₦airaland Forum

Welcome, Guest: Register • Login • With Google • Trending • Recent • New

Stats: 3,345,165 members, 8,515,853 topics. Date: Monday, 09 November 2026 at 04:19 PM

Toggle theme

Cococandy's Posts

Nairaland Forum › Cococandy's Profile › Cococandy's Posts

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 ... 1446 1447 1448 1449 1450 1451 1452 1453 1454 (of 1458 pages)

Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 10:06pm On Jul 06, 2014
the OP just created the thread and disappeared. grin grin leaving all man to tear themselves up.
I'm sure this is a project she's researching on.
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 10:03pm On Jul 06, 2014
You do know that those passages of the bible means that as a christain be sacrificial and give your best to anyone in need around you. Don't you?
You make it sound simplistic and shallow the way you put it.
And how do you know I don't that?
Anyway just pick any of the question on the first page and help me understand your opinion on some of them.
This thread is about atheists. I don't want us to start the christainity talk here so that it won't become the us versus them kind of thread.

I'm sorry if my tone offends you.


Dapo777: Cococandy I have some questions for you.

You are Christian and that means you believe in Jesus Christ and all that he commanded.

These are just a few reasons Why I think God of the Bible doesn't exist:
In Matthew 19:21 here Jesus is giving a direct instruction to those that want to be "perfect" remember we are told to be holy because God is holy,and it takes perfection to be holy.
In Matthew 19:21 we are told that we must sell all our possession and give the money to be poor in order to be perfect and hence make treasures in heaven. Cococandy,Why do you still live under a roof? Why do you still have ur smartphone? Why do you still have money with u? Weren't you instructed by Jesus to sell ur properties and give the money to the poor before u can be perfect and make treasures in heaven?
Matthew 18:3-4 here Jesus is giving another requirement to make heaven,Jesus clearly states that we must behave like little children,Cococandy Why don't u behave like little children? Don't u wanna make heaven?
luke12:33 reinforces the same instruction telling those that want to be perfect to sell their possession, Cococandy Why do u still have ur possession? Don't u want to make heaven?

What about James:22-23 here we are told not be just the hearer of the word But the doers of the word,Cococandy,do u know u have disobeyed this instruction from God by the mere fact that u still have ur possessions with u and u are not behaving like a child.

Why do u ignor these instructions?

Answer: because u know how ridiculous this instructions are,But u chose to act like u didn't see it just So it may not seem like u are rebelling against ur faith. And because Christians don't obey this verses,it means dey kn subconsciously that the God of the Bible doesn't exist,they don't just want to risk "hell".

That is just one out of more than 50 reasons Why I think the God of the Bible doesn't exist.
If u think God of the Bible exist oya tell me Why u still have ur possessions with u and Why u don't behave like a little child?
Family › Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by cococandy(f): 9:51pm On Jul 06, 2014
Ngokafor: ...you are so right about the 'good support' system thingy...
..unfortunately most male folks here singing her praises and taking a dig at Nigerian women,conveniently forgot that perhaps she has a loving and understanding hubby...a trait they have zero abilities in lipsrsealed
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 9:42pm On Jul 06, 2014
Ok. Update me when you can.
edwife: I am fine dear,kedu? cheesy

I still can't though Seun contacted me to give him more details about it,still waiting.

I can see that y'all spread your mate here. grin
Fashion › Re: Lingerie! A Must Have! by cococandy(f): 9:39pm On Jul 06, 2014
Hehehe
Lol @ perilous.
It is not for those who have resigned from the 9months IT.

I'm fine thanks. How's family?
LyndaRoyce: Woooowwww! Sexy!!
Wearing this could be perilous wink
I will be delighted to handover my 9months IT attire to the lucky one.
Nne cococandy ke ki mere?
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f):
Anacksunamun: Now you see why men should NOT be forced to pay for kids they didn't want, because many women have eked out a career in producing bàstards just to fuel their bank accounts by manipulating these draconian laws. sad
I understand if you use this as your basis for the argument.
But it won't solve the problems of kids who came not because their mothers wanted to use them to make money but came out of genuine miscalculation on both the parent's parts.

