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Be the best wife to someone who hits her until she bleeds while she's pregnant? At the same time running around with other females?
Jesus! . Some of you have no conscience. Your internalized misogyny has robbed you of all humanity and empathy possible towards your fellow humans.
You're like zombies who default response is to always tell women bear whatever level shyt is thrown at them. You know nothing else.
God forbid you use your sense and say something that actually shows you're a human being who hurts when another hurts. Soulless zombies.

holocron:
Madam, u have no problems. Your husband loves and cares for you. Give him his private space. Stay off his phones and stop snooping around him. Eavesdroppers never hear good of themselves. You are 7 months pregnant, and such can hardly satisfy the sexual needs of your virile husband. At least condoms confirm that he practices safe sex, and nothing is lost. Things will normalize when you are fit again. Create a conducive atmosphere in your home and watch your marriage flourish. Stop making your home a hell on this earth.

holocron:
So what should she do? Abandon her nest to her competitors, or rein in her man? As today is a sunday, let us be guided by the scriptures:

Romans 12:21 "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good"

@OP, For those recommending divorce, remember that those cheating girlfriends will be too happy to step into the shoes you seem to find so uncomfortable. Please endure. Keep your home for your children's sake. Except u are not in Naija, divorce a last resort only to be taken at risk to life ( not just ordinary slaps, slaps never killed anyone). You hid a man's car keys stopping him from going to work, are you suprised to receive slaps? The OP mother is a very wise woman for being around and not interfering in husband and wife matter. Your difficulties are just a brief phase due to your condition, and also your husband's inexperience. Teething problems COMMON to all marriages.

bigsmoke2:
Don't fight him. you deal with this kind of man with intelligence, let him have his way, be the best wife you can to him so he will realise what he stands to loose when you leave him. Give him time if he continues you may then leave . And watch how he will come running back. If he doesnt , then he doesnt deserve you. You must also have allies among his family members. Nd pray he doesn't catch any disease as a result of sleeping around

jakandeola:
didnt ur moda beat u as a girl did u hated her dont u beat ur dAughter does it mean u hate her wen u dicipline a peson is out of love. take it anywia I hav a hrt of gold and I spent a lot for my girl wy didnt she leave if am bad to her. I deal wit her cos I love her npst times after we get together I tell her sorry and tell her wy I beat her and she neva try dat again

I'm sure your parents probably beat you too when your were a kid. Does that mean your wife can what you too to correct you when you make mistakes?

You can't even see how silly your post is. What makes you think you are at the same level in her life as a parent? And why on earth would an adult need to be beaten to be corrected. You're xtupid. No apologies.And I've lost a considerable amount of brain cells discussing this. Gosh

jakandeola:
am not saying is right cos he over did it. he shdnt beat her so mych to injure her but I will beat my women so she respect me. as I beat her I love her more

Really? Garri brain

You're a sorry excuse for a human being. I hope whoever you plan to marry will see this side of you before saying 'I DO' to a demon in human skin.
Anuofia

jakandeola:
den mind ur tongue

Xtupid ass

And all these men are married too right? Sorry for their wives.

This reeks of Churchill's damage control

Xtupid asss husband

What's wrong with her post? That's something the mom should be teaching the daughter why is she upset she knows it?

CFCman:
Well, they sure have a nice resale value, depending on the market though

Exactly

selfmadeboss:
you are right. i always tell people that most of the bags, shoes and watches our naija celebs and so called big girls and boys use are actually fakes. as regards calling the chanel jumbo normal, i will consider that "slip of tongue" lol. i just checked the price in naira and thats about 3.3 million. thats so far from normal. when you stay with these girls that keep screaming hermes every time, they make you see chanel as normal. thanks for bringing me back to my senses.
after checking these girl's profile, i must conclude that most of her bags are fake. especially the hermes

Exactly.
Sometimes they have collections of these bags.
Oh please. How much are they being paid? They even earn in naira.
Someone earning in dollars will even be skeptical about owing several chanel bags much less Hermes collections.

CFCman:
Why would someone spend $8k on a bag? I'd rather invest that money in the stock market

If I could afford it, I would.
Those kinds of bags are also investments.
Not the returning-interest kind of investment though
They are the kind that makes you feel good about your life and you can still sell them after 10 years and get most, all or sometimes more than your money back.

selfmadeboss:
a chanel jumbo is kind of normal, but a hermes birkin is just off the hook.
i have the feeling its premium copy though. i refuse to believe she actually bought an original hermes birkin.
i wish the pic was clearer.
people talking about her car and house will develop instant headache if they know the price of that bag on display.
we are talking of atleast $70,000 for that model she is carrying

Lol @ Chanel jumbo normal.
If you know how I dream of that bag you won't call it normal.

Many naija celebs and so called big girls carry fakes so they will see it as normal. Based on someone in Abuja sold it to them for 100,000 naira. So it's original in their minds.

$8,000 for one chanel jumbo bag no be beans sha.
Even the used ones still sell for high prices. ( see attached picture below).


As for her Birkin... well if it is real. Serves the church members right. They will abandon their sick grandmothers in the village and go pay their income to the 'man of God'

selfmadeboss:
Is that real hermes BAG or fake? WTF

I wondered the same too.
She was also carrying a chanel bag in the other picture worth $6,000- 8,000 if I'm not mistaken.
That's a chanel jumbo

That black Hermes bag she's carrying there is worth at least $10,000. At the barest minimum.
Sometimes it sells for up to $20,000-$100,000 depending on the material and edition.
(Except she's carrying the fake one. Which isn't cheap anyway).

