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Wagwanbrethren:
This is unrelated, though.
Something else caught my attention here. From what I could see,that tattoo is freaking legendary!
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thanks I love it

If it were that simple, he would do it himself. Meal planning for a whole family 3x a day is not a joke. Stop the malicious downplaying of traditional female roles.
We know that if traditionally it were a man’s job, y’all would find a way to rank it above everything else. Someone else being responsible for your daily sustenance is not “SIMPLE”

socialmediaman:
I don't remember using the bolded word. I have some friends who do exactly what I described in my original post, and they're housewives by choice, some with advanced degrees. One (a caucasian) cooked a full Nigerian meal with recipe she learned on YouTube when I visited her family for thanksgiving.

A man doesn't even need a woman's help to cook and take care of himself, and vice versa. If he gets married and delegates that job to her, she should be able to handle it. This is tradition and not some big deal abeg. It's just petty to be complaining about duties as simple as cooking and cleaning.

Leftovers are the best of the holidays

socialmediaman:
I don't have time for Q and A, I've made my point. If you want to say something, go ahead and say it

You’re making false claims about women abroad all being housewives . I asked you how you know that but all of a sudden you don’t have time for Q and A.

Just say what you know to be true. That’s the bottom line

ibkayee:
I'm not single, neither am I in my mid thirties but I hope to be one day, God willing

Lmao is it now a flex to not live to see a certain age? Like I don't get

He doesn’t plan to live long apparently

GloriousGbola:
Both whites and African males are completely oblivious to thier privilege

Someone said “black men are the white people of the black community”
And nothing could be truer when you actually think of it.

Completely oblivious. Must be very nice. Isn’t it?

socialmediaman:
No man should be compelled to do chores. This is an insult and embarrassment to womanhood. I bet she'll cook for herself and whole family if she was living alone or with her parents, why make a big deal out of this?

That’s not the question I asked you.

Okonandmary:
My question to you is how did the woman make the man successful?

Let me dumb it down for you. In primary school structure so that you can understand it.

First of all yes if he didn’t have the woman he would be successful because he’s single and only has to worry about himself. Same way the woman would be successful with only herself to worry about.

But the moment they chose to create a family with someone else, that family is their responsibility not just the woman’s responsibility. Those kids are his dependents. They don’t belong to the wife alone. For him to leave all the childcare to his wife means his wife is relieving him of a huge responsibility that might have been a stumbling block to his path and career success.

The fact that he can get up and go out without anything holding him down from going and coming and participating in his career the way he wishes to is a very huge part of why he’s successful.

If he stayed up all night because a crying baby wouldn’t let him sleep, he wouldn’t have the strength or presence of mind to get up and be mentally/physically active the next few hours.

That he can come back and see food ready for him. Food that he didn’t have to plan, look up recipes, make a shopping list, go buy grocery and then spend hours making already made his career so much easier. If you can’t see the connection, then I really wonder how you think of yourself as a smart contributor here. Where’s this your confidence coming from?

He wakes up to go do the amazing career in clean clothes that he didn’t spend hours washing and organizing. His children are taken care of. He doesn’t have to interrupt his schedule for them because mom’s got it. You don’t see how that contributes to his career?. In your one track mind, anyone that’s not there acting with him and securing acting gigs for him didn’t contribute to his career.

And hilariously enough you imagine yourself to be the one who’s thinking deeply. How deep thinking are you if your mind can’t make basic connections? Deep in the sewers it seems.

I said it before. it’s because the only thing you value is money that’s why someone taking a huge responsibility that belongs to both of you upon themselves doesn’t mean anything to you.

socialmediaman:
Her mates abroad are full time housewives cooking, cleaning, shopping, and raising over 4 kids all by themselves without nannies. Still, many have side hustles or part time jobs bringing in extra income. They are called supermoms.

Many Nigerian women are using "wokism" to destroy our family values and traditions

The men you know abroad told you they don’t do chores?

You assume he gives her money. Lofty assumptions

SultanOfPuna:
Man go hustle sweat and blood to bring money, pay rent, still buy you things, protect you.
And you serve him empty plate because him no help for kitchen.

Next time she ask for money, give her empty wallet, for not following you to work to hustle money.

Nonsense and female stupidity

When did I say money isn’t important?

You’re projecting because you erroneously and ignorantly said the women’s contributions don’t matter if it’s not money. What a stupid asinine opinion.

And what happens when the woman can and does make money too? Like millions of women currently do? I mean why is your “logical” mind glossing over the fact that many women contribute financially towards the home? And even if they didn’t, they do things that only them can do. which makes the man’s life so much easier and helps them be successful in their chosen careers. How can a man benefit from all that and then claim he built his success alone. You slow or what?

