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StarBoard: Roy Keane played 1999 Final
Hargreaves was injured for 3 months in 2007/8

alutacontinua: I think this thread just started. *adjusts my sitting position*

StarBoard: Bros,
You know na.
I should be coming to you for those.

ileobatojo: Amen!

Society ko, society ni.

The society is now a rigid, unchanging structure abi? It's not humans that make up the society? Obviously the people quoting society are part of the 'society' themselves, wrecking havoc on women all over the place. They are the ones stigmatizing single women, and women who left their abusive homes. They are the reason Nigeria will never change. Disgusting!

StarBoard: Horse dung doesn't even know what a ribbing is.
You need to chill jare.
You seem to take your copy-and-paste analysis too seriously, despite making some alarmingly stu.pid remarks over here.

StarBoard: debosky,
Why na?
why let your lingering beef with van Persie to becloud your judgement of a matter that is so clear?
If it was nitwit/nitlad talking like this, I would understand.

“During our own time, Westerhof would reduce most of the superstars to ground zero and make sure you work your way back into the team,” Iroha, who once played for Vitesse of Holland said.

Ironically, Siasia was himself on the receiving end of the Dutchman’s discipline after he failed to pass to a better placed Rashidi Yekini during a USA’94 World Cup qualifier against the Elephants of Cote d’Ivoire with the team leading 1-0.

The Elephants then rallied and went on to beat the Super Eagles 2-1. An angry Westerhof then left Siasia out of his team for close to 18 months and only recalled him after the USA’94 ticket had been secured.

Westerhof was to later explain that he took the action because to show Siasia he had erred in not making the pass.

Ujujoan: You don't 'hang' around in a hotel lobby . . . no hotel will allow such!
Even a MAN will be asked to leave for obvious security reasons.

Most hotels don't allow that . . . . You can tell the receptionists you are waiting on someone and they will usher you into the Bar to wait . . . Only a bush woman will hand around a hotel lobby for an hour!

Ujujoan: Lol . . . the same Sheraton Hotel where I stay most times I visit Abj abi?

I have NEVER for one day been turned away from Sheraton just because I was single . . . NEVER!

Stop quoting stories written without facts o jare . . .

I'm glad you brought this issue to light - i happen to be a single lady of 27 who lives in the UK- every xmas i come home and I had arranged to meet my old school friends in a hotel on the island in lagos just to chat and catch up on life- I happened to be on time and forgot that nigerians are never on time - i got a lift from my cousins to the hotel and was waiting at the lobby - I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO EMBARRASSED IN ALL MY LIFE - the way the manager spoke to me was totally unacceptable and APPALLING - I was so upset my eyes watered - I work very very hard at least 6 days a week in IT - to afford nice things - i have earned my money -i like to dress well - not slutty but well - for myself - it makes me happy - the guy assumed I was some sort of ashewo or runs girl - it is not right to tar everyone with the same brush - but the stupid guys who were coming to hit on me with no shame did not get embarrassed or walked out of the premises - anyways this is part of the long list of reasons why as much as i love nigeria it becomes very hard to live there mehhnn anyways I held my head up high checked my purse still had my money and waka comot - their ignorance their loss - stüpid man - i took solace in the fact that i can probably pay the mofo's salary three times over with just the money i had in my purse LOL

Nashville: Sorry I am a married man ok. First of all, I know several single ladies with high profile careers travelling at will and having hotels booked for them without even leaving their offices.

But to go back to your point, so a woman should rather die in an abusive marriage because she may not be able to go to a hotel by herself abi?. Very soon you will bring out another thread that says single ladies cannot open bank accounts without a man!

Ujujoan: Lol . . . the same Sheraton Hotel where I stay most times I visit Abj abi?

I have NEVER for one day been turned away from Sheraton just because I was single . . . NEVER!

Stop quoting stories written without facts o jare . . .

Nashville: Completely agree. He must live in some cave with internet access. Completely unbelievable. People see single ladies as prostitutes... i cant even laugh!

kadman: It's the same Coogar who said so. The brother lives in a timewrap and keeps saying that this is not the West.

