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Travel / Re: All TEF Candidates For Canada Immigration, Let's Meet Here! by cooooooks(m): 10:10am On Jun 21
Think beyond in person tutors.

Preply has thousands of french tutors at different price points ($6/hr to $30/hr).

OladayoO134:


Good evening
Please can you recommend private tutor you used and is the person in lagos?

Please can anyone recommend a private tutor for TCF
Travel / Germany Opportunity Card Program by cooooooks(m): 5:18am On May 29
https://www.euronews.com/travel/2024/05/28/germany-is-making-it-easier-for-foreign-workers-to-move-to-the-country-this-summer

Opportunity Card program starts 1 June 2024.

A points system that gives points for C1 English or/and B1 or B2 German, under 40, field of study, etc
Travel / Re: General German Business And Tourist Visas ONLY by cooooooks(m): 5:18am On May 29
https://www.euronews.com/travel/2024/05/28/germany-is-making-it-easier-for-foreign-workers-to-move-to-the-country-this-summer

Opportunity Card program starts 1 June 2024.

A points system that gives points for C1 English or/and B1 or B2 German, under 40, field of study, etc
Travel / Re: General-german-student-visa-enquiries Part 8 by cooooooks(m): 5:16am On May 29
Travel / Re: Update!! My Girlfriend Does Not Want Me To Travel With Her by cooooooks(m): 7:53pm On May 22
You sef pity your gf.

She did everything to get you over, it didn'twork, then you just give up?

You want her to be doing telephone relationship, possible but not easy unless marriage is certain and around the corner.

Go through the details yourself and try again. Or take a decision, rationalize the decision, and stick to it.


Lifeinbits:
Updates!!!!

It's a year since I made this post about how i feel cheated by girl friend because she doesn't want me to travel with her to the US after she got a fully funded offer .
Well, after a year my girlfriend helped me secured an admission to a school in the USA even with my low grade. She tried her best with securing admission, searching for dates and even paying someone to help me with mock sessions.I didn't do anything, even mailing the school for i20 , paying my sevis fee and all that is needed she did everything including getting my transcripts from my undergraduate.
However, my visa was denied because I was nervous and couldn't defend my case very well.
I know i really messed up during the mock sessions, because whenever she corrects me i will just feel someone and tell her not to worry that i will handle it . When I came back from the interview, she was really angry when she asked me what transpired between me and the VO . Later she asked me to reapply but I have been adamant and I told her that her that I don't want to look desperate. The current problem now is that my girlfriend said she is no longer interested in the relationship and I feel that she is not breaking up with me because of the interview but I think she has gotten a new guy over there. This break up has been affecting me mentally and I have been unable to concentrate on my work.
Please what should I do ?
Travel / Re: Aba Streets: Before And After Pictures by cooooooks(m): 7:36pm On May 22
This is almost definitely a private estate.

Kushites:
This is Abuja.

Why can't these useless state governors build their streets like this?

This is how a normal street looks in a sane environment.

Covered drains. Sidewalks.

It's not rocket science!

Travel / Re: All TEF Candidates For Canada Immigration, Let's Meet Here! by cooooooks(m): 6:03pm On Feb 09
I will actually disagree with the difficulty level for that course.

I gave taken the course and imo it is a B2/C1 level course.
79733139:


You can use the videos in that course to improve your listening skills and learn more vocabulary if you are at a B1 level in reading, follow these steps:

1.) Watch the 1st video without the French subtitles

2.) Watch the video again but this time activate the subtitles and locate all the words and phrases that you don't understand, afterwards use Google Translate to check their meanings and jot them in a notebook.

3.) Watch this video again while anticipating the areas where you either didn't know the vocabulary or you had difficulties deciphering the spoken version of the word or phrase.

4.) Download the video and convert to audio so that you can keep listening to it whilst doing other things - keep French playing in the background.

5.) Move on to the 2nd video and repeat the process.

ALL the course videos and other resources on Coursera are free, however to be able to do the graded tests and get your results, you will have to pay.
Travel / Re: All TEF Candidates For Canada Immigration, Let's Meet Here! by cooooooks(m): 5:58pm On Feb 09
That's the point.

