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Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 9:08am On Jul 05, 2014
Enlightenedsoul:

There should be more feminists across Africa. I firmly believe it would be a better place.

it's a gradual process.

On the other hand,
I can relate with western men who dislike feminism because from evidence,it seems the goal have been achieved to a great extent while some of the remaining feminists are using the movement and the favorable laws to manipulate the men(in some cases)
But what I don't understand is African people who think the society favor women and such feminism isn't needed. That's sheer conceit
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 8:59am On Jul 05, 2014
Generalshepherd. Your response is seen.
I can relate to your number 10 and I understand how that can affect people's beliefs.

Thanks for your time
Politics › Re: "Heart Attacks & Frustration Kill 7 Parents Of Chibok Girls" - Community Leader by cococandy(f): 8:55am On Jul 05, 2014
What a pity.
Chai. This is a bad thing for any parent to go through. It's even better your child got sick and died and you got to say your goodbyes than for your child to be taken this way with no assurance of ever getting out and no idea what kind of torture she's/he's going thru'

So sad
Family › Re: How To "Emasculate" A Man by cococandy(f): 8:47am On Jul 05, 2014
I wasn't even insinuating anyone's mind. Lol.
I read the thread and the posts that followed got me confused.
I know the Op does focus the heat on men many times so I was even happy this time that she balanced it by calling out the women too.

Hence my question.
Goodmorning.
Ewuro1: And What's wrong with the comments? undecided Are we now confined abi restricted ni to a specific way of writing posts on NL?

Overthinking and insinuating people's mind at this time of the night ( Naija time) is no good cococandy, everybody's entitled to their opinion. smiley

#If ANY SANE woman prefers to punish her man according to OP then I don't see the purpose of that union in the first place undecided
Family › Re: If You Had Privilege To Determine Your Country Of Birth Will You Have Chosen NG by cococandy(f): 2:47am On Jul 05, 2014
Not even in the next lifetime,
NO!![b][/b]
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 2:43am On Jul 05, 2014
Another pulled out of the air theory

I am beautiful. Now that I support it I guess that makes me ugly.
Ok if you say so.
Family › Re: How To "Emasculate" A Man by cococandy(f): 2:42am On Jul 05, 2014
Am I on the same thread?
I was thinking the tone is otherwise.
As in the don't-do-these-things-if-you-love-your-man kind of tone?
huh huh
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 2:23am On Jul 05, 2014
Abeg go and sleep o. I'm so drowsy don't be surprised to see a few typos in there smiley

BTW
Nigerian beauties full your house. From momma to sisters. Feast your eyes on them.

Feminism and beauty. Is there a relationship?

pickabeau1: Ok... try and be more specific...

Friends..? i know u opened this thread in true spirit of discourse but your friend derailed it

Anyhow... give us some pics of some naija beauties

My eyes are full of Latino beauties from the world cup

Did u see Amber Rose recently...now thats a babe... u dont see this one calling feminism
simple beauty

https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2014/07/02/article-0-1F56DD2100000578-916_634x940.jpg
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 2:16am On Jul 05, 2014
Goodnight sleep tight.
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 2:14am On Jul 05, 2014
That's not for you. He knows himself.
And until he can quote me directly to debate like a 'normal' person,that's what he gets.

Friend? I'm not here to make friends smiley
pickabeau1: What do you mean by dumbness...
Have u started insulting too like your friend..

It will be dumb of u to tread that path
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 2:09am On Jul 05, 2014
Feminist can't tell the man to be a man?
Why? Because feminism means turning into a man? And what happens to womanhood then? I guess feminism preaches to throw it away.

*Rubs my forehead in exasperation.*
The kind of dumbness lipsrsealed
It's always tough to deal with.
Local reasoning.
Because you performed your traditional marriage according to your custom means you've bought your wife.

I see. Good purchase for you.
Anyway you never do have anything worthwhile to say ever. Am I surprised?
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 2:03am On Jul 05, 2014
Spoken like someone who's really blind to his surroundings. Actually feminism isn't for you. It is for ladies who are yet to realize their potentials. The messages will go on until it is absorbed. So trouble not your soul.

pickabeau1: Yeye dey really smell... grin grin

Don't worry about Kermit.. He is doing well


Its clowns that buy in your double standard of preaching marriage equality I pity while u have a sweet union with your hubby

They reach their 40s wondering what went wrong

You don't need to school me

The hypocrisy is there for all to see..
When you women are ready to take responsibility for consequences of your actions..then u will be taken seriously but while you still around waiting for one guy to pay your bills, clean your mess etc bla bla bla.. Its not gonna fly

Lol
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 2:00am On Jul 05, 2014
Those ladies you mentioned are not my role models.