Well Coogar most people here live in Nigeria and are saying it's not as you say it is. Are you living in your own world mate? I spent 25 years in Nigeria (including the village) and didn't see all this stigmatisation to single / seperated women.

Nashville: Bros, we are talking about adults and not kids. I do not except a fully group man to act like a 11 yr old ok.

Second it seems we really come from different societies. Someone here was talking about how people view single ladies as prostitutes. Who still has that view in 2013. May be we should create a villagers section in Nairaland so that people with those views can start their own threads and comment!

kadman: I think Coogar still lives in 1913, when people fetched water at rivers and knew everyones name in the village e.t.c (I'm sure even then women were going back to their parents home).

Is it these days when you get back from your bank job at 9pm half asleep and don't know the name of the people even living in your building?

As I said the only stigma I can think of isn't society but religious ties (either religion).

mbulela: my chairman, i know say you be chairman but this one i no go gree with you o!
While both are hurtful,slaps and blows are the worst kind of abuse in my view.

kadman: Yes, I'm aware of that. Are you also aware some landlords won't rent out house to single MEN. Their reasoning being their life isn't stable as of yet, a landlord might prefer a family to take a place as they would live in the house longer making it less hassle.
This isn't particular to Nigeria, I was passed on a house for a man and wife here in England for the reason above.

So now have we established that this can happen to men AND women.

mbulela: my chairman, i know say you be chairman but this one i no go gree with you o!
While both are hurtful,slaps and blows are the worst kind of abuse in my view.

kadman: Yes, I'm aware of that. Are you also aware some landlords won't rent out house to single MEN. Their reasoning being their life isn't stable as of yet, a landlord might prefer a family to take a place as they would live in the house longer making it less hassle.
This isn't particular to Nigeria, I was passed on a house for a man and wife here in England for the reason above.

So now have we established that this can happen to men AND women.

Ujujoan:

Different men 'bouncing in and out' of their mother's bed? What becomes of young widows nah . . . . they are doomed to a life of loneliness abi?

Do you even read through what you post?

And yes, if a man is being abused, he needs to leave for the sake of his sanity . . . Of course I doubt that a woman will be able to 'beat' a 9-month pregnant man!

kadman: No it's actually not! Thoughts like this is what keeps women in abusive homes till their death. I know several women who left abusive relationships or marriages where another woman was brought in - as far back as 50 years ago. I haven't heard of them being ridiculed. Could it be that it's actually you who judge these women and you mask your opinion as "society".

I do know some parents force their daughters into unhappy marriages and then force them to stay in it. I've noticed this is mostly to do with religion especially when said parents are senior member of churches.

Ujujoan: So you want her kids to grow up to becomes abusers and abusee's in the future

IMO it's when kids are involved that the stakes are higher . . . .

steph7: kids or no kids, a woman should leave an abusive spouse immediately. some of these grown men learn this from watching their mothers stay with their abusive fathers and grow up thinking it is right. The smart kids that know it is wrong may end being scarred for life especially the females. Coogar come back to Nigeria, these things happen in broad daylight, men beating their pregnant wives, its not all nollywood.

jennykadry: I saw a thread where someone asked of traditional marriages must be done in the village? Quite a good question, we can call it culture or give it whatever name but the truth is, people do it to please society

bukatyne: I am from Mars and stay in Jupiter Lol!
I am quite young but I have seen enough to know that the only person who really cares about you is you.

As she is staying, is the same society not ridiculing her? I bet some women whose husbands pound them secretly will still be pointing fingers at her laughing.

Ujujoan: That's where you are wrong . . . . Divorce will definitely mean freedom(no 'might' here); and might even mean her own life.

If the man can still beat her mercilessly at 9-months pregnancy, it means he's a brute and is capable of killing her sef.

Better for her to leave now and see her kids later than stay and die in the process!

I have a cousin whose husband battered her to death so I'm talking from first class experience . . . . he's married to some other woman now and God knows what has become of their poor son!

