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 Family › Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by cococandy(f): 9:56pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Sighs in mandarin  [quote author=fresh_dude]Finally, something we have in common. You're not a lost cause after all.[/quote] |
| Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 9:53pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Agreed to an extent. But even when the baby wasn't wanted in the first place,there are consequences for it. It may be the best option available to her. It doesn't mean that it is easy to deal with or that the woman's emotions weren't involved when she made such a huge decision.[quote author=BABE!]Not if she didn't want the baby in the first place. It's a relief for many.[/quote] |
| Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 9:49pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Like it or not,it involves sentiments That much is real. pickabeau1: My dear.. u r bringing sentiment into this matter |
| Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 9:36pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Funny. Pro choice is not about the dispensability of the foetus. There are good reasons why a woman may want to abort. R@pe Incest Health risks Deformed foetus Etc etc. Pro choice means that for any of these reasons,a woman reserves that right to terminate the pregnancy if she so wishes. You see there just two sides and no inbetween.pro lifers can't say 'I'm pro life but... If any of the above should occur,then the woman may consider termination. That's one foot here and the other foot there. Pro life should mean under no circumstance can abortion be considered. I admit that the pro choice stand is subject to abuse. That's people having abortions just because they can. But then almost everything is subject to abuse. Either ways it's always a huge loss for any woman who's had an abortion. It shouldn't be made light of pickabeau1: there is nothing to fear 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 9:26pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
pickabeau1: According to planned parenthood... you have nothing to fearI'm even more about the emotional aspect of it. |
| Family › Re: I Nid Urgent Answers by cococandy(f): 9:23pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
[b]apunku:[/b]How many Nigerian men wud likely look my way knowing I av 3kids? Even if dey did hw many wud b willingly 2 take me and my kids in on event of re-marriage? Dis is Nigerian and I knw hw dey operate!You want to give up 3 children so that another man can find you lovable? Smh. Anyman who can't love you with your kids isn't worth you. What do you intend to do? Lie about your state of motherhood? Deny your kids? You were in a bad marriage,it wasn't your fault.but that's your life now and you've to be proud of your kids and make them a part of your life. Don't throw away a part of your life that you created because you want new love. How do you know he'll be worth giving your kids up for? Have you thought about how your kids will fare without you? Learn a skill. Something like catering that you can do weekends while working weekdays. You don't need big capital to learn or start it. But you make good profit from it. You're even talking about which man will want you do you think they'll want you without you being improved financially? 5 Likes |
| Family › Re: Should Men Be Forced To Pay For Kids They Didn't Want? by cococandy(f): 9:03pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Even though I'm pro choice,I do not think abortion is something that should be seen as common place and neither should a man proffer it as a solution to a lady he impregnated if that's not what she wants. It's a huge decision and one she has to make because she wants to and not because the man wants her to. |
| Family › Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by cococandy(f): 8:25pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
 pickabeau1: ok.. fair enough |
| Family › Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by cococandy(f): 7:50pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
I can't pretend to have answers when I don't. I identify with christainitybecause? I was born into it and raised in it:. Even though most people would like to say otherwise, many practise religions they were born into and have been convinced is true. Maybe if I was born a muslim I'd be seeing christains as infidels too. Says much about humans and our need to feel better than others doesn't it? Second I'm VERY big on love and tolerance and kindness and forgiveness. Jesus' teachings endorse such. If I was born into a religion that's not big on those,I'd maybe have sought succour elsewhere. So I'm here because it preaches what my soul finds peace in. pickabeau1: Ok.. then 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by cococandy(f): 5:46pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
O that doomed? Well if I believed that,it means that I believe every other human even those who lived before the time of christ and those who haven't heard about him and those who were born into other religions are all doomed to hell even if they lived good upright lives? That's not the image of God I like to have.  My thoughts about man's creation is that anyone is yet to understand it. Even those with the so called 'proven' theories of evolution. There's only so far everyone can come without running out of answers.. But we keep trying Maybe we are reaching far above our station trying to explain God and his works with our small brains which occupy an infinitessimal space in the grand scheme of things. pickabeau1: O doomed |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 5:27pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Cool post damiso |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 5:21pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
