₦airaland Forum

Ishilove:
Hian!! Which kind of nzuzu is this?

i wonder too. So I will cook and give a man and in my presence he calls his girlfriend to talk about what the so called lady in the house (me) made for him?

Way to go girl

You and divorce these days.

Anyone planning divorce you?

carefreewannabe:
And the family will eat together like a family should.

And live happily ever after

kristina1:
Some ladies cant stand their husby rejectin their food,some wl cry and plead.

i will only feel bad about his rejecting food if he did it as a result of illness or maybe he had a very bad day and lost his appetite.
You know what hurts him hurts me.

But not when he's rejecting it to punish me.

carefreewannabe:
LOL

ROFL

Yes of course . Two wrongs don't make a right.
If he rejects my food I won't reject his.

If he rejects food, he will enter kitchen and cook his own that he wants to eat. I go even join am eat the one he made.
Problem solved.
No fighting in love

Just an excuse to get fat.
If you're full, dump the rest

Better still don't take too much to eat to start with so that there won't be any reason to dump it.

Who wants my own Xmas card?

ifyalways:
I'm quite pissed with this sentence from the OP:
Your only stance,IMO, is to do everything you can and that includes swallowing all pride, going to plead with the lender to give you guys more time, offset some of the interest and come up with a realistic repaymentment plan of the principal.

She borrowed to feed you guys, not to buy August meeting gold and george.

You and your siblings should double your hustle and go negotiatate with the lenders. I can't imagine getting married while student/feeding loans mama took cos of me is yet to be offset. Bet you guys had a lavish wedding to boot? Or you imagined the market women would make noise for some time and chillax?

Whatever be the case, its you and your siblings responsibility to offset that bill.

At bolded I thought of that too. quite possible.

OP not telling you how to run your life but it would have been safer for you guys if you tried to minimize all your debt before going into marriage seeing as that one is a money sucker of its own especially as you say your current job Leaves much to be desired.
That was a mistake and your part.

For now Just know that the more the loan drags, the bigger the amount and with inflation rates, it will triple.
Make hay while the sun shines.

It is well with you.

Way to go.

No beating of kids in the name of corrections:

Chimamanda always on point

babyosisi:
First I gat to sharpen my knife

mind your fingers o. We know wan hear story this party season

hahn:
Fake hair and make up have nothing to do with a pretty/ugly face. Unless of course, you feel you look like her whenever you don't apply make up or fix your hair then I understand where you are coming from

shes beautiful that's all I know. Yes I look like her . kilo kan?

Ilekeh:
This is enough to divide Nigeria.

You can't operate a United country under two separate legal system.

true

testified that because it was Tasi’u’s turn to share bed with Sani, Tasi’u was also entitled to serve his meal.

These guys dey enjoy sha. No wonder they will do anything to keep their women suppressed

hahn:
You uploaded a wrong pic.

I wouldn't pay with my fart for something like that

huh? That's a pretty girl . Is it because she's not wearing fake hair and plenty make up?

True

linearity:
I blame the lady, she was caught red handed and she want to discuss it? What is there to be discussed?...I am curious to know her opening sentence to her husband when she attempt to discuss it...is it something.."honey can we please talk about what happen at the shop?".

The man will see it as her attempt to minimize, justify, blame the Devil, etc...She should have kneel down and start begging her husband, with tears, sorry, remorse, etc...what women do not understand with men is that, despite our Manchu or ego, we cannot stand the tears of our love ones, even if they have committed the worst thing on earth...that tears cut straight through to your heart, you see your wife in her weak and vulnerable and as the man, you naturally response to protect her.

Trying to discuss it sends the wrong signal, the man will see it as a way to rationalize what has happened and maybe he is still waiting to see that remorse, but a week is too late to show that. The guy must have concluded that, the wife is truly every worst thing he is thinking and just going through the emotions silently.

Royver:
she said she tried to bring it up that night but he refused. Told her they would discuss it later. Unfortunately she hasnt attempted to broach the subject again since then.
This may sound crazy, but is it possible the man has forgotten? She says he goes around happily, not carrying face or sulking.

forgotten what? Nobody forgets that kind of thing much less in a week.

He might be in denial trying to suppress reality by convincing himself that ignoring it will make it go away or he may be bidding his time to do something worse.

Either way he has to talk about it.
If she can't bear the silence anymore, she can send him a long asssss text or email baring her mind about everything that happened with the hope that it could break the ice and get him to react or at least talk about it

That silence ain't healthy.
Odi dangerous

iamrealdeji:
You're so beautiful

thank you

Pavore9:
Me Kenyan? l be proper born and raised in Lagos, l just live in Nairobi.

ok

Pavore9:
Don't be angry as that tribe charged nothing in comparison to the Turkanas of Northern Kenya, where a young man who wants to marry requires about 100 cows, 200 goats & several camels just to marry this beautiful bride!

chei. I don't envy them.

BTW are you Kenyan? You seem to know them well

Pavore9:
Nigerian men are screaming that what is being charged locally is too much.Kenyans don't joke with cows & goats for dowry & the groom must go with govt permit to prove it was not stolen!

this is serious

Me too. Sadly you won't see them on these kind of threads to come and defend the nonsense and xtupid brainwashing they perpetuate everywhere

aisha2:

Would love to read Mutter's take on this being that she is an advocate for permanent slavery for women.
I am sure she will bring up a point and have all the meninst salivating and "blessing" her.

This happens a lot in the north. They marry women knowing their status but not informing them, infecting them then dragging them to take ARVs, happened to a loved one. Very sad. Am sure thats the case here hence her reason for suing him. Nothing wrong with a HIV positive spouse getting married but inform your partner so doctors can advice you both on how to live.
In cases like this they just take women and infect them then act like they are doing them a favor. Worse still some wont even take the woman to the hospital but insist on traditional treatment when she falls sick dump her with her parents and marry and infect a new wife.

What this woman has done is brave and bold and set a precedent for other women who are victims of this clown

82 goats?

Let her bring it up abeg. Better to know what is on his mind than sleep one day and not wake up because he's strangled her in her sleep.

She strong gan. One week and she's been living with him under the same house sleeping peacefully?

I prefer people who vent and get it over with.
What normal person won't be hurt if they catch their wife or husband red-handed with another person?

Anybody that pretends to swallow such without even seeking an apology or explanation is mean and may be planning Armageddon.

stellx:
my dear no mind me oo,...just catching my fun.its xmas ...

fun is allowed. No fighting

stellx:
yea lets go to fun room

this girl sef.

Merry Xmas to you. I can tell you're a funny person

SHOCK7:
True dat, how u doing coco?

fine. thank you