₦airaland Forum

crackhaus:
You missed the point in that bit you quoted.

This is the point:
The troublesome mother-in-laws you say are embittered and frustrated didn't wake up one early sunny morning some yonder years ago to say, 'hey, my son will grow up soon and get married...I'm going to hate/frustrate his wife'.

Do you get it?

cKaiser:
Dont you think its female nature to pick petty quarrels?

The men who found no fulfillment in their matrimonial homes, How come they are not disturbing their daughters husband?

Have we not seen how girls pick petty fights even in school hostels over ordinary bunk space while in the boys hostel you would barely know who owns the space? Or are those transferring aggression from their matrimonial homes too?

Even on this forum how many times have we seen female posters just stay on each others throat for years or those ones are transferring marital frustrations too

crackhaus:
I just didn't get their logic equating troublesome MILs to abuse and cheating...

majekdom2:
but seriously do we still have mother in laws coming to disturb their sons' wives these days.thats ancient if you ask me . I have not seen such in 20 years. Perhaps, except those who reside in the village with their nuclear families.

crackhaus:
You'll be a mother-in-law someday who may just feel the need to frustrate her daughter-in-law.

saucechilli:
This is deep menh, let me enlarge it

[size=24pt]no they will spend it looking for the love the husbands didn't give them from their sons. Frustrating their daughters in law and generally being a nuisance to the young couple because they spent their youth and the age they should have been loving up living in bitterness [/size]

also color it for those that have color blindness



The color is not even showing. Mtcheew

armyofone:
Nnua. Hope you are settled and liking it.

coogar:
your wife is my fan?

ok, at this stage i have to confess.....
we have a coven & we hold weekly meetings on how to make husbands suffer. don't worry - in the next meeting, i would tell her to tone it down a bit. i think she's going overboard with this & that's not the plan. it's meant to be a gradual process to emasculate nigerian husbands......

alutacontinua:
Edwife
Godmystrength
Phema
Bukatyne
........to mention but a few

but my love for you supercedes all their temptations!

babyosisi:
Are you now in the States?

babyosisi:
Ok
Will 3 mudu be enough for you?

babyosisi:
Ada nmadu
Do you want rice or yam?

babyosisi:
Where are my children o
Food is ready

MissMeiya:
The only person who ever made that claim is the poster who was just exposed as a fraud and a troublemaker. No one, in this ENTIRE THREAD has said that. ONCE. So STOP DERAILING the DAMN THREAD.

Re-read the damn OP. Good grief.

Edit: Don't even say we. It's just you and the other guy. Everyone else can read.

pamcode:
i hope ur husband is an understanding man

Onegai:
Me.... why....

I would weep only into my pillow at night, drying my tears and showing my husband a calm, happy, loving demeanor. I will remember that his cheating is MY FAULT and start dressing better and losing weight. I will understand that I am DRY, STALE GOODS and he can kick me out anytime for his younger, pregnant mistress. So I will behave myself in a fearful and wonderful way. I will cook for that new woman when she comes to my house and dutifully stay in the guestroom whilst my husband continues to enjoy himself with her. I I will be silent in the face of his disrespecting his vows. My silence will stand for Honour and Nobility from my other suffering peers (God forbid we change the status-quo!). All that High BP and stroke I think I am having, I will quell it. This is all for the sake of my children and the Institution of Marriage, which I and ONLY I, as the woman, has to uphold. Whilst letting him be in charge....

crackhaus:
..or does she look like Jada Pinkett-Smith or Omotola?

PrettyClare7:
lol! Sme1 advised that soyamilk can make a person add flesh,i take it everyday,in addition to 3-square meal,n anythng edible @ home.

Sophyrocks:
Nice thread.

Goes to show that not all men are cheats as preached up and down in Nairaland. I hope the bad eggs won't come here to spoil the thread and start chanting their 'All men are cheats' slogan again.

alutacontinua:
Present!
Since I got married to my wife, she's been the only woman in my universe.
Even some women on NL here try to seduce me (names witheld) but I am too committed to my wife for them to succeed.

BananaBender:
Fathers are absent in the lives of their children and feminism is to be blamed?? Not the irresponsible man that impregnated a girl who he isn't ready to raise a family with? What about the 1diotic black man that abandons his family due to Bleep and jail time?? What about the even more 1diotic black men that think selling cocaine or becoming a rapper is the only way to make it in life??

Women stay working two, three jobs just so they can take care of these kids and then you turn around to blame the parent(woman) that chose to stay as the bad one. You point your blaming finger to the woman enslaving herself for her kids and you absolve the men from any blame? How does this make sense to you?

I do not support single parenthood but I will rather be a single mom that raise my children in a home where their father is a serial cheat or where their father is abusive. What do you want those children to learn? That it is okay to cheat?? Most men charged with domestic abuse grew up in a domestic home, I bet those mothers were trying to stay married and raise their kids in a home with both parents. Where did that lead them Shy? Why would I stay with a cheating man, a man I can only grow to hate and find repulsive. Imagine a child growing up in a home where the parents live like roommates, where there is no love, everyday na so so fight-fight. That child is better off in a single home than in a home with both parents.

I can't even date a man that is not a feminist Shy. Tufiakwa!

Onegai:
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But why o why is it always women that have to look at the big picture and what the institution represents, did they force men into marriage that there is a Get-Out-Of-Jail-Free card that enables them to disrespect the institution they are asking women to uphold?

Is there a company where the people more concerned with the big picture and are willing to make sacrifices to make the company a global brand, were its employees, NOT THE OWNER? Did Steve Jobs not work even longer hours than his staff, is Obama not the one more stressed than his staff (and getting grey hairs faster).

How does it make sense that the HEAD OF THE HOME is disrespecting the public vows he took before his peers (because Marriage is a legal and Societal institution) but instead he wants the SECOND-IN-COMMAND to do an exemplary job of leading the children? Even in a bank, a non-performing ED will lose their position to a junior staff if they keep abdicating their responsibilities. So why are men so suddenly shocked that after years of cheating happily, their wives have also discovered the pleasures of another man's arms? Then you must have the same lack of foresight as the Nigerian govt, who, when the sun was shining (and oil was N140/barrel), did NOT make hay ( didn't save, were not fiscally prudent) and next year, pump prices are going to increase

Nigerians always shout "this is how it has been and it will never change" and be putting down any sort of Positive Change. Then once a few folks push it through, they scramble to catch up. My friend's father NEVER CHEATED, his wife was academically great and had a strong career. When she died, the whole world stopped. Her name is a rallying point in LUTH. Because she stood on the shoulders of a giant! All our underachieving, underperforming women are too worried and broken and filled with mistrust to fly high, whose shoulders will they stand on?

African men have always defied the laws of Reason and Logic. There are some few one out there, who understand that a woman will submit to a Leader. And to those ones, I salute and respect you.

amakastarstella:
don't say somtin like that .hv u lived with someone before to no how bad it is to belive a story like that against ur wife or husband .what will a nine year old girl do at that spot .

MissMeiya:
Optimism is a talent.

Fourwinds:
women are always problem to demselves. y because of greed for money and material things. who do d married men cheat with....most cases it is d single ladies. d single ladies end up marrying a man and complain about her husband cheating. Check very well...dere is LAW OF KARMA.

OboloMAN:
Nobody is against its improvement.
You don't sideline the author of a novel because you are trying to improve his work in a movie.
Acknowlegde the owners of Nsibidi.
Why are the igbos trying to Hijack our agelong Cherished Nsibidi?

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