Calling me emotional because it’s an easy-to-regurgitate insult that many of you low IQ niqqas like to use on women doesn’t change the fact that you only have opinions that imbeciless can have.

If you really think your mother and the women in your lives didn’t contribute anything because it wasn’t monetary, try paying for every single service they provide you and your family. From child care to house keeping, to cooking and cleaning, planning, advising, emotional support, personal shopper, sexual gratification . Come back and tell us how far your pocket can go.

What an ignorant dumba$$.

Okonandmary:
As i said you are always living in fantasies and not in tune with reality.

There are many men out there who were/are successful before they met their wives.

The thing you fail to realise is that a man does not need a woman to be successful, after all there are many successful single guys without a woman in their lives.

As for the scenario you brought up, there are also men whose wives died during childbirth, did that stop the man from achieving his dreams? ..No, there are always people willing to help, as i wrote earlier he can also get a paid nanny to take care of the child.

Indeed! People like me dont respect mothers, as if it is only mothers that raise a child, every guinue mothers know that the support of finances of the man makes the family runs smoothly, the day the man stops that, the mother can turn the kids against the father even though he has sacrificed alot for the family...this is one thing your biased and emotional mind wont accept.

Or do you want to say, money isn't important...you see how hypocritical you are. As if you can marry a penniless man considering the fact that you are an igbo girl and a man with money is highly valued in your culture.

That cinnamon roll looks bomb af

GboyegaD:
Seems one of my best Christmas. Had friends over and it was fun assisting with the cooking. The only work that was all mine from scratch to the end was the cinnamon roll with the cream cheese frosting. Thanks Akposy for the recipe.

We made quails and chicken for protein, two types of friend rice. The difference in the rice is that ibelllone has bacon and the other did not.

Okay so if his wife can’t do it then he’ll get somebody to do it. meaning he needs someone to do it in order for him to succeed. If his wife were dead and no one agreed to come do it, wouldn’t he be stuck with tiny tots too dependent on him for his to successfully go do something else?

Telling you that you are slow is not abuse. It’s just a fact of the matter. That’s why people who think like you don’t respect your own mothers. Because you don’t value yourselves and you think her raising you means nothing. It contributed nothing to the family since you’re not a valuable part of the family. The only thing you value is money and only the person who brought money has value.

And as usual when you feel your illogical thought processes being called into question, the person who’s pointing it out is being emotional.

Oh you went to Zanzibar? Congratulations

Okonandmary:
If he doesn't go out and work, how will she get the money to change diapers and how will the family eat.

No his career wont stop because he has kid, he doesn't have breast to breastfeed and it is not his job to change diapers, he can also employ a nanny to do the job and his career will continue to blossom.

A man career does not stop because he has family, btw that is when a man works harded. And if a woman doesn't want to do the job of taking care of the kids he can always get someone to help

As for me, i protect and provide for my family, i recently just came back with my wife and kid from zanzibar, we went for a week holiday. If i dont value family, then i wont be working and spending money on trips for my family.

Btw, it seems you are just not in tune with reality, your emotions are just all over the place. You think the world is suppose to run like the choas in your mind, i am so sorry to disappoint you, it doesn't.

And it seems you are the one suffering from that inability to think on a deeper level.. work on that crazy and incoherent mind of yours.

I should be expecting some abuse as usual

TheGoodAmerican:
Nice. Everything looks delicious.

thank you

I’m tired

dollynnn:
@ Preston
Akposy
Cococandy

Merry Christmas

merry Christmas

You think he would have had time and space to go for his acting career if he had to stay home to breastfeed and change diapers? Someone had to be around to care for the family he helped to create so that he could focus on his career. That’s a big major block in his career building. He wouldn’t have been successful if there was no partner to do those things for him to enable him focus. The fact that you don’t recognize this shows you place no value on family. Lack of reasoning abilities

Okonandmary:
And then..by the way built what together.

Was she the one acting and travelling to different locations to earn money for the family?

Was she the one managing his career?

Was she the one geting endorsement deal for him?

What did she build? Pls tell me

I am married to my love, i love her, i work to provide for the family and kid she keeps her money, is she the one building me, if i dont provide, wont she leave or nagged me to death.

So what is she building with me??

You sound like an imbecille by Saying a man being faithful to someone who built his life with him is the most xtupid thing you’ve ever heard. Well then that means you’re probably very xtupid.
Again reiterating my point that women who don’t treat y’all well have nothing to be judged for. They already know your basic mindsets which is lack of respect and loyalty.

