kids than go through that lifetime of pain.

The human race is not perfect but it can be, the blueprint is already available, it's question of; would the religious fanatics step aside and allow mankind fix mankind?

Excellent7:
@ OP, you posted no source and links.
See source links here

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CpWPSDDaDN4
http://dcgazette.com/oops-isis-protesters-forgot-about-suicide-belt-video/

babyosisi:
Breakfast
Scrambled eggs,Potatoes and medium decaf coffee

Total cost $5.03

This is way too expensive IMHO
This small food places just have a way of ripping people off
This shouldn't be more than $4

Dreyl:
you are definitely going to be a good mom,!

50calibre:
Lol I know it's one of the nasty congenital diseases but why must such anomaly come upon me, why should it be me?

Then the question is what were the habits of the mum while she was pregnant which led to such abnormalities in the child.

That thing is horrible, I remember seeing a documentary about an Indian girl with the disease, her head was 5 times the size of a normal head, it was so big it pushed her whole body around. luckily some kind hearted people funded her treatment in America and they managed to bring the head down to a manageable size. What of those without such privilege?

I believe any child born with a severe disability has to be euthanised, it sounds horrible but it's better for the human race.

sexymoma:
Upon All This Ones
Person Wey Nor Go Marry, Nor Go Marry.. Forget

lafflaff123:
Finally the SECOND female on Nairaland that makes any sense(IFEANN on the Religion Section is another)

I wish the Cococandy's of Nairaland can have a personal relationship with you and Ifeann, for some good home training.

Nice one.

RedBenson:
Could that hydroce....whatever be genetical?

Innodon:
What a wicked world. ....Who knows if the child will become the president of Nigeria tomorrow.

RedBenson:
Tah! I pray God doesnt allow this kind of unsually big headed kids find their way to my family (both nuclear and extended), not even my enemies family. Who wan breed this kind pikin? For wetin naw?

50calibre:
Can be overwhelming? It's a punishment for life.

Look at the sizes of those heads, they are colossal!! I don't care what anyone says, if any woman births such creature for me, I'm not identifying with any of them, she's got to tell me if she slept with an alien because I'm not accepting that as my child.

I will gladly donate her & the creature to the hospital or she can take the baby to the alien she slept with.

Babies born that way should be Euthanized it's cruel to allow a baby grow up with such disease.