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Specialist900:
Maybe it's how to call the FIL saying "I saw the car you sent to my wife, Thank you" that is the husbands problem

Pride filled broke things

crackhaus:
I fvcking hate it when a woman presumes to advise men on how they should act, it's really annoying...

What do you lot know about being a man or how he should act/think? Absolutely nothing!

then why do you bother telling ladies how to act? Are you a girl? And what do you know about womanhood? Sauce for the goose ehn?

tooltip:
yea, but you'll be the bride.....lol

I'm taken.

If that your friend can afford more, he should bring more money and maybe his wife can contribute too. I know it is good to save money but 100k wedding is the lowest anyone can go and that can only be when the couple can't afford anything but the barest minimum which is what his budget can get for him right now.

Me that typed that post, I didn't even rent a venue for less than 100k when I had my wedding. Suffix is to say that if I insist on encouraging someone to do that kind of wedding when they can afford more,that would be hypocritical of me.
I typed that with the assumption that that is all they can afford.

But since you imply they can afford more,pls encourage him to increase his budget small.
Make him wife smile better smile for am that day..

obongproff:
Iyanmi! Nma koo tang aba! Sai!

I 'doesn't' know dat iban say niay ifiok eh gwak kay nl oh. Iyanmi!

Nna u sabi sth abeg. Three kposa for u jare.

Okay, its not my wedding. Its a friends. He has a job - a source of income, and can comfortably feed his new family wella. He just cannot afford to spend wot he can use to take care of his family for two on just a one-day event dat doesn't yield any financial benefits apart from glass cups, and cuttleries and if he's lucky, he cd get a pressing iron or a washing machine which he already has. And he doesnt want to go broke after wedding.

As per d part abt his wife-to-be's consent, am not to sure abt her stand on d issue cos am not close to her. But she looks like she doesnt mind sha.

Once again, thanx a lot for d comment. U simply demystified d whole ish. Am surprised its even d ladies dat are saying more reasonable tins in dis thread. I neva knew some guys dont have sense. Chai! Smh.

tooltip:
Wow! Now this is one nairalander i'll love to connect with!, sending you a PM right away

You want me to help plan your wedding?
My feed are high o

Not new. I pity workers especially corps members who will work as election officers in any booth where Jonathan wins. We know what happened last time.
Those dead corps members haven't been forgotten yet .

This is just plain rubbish . What does the broom burning achieve? Crude method of selling your party.

hatelove:
And all im not a man, i am a woman, if you notice you find out that most of my post where done at night.
Do you people realise my husband is happy somewhere today getting married, i cant kill myself because of a man
I av my kids to live for.
when i opened my first post i was dead emotional and felt like killing my husband but after i heard all what my husband said with his mouth about me and our marriage and moreover how excited he was then i realise i av no reason to develop hbp

IF i concentrate on women its because i felt they are women like ME.
CURRENTLY I HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR ANY MAN BECAUSE ALL THE MEN IN MY LIFE HAS BETRAYED me including my dad and my brother.

I am not here to preach anything to women, i hate polygamy.

AND I dont pray for anybody to experience such betrayal.
AND TO THE MEN THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT WOMAN we can only thrive to work towards perfection.

For now im forcusing on myself and im so giving myself all the love i deserve.
I have decided to further my studies so that my certificate will be upgraded.

I am currently in my parents house and my mum is taking care of my kids.

Im not really the type that makes friends.
The few friends i had was when i was in uni after uni everyone went thier seperate ways thats why you saw me on nairaland.
THANK YOU.

@bolded. Good. Best decision so far

MarvellousGod:
It's not about love, what can 100k buy in an occasion? ? maybe water??

he doesn't need an occasion jare. Just a small party

OP I'm assuming Na your wedding we dey plan so

Let me try see how it can be done.

Only family members will be invited o and maybe few friends of both hubby n wife not more than 8 in number. Total shouldn't be more than 30 people.

You can have a house party to boycott renting a venue. Because 100,000 won't even get you a decent venue especially if you live in the city and if you rent a venue, you have to pay for decor. Hmm. Dead end.

Here goes:
Court wedding registration and demands:#15,000
Quarter bag of rice : #3000(you guys must not eat to burst. Besides a quarter bag of rice contains 25cups and should be enough to feed 30ppl who aren't gluttons.)

