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majekdom2:
is it the same genevive that has a daughter? Is it about marriage or happiness??

What has that got to do with anything?

Why date for 8 years?
What was your plan?

oebson:
My brother, I've been in those shoes before. I dated mine for eight years, at a point she started showing the other side of her. I held on to her like she's my life, couldn't imagine losing her to another, and she took every advantage of my love to hot me mercilessly without remorse. We had dreams and aspirations for the futures, but trust our girls, they always have something up their sleeves. She cheated multiple times, out of ma unconditional love for her, I still held on to her. I knew this girl would leave me one day, but I couldn't bear the thought of moving on without her. She was literally the air that I breathed, until it happened over three years ago. She jilted me when I needed her most, at the lowest moment of my life, when I needed her moral support, love and care, claiming SHE'S NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER, thinking she'll be getting married soon to a ready suitor. Little did I know she was seeing two other guys as well. To cut the long story short my guy, almost four years down the lane, my ex is yet to get a ring. Bottom line, although I went through hell then, I found the courage to move on and I'm better for it cus I learnt so many things from that mistake. Don't see her as you all in all. I know you must be thinking of the loss of investment on her, but let me assure you, this is gonna be the best that has ever happened to you. Just let her go, you'll be fine without her. You were living before you met her and you can still live better without her. The freedom and relief you will enjoy without her in your life is beyond imagination. Just make good use of your life, now that the distraction is about to kiss the door.

cruchenutii:
Awwwww !!! Coming from you, this is so niccce. Infact I'm blushing

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Because I’m allergic to BS doesn’t mean I’m not nice. This isn’t a rare occurrence. I’m always nice.
Except when I’m expected to entertain BS.

Okay

ofalu047:
Thanks! My sister. nasoo dem dey ask person.
I was with her before she got into the university.
I stood by her thru all ds period. I was alrdy working and all dt.
She slowed me down actaully!
The 6 yrs was for her maturity, her family approval and all dt shit. It is a vry long story, but l av tried to highlight d few points. I had all it took to get married.
To Mr OP, fast forward to ds moment, l have seen growth in my life in a short time l had not seen in 6 yrs.

cruchenutii:
EHHHHHNN !!! Madam Feminist. So you too can be so nice like this? Wawu !!!

Who told you feminism has anything against people being nice to each other?

pocohantas:
Na una go tire.
Continue to blast single ladies o.
They'll keep breaking your hearts and marrying the ready guy. It's a vicious cycle.

When you are also ready, another young guy will be heartbroken.

Exactly. Many people don’t understand that putting pressure on young girls to get married at a young age has ripple effects.

The Genevieve they are yabbing today, they don’t know if she’s still single because she spent her 20s in a long relationship with someone hoping it would lead to marriage .

But 6 years of relationship. How long were you planning on dating her?

ofalu047:
Your life is far from over. Your life is just starting. Infact thank your stars that she wants to leave your life.
A lady you have been with for 3 yrs and you never had a positive tale to tell except "Love tales", if you spend 100 years with such, you will only have love tales to tell, and nothing more.
I take you are still 27 or thereabout. Thats a very good sign. Shows you still have so much to time to get your acts together.
You might ask, how do l know this? I have been in your shoes before bro. Infact quite recently, l experienced similar fate. Mine was 6yrs relationship. Good thing was l saw it coming and l prepared ny mind for the worst. Lo and behold, the worst happened. She got married 3 months after we broke up, and she is already pregnant.
How is my life now, you might ask? Fantastic!
Focus on ur life as it is now. Life is not a race. It might be hard, but let it go.
You can meet a lady tomorrow that will turn your life around directly or indirectly in less than a year.

Sorry about your own heartbreak too.
Life sucks sometimes

ezenwajosh:
It happened to me...my oga just settled me and few years later her mother developed eye problem that can lead to blindness if not operated...and the mother is all she and her sister got their father died when they where kids...I had to sell all in my shop collected my money from those owing me...gave it to her, the money still wasn't enough remains small but was later paid by somebody....a prince...after the operation it was a success I thank God but I now have little remaining of me....she stopped caring or asking how am doing....she later told me her mom wants her to marry i said to whom she said a prince that took care of her remaining bill...but her friend who pittied me told me she has been dating a prince and the guy has proposed and she accepted....I confronted her she asked me if she's the one that ran down my business....I will never forget that day I was coming back from my shop in evening...speaking on the phone she asked me that question tears ran down my eyes in the keke.....alot happened but i stood strong managed sell all I had remaining and left nigeria to Kuala Lumpur Malaysia.....today she's not married yet, I don't know if this will make you feel any better but let her go....it's will be difficult take it go through it and move on...ITS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE if u can manage do all u can and leave Nigeria....that place will not grow ur finance

I’m so sorry you’re hurting.
I understand heartbreak and how awful it is.
Hugs.


My advice is to let her go if you’re not ready.
You’re mismatched based on Nigerian societal gender expectations.

She’s 24. Aka “ripe for marriage”. Anything closer to 30 she will start attracting disdain. Even you then might start looking for reason to leave her. Believe me even if you think you can’t do that, You can. You’re a product of your society.

Philosophia:
Thank you so much.

My brother, I will be candid with you. My biggest problem is that I love this lady with my beign. She is the only girlfriend I have ever had. 3years. I have often visualized our life together. We talked about family, kids, everything.