Make use una tithe to fund lavish lifestyles for big assed ladies in Nigeria. What's my business?
No Nigerian pastor can see my money unless I'm giving it directly to charity. Never again.

Very funny. He must have loved her.
Juju Ko.
I'm sure she did it (if the story is true) but that's not why he loved her.

JewelStone:
Yeah it's very healthy. We try to be #fitfam sometimes but the struggle is real. Haha

I understand

Orzo pillaf and duck thigh

That looks very healthy

JewelStone:
Just started following this thread and I love looking at the mouth watering pictures. I don't cook a lot, but I hope to be posting pictures of meals made by me or my partner.

Today's dinner: Salmon, potato wedges and salad. Made by my partner

Typical scumbag

hedonistic:
For real. I don't understand the unrealistic standards and sense of entitlement that many young women of nowadays have afflicted themselves with. It is beyond ridiculous.

Wise older generation women knew that you simply can't expect most men to be faithful to you alone for life. It's not gonna happen. Simple.

Men don't get into marriage because they want to stick to one woman. They get into marriage because of societal norms - because it is deemed 'normal' for a man of a certain age and accomplishment to get married. Women need to get this into their block heads.

Just manage your husband well and make sure he doesn't disrespect you by cheating relentlessly to your face and making no effort to hide it. That's all a reasonable woman needs to do. You can't have him all to yourself except he is hopelessly broke and socially awkward. A normal correct guy man with a decent income cannot be tied down for life. This is a conclusive assertion. No two ways about it. If you're a woman and this sounds too bitter to swallow, then please stay off marriage and remain single for life. Don't attempt to look for what is simply not available.

Only a very foolish woman would make too much noise about a so-called cheating husband, let alone contemplate divorce. Divorce him and marry who? Who says the next man wouldn't cheat even worse? I laugh.

Good this is coming from a man[quote author=Cyberfreak post=]Why are many Nigerian men so selfish and heartless like animals?
I see many men here saying crap like she should forgive him there are other women waiting to take her place, divorce never favors women, women should accept infidelity because men are polygamous, she is not attractive or interesting so the man shouldn't be blamed for cheating.

Do you people even read your bibles or Quran?
Where is it written that adultery is a normal thing that should be accepted and ignored or are all of you suddenly atheists?
I only pity the foolish women that think they should accept infidelity from their men because men have no self control. For those women you need to ask yourselves what men will say if the tables were turned. Will they ever accept it or will they tell the husband to throw his wife out for cheating on him?

Women please liberate yourselves. No one else can help you except yourselves. Adultery is wrong and will always be wrong. Don't let anyone bully you into accepting it when they themselves will never accept that nonsense.[/quote]

Asshole

Donald7610:
Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command
(17 years )Your age is not an issue this matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
Don't use education as an excuse.

No wahala the guy accepted your divorce
The shame goes to you & Family

Acidosis:
There is nothing wrong in telling women to wake up to their responsibilities before it gets too late. A lot of women see marriage as a resting point. That's why they mostly use the word "settle down"...always looking for a place to settle and rest.

The inference I drew from OP's words is that women should not fold their arms and sleep away just because a priest altered one or two words on the altar. Men see marriage as a place of responsibility so whatever anyone tells us would be stuffs we already know.


That's by the way, I will personally support any woman that gets cruel treatment from her husband. On several occasions on Nairaland, we support certain women with separation tips, etc.

You are only taking this too personal because you have already assumed (for instance) that it is easier to see or stumble on a cheating married man than a cheating pregnant or breastfeeding mom. Well, that assumption is RIGHT.

It is just one of those facts about life. A married man even at 40 or 50 may likely get more attention from the opposite s. ex. It is not an excuse or ticket to cheat, but women shouldn't take for granted, a place of responsibility.

That's your assumption. Not mine

About time

bellong:
Apology not accepted except you prepare my own yummies...

May the girl continue to grow in grace, wisdom, knowledge and fear of God. Happy birthday to her..

Thanks.

Okay I owe you

bellong:
Not fair, not fair..

I was not invited..

Ugh. I'm sorry

Yea 'cos fathers are wall decorations who have no input in raising their sons.
Who better than a male role model to guide a growing male?

@acidosis Lacking simple comprehension.
No one is against treating a husband well.

But if I ask you to do this or that in order to stop your wife from keeping men on the side to satisfy her, I'm sure you won't thank me.

It doesn't take too much to understand a simple concept. Just ask yourself 'if this message were for me, would I like it?' 'Would I appreciate this tone if it were directed at me?'

If you answer is no, there you have it. You will comprehend.

yerilistik:
Congrats to her !

Please can you list the items by names as the picture doesn't show enough details. I could recognise the jollof rice, chicken, fruit and chips trays but the rest I am struggling to know what they are.

Jollof rice
Fried rice
Fried chicken
Grilled chicken
Mac and cheese
Sandwich rolls
Grilled whole Duck
Puff puff
Skinless white bread sandwiches and the other kids' snacks.

Thanks
Amen

bukatyne:
Congrats to her

Many more years of God's blessings and His wisdom for you her parents to train her.

It is well with her

loveymom:
@cococandy wey our own ? Not pictures ooo.

Happy one year birthday to your daughter, she will grow in grace, sound health, wisdom, peace and love.

Baby girl turned one and we invited some friends to come celebrate with her.
Everything but the fruit tray and kids crackers made by me.
Mmm hmm.

Was tired af. Afterwards. But it was worth it.

He has a point