So simple. It can't be likened to rocket science Everyother thing is propaganda(in the politicians' voices) EnlightenedSoul: Lol what the heck, tho |
| Family › Re: Successful Career Women Can't Have It All - Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi by cococandy(f): 5:20pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Yes. That's what I'm saying. And it's a double honor and double blessing. Xsolutions: In essence what you are saying is you wear different crowns for different roles and try to be your best at it...GOOD THINKING! 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by cococandy(f): 5:18pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
To me religion is a man made system which seeks to understand and explain God. Each with their own set of man-made rules and each believing that their own God is the supreme one. Wouldn't it be so awesome if everyone realized soon enough that they are not God's favorite and are on the same quest with everyone else.? Which is to see the face of God. By adamic nature do you mean if I believe that man was made from dust? Like literally molded like a figurine out of dust? Nope. I feel that passage of the bible has deeper meaning than we interpret it to be,given that most other religions have a similar explanation for man's existence. Sadly I realize it's probably one of the things in life that we may never truly be able to explain in a way that makes sense to the ordinary mind.but then whoever must tow the line of religion must go with faith and take some things as they are told. Doomed? Be clearer there so I don't misunderstand you. pickabeau1: cococandy |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 12:05pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
5minsmadness: Go on then, how are females oppressed here? And I am talking of legitimate legal oppression and not a crazy drunk lunatic beating his wife to a coma on the news.I could take a whole day but not do justice to this question. *You do know that first and foremost,the mindset and opinion is that women are beneath men. That alone is something the needs to be corrected. * Legally?. Is there a law that protects women from abusive men? If there is,it only comes into play when the woman is dead or raped. Other instances of assualt are dismissed as family matter. * Legally? An African country just passed a law that permits men to take other wives if they wish without their wives' consents. That's not legal oppression? * Most guys will tell you they don't want a woman at the pinacle of her career because she must have been thru' hell to get there. Why do they say so? Because they know the nigerian society is one that requires you to work your way up to the top of the ladder on your back with your legs spread. Not because you aren't qualified but because you can be made to forfeit whatever it is you pursue so badly. Is anything being done about this? No. The guys cover the others up and intimate assults keeps on increasing. There's hardly any woman who's made it to the top that didn't get there by hiding behind a powerful man to protect her against the predators. * You know females can't inherit property in some parts of our dear country? *some females aren't allowed education and their own choices in the upper part of Nigeria. But I guess it's ok because their religion permits it. Not so? I could go on But read more here: http://www.socialistnigeria.org/women/1-3-03.html 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: . by cococandy(f): 11:43am On Jul 05, 2014 |
That's why there are no virgins left. Y'all keep looking for ways to nail them. Then you start crying at the 'looseness' of modern day girls.  quote author=190]Virgin gf r u sure shes not taking it fully elsewhere.. better find a way to nail that girl before she escapes  [/quote] 1 Like |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:40am On Jul 05, 2014 |
I repeat that I'm not here to make friends. You can't keep judging me based on what some one else said. How does that even make sense to you? if you want to judge me because I called someone dumb,then go right ahead too and judge his post that made me say it. Biased much? Let's take the question to that thread. pickabeau1: Just as you have a unique way of misunderstanding me |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:36am On Jul 05, 2014 |
I believe Feminism was once for a good cause but has now been so adulterated it has outlived its usefulness. If most of society sees the movement as extremist, anti family, anti-men, etc then its most probably true. Let's call a spade a spade and stop trying to eulogise a now deformed movement.This part may be true for some societies. But not Africa and Nigeria in particular. Maybe if I lived in the west,I wouldn't be so passionate about it. But anyone who asks how females are oppressed here is not being sincere. Or maybe has never lived here. |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:33am On Jul 05, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: Welcome. Be enlightened!  I wonder too.But it works like this. It's either you claim you're against men so they latch unto that to discredit your points as arising from man-hate. Or if you insist you don't hate men,then you don't know what you're on about because the conviction is that what you're preaching is man-hate no matter what you say otherwise. Anyway it will take a special kind of mental imbalance to get a babe like me to hate men. Oh no. Not those huge hunks of chocolatey goodness. |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:26am On Jul 05, 2014 |