How do you propose their case be resolved? By abandoning them?
Knowing full well that even a guy who never said anything about not wanting a baby will get cold feet in the face of responsibility. Do we indulge them and let them walk because hey they don't want the babies.
There can't be any good coming from scrapping that law. The best bet is to try and keep it from being manipulated.
That's my simple stand.
It can't be that hard to understand.
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 9:31pm On Jul 06, 2014
Yea. Take a break.
EnlightenedSoul: The thread is getting ugly embarassed
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 9:30pm On Jul 06, 2014
I actually don't think you're a coward.
I suspect you have issues.(Not even because of this thread BTW)
But cowardice isn't one of them.
That's my honest thought.
BABE3: I don't know why cococandy won't admit that she thinks I'm a coward, or that coogar and pickbeau1 are selfish men. It's not like i'll CAPS-LOCK her to death or anything. grin cheesy
I don't know about selfishness but coogar and pickabeau are definitely biased.
I understand coogar's bias
Pickabeau's I don't.

Now you asked. I wouldn't have said if you didn't ask smiley
Fashion › Re: Lingerie! A Must Have! by cococandy(f): 9:25pm On Jul 06, 2014
Online. smiley
We are fine.
bukatyne: Where do you get all these your pictures from?

How are you and bros?
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 7:10pm On Jul 06, 2014
But of course.
Feminism preaches blob of tissue. How insensitive!
But when they do,they are only following what it preaches even though they hate it.

Rubs my forehead embarassed
EnlightenedSoul: [size=14pt]Observation: Notice it described as a blob of tissue when it suits them. And then murder when that suits them[/size]

Wonders shall never cease.
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 7:08pm On Jul 06, 2014
Edwife nwanyi oma where have you been? smiley
I still can't post in that food section sad
Can you?
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 7:06pm On Jul 06, 2014
pickabeau1: She will never accept that.... grin grin grin




Naija men sleep alone.. didnt u know
Women are angels...
Men are bad except their family members
You're right. I won't accept that.

And no the men don't sleep alone. They sleep with the women. That's why they need to cater for the baby with the women too.
That's all
That's all
That's all smiley smiley
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 7:04pm On Jul 06, 2014
I can see why they pursue the money vehemently. Even the tax rates are evidence enough that it is a follow the money racket.
CityNG: I am sure that there are certain cases in which the system acts "in the best interest of the child" but very rare.

So don't forget that the state gets $2 back from the federal government for every $1 the state helps the woman get in child support.

Follow the money.
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 7:01pm On Jul 06, 2014
Nonso23: Nope. The mother solely is punishing the child by carrying it to term when she knows fully well she can't feed another mouth.
Why didn't she eliminate the blob of tissue earlier on if she truly had the interest of the child at heart? (chey that's what feminism preacheshuh
You know this is strawman right?
First feminism doesn't preach that a foetus is a blob of tissue. It preaches that a woman can be pro choice if she wishes to without being judged or forced to keep it.
I'm getting weary of 'pulled out of the air' assertions.
It is prochoicers that preach that blob of tissue stuff. And admittedly not all agree on that.


Not all pro choicers are feminist.
And There are non feminist prochoicers. Pleeenty of them.
There are also feminist prolifers who believe in life from conception but no need forcing others to take that stand too.
Being able to decide for yourself is what this is all about..

Since according to you all pro choicers are feminist
Can we now logically state that all of you supporting aborting the baby are now feminist?
Do you see the lack of sense in that?
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 6:36pm On Jul 06, 2014
Why are you angry?
Weah96: So you're not a Christian. The Jesus in your head is not the same one described in the bible. The biblical version clearly says that salvation can only come through him. That's the whole point of Christian ministry, winning souls for Jesus. There wouldn't be any need for preachers or evangelists if non Christians were not headed for hellfire. If you don't accept that doctrine, then pick another religion, Jesus is not your guy. I'm dying to know who you've been praying to this whole time you didn't believe in Jesus. SMH.
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 6:32pm On Jul 06, 2014
People will keep on having sex whether we like it or not.
It's only proper that they take care of offspring(if any) that come from it.