I am an introvert, who hardly gets close to people. I am a guy that usually doesn't give a Bleep unless I want to. But this stuff hit me. It hit me where it hurts. As I type this tears are springing from my eyes. I'm trying to stop but it hurts.

My whole life just seems useless. I don't know exactly what to do. I feel lost.

Maslow’s heirachy of needs:
Why not attend to their simple basic needs first. You know; food, clean water, health care at the very minimum before concerning yourself about their voting rights.

Stupid extortionists. You think we are all stupid

All I hear is ‘me me me’ and ‘I I I’
What about what the couple want? Are you the person getting married? Such self conceit.
To think what you want should trump what a couple wants for themselves.
Useless pride and ego.

He was probably raised by a goat. You never know

selflessmaya:
dude, you're so uncouth. have some respect and stop talking like a tout, it's not edgy, you're embarrassing yourself. all your sisters have nigerian pussy, you were pushed into this world by a nigerian vagina, respect your mother's public part and speak about women with some respect! u were not raised by a goat.

Most nairalanders are dummies. All you need to do is sound half smart and they start eating out of your fingers

merahki:
Thank you
The shocking thing is how many people liked the presumptuous, pseudo-psychology he delivered, snap, jes like that, diagnosis and treatment made

Now I see how people can sway others with dogma/teachings....those mass suicides in ?Guyana, Nazi Germany etc come to mind

In my city, you see barrows and buses with music blaring, and people selling herbs and love potions to the public, staphylococcusing up and down.....I can never get past the shockingly diverse throng of people I see patronizing them, but I digress, my major

@selflessmaya I don’t want to quote your long post but it sounds like you’re making excuses for an abuser.
OP should use gentle word and sweet words and never make her angry
I didn’t even read all of it because those parts stood out. Nope.

She hit you first. You hit her back.
tit for tat.
No need for unnecessary explanations.

This is utterly disgusting

PaperLace:
I totally agree with this one.
Or at an older age?
Some people are lucky though _no serious challenges. Just the day to the day ones they can easily deal with and get on with business.

Not really. Even now that I’m still in my twenties. I don’t think I want to get married again if I were to become single.

Man I always miss the good threads

As for marriage, if I were to become single today, I won’t ever get married again.

I don’t know if to the reader this says
“my partner now is perfect and thus can never be replaced” or if it says
“marriage is horrible I don’t ever want to do it again”.

So far I’m loving it. But we are akin to newly weds so maybe our trials days haven’t come?

I just know I’m not ready to commit like this to anyone else in this world ever again. Too much

Stalking you

Jesu

alexialin:
You are the clueless one

Please fucvk off my mentions!

I didn't call your name.

Just mind yourself!


Stalking me upandan!

What's your problem

Say your own and move on!

Ode!

That’s not how it works.
Two hours indeed

And you got almost 40 likes for this clueless post

alexialin:
Sighs na wa o.

But why labour for 7hours?
That's too much hours gone and definitely she will be very weak.

Cesarean straight up, after two hours nd no show.

May God protect all pregnant women and bless them with safe deliveries. With mum and child Hale and alive. Amen

Akposy:
Very well sir. I rounded up June this year. How's everything.

Kimoni et babyosisi herzumpther cococandy hope y'all are good

Congrats

Third world problems

Fool

supersystemsnig:
Hahahaha, kidding nau....I have girls i'm nurturing jooor...

Ah an

We don't joke about that.

OP I agree with you up to the point of the grammar issue. Yes I enjoy well written posts a lot but your initial complaint is so much more important that combining it with the problem of grammar belittles it.

On the first issue.....
Why people can't give practical meaningful advice instead of regurgitating
'go on your knees'
'ignore it'
'God will take care of it'
(You know all those things that sound 'right' but actually mean nothing and won't solve the posters problem one bit) baffles me. Shows inability to even think moderately much less in-depth.

supersystemsnig:
Okay Mumy.... We're pulling ya legs, and you fell for it....


Cocoa, is your daughter single ?

Erm pedophile much?

tosyne2much:
Is that the best you can come up with?

If truly you're married, let how to mind your business and respect yourself in order not to bring ridicule to yourself. A reasonable married woman should not be seen on a public forum jumping from one thread to another in order to be seen as being intelligent. I believe you should be matured above this.

I will spare you this time

And that's why you sound like a toddler

edimolu:
If i doesn't control you, then i cant married you...shikena...single ladies everywhere pffftttttt

WHY. WOULD. ANYONE. MARRY. THIS

supersystemsnig:
Tosyne, plz i'm kneeling down, brov, is humility or submissiveness too much to ask ? Is it?

tosyne2much:
You can't escape the hurdle bro.. The only disastrous thing is to escape the hurdle and still end up with a frustrating woman

Been reading your diatribe

You two sound like toddlers at my daughter's daycare center

TimeManager:
And a feminist crawled out.
kiss the truth!

You really think I'm concerned about a woman's right to take pictures in the middle of the street while obstructing traffic flow?

Dummy

ShyCypher:
If the drivers didn't stop for her now, feminists and Slay Mamas will come here and say they are not "gentlemen".

Abeg if na me sef, I go march dat brake till e spoil.

I no go comot there till night.

This has nothing to do with feminists.

supersystemsnig:
Ghen ghen... She's around...You missed alot...but welcome

Still busy. Gotta go:

But I'll be back to whup your bum bum should you type nonsense in my absence