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PDPGuy:
Happy Thanksgiving from my side to yours

jagugu88li:
Happy Thanksgivings everyone..........let us start.

The turkey is yet to come........if he doesn't taste it finish

Vegetarians indoors please, my neighbour. Meat eatarians we out.......Me.

nairanaira12:
Hahaha. She's happier than you and your entire generation will ever be.

nairanaira12:
I'm happily married, a joy I suspect will elude you for life.

Humanistme:
omo see frustration o chai God will not forgive the woman who did this to you o see vile hatred.

DesireBenjamin:
What is the meaning of all the men in the house refused to say who did it All the men in that house should be fucking arrested! They are all involved! To hide the culprit makes you a culprit..

PrimadonnaO:
Yes, of course, in an ideal situation. We all want the ideal situation. But if the father fails in being sufficiently available for the kids, the mother shouldn't. Just as financial provision is the primary responsibility of the father, so also is nurturing the kids the primary responsibility of a mother. That's what I've been saying.

PrimadonnaO:
What's your point exactly? Women ought to sit at home to nurture the kids and family? But if she has to work, then family becomes secondary? I really don't understand what you're countering.

PrimadonnaO:
Whichever way it works out for the couple involved. But in a situation where the man isn't as understanding and supportive as your husband is, it becomes the woman's responsibility to step up. Often, women are the ones who do most of the sacrificing.

I'm not talking with both sides of my mouth. She can work or start up a business, but not a job that's so demanding such that there's little or no time to bond and cater for husband and kids.

PrimadonnaO:
The responsibility of the woman I mentioned up there isn't to become bread winner. It remains the man's primary responsibility to provide the resources for the home...Primary, not sole responsibility.

That's the point I've been trying to make. Gone are those days when women stay as full time house wives their entire lives. In marriage, partners no longer make decisions on their own without consulting the other partner involved. So, a wife cannot just decide to sit at home raising kids without her husband consenting. That's what I meant by a supportive and understanding husband. He has to understand the need to devote time to the kids and the home and be willing to take up the financial responsibilities all by himself. But in the event that such doesn't happen, in the event that he doesn't want a stay-at-home-wife or isn't adequately sorting out the financial responsibilities that involves the wife's personal needs, feeding, kids' upkeep, housing expenses and even to the wife's parents and siblings (if need be), what happens? Would the wife continue to sit at home and be managing so much when she can do her bit to earn and improve their standard of living?

Effort just has to be made to strike a balance somewhere. You're lucky to have a husband who meets yours and the home's financial needs satisfactorily while you devote time to the kids. Not everyone gets to have it conveniently that way.
Not everyone even wants it that way.

Different strokes for different folks. So, my personal take still remains that a wife should earn, too. But she shouldn't be chasing money at the detriment of her family. The children would grow up and she can begin to devote more time to career/business. It's a step by step thing.

nairamaniac:
If that was all you could pick out of my entire write-up, then I'm afraid you are not as real/truthful as I thought.

Well it may not be rude to you cause we all have different home training and upbringing.

Keep it up. If it makes you sleep well.
Okay dear.

nairamaniac:
Can't believe u WD come out soo rudely to me? U took it so personal, like I was castigating the bride or envied her or was against her happeness/marriage.
Im trying to be as polite to you as possible for several reasons.
But I feel u messed up on this one.

Is there anything wrong in me criticizing/scrutinizing the personality of people I see/meet on social-media.
Or i should be scared of them because they are rich or they are stars??

Mind u, I'm the least judgmental person u can find. I think I even complimented your nose ring few years back. And told you I would marry your twin sister if she was as real/crazy as you are.

But here am seeing an elderly woman in mid-thirties posting all sorts of dirty pics on her Facebook. With transgenders , lesbian having sex, Roman Goddess, women fingering themselves on her uploads and you think its swag or normal?

Mind you, when I mentioned about her second-marriage, I wasn't criticising or condemning her.
I only meant she should be more experience as a person and a wife as this isn't the 1st time she is getting married.