Cococandy is food.
Coconut candy.
You want pics of it? smiley

Introducing crisis for other ladies meaning that in my posts or any posts relating to feminism you've seen women being advised on how to relate with their husbands?
Like the movement was started because of a need to dictate to women how to treat their men.

Insecurities sha.
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:52pm On Jul 04, 2014
You made made marriage it's objective?
Conspiracy theories too badt. grin
Some women sat down and decided other people's marriages were hurting them so they began a campaign to subtly destroy marriages across the globe.
cheesy I can't believe people still say such things much less believe them.

And I guess de beauvior is the founder of feminism.

I'm sorry everyone can't fit into your percieved notion of anti manism and anti marriageism.

You are the chief of those who need schooling in what feminsm stands for.
Even with evidence ranging from 100s of years ago as to it's origin and reason for existence you believe and propagate your personal blackwash of it because deep down you don't believe in equality.
Too bad for you it's here to stay smiley


While we are redefining definitions older than our grandparents,
can we also say the first christains who suffered to pass the gospel under rain and shine are not true christains but the new breed of money driven dupes using the gospel to propagate their personal agendas are the true and core christains?
Makes much sense huh?
I know you know the truth.
You only chose the sides that fit your mindset
But as this dude would say

Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:01pm On Jul 04, 2014
Hurricane nairaland blew it away.
In a way.
troy20: aha! I thought as much.so what happend to the other one?
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 10:56pm On Jul 04, 2014
@ pickabeau.

And BTW I and you never agree on this issue. Why do we still do it?
cheesy
Ok I drop my pen here.
My stand is summarized in the OP.
You keep yours I keep mine.
Goodnight
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 10:51pm On Jul 04, 2014
I call you moderates the outsiders..they r d true feminists not you lot with your insipid watered down version... A true feminist never sets store by the Bible n its 'nonsensical' notions of submission, male leadership in the family, order in the church etc
And that there pickabeau is classic bullsh1t.
I used to think there was even some modicum of sense to it until I actually read and read and followed the history of feminism. What led to it and what brought about it and it's achievements and it's standing so far.
And just like expected some females are shushed from speaking their mind about how they want to be treated because they don't want to appear untrue to their beliefs.

Well. You know the definition of feminism. Or you can deny that you don't.
If you do.that quoted there is just obvious religious blackmail.those who want to fall can fall for it.

You're talking of male headship. In families or the society at large?
Like I said before. I only read marriage feminism on nairaland because yous look for all possible points to try discredit it.
I've not seen someone in a happy marriage claiming to want liberation.what has it got to do with two soul mates sharing their lives together?


Then when you talk about male headship in the society at large. That's where it comes in. Because as a woman,I won't want to be bossed by a less qualified male just because I'm a woman and assumed to not have leadership qualities.

Watered down? Very funny. You see something that is being radicalized yet call the proponents of the original idea as those holding the 'watered down' definition.
So I guess the new radicals are the ones holding the real and core values.
The ones who started the movement centuries ago,those who have made it possible for women to get to where we are today. The pioneers.
The originals are the watered down ones.

While the everyday over fed rich kids who pick up new silly rights to add to their ideas of feminism are the real feminists.
Smh undecided
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 10:35pm On Jul 04, 2014
All threads eventually end in the trash anyway smiley but not because we tried to school each other.unless you're thinking of coming at it in the wrong way.
Very well then let's agree to disagree.

But you owe me o.incase you've forgotten.
The link to that chocolate flavored cream(or is edible under wear? I can't remember which)
That I was supposed to use wow oga in the bedroom wink wink
I'm still waiting.

Idowuogbo: Candycoco, you and I know this thread will cool off in the trash section if we begin to school each other. I'll pass oooo.... let the maneaters do their thaing . smiley
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 10:30pm On Jul 04, 2014
qstar: You need to define, with illustration, what you mean by intelligence.

If i can travel back 900yrs backwards and show people my Android phone, Laptop, grenade, nuclear weapons, internet and telecommunication services, they'd probably start worshipping me as God, or a son of the gods.

A religionists once told me that because the anatomy of the brain is so complex currently, it proves that a God exists.