I took it quickly for 1 week to check the quality and I think it's good as a starting point.
79733139:


This program is for French beginners (A1 - A2). It's not very comprehensive but you will still get some benefits. You can access the videos and course materials for free, but any extra stuff will require a paid subscription.
Travel / Re: Canadian Student Visa Thread Part 23 by cooooooks(m): 4:52pm On Jan 22
Travel / Re: Living In Canada/Life As A Canadian Immigrant Part 2 by cooooooks(m): 4:51pm On Jan 22
Canada has put caps, made changes to international students.

https://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/miller-cap-international-students-1.7090779
Family / Re: My Mum Wants Me To Sack My Househelp by cooooooks(m): 4:17pm On Jan 10
People can be dramatic.

Just set guardrails. No sleepover, maybe reduce how often she comes to the house (3 days instead of 5 days).

Work with her so you get to know her.

Block any chances of hubby help meeting.

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Agriculture / Re: Rice Farmers Harvesting Rice In Their Farm by cooooooks(m): 7:24pm On Dec 14, 2023
Non mechanized farming is usually a huge waste.

Not just because of costs, but also spoilage.
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 5:15pm On Dec 11, 2023
1. I'm not religious.

2. Become one/are in agreement sound like the same thing to me.

Kobojunkiee:
In agreement, not in some mythical spirit or soul like Africans or your gods of men like to fill your heads with through their many fables. undecided

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Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 4:14pm On Dec 11, 2023
When husband and wife are joined together, they become one.

ThunderFireAgba:

I pity those men that use to give their girl friend or wife monthly allowance. If you can set up something for her to be doing, what she does with it no concern you. If she squanders it or grow the business tells you the kind of woman you married or have.
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 3:21pm On Dec 11, 2023
Okay sir.

Go and sin no more.

ThunderFireAgba:

Hope your pocket will be deep by then??
Don't bring kids into this world you can't cater for from your "One Man Sole Proprietor Business" and let them suffer unprecedented hardship.
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 3:14pm On Dec 11, 2023
I am married.

My wife isn't a housewife but if we have many more children, she will be.

ThunderFireAgba:

Woman wrapper sighted.
When you marry ,leave your wife for house make she dey do house wife. Mugu
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 3:13pm On Dec 11, 2023
Lool. I had a feeling #1 was part of what you were trying to highlight.

Also, i second the motion of business failures.

Even if they want to start a business, they should start small. With an amount of money that they can afford to lose.

Kobojunkiee:
I can't either but there are people who prepare that for reasons best known to them. It irritates me to hell when those people now return to complain about the woman doing nothing as if someone forced them to marry a "woman who does nothing" in the first place. undecided

2. Start what exactly? Do you know how many end up having to continue pouring money into keeping the business afloat even after initial investments? undecided
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 3:06pm On Dec 11, 2023
Woman wey don bmgive you pikin, come dey go market dey cook??

The OP only said the costs are high. Why are you people adding pepper and salt??

ThunderFireAgba:

I can't marry a woman let her sit in the house doing nothing. No contribution, just a liability: Her up keep for your head, Money for food even ordinary toiletries for your head. It can't be possible.
Better support her with a huge sum of money to start something.
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 3:06pm On Dec 11, 2023
Madam is cooking now but oga doesn't like the costs.

Let them work together to reduce the costs.

What is the big deal. This doesn't have to be a gender war.

Dyfynezz12:

So he will bring money for the foodstuff nd still cook the food by himself.
What will madam be doing?

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Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 3:05pm On Dec 11, 2023
Go and give iron hand to the wrong woman and she will show you pepper.

As long as love and respect dey, you CAN TALK WITH YOUR WIFE.



tbliss22:


Wooow.... This is exactly what most women needs... Serious iron hand
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 3:04pm On Dec 11, 2023
He can do it to show his wife how to reduce costs.

He can also do it to see that the changes needed mean that he and kids will start eating pork, or eating 1 meat, or drinking tea once a week.

Nikes:

I wanted to quote that person until I saw your reply. That person must be a lady who reasons like toilet. How can one expect a grown man who happens to be the bread winner of the family to retire back to domestic duties. He doesn't have work to do out there or what? He should leave his job and come and be running breakfast, Lunch and dinner na, mtchewww.
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 3:01pm On Dec 11, 2023
Oga,

Honestly, I think Kobojunkie is trying to help.

I think she wants you to either see the real costs that your wife is managing, or/and make you see the benefits of a wife who also brings in money.