Ujujoan: If they tongue-leash you, you tongue-leash back nah . . . . must you hit a woman? Must your beat a pregnant woman?

God forbid!

ifyalways: Sometimes and reading threads like this,I think educated women are the problem of women in Nigeria A whole lawyer riga nsi a n'aka nwoke biko ?
I see some women,fly and cool in their mansions in Lekki,all they do is sleep and shop the man makes all the money. Suggest to them to get something no matter how small or insignificant and they'll term you a hater.I do hope that single females are taking notes.

bukatyne: Which society? Who really in the society? At the end of the day, who really cares about you?

Anybody doing one thing or the other because of the 'society' has nothing to do in the first place.

When a person has no purpose/dream/ambition, anywhere becomes his/her destination. Let her not live her life and be talking of society!

bukatyne: What/ where is the social stigma? Who is stigmatizing her?

debosky: That guy at bleachers is on some cheap spliffs. Why isn't RVP played wide and in midfield to 'develop' him too? Unconsolidated bollocks.

All (ok some ) of you muppets over-analysing a single pass have issues. Is this the first time ever a player has decided to shoot instead of cross? Why is Rooney's case being painted as some kind of unheard of extreme selfishness? Get a grip.

Players sometimes shoot when a cross would be better. However, criticizing a player who scored TWICE and provided an assist in a 4-1 win simply because of one pass is not only churlish, it's downright idiocy.

I hope I see the same thing when RVP tries to shoot when a pass is a better alternative.

elampiro: Can you be sincere with yourself what you did with your mb/gb? Whether a woman used it for you or whether you used it to download films? How many Wayne Rooney news have been posted here since Tuesday? You also joined Coogar posting some irrelevant things trying to be negative about Rooney. You didn't know you could have saved some MBs when you did all that. You couldn't even complain about the Bundesliga arguments which were a far talk from the matter at hand.

nateevs: Let's keep peddling false info. Ninjah's will say anything to continue to support their pathetic point of view. Anybody who thinks you need a ball winner against the likes of Basel to win is delivering the most insane football analysis ever made. What kind of rubbish talk is this?

Barcelona without Messi will walk over these lot like they didn't even show up. Where their ball winner? Arsenal will pass these guys to death and put at least 4 past them with Ramsey in midfield. Even Swansea will destroy these guys without effort and with Leon Britton in midfield. Let Coogar come and tell me that I lie when I say ManU will decimate these guys with Carrick in midfield. What are their ball winners?

Ninjah's appreciation for football is very lopsided. As if every team in the world has De Jong in midfield.


Mata and Azpilicueta are the only two players who have not played 90 mins at a stretch this season. Yet when we needed a goal, Jose jumps up expecting a "match fit Mata" to go in there and produce magic. Tell me how that happens. In terms of fitness Mata is still ahead of Willian yet Mata will not start. The only reason Jose did not play Mata yesterday is the same reason he has not been played. He needs to chase Basel players to the defensive byline. This is Basel for crying out loud.


Discuss the tactics used. I don't subscribe to "don't lose" mentality especially when we have the players to go out there and play some fantastic football. Why do we have to play 2 DMs at home against Basel? Why is Hazard almost at his 18 yard box defending against toothless Basel wingers when he should be standing on the half way line creating fear in the Basel ranks of a dangerous counter attack?

Ninjahs be talking garbage. Basel should be looking at our line up wondering how they get the ball off us. They should be strapping up all their own "ball winners" and mandating them to play with injury. Not us thinking about ball winners against them. When we start to think like this, we have lost all essence of being a top team.

If we lose to Fulham on the weekend, they be saying we need ball winners against Fulham. What would we need against Barcelona?

debosky: ^^^ No one mentioned RVP's egregious miss at the end. Only Rooney's matters.

StarBoard: I'm not a financial expert or economist, neither do I claim to be one.
But I'm not sure gate revenue or at Old Trafford over the Olympics would account for so much money. Just my opinion.