₦airaland Forum

raumdeuter:
Agreeing on what? That only genders that are ready to work for their family should be educated. Is that what you want?

Agreeing that males and females and should be given same opportunities in life. And none should be made to assume a role they don't want to be in just because of gender.

i.e mandatory female domestication.

raumdeuter:
Housekeeping is contracted out
One working round the clock doesnt care about gourmet meals

Red pant and bra for what? Is she a masquerade
hair on the ground? Most people prefer to step on rugs

Hehehe.

I guess some people are getting their priorities straight.

raumdeuter:
Then there is no need to spend equal amount on boys and girls education and just put more money towards the gender who is ready to work and make money for their family

Oh. Are we agreeing on something here?

raumdeuter:
You mean you will be a wife, and someone will provide and protect you what then do you give back to the family ?

Did your bible tell you that people drove cars, watched TV or used internet? Then why are you doing things not stated in the bible?

Housekeeping
Submission.
Gourmet meals on demand.
Red pant and bra + designer sex to keep him in line.
Put her hair on the ground for him to step on when he walks.
24/7 kneeling down to pray so that small small girls won't see him when he goes out to win the daily bread.

Why else would such a man demand she bring money too?

eyinjuege:
The only people that can do my money is mine and yours is ours and get away with it are those ones that have married into money.

They can afford to do that.

The reality of marriage begins to dawn on people within a year of getting into it.

Exactly.

Only a few percentage of women can afford to not countribute to their family's upkeep unless they just want to fold their arms and what their kids and husbands have a hard time.

Reality and nairaland are aeons apart.

Because the man is the head and woman is the neck duh?

Isn't that what men want?

raumdeuter:
So if he is never broke or always around, What are your own financial responsibilities to your own family? Or you are telling us you have none?

So what is your own investment into a family, husband and kids you call yours?


Yet people wonder why men treat women like that as inferior to them? If you cant spend your own money on your own family then what is your contribution to the house

bukatyne:
Madam,

Go and get yourself a man.

This poor boy is your son and not your husband.

Tomorrow she will start fighting his wife for his love and attention. Tssk.

EfemenaXY:
Now this is really good stuff! Thanks love.

Will check it out.

Or you can check through your church (if you attend one).

Our church here is so awesome and the accountability is top notch. At the end of every half year, you get a full report of what you've donated and how it has been used. They bring beneficiaries sometimes all the way from parts of Africa to personally say thank you to donors so you know your money isn't going into any quirky corners.
That is in addition to proof of real work that they put your money into.

Untilize orgs. like that because paying someone to pay for the child you want to sponsor may not end well except you're there to supervise it.

Onegai:
my sister! oya, let us see her antenatal card, it will show when she registered, infact your first visit the doctor will estimate the due date of your baby based on LMP. It should be there. I walked into SLOT and sold my old tablet for N12k and it had no battery, so a 1 month preggers lady can't think like that, but hey, hooking up for pay with strangers online na d koko.
moji26, please pm me and send your antenatal card.

I just hope her child is alright. That's my concern.

Moji pls DM onegai your antenatal card. Helpers are on the way.
Goodnight.

OP I'm sure folks are willing to help you because kids are involved. Just be plain sha.

When did you break up with the man that got you pregnant? Was it before or after the news of pregnancy? Because if you're 3 months pregnant now, that would mean by the date of that post onegai quoted, you were about a month or less pregnant.
So did things become so horribly bad right away that you started to seek online customers for money?

Not judging you because I believe it's your life and you can live it how you want. This line of questioning is to make sure your story is straight.

I just don't want to be scammed.

Onegai:
Go and donate. But first donate to me: I can use a smartphone and an andriod device yet I am totally helpless to get myself a bank account. Infact, what is a bank sef, never heard of those things...

I was just going to say what jaybee said. that her past doesn't mean she doesn't deserve help. But then the date thing caught my attention.

I don't know a one month old pregnant lady that will be interested in strangers for sex but what do I know. Maybe she hadn't found out then. But in that case that would mean she was still in good terms with the man since he only turned bad after the pregnancy news.

Color me confused.

Maybe her religious considerations won't allow it.

jaybee3:
So what specific help do you need then since you aren't necessarily open to suggestions

Do you realise things will only get worse with an addition to your current situation?

Do you realise majority of people that might be inclined to donate don't have the luxury of what you are insisting on?

Do you realise it's insensitive to be procreating in this difficult economy?

Contact TeHN once you are realistic with your expectations

Have a good day

Onegai:
okay so let's stop playing here

Well.....

Smh

What has your location or heritage got to do with your issues? Not necessary IMO.

If you don't want your marriage to end, don't threaten your wife with it. Why did you bring that up if you still want the marriage? Except you wanted her to panic and start begging you because you threatened divorce. Is that why you were hurt when she called your bluff?