You either need to take over the cooking duties to see the realities. A housewife may see that as a big insult so thread carefully.

I think you should follow up, in a loving way, with your wife for 2 weeks. Just to see wgat is going on. Then after that, you make changes.



vazsily:


For this life wey no plenty. I deserve better; a really partner who can meet me half way. I know been married is hard but earning a living in this current clime is biblical. So i can acknowledge a repeated waste over a decade. If I want to earn and cook for myself I would probably stay unmarried. My mum always says; "who shit dey forget, who pack am no dey forget"!
Family / Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 2:58pm On Dec 11, 2023
1. Go with her to the market for 2 weeks. Or at least, follow through on every purchase.

2. Talk about the expenses, jovially, every day for these 2 weeks.

3. After the 2 weeks, call her and tell her the changes (if you guys run a man is thr leader household), or you both discuss and agree on the changes (if you run a partnership household).

There may be some things you don't see. And the inflation. In Naija is really bad.
Politics / Re: 10 African Countries With The Highest Debts To The IMF by cooooooks(m): 10:35pm On Dec 08, 2023
Plus Nigeria is owing Nigerian banks, Nigerians a boatload.
RenaissanceGuy:
If you're owing Mama Nkechi the sum of N50 and you're the least indebted person to her, but you're owing Mama Funmi N500,000, while your monthly salary is N17,000, does that change the fact that you're very much in debt?? In other words, if Nigeria is owing IMF less, but owing World Bank, China, France, etc - huge sums, does it make any difference??

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Romance / Re: Age 25+..what Advice Would You Give Someone Age 18-24? by cooooooks(m): 8:14pm On Dec 05, 2023
1. Keep multiple relationships to the minimum.

2. Try to start your career early

3. Avoid heavy purchases for flex reasons.

4. Learn how to learn.

5. Speed is more important. Want to start a business, start quickly.
Romance / Re: Nigerian Bride Brings Ghana-must-go Bag To Wedding, Receives Cash From Husband by cooooooks(m): 11:36am On Nov 25, 2023
Sometimes, this is just for show. The money could be the woman's money sef. Lool. 😆
Agriculture / Re: My Trap Caught A Bush Rat, Let Me Teach You How To Make Bush Rat Soup! by cooooooks(m): 11:35am On Nov 25, 2023
This one no be bushrat. Na rat for bush.
Romance / Re: Black Lady Dances & Shows Off Her Aged White Husband (Pics, Video) by cooooooks(m): 5:41pm On Nov 16, 2023
She might be his carer o.

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Foreign Affairs / Re: Rashida Tlaib Member Of Secret Facebook Group Where Hamas Terrorist Glorified. by cooooooks(m): 3:26pm On Nov 15, 2023
The racism you as a Nigerian will face in Israel is deadly.

They will shoot you dead and nothing will happen.

Keep being a clown. Keep supporting apartheid. One of the last countries that supported apartheid South Africa till the end of apartheid in South Africa was....Israel.

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Romance / Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by cooooooks(m): 11:52am On Nov 11, 2023
Na my quote being am back up.

She commented something sensible on another thread. Only for me to check her account and see this rubbish.

No wonder you and her are buddies.

😁
Magnoliaa:
Persephone!!!!!!! 😂


Which kind mod did you dirty this early Saturday morning? 😭😭

Thread since when?
Romance / Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by cooooooks(m): 11:49am On Nov 11, 2023
Nigerian men must do better, have higher standards for themselves, regardless of what they have been conditioned to take as normal.

Use this same energy with all posts on NL Mrs. Kobo.

Kobojunkie:
Please stop spreading this nonsense! Are these Nigerian men FORCED into these relationships why the women then? undecided

2. That is relationship commonsense so why paint men as victims of the women when they aren't? undecided

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Romance / Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by cooooooks(m): 1:48am On Nov 11, 2023
Too many nigerian men are accepting of insults and abuse from their Nigerian girlfriends, families and culture.

Too many Nigerian men have accepted, as fact, that all they have to do is share money. That is why most other women, African and non African alike, see Nigerian men as spenders. As people who will work 4 jobs, just to buy a $2,000 gift for their ungrateful gf. And these men will also accept toxic behaviours, mid sex, etc. Staying loyal even if their woman is killing them.

Stay away from women who do not seek to give as much as they get my Nigerian men.



Persephone1:
"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

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