it is not the children's fault
Even if you think it is the mother's fault for not aborting the baby,it is still wrong to punish the child for it.
And I know that the people who made the laws weren't concerned about the couple's petty squabbles and blame games. All they know is that the kid is here and has to be taken care of.
So all hands on deck
Simples
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 6:28pm On Jul 06, 2014
Anacksunamun: What I dont get is why you find men that have opposing views to your feministic views, as selfish; and the women that don't support your feministic views, as COWARDS. This is insultive. Yet you were accusing BABE! of being the first one to throw snide remarks and insults months back, talking of how you don't use snides first. Hypocritical much? undecided
that's not in reference to anyone on this thread directly or indirectly.
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 6:14pm On Jul 06, 2014
Pfftt undecided
Happy sunday to you and pls wear a condom. Thank you.
Xsolutions: Okay sorry if I misunderstood you undecided embarassed cos truly I'm worth conversing with grin wink .
For the rest my conclusion still stands...YOU ARE JUST LIKE THE...
grin grin
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 6:12pm On Jul 06, 2014
If there was a law that makes them live up to their responsibilities,it wouldn't be like that.
Kids abandonded with their mothers everywhere. Even the ones abandoned after marriage.that's the one that annoys me most. Nothing is done to make them live up to their parental roles.

Have you heard the lock and key parable? The woman is the lock and the man is the key. Any key that can open plenty locks is a master key.
That's one of the excuses they use to spread their seeds around.

But don't talk about it. Xsolution might call you the daughter of lucifer if you do smiley

[quote author=soul_glo]I find this so disgusting. Especially the ones who take pride in it. As if it were an honorable thing. That lack of discipline makes them look like animals. Before anyone jumps down my throat I know this is not all Nigerian men. I have many in my family who are decent men but even here on nairaland it seems to be celebrated[/quote]
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 5:59pm On Jul 06, 2014
And if you say anything about feminism as a Nigerian woman,cowardly women and selfish men will try to shout you down.
Issorait.
That country will have me in govt someday.
All the propaganda won't conquer the movement for women's liberation in our dear hell hole country.

Chillisauce: What am I seeing. Coogar and babe! shocked

*faints*


As per topic, making every body responsible to that child welfare is a way to go. You can see from the west, most parent here will drum in their kids ears the consequences of these affairs. The male child will be told, unless you don't wanna end up in macdo, paying child support all your life, you use protection, same also for the female child. I think that's why the men here are not in se xually rampant like you see in Nigeria where child support is not working.

Most naija men don't have self control. grin any small thing na to ****. The worst they will be here shouting skin to skin. You have abandoned kids in gutters , fathers not known only to come back when the child is bigger and well made.
they will be the same condeming women who died from abortion or single mothers.

If you don't like child support, take your hairy as s back to Africa. wink

As per my beloved country , thé time shall come. The children and women will be treated with love and respect.
Women, pls close your legs if you are not ready to train someone. You should always access a situation neg. And positive. Nigeria is rough enough to start bringing a child you are not capable of training. The country is a joke, no support anywhere , govt. Sper m parnters, parents etc. Be wise
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 5:54pm On Jul 06, 2014
Sensationalism at best.

These laws were they drafted by an all-women legislature? Weren't there men there?
If yes. Doesn't it beg the question why?
Fellow men seek to oppress others? Huh?

Were the laws drafted to expressly take care of the women in those relationships or purportedly to take care of the kids made from it?
If yes to the latter,can we then include the rights and welfare of children in the definition of feminism?

A law made for the sake of the welfare of children from broken homes and relationships(even though wrongly exploited) is by no means the fault of feminism.

What you seem to ignore is that even a self professed non feminist can exploit such laws if given the chance.




coogar: you mean feminism is very wrong? cococandy, which is which? are you aware these draconian laws against men are drafted by feminists?
Fashion › Re: Lingerie! A Must Have! by cococandy(f): 5:46pm On Jul 06, 2014
Okies
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 5:43pm On Jul 06, 2014
CityNG: Very true and there are others online. There's a very small window for a man to challenge this and all the woman has to do is to not alert the man until the statue of limitation has passed then he's sunk.

http://townhall.com/columnists/rachelalexander/2013/03/25/jailed-for-nonpayment-of-child-support--but-its-not-his-child-n1548325/page/full

So I try not to puke when I hear of the US preaching freedom to other countries.
Not his child. It is very wrong. I don't believe this is all about the kids welfare in these cases.
More about getting more money into the system by any means possible.
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 5:37pm On Jul 06, 2014
Funny thing is I'm not even sure you've read ANY of my posts on this thread.

