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1. Keep multiple relationships to the minimum.

2. Try to start your career early

3. Avoid heavy purchases for flex reasons.

4. Learn how to learn.

5. Speed is more important. Want to start a business, start quickly.

Sometimes, this is just for show. The money could be the woman's money sef. Lool. 😆

This one no be bushrat. Na rat for bush.

She might be his carer o.

The racism you as a Nigerian will face in Israel is deadly.

They will shoot you dead and nothing will happen.

Keep being a clown. Keep supporting apartheid. One of the last countries that supported apartheid South Africa till the end of apartheid in South Africa was....Israel.

Na my quote being am back up.

She commented something sensible on another thread. Only for me to check her account and see this rubbish.

No wonder you and her are buddies.

😁

Magnoliaa:
Persephone!!!!!!! 😂


Which kind mod did you dirty this early Saturday morning? 😭😭

Thread since when?

Nigerian men must do better, have higher standards for themselves, regardless of what they have been conditioned to take as normal.

Use this same energy with all posts on NL Mrs. Kobo.

Kobojunkie:
Please stop spreading this nonsense! Are these Nigerian men FORCED into these relationships why the women then?

2. That is relationship commonsense so why paint men as victims of the women when they aren't?

Too many nigerian men are accepting of insults and abuse from their Nigerian girlfriends, families and culture.

Too many Nigerian men have accepted, as fact, that all they have to do is share money. That is why most other women, African and non African alike, see Nigerian men as spenders. As people who will work 4 jobs, just to buy a $2,000 gift for their ungrateful gf. And these men will also accept toxic behaviours, mid sex, etc. Staying loyal even if their woman is killing them.

Stay away from women who do not seek to give as much as they get my Nigerian men.

Persephone1:
"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

Cc Nlfpmod 😡🤬

You are soo gay that you want to eat my yansh.

Tufiakwa.

Veecruz:
With broken bottles and knives and fire and failures and the same for you wey bring God, 2 times.

Snake chop your yansh

People being too online, plus social media corruption.

Anyone who has run a school or store knows what is going on in Nigeria.

Persephone1:
True!

Sometimes I wonder where these narratives come from

In Nigeria, many, probably most couples, share expenses.

Let us not spread false ideas.

Na your union?

meedoLock:
U say wetin

A bad mother or bad father is worse than no mother/father.

Samantha124:
Every child needs his or her mother... You'll only be punishing the children by separating them from their mother.

Never allow your issues with your wife affect the children.

The excuses you put in shows that she is stepping out on you.

She has shown you that there is no love in her heart again.

Maybe she feels that the mere fact that she gave you children is enough. She no wan do again.

I promise you that your wife wont feel bad if you divorce. At least not at first. It will give her the freedom to do all her extra-curriculars in peace.

Rtk4:
Before i narrate everything, I would like to say that i swear I'm not a SIMP, I was just trying to be a good husband right from the beginning not knowing it was gonna lead to this.

I'm married with three children and my wife is not working for the past 7 years of our marriage. I'm responsible for everything in the house. I'm not complaining about the too much responsibilities but i really wanna end the marriage due to the following reasons, my wife lacks respect for me as a husband sometimes the way she talks to me as if I'm her boy or her mate. This woman called my wife is also very ungrateful. She never appreciate anything. I can't correct her when she's wrong without her getting angry, most times when i send her to buy something, her mood changes or she starts complaining, i can't tell her to cook what my appetite yearns for without her complaining especially swallow. The only thing this woman does consistently are as follows;

**Please could you stay with the kids i was called that my cousin is sick and they are in the hospital

**Please could you stay with the kids my mum's sister is sick and I want to go greet them

**Please could you stay with the kids we just lost our uncle

**Please could you stay with the kids my father's brother wants to see me

**Please could you stay with the kids, this, that and that.... I'm so angry because it doesn't allow me go out to Hussle. One of the most annoying part is when i have an important place to go, i'll have look for where to drop the kids or go with them? Sometimes you need to see the shame in me due to how people always look at me carrying 3kids up and down everywhere as if i don't have a wife. Even if i want to go and watch ball alot of times i'll have to go with them. She has 5 female elder siblings who are all married, why don't they behave like that to their husbands? Sometimes she'll be sitting or maybe she's doing something and one of the kid tells her he/she wants to poo, she'll tell the child go and meet your father, I'll have to go put the child on potty. The frustration is too much. I really wanna end the marriage. Most times when i report some things to the mother, the mother always looks for a way to cover for her daughter, the mother never sees anything wrong in what her daughter does. Do you know one of the thing she does that has gotten me fed up? I'll be in the middle of a very important work or meeting. This woman will start calling and calling, you will think it's something very important, the next thing she'll start texting me that won't you come home? She wants to go and check on her this or that who is in the hospital. So i should leave something very important which will give me money just to come and stay with the children so you could go visit a family member? This is a place you can go with the children. Please guys how do i go about ending this marriage because she is very violent and i don't want to create a scene because she likes creating scenes.