Please my dear, try to argue or discus with people on this forum without prejudice.

I notice you pick fights with people that criticize any female for doing unladylike things.

Toks2008 and tosyne2much may not be right all the time. But your default mindset of them anytime you see their post is "they have come again to bring women down, let me stand up for my fellow women''.

Please take it easy cococandy, no one here is fighting with you.

Try to discuss(argue) constructively and objectively.

Thank you!

cc : funkdafied
Thanks for having my back.

Funkdafied:
You see yourself, newbie to where?
NairaLand?
Because you saw just 3posts from me?
Check my time registered.
Iv been here since 2014.
Not everyone of us are jobless.
Or jump on any post.

I dont live my life on social media or NairaLand like some of you do.

My realife is much more fun and important than forums.

Secondly, you are guilty of what you accused me of.

I can equally say "u went to my profile inorder to judge me and tag me a newbie".
Same way you accused me of going to Ehi Ogbebor's Facebook page with intentions of judging her.

So my dear, with all due respect, you are a HYPOCRITE.

Funkdafied:
In the first place, readers go to people's Facebook page, Instagram, profile pics for several reasons which may not include intent of judging or castigating them.

And yes, the past experiences of someone should affect the current character/personality of the person.

Mind you, I respect her getting married again. I'm totally happy for her. And never judged her a bit.

And let's not deceive ourselves, what we post on our walls, pictures and things we say, especially if obsessively is a reflection of our state of mind.

You are deceiving yourself if you think impressions don't matter?

I went thru your posts. All I can say is that your obsession to speak for the weak, women, abused, do not come out to be delusional, rude , self-deceptive and fake.

Its just a friendly advice.

Funkdafied:
Why the aggressive-defence and rudeness? Is she your relative or your role model?

Speak for yourself, everything becomes everyone's business when put into the public domain.
Out of curiosity, I had to check out her uploads on Facebook.
And I'm wondering the same thing if there's a mixup somewhere in my phone or fb account.

It doesn't tell well for a woman , getting married and also with past failed marriage(s).

nairamaniac:
Is it just me on this forum that noticed the exotic pics this bride has on Facebook uploads

All the world's nudists, whores, strippers are littered over there.

From Eudoxie Yao, Amber Rose, Nicki minaj, to transgenders and lesbians even making-out.

Please is there something I am missing here??

Are these girls are role models?
Or she's a ponography director?
Or she's just one of them?

What are such pics doing on her picture collections.

Or maybe there's a mixup some where from my side.

But someone should help me check this Ehi Ogbebor on facebook.

baski92:
second hand material, all tanx to packaging but sha happy marriage life. I pray it's last

tonididdy:
any girl with fake extra lashes....is a No-no for me.


one day I blanked out when I saw a girls eyelashes pulling off...oh God I embarrass her that day...i screamed in the bus, everyone was like what? what? and I said just look(pointing at yhe eyelashes)everyone one else was like chai...JESU...

i still have goosebumps of disgust just reminiscing that day

adabekee12:
What the fuckkkk are you saying? Is it now that you are noticing such? When this alone is cultural, an ideology and religious. Girls/women are seen as third class citizens in a lot of African countries. Shuuuu... babe check in your family you might even have pedophiles and rapist, they go hand in hand. If you think I am just talking shit, ask your grandfathers what age they were and what age your grandmother was when they got married.

I am surprised people are shocked at these events that have been going on since the beginning of patriarchy.
SHUTOUT TO THE WOMEN WHO PERPETRATE AND PROPAGATE PATRIARCHY THIS IS YOUR DOING AND IT SHOULD BE MARVELOUS IN YOUR EYES.

twilliamx:
Well read. Culprits identified, origin identified, flatness recognized. So what else is their to read.
Ndi anofia...

Leez:
read story una no go gree
dm no do afonja style
dm entice d mama with gifts na underage cause arrest ni
smh ndi afonja