Condiments for cooking and coleslaw: #10,000
2cartons of chicken. : #17,000
2crates of canned hi malt :5,000
3 crates of canned beer: 10,000
one tier of cake from a local baker 10,000 or less( don't patronize big shot bakers or buy from a fast food joint. Very cheap like 5k
Turntable DJ : 10k
Miscellaneous 10k

Wear your previously owned good looking suit or shirt and shoes
(I'm assuming you already have)

If your wife doesn't wanna wear one of her regular dresses for the wedding, Rent a wedding dress for her: like 7k
I had a dressmaker who used to rent wedding dresses to people who couldn't afford to buy one. So I don't think it is so expensive.

One of your friends or family member can do the talking. No need for MC. Let it be the persons wedding gift to you.

Wifey can do her make up herself and use her previously owned accessories if they look good.
That brings us to 97k less 5k if you buy your cake from a fast food center.

Seems like it can be done huh?

Impossible is nothing!
You can have a small party that looks like a birthday house party and be fine with that as long as you have family and friends and love.



My question to you is this: after the wedding,do you have a dependable source of income?
Is your fiancé on board with this? You don't want a resentful wife on her hand few months down the line.


*Drops my pen and writing pad

edwife:
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My dear I like shopping too . But not this season abeg. It is just too frustrating.

It is amazing to me too.

LordReed:
You and the crackhaus comparing cars to second wives are the ones with the simplistic minds because all you think about is fucking.

I think is height of disrespect to watch your mother come in and take over your home. Are you a man for crying out loud? How does your mother come IN TO YOUR HOME to come and start determining what you will eat? The FIL on the other hand has not invaded your home or made any decision for you, he gave a gift. The best comparison for MILs is her bringing food stuff so you will now get angry that your MIL did not call you to say I am bringing food for you guys o. What kind of childishness is this for Petes sake?

edwife:
Coco I will catch you very soon,i hope you did yours already otherwise,i will be here laughing....


I saw something today! My legs are still shaking but i won't lie- i enjoyed it

ehn? So you even enjoyed it and you're complaining.



I don't have big shopping to do my dear. We are spending the Xmas with my other family in another state. I won't even be cooking because I'm re-decorating my kitchen and countertops and everything.

I'm going scot free this season.

Some asiwines don't know how to remain ignored. Even when one tries hard to ignore them

This nairaland is just full of too many xtupid discussions that have no place in 2014.

adebisicutie:
Abeg be real. Most women these days do jobs where they close like 6pm, they sit in traffic and get home like 8pm. How many of our mothers used to get home at 8pm or leave for the office as early as 6am.The man gets home at the same time but while the woman is sorting out dinner and the kids, the man sits on his ass watching football. If the woman hires a maid it's you same men on nairaland that will say a maid should not serve the husband. When the woman wants to buy gadgets to help out you same guys come and tell us how lazy she must be.

Our mothers had a lot of help in the form of younger siblings who lived with them. These days how many families can afford to have a younger sibling live with them when they will be expected to pay her school fees?

What exactly is stopping you Nigerian men from helping out in the home if not laziness? once the woman is helping out financially, it reduces the husbands burden so why can't the husband do his bit in the home

Talking to the wind you are. Naija dudes are too big to take correction. You want them to be emasculated by doing house work? Even though it doesn't emasculate them to accept financial assistance from their wives.
Confused doesn't even begin to cover it

Stop playing with serious stuff. This is not a good joke.

edwife:
In a queue in Asda

Sorry










Not

aisha2:
I can even tell una who started this fake thread but you have to bribe me first. Hahahahahaaa see screaming on top matter oya nairaland women all ye Feminist EfemenaXY, Cococandy come and learn " lesson " by fire by force
After posting fake story we have to re emphasise the " lesson" for all ye sturborn feminist by fire by force hehehehehe

I've been wondering too how someone who should be more concerned about getting her kids out of the claws of impending servitude at hands of a coming stepmother would be more preoccupied with teaching us lessons And insisting it is her fault while subtly praising her husband's patience with her all these years for the heinous crime of going through his phone and calling him out on his womanizing.
She obviously loves us too much.

Sounds like one them little nairaland boys' fantasy

Truckpusher:
You have this natural hatred for guys that talks like this,don't you?
You take life too serious........smh

I swear I don't understand where that last bit of your comment came from.
I thought it was a light hearted banter.
When did I become so serious?