But hey 'why read it? We already know what she's thinking'
Some people are not worth conversing with.
Example: you

Xsolutions: Watch what??...Lucifer is soo proud you and the Feminists in this thread THINK,TALK and ACT LIKE HIM...
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 4:27pm On Jul 06, 2014
Watch it.
Xsolutions: KAI!!!THE WOMEN IN THIS THREAD ARE SUCH SNAKES...smh embarassed ...LUCIFER would be soo proud.They are JUST LIKE HIM
Very devious, crafty beings... grin
Politics › Re: The Proposed 18 New States And Their Capital by cococandy(f): 2:40pm On Jul 06, 2014
I don't see how this will help Nigeria.
Or is it Airegin now?

Silly propositions. Focus on the major problems you dimwits!!!
Fashion › Re: Lingerie! A Must Have! by cococandy(f): 2:31pm On Jul 06, 2014
This our lingerie thread. It must come back to life o.
Edwife
Chillisauce
Efemena XY
Lyndaroyce.
Byvan
Bukatyne.



grin pls don't give up the sexy

Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f):
BABE! :
Really? An educated man segregating his own daughter? You're reaching.
I'm reaching? I wish. Why is there a new movement against that? To include women in inheritance especially land inheritance.
It is actually anti-our culture. Where I come from women DO NOT inherit!!!
Educated or not. The few who do,do so AGAINST the native law and except the father who gave it to her is alive to fight for her,it is possible that the male relations can take her property against her will in a COMPETENT customary court of law.
She's meant to inherit from her husband's side(maybe that helps to propagate the depending-on-a-man mindset)


So you do not have reason to ask why I support feminism.
I'm not here because it's trendy
Or because I 'hate' men
Or any of those other funny reason people come up with when they try to dismiss genuine issues.
Female gender suppression surrounds me and I'm not even in the least bit glad that a movement has to be in place first before both gender can be seen as equals.

Don't I wish equality is a given
so that energy can be channeled to other important things than trying to be heard?
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 12:31pm On Jul 06, 2014
Oh he's here
Angry dude doing what he does best.
Take a bottle of heineken before you pop a vein.
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 12:22pm On Jul 06, 2014
[quote author=BABE!]No need to apologize. You can't bully a veteran bully.

I think I read somewhere where you said your feministic views starts and stops in Nigeria and that part of the world.

Don't you think what Nigeria needs is development and education, not feminism? I'm pretty sure in the country's constitution, women have same rights as men. Most folks that have chauvinistic views are greatly influenced by culture and religion. I highly doubt that a well educated man will leave his daughter out of his will because she's female.they do. All the time.

do you honestly think feminism didn't pave way for all round western development. Yes Nigeria needs development and education,all feminism asks is that women not be excluded when it is making the rounds?


The laws are there to protect these women, but who do we have to enforce the laws? No one. That's where my development angle comes in.

no. The laws don't protect women. Not from the social epidemic of hiding behind men to get what you deserve. Women have made it to the top yes. If you know one,sit her down and let her give you her life story.
I don't even want to talk about companies that don't employ women. I'd have thought it was false if I didn't experience it myself.
.

Also, poverty and hunger make women in Nigeria do degrading things to themselves. Women there see marriage/man as a ticket out of poverty. That's why men treat them like they do.
So how does feminism come into all this?


agreed.

But that's where it also is beneficial. Gender equality in it's entirety helps erode such dependent mindset and low self esteem. The ladies are getting the message. It'll only take time
[/quote]
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 12:11pm On Jul 06, 2014
carefreewannabe: Why wait?

Start now. The earlier, the better, the more experience.

Don't wait.
I love kids and family.I don't have kids yet. Let me get mine together first. Politics can take it's toll on family if the kids are tender and the husband works full time
Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 12:10pm On Jul 06, 2014
I watch all of them.
Miami
Los angeles
pickabeau1: Cool series

I prefer Miami

Enjoy

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 ... 1446 1447 1448 1449 1450 1451 1452 1453 1454 (of 1458 pages)