Okonandmary:
Since you started with being abusive..lets go in.

Just because he married her at 18 does not mean that will stop a man from cheating or marrying another wife...and thinking a man that is a celebrity will be loyal to a woman because he married her young is the most stupid thing i have ever read.

Just ask 2 face, ask , tiger wood, kobe Bryant, kelvin heart and other male celebrities ( black or white), they were never loyal to their wives.even kelvin heart was videotaped having a gang bbang.

No man with status and power will Bleep only one pussy, it is just impossible, even top CEO of the world have side chicks.

And if a woman does not want to support growing men, it is up to her, it is none of my biz, if she does not want to stick with a growing man, she will also meet the already made man with side chicks and mistresses that will drag properties with her after his death.

Unfortunately for women, they dont know how to relate with the reality of being a man with power and status...smart women who marry celebrities and men with power end up accepting the lifestyle that their man will cheat on them or will get attracted to other women. The most important thing to these women is that the man comes home alive, provide for the family and give her some attention.

They swear we are the illogical ones.
Where’s the logic in his behavior?

pocohantas:
It is not an oversabi analysis because Yul didn’t fail to update us with all the drama. The wife was even the calm one and has told him to stop the social media drama. Why would you impregnate and marry another woman, then two of you would be posting the first wife’s picture forming nice? Now he has gone to delete pictures of the second wife. That is how you men act without reasoning because you think it would always go your way.

Okarakwu:
Who is May Edochie without Yul Edochie ....likewise this basketmouth wife. Remove their husband surname and they are nobody . What's the essence of going public with such picture...

public where? These are pictures they posted in their personal social media accounts. You’re the ones stalking them

IamMobisola:
How does a woman posting pictures of herself and her children relate to feminism? What in her caption signifies feminism? You no even get one sense, empty brain

She’s now a feminist because she’s showing strength and Grace in the face of what they expect to destroy her

Okonandmary:
You guys keep stalking celebrities as if that that is how the average Nigerian lives.

A woman getting married to a celebrity should be ready to endure any infidelity.

A male celebrity is for everyone.

If a woman want peace of mind and focus on her and her kids, then she should go for someone low key.

Look at the stupid thing you’re typing this morning. She married him 18 years ago plus a long relationship before then. Was he a celebrity then? Commenting like these are why women are wisening up and refusing to support growing men

100%

pocohantas:
If na me talk this thing now, they would say I am bitter. Men know the truth, they only hate to hear it from women.

Merry Christmas my food lander folks

pocohantas:
If men shouldn’t be responded to here, then they shouldn’t be mentioned either. That way they don’t have to respond to you and be left hanging. Simple pink pill courtesy.

Well said. Although sometimes we forget because we don’t really have beef with them. Na nature cos am.

armyofone:
Goat meat expensive .

I need goat meat stock to make real jollof.
Learned from my mom and her meeting friends that the best jollof is made with goat meat stock ( if you can't find real chicken stock) Not 4 months old chicken stock

GboyegaD, cococandy, Descarado and all - goat meat expensive at your side ?

Binta and Akposy, how much for akuya in the north?
Mariangeles cheaper as your side?
Ahnie, any plans to source in the deep village for fowl or goat ?

Used to be for me when I buy from african stores. Until I discovered Mexican store and it’s so much better

obiekunie01:
we catch them for street! WE BURN THEM ALIVE!

ASSH0LES!

You and the 250 people that liked this probably call yourselves children of God.

Truly there’s no hate quite like religious people’s version of “love”

Fedrick100:
This is so disgusting to see

Pussy wey sweet like this

So women are not useless?

You can tell the incels by their comments

Kollins11:
Aunty was just a fvcking material and not a wife material. I will be the most happiest person on earth if she end up committing suicide.

I have said it here countless times that this is exactly how to treat a useless Nigerian girl. Fvck her like an animal that she is.

Make sure you damage her womb beyond redemption. It's either you give her overdose of postinor2 every blessed day or she do series of abortion.

You useless daughters of jezebel never see anything yet.

I'm so happy you learned the hard way.

I hope say you no dey SIMP again? I believe you don wise by now.

Zonefree:
God bless that man and bless his marriage.


The scorned demon should go and die!

what made her a demon?

descarado:
You for tell me since na . Just recovering from one nasty cold after deadly flu attacks. Those things are terrible honestly.

me sef I been no know

GloriousGbola:
Pussy.

Sis is a paediatrian and she has war stories about the struggle to keep some babies alive.

I'm just trash talking - she says it's really really really stressful - and you are always second guessing yourself.

No seriously she’s a warrior. Parents with sick kids can be really tough to deal with. Can’t blame them though