How did the relationship and marriage start?

That is probably where the problem started.

As for your wife who doesn't want to to care for her kids, there isn't much you can do. You have married her, gotten her pregnant and she has given birth 3 times.

There isn't much info in your post. You either pour everything out completely or go for counseling.

Probably fake but who cares.

People should not do these show off expensive dates anyways.

God bless their union.

There is nothijg to salvage.

Why did she lie??

Currently abroad without my heartthrob. It is not easy.

If to say i no getsense, i for don retire go back Naija.

Kobojunkie:
But if say na you dem give paper, you no go think twice to leave your wife with the same kids go, abi?

In this case, i suggest she doesnt go with the baby.

People dont know how tough it will be.

I will suggest she start the process to bring you over ASAP.

In any case, the experience will help with possible moves to the USA or Arab countries.

Any suggestions in the NTA road/Ada George axis?

sageb:
Yes, the one at stadium road
Or
Visit First Rivers Hospital, Old Aba road, Rumuomasi.

The one at Stadium road?

sageb:
Visit/consult "Doctor save a life foundation " at Rumuomasi, Port Harcourt.
It's a top notch private Hospital in Port Harcourt.

Assuming $100 per application, that means 3.4 million people paid application fees.

The actual number is much higher. Why?
- some schools don't charge application fees.

- some schools keep their application fees below $60.

Hello my people, what are the costs of childbirth at top hospitals in Port Harcourt?

Are there healthcare plans for childbirth? Including ante natal?

You can apply for a fresh visitor visa.

hadigun:
Hello,

Please I need your advise.

I applied for Canada visit visa for me, wife and son since August 2022. Wife and son have gotten their visa since May 2023. Mine is still under background check, I have sent countless webforms with no reply.

* We applied from the UK
* I once had a Canadian student permit refused in 2019
* we all have a US visa

Please what can I do? Can I withdraw this application and apply again or what do you advise house

I dont know if things have changed in Brazil.

I met a nigerian Brazilian in Canada 5 years ago.

This guy started learning Portuguese in Lagos, then went to Brazil on scholarship.

He said they were paying him to go to school. He got his passport in no time. It was through his Brazil passport and study that he got post pHD study program in Canada.

yungchop:
So in short, I need about 3m to land in Brazil without any issues? And on what Visa?

LOOOL.

My people perish for lack of knowledge.

On a serious note, high taxation actually reduces growth and income.

How will mama Cynthia generate wealth, improve or expand her business, etc; when she is paying taxes, duties and levies at every corner?

There was an article just last week on big name companies, employing thousands of people, who have left Nigeria. Their number one concern was forex flunctuations, closely followed by high taxation, cost of imports etc.

The high IGR in the States are from companies. Oil companies, multinationals, NGOs, etc. I'm including company taxation and salary taxation.

If anything, all states should be fighting to reduce their taxes. After all, most of this IGR is wasted anyways.

Mynd44:
As much as this is correct, it is not completely true

The way to grow your Per Capital Income (PCI) is to grow your GDP and this can only be done with funds. The government has to make sustainable developments into the various sectors. The government also has to support small and medium scale businesses and attract large scale ones.

How can any government do this? by spending. By building more roads, more rails, more sea access, electricity etc. And this is where IGR comes in.

If a state has an IGR of 10 Billion, how can such a state build infrastructure to develop the economy?

IGR is also a show of how much economic activity is going on as this is why taxes are paid in the first place.

Awesome. Could you please share your timeline?

Time you applied for Family class, AOR, and visitor visa application?

Congrats.

vickyehi:
Yes.

Visitor visa was approved. PA applied under “special instruction/policy “. We included the AOR of the spousal PR application.

Which pastor?

sageb:
Sir, please link me up with that pastor in Town /Borikiri axis.

Look at you proposing an actionable and real solution.

OYO

Babanah:
Can someone advise the powers that be to create a Naira/Dollar ETF backed by USD held by the CBN or any strong Financial Institution. This will segment the market. Those who need the dollar for speculative reasons or as a store of value can buy this Instrument. While the real dollars will be left for these who have genuine need for forex. The ETF will fluctuate/mirror the naira/dollar rates but will be held within Nigeria.
For further details can you ask the CBN Governor to contact me.

How far with your application? How long did it take? How did it go?

divinecouple:
Thank you sir, appreciate the response.

Just sad to imagine that no one has gotten the spousal approval earlier than 12months from what we have gathered.

Thanks all the same.

Of course this will be considered.

However, the spousal sponsorship may not be denied, as long as the relationship is deemed genuine.

Muhammed43:
Hi everyone I have a friend who came to Canada on student visa. He went to school for a year, but then stopped going to school and started working. He recently got married to a citizen and is applying for spousal sponsorship. Would he be flagged for working while not in school, would that jeopardize his application?