I called you a hypocrite before you did? Even after you did? You must be reading another thread. You have a unique way of misunderstanding me. Maybe you do it to see my reaction. Lol The dumb comment wasn't for you but feel free to fight his battles. pickabeau1: which snide insult |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:17am On Jul 05, 2014 |
I called her out to stop it. But No to you that means I'm secretly enjoying it. I addressed your points whatever they were. If you're anything,it is not objective that much is clear.at least not where this matter is concerned. You hate it. Don't pretend to have even given it a chance to prove it's point. Not in the least. There goes the hypocrisy word again. And you're the one using it again. Still you expect fair objective response when you're throwing snide insults around?. Ok. pickabeau1: |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:06am On Jul 05, 2014 |
You expected much more? Well let's see. Coming from the guy who was tossing phrases and words like 'yeye dey smell' and 'hypocrisy' around when I was making my point in a clean and insulting way,you do have a knack for not removing the tree in your eye before seeing the speck in your neighbor's eye. I would have given you much more had you not become derogatory and snide. And snideness I find very disgusting.I can't respond civilly to that. Even though I give myself credit for trying It could have been worse pickabeau1: I expected much more from coco but as soon as her allies came in insulting her partisan nature could not be hidden |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 11:00am On Jul 05, 2014 |
The author of the OP is a man BTW And I guess because I don't hate men I can't be a true feminist. Oh well...  It's not by force to hate men sha. 2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Bride Sues Groom Who Jilted Her At The Altar To Run Into The Arms Of His Ex by cococandy(f): 10:56am On Jul 05, 2014 |
No in that part of the world,women pay for the wedding ceremony. It's the culture. Unless she's poor then the man can do it out of love. She's not desperate. pDude: So the bride footed the entire bill? |
| Romance › Re: . by cococandy(f): 10:50am On Jul 05, 2014 |
Tomorrow this one will start looking for virgin to marry but he's here plotting on how to convince them to lose theirs. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Reasons Why Women Are Wonderful Creatures by cococandy(f): 10:41am On Jul 05, 2014 |
Number 4,6 and 7 I know some men who can do and still do such. |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 10:37am On Jul 05, 2014 |
Of course not. The topic alone got them on the defensive. If any did,the topic need not even be one page long. But it was expected. 5minsmadness: I'm sorry but... |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 10:01am On Jul 05, 2014 |
The neighborhood nuisance that is irresistible he can't stop clicking on the thread. You'll still be present on another nuisance thread.maybe you were forced to do so at gun point. Smh. As usual do you have anything but insult to offer? No. Does it change anything? Nope. It rather helps my cause. One day at a time 1 or 10 young ladies will get the message. That they are not beneath men. And you'll only keep frothing at the mouth nursing your wounds. When you remove the veil of hatred from your eyes,you'll see my posts that have helped people in real life situations and which they thanked me for. But you're fighting a lost battle. Don't take it out on me sweets Ciao. [quote author=fresh_dude]This neighbourhood nuisance, when will you move to another village? What is worthhwhile about what you have said so far? Feminism this, feminism that. Blah blah blah. How many threads and posts have you made to help a real life situation here on nairaland. That's how worth is judged. Not by trying to sound intelligent by copying and pasting wikipedia articles. You're a fraud, there's nothing feministic about you, you cost less than 15litres of palm wine for Bleep's sake.[/quote] |
| Family › Re: How To "Emasculate" A Man by cococandy(f): 9:54am On Jul 05, 2014 |
She's fully supported. 5minsmadness: I swear I thought the same way o. This is zboyd speaking up for men! You guys should support her and not castigated her! |
| Nairaland General › Re: Brt Did Not Kill Any Soldier -lagbus by cococandy(f): 9:31am On Jul 05, 2014 |
Na wa o. So those buses were burnt for nothing. Why are we Nigerians so destructive? Even if the man died,seeking compensation for his family would have been way better than destroying govt property. |
| Family › Re: false reasons why some people believe feminists hate men by cococandy(op): 9:10am On Jul 05, 2014 |
Very funny side comments. Anyone who has an issue with me being married can either quote me to clear one or two points for them Or hang themselves because I'm happily married. They wish feminists were all bitter and angry at men.myopic mindset that has been addressed in the OP. Except of course the narrow minds don't read. 1 Like |
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