Now, is that what you call intelligence? and has such intelligence demanded that we worship it?
Ok I get what you mean by intelligence here. No that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about awareness,purpose and obvious intention in the characteristics of created things.
Not because the brain has a billion neurons do I see it as a work intelligence.
No. But because it was clearly designed for a purpose.did all those parts know by themselves to come together and work together for a united purpose just out of the blues? It seems improbable to me.
Such things to me cannot have come out of a mindless event
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 9:48pm On Jul 04, 2014
What is the said twisted definition of feminism.
I may not have heard it.
The only twisted definitions I hear come from the opposers who try cheap emotional blackmail to paint the movement back.
Like saying it's man-hating
Or anti christain
Or anti family.
And all the other unfounded stuff that don't even find place in the simple definiton of it.
I've always only known one definition and try to correct any erronuous one I come across.
If you can enlighten me how 'we lot' twist this definition. Maybe I'll get where you're coming from.

Idowuogbo: Eeemmm... do you want to hear the truth? U lot on nl do the opposite of the said movement. Y'all twist the real definition of feminism to favour y'all and then go about town crying when the 'rats' rush in to reign on your parade. Abi no b d same family section we dey? iLaugh
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op):
@ pickabeau.
The histroy of feminism?
Na. I know every bit of what I need to know about it.
From as far back as the 7th-9th AD when women used to conduct secret classes for girls because education was not allowed women
To when the movement began again after the second war for women to be included in the voting laws.
To when the movement was able to achieve the motion for women to own property.
To present day where the basic goals have been achieved in the west but still lacking here in my dear country.
(Which BTW makes women who kick against feminism appear cowardly.)

You can chose selectively what you want to see as the goal or who you want to call the real feminists. But it doesn't change the truth.
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 9:24pm On Jul 04, 2014
What goals?
Read the op again.
Or google feminism.
Or read the part of areacode's post that I quoted. Those are the goals. If you've been convinced otherwise discard the former.

There's no need to carry anything for head. The movement if going fine and smooth. You carry something on the head when it can't move by itself.

Or you too follow for those who see feminism as man hating? Is there something you're not telling me smiley
Idowuogbo: Loretta,which goal? u too carry this feminism thingy for head. Is there something you not telling your home gals? huh
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 9:05pm On Jul 04, 2014
The lady is not hiding her identity smiley
troy20: cococandy really...a change of monicker for someone so familiar.
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 9:03pm On Jul 04, 2014
@ areacode
Men and women do not differ qualitatively per intellectual potency, let's instead focus effort on eliminating the social barrier unconsciously stacked against the girl right from the womb, monthly menstrual stresses notwithstanding.
Your post was quite on point.
And unlike some men I'm glad you understand that feminism isn't about competing with men or over shadowing them. Nor does it even see womanhood as weakness.
But that the goal of feminism is summarized in that part of your post in quote.
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 8:58pm On Jul 04, 2014
Where did you buy your mat?
Buy one for aluta. Hers got swept away grin
edwife: cococandy Nne you are on fire today,two threads? cheesy

Let me spread my mat and sip my smirnoff ice. cool
Sophyrocks huh embarassed stop that bikonu
Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 8:55pm On Jul 04, 2014
pickabeau1: How convenient that women are not sexist..

women can be sexist too.I won't lie.


I guess even the feminists are trying to disown the core group..calling them radicals

no. You're the one who chose to label the radicals as the core group. Read the origin of feminism and what our female ancestors started the movement for. some which are yet to be actualized. Then tell me how the new generation of those free-the-n1pples-activists are the core group while the pioneers are what? The fringe? You know that's not true. I don't expect you to agree with me sha.

Who is fooling whom huh grin
no one's trying to fool anyone. You can take the sincere message in the thread which tries to prove to men that feminism isn't anti men. Or you can continue to believe what you want to believe about it.whichever is easier for you wink

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Family › Re: Pls,i Need An Advice,i'm Depressed,i Feel Like Crying by cococandy(f): 8:47pm On Jul 04, 2014
Very good.
Pls don't go back to him.
Someone who beat u black and blue at 8months pregnancy can kill you.
An armed robber can kill.

Don't listen to your mother and your MIL.

I'm sorry to say African females palce too much premium on marriage. They can advice you to go die in marriage rather than be a single mom. That's how the judgemental and harsh society has conditioned most of us..