You SERIOUSLY need to go and push your truck for today.
Bye

drake99:
Someone got born again and then deleted all his girlfriend's contacts because he knows with them in his life the journey of knowing God won't work out

Now the sex hormone is against him for keeping away for a long time,he still doesn't need a girlfriend because he needs no distraction

Now he is contemplating on taking a runs girl for a night to quench this urge and move on with his spiritual life,its wrong but how wrong is it?

Don't say he should pray for the urge to disappear,no not all,nature is different from spirituality


Mature comments pls

and what will he do if the urge comes again? Get a different runs girl?
Hmmm

Truckpusher:
I guess I won then?

what did you win?

Just started reading the thread and was wondering why no one had said this until page 6.
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lamdec:
As for those asking if the grandma can produce milk......YES,SHE CAN. Please, avail yourself and learn....a woman who has given birth before CAN produce milk at any time if the breast is stimulated, A woman who has NEVER given birth before CAN produce milk also if stimulated, in fact a woman who doesnt have an UTERUS CAN produce milk if stimulated. A woman who adopts a newborn CAN produce milk for the baby. Please let us set our ignorance aside.

Please, google is your very dear friend.....search for LACTATION STIMULATION or something related to this topic.

Truckpusher:
See them.

The men simply got foreign wives from neighboring African countries and the ones that couldn't get a foreign wife made all the single and frustrated girls his baby mamas with each of them competing for his love.

ok. That was how your vision panned out? Ngwanu

Truckpusher:
I had this vision of many Nigerian girls remaining single and frustrated.

yes . I had that vision too.since many nigerian girls were single and frustrated in that vision, the men were all married to goats and horses .

[b]HATELOVE:[/b]deep down in my soul im tired of life, im weak and unhappy, no appetite, the only thing that really kept me going is NAIRALAND and my kids, thanks to you guys, you are indeed a family, thank you all.

At 29 you can't give up on life. You're too young for a miserable existence the rest of your life.
Pls pick up your life and do something with it.
You won't die if you don't remain married to him.

carefreewannabe:
Behave yourself!

i will

IDEApro:
Candy, calm down. By the time I thoroughly did justice to this topic...you will be awed!

im calm and following

Ok

IDEApro:
Marriage is a psychology warfare not the construe ''bliss'' we inhibit and process mentally. What majority of men have not grasp is that reality but inadvertently built fantasy lacking emotional intelligence in their marriages. In the earlier state of a union, while the man is struggling trying to put food on the table and impress his young wife, the woman is busy studying him. Sometime married women psychoanalyse and mentally evaluate their husbands for a longer period building a strong defense to attack his failings in the marriage afterward.

One can date a woman for 30 years but may not survive a year marriage if consummated with the same woman...why? woman unleash their true self if the environment or circumstance permit it. They need some sort of security to unravel their characteristics and marriage make them consolidate on it.

In this discourse, I am going to elucidate on two cardinal ''points'' which is the basis for the irreconcilable differences brandied by our respective divorced persons and how to curb the menace and instil a strong matrimonial union in marriages. This write up is a conscious effort to redirect our men on steps to take to effectively control their marriages and steer it away from matrimonial turbulence.

This is the time for the high BP to turn to proper stroke.
Mr man is compounding his problems with polygamy in the name of looking for a solution

LaRoyalHighness:
And he thinks that marrying a second wife with cure his high bp. Ok Na!

IDEApro:
Nairaland lacks interactive discussion on challenging issues and I have devoted this precious time to bring something to the table that will spur and ginger good emotional intelligence when dealing with our spouse/partners.

In today's discussion, I am going to look at what generality of failed people in relationship/marriages calls irreconcilable differences. Irreconcilable squabbles arises when both partners can no longer trust themselves to make a marriage work. it is a point where the woman no longer trust the man to be the head of the affair thereby being rebellious to her partner's decision.

When a relationship/marriage packs up without the usual problems like infidelity, childlessness, religious orientation, family interference etc but based on frivolous excuses of incompatibility in marriage, lifestyle, social inequality then know it is what is usually tagged ''irreconcilable differences''. A problem non descriptive and lacking the morality to be deliberated.

Let ask ourselves how come a marriage contracted after dating for several months/years is able to pack up without the nobility to hold on to the sacred vow. Majority of the time the men is to be held for failed marriages in this circumstance. Men have neglected their role as the ''head'' ....

So is it the men or the women?