Both of you are immature. She gives silent treatment, you reject meals.
Fix yourself too. I don't believe it's all her fault.

First of all it's the family car not his personal car let's get that straight.
Now that there are kids involved, as always their comfort comes first. so whoever is with them the most gets to drive the car the most. be it husband or wife.
If we had one car and my husband has to take our kids to school before heading to work, I'll gladly take the bus. The kids always come first.

Stop making a big issue out of nothing. The way you came to create a thread about makes it seem like the guy is extraordinary. No he's just a loving parent.

Go back to yesterday and marry.

OP why does your wife think that her years with you is a waste?
Get to the root of the matter (why she feels that way) and you will be surprised how easily your problems will disappear:

You're not cursed. There's nothing wrong with you.

It just shows you that a lot of married people cheat. It's not your fault.

Because we would rather torture the female child, control her, police her,subdue her and even blame her if she falls victim rather than teach the male child to rein in his exaggerated sexuality.

But what do I know? There's no need to teach such things because there's no gender inequality. According to some mor0ns.

Food

Lol. You're not serious.

nuelzy:
ur wickedness is legendary...




hw can u be dis heartless...



av been following this thread for a while now without saying anything.. bt i cant condone this ur intimidation any further...

Gosh...!!! imagine ... every food always a hit back to back!!..

omo see soup !!...

can u divorce ur man... ..
marry me instead

The problem is not whether she knew or not. It's whether she approved from her heart.
If your husband's uncle is the type that's lord unto himself, she might have agreed at face value so as not to upset him.

Use your number six and get your husband to agree with you. Before you guys lose your remaining dignity.

Ajity:
@cococandy she knws we ar coming, initially d house was built for 2wives cos d uncle has 2 wives.. D house has 2 parlors and 5 rooms, each parlor has 2rooms den a guest room and only 1 kitchen buh because 1 of d wives refuse to move in wit d Man dats y He asked my hubby to come join dem cos He was still single den buh I was aware cos we were still courting den.... So my hubby is using d parlor mean for d oda wife and room... So i tink d problem is d cooking stuff

Some issue has occur in d past wich ws cause by her wich made d Man flare up dat we should start cooking seperately to avoid such again buh is dis same woman dat refuse dT y ar we goin to cook seperately in dis type of house and nw here she is complaining

I understand d economic reccession d only tin tym we eat together is @@nite cos I av a shop and hubby comes home on weekends buh she wil still complain


She might b tired of US I dont knw buh wat can I do... Am nt hapi abt d whole mess too buh I knw Gods time is d best
We go get my seperate foodstuff dis wk and all oda tiinz I nid

Thank u all

The main problem is that your husband's uncle invited you guys to live with him without her approval. Buying food bla bla bla is commendable but may not solve the problem. You guys should move out pls.

I don't know why people do stuff like this. Married couple moving into someone else's matrimonial home. Next thing you know you guys will start having kids in their house and it will become a communal/village house. Is there a concrete plan to complete your own house in place? You can't live there saying you will move when you complete your house. Something we know might take years to happen.
I wouldn't like that if I was your uncle's wife.
Move out pls. I don't know how you intend to communicate that to your husband but pls do.

No idea what's going on. Who else is confused?

SAMBARRY:
SO cococandy was right after-all .Nigeria is not safe for little girls worststill north

Which sick depraved slowpoke kidnaps such a little girl? For what purpose.how can you say this little girl is even beautiful if not that something is wrong with the couple upstairs. Is it as househelp or sex slave?

I won't even be surprised if the man's hands have found his way into the little girls pants

Mad people everywhere

Of course

Pained niggas weeping all over the thread

That's good to hear

OP your mother used to taunt your dad about the rich men she would have married to the point that he bursts into tears and you're advocating her as example for us?

Congrats to her. Was my school mate in Owerri those days. Thumbs up

The Bible also says you should honor your wife.

holysaint1:
I don't think that is the situation here... I think the part about the women reserving or withholding her thoughts
Is of paramount importance here and not the man's reaction..

A child.... Even when the Bible stated it clearly that wife's should respect their hubbies...

Well from my point of view.. All I see is a women not ready or willing to understand, further, the partner she is already married to..

Onegai:
what is African Breadfruit? Also, what is "Acha", saw some and wanted to buy, but didn't know how to cook it (plus it was hideously expensive).

African breadfruit? It's called ukwa. Yes it's also expensive.
I don't think I know what acha is.
Here's a picture of the breadfruit thingy.

First picture is how it comes from the tree, second picture is after it and been cleaned and shelled.
It's a lengthy process that takes weeks. Probably why it's sort of expensive. But it's very tasty (in my opinion) and nutritious in general opinion.

Had to make my mom bring some for me when she was coming.