No marriage or man is worth dying in/for.
Yours is fine that you're not even married yet. So pls nothing holds you there.

When he's out of prison he can visit his child if he wants(that's if he can manage to not commit another crime that will take him back to prison)

Find something positive to do with your life,love and care for your child and before long you'll be happy you left him.
The lord is your strength.

MojAyo: tanx dear,I heard all what u said,his mum is planning on how to send money for him for his release vry soon,cos he was sentenced to 2years imprisonment,my mum and his mother want us to come back together,I knw what I went through when I was still in sa with him,even when I was 8months pregnant,he beat me black and blue,telling me he dnt want me or the baby,dats its better d baby comes out now,even the head of d baby can't pray for him ,I think dats why his life is so worthless now,and also what he did to me re now reflecting in his life now, he called me today dat I'm there enjoying in nigeria,and he is suffering inside a prison here,I told him dats what he choose to do in his life,then he said I should never call him again,what am I even calling in him,a useless irresponsible person,I thank God dat God remove me frm his problem
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 8:35pm On Jul 04, 2014
@ qstar. Convincing points you put up there.

But I don't agree with the complexity being confused for intelligence part. That's simply not true.
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 8:28pm On Jul 04, 2014
Apatheist: I'm sorry if I was getting argumentative..

it's alright smiley

Religion says god is perfect.
How can you believe in a god and not believe in religion?

well I like to think I'm honest. So honestly I understand religion to be man's quest to understand God.like I told you before,I'm christain because I was born christain. I may disagree with the principles and teachings of other religions(and I do)but in the depth of my heart,I've never seen other religions as inferior. I don't have the if-you-don't-believe-in-jesus-you're-going-to-hell mindset.
You see I'm aware people once believed in and worshipped Zeus who is a myth today but very real as of then. It is also possible that 3000yrs from now, Jehovah and Allah will be myths taught in schools as the gods of ancient people and then they might laugh at our funny beliefs and wonder how human beings could have reasoned the way we did.
what does that say about religion? It just shows that religion is dynamic and as long as the human race exists,we will not rest in our quest to discover and truly explain God. It is not counter-intuitive


That is counter-intuitive.
I believe there can be a creator- or creators- but is none of the religious ones.
.
ok then. But that means You're not atheist in the real sense of it. Thanks for your time

Again, I apologize if it seems I am argumentative. smiley
smiley
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 8:11pm On Jul 04, 2014
@timmy2409.
I've read your post.
Lol @ pink unicorn grin

Let me take the stand of the article you posted as your stand. Heavy points in there and worthy of consideration by any open minded christain.

But all of that only tries to negate the existence of the christain god. It doesn't necessarily prove that there is no God at all.
Does disproving the existence of the christain god disprove the existence of God in general?
All over the world people believe in all sorts of gods.
What that article says is the christain god can't be true.
Is that what you're saying too?
I take yes as the answer to that.
So have you looked at other religions and tried to understand 'their gods?'
Or do you choose not to believe just because?
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 7:44pm On Jul 04, 2014
Apatheist: yes, I told you before, intelligent design is plausible. But that doesn't mean that it was designed by the deities of religion, for all we know we could be a project of an alien child. this is an interesting POV. Why hasn,t anyone thought of this before now?

Intelligence does not mean infallibility.
That an intelligent person made something doesn't mean there won't be faults. Computer programs and software all have bugs. I'm sure Nairaland has a few bugs of its own.

I didn't say creation is infallible.

Also, you said you're a biologist, so you should be aware of the flaws in the human body that was supposedly made by a perfect being in the image of said perfect being.

again. I don't recall saying God is perfect. Not saying he's not either. I just recognize the existence of a big supreme being. Bigger than us I think. Not necessarily perfect because no one can truthfully say they've been at dinner with God and understand him or know him well. I just think whatever the flaws are,they are insignificant compared to the overall cohesion they come together to form.
But we are getting argumentative. That's not what I want.
So I'll back pedal here and listen to what you have to say henceforth.
Christianity Etc › Re: Atheists. Come In Let's Discuss. by cococandy(op): 7:34pm On Jul 04, 2014
Hahaha.
It is funny because I know religion for what it is. There's nothing to lose.

As for my belief in God. I haven't seen any reason not to believe. All the reason I see point to his existence(that's my belief anyway)
qstar: @cococandy.

Do you really wanna start this thread?
You may lose your faith(religion) after this thread.

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