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Worriedwife:
Happy birthday from Funmi Iyanda

JoshuaAkinmi:
. I am ready to marry u. Where is your location. 08138803091 my Whatsapp number

Hanibbal:
Islam is curse

faithfull18:
Sha remain single for life, don't transfer this bitterness on another man's innocent pikin.

wumi2017:
And me too

Yewandequeen:
Sadly even if she is genuine, many will catch cruise with her.

SUPERBLOOM:
Either you are male or female and over 25 years and unmarried, the reason why you are unmarried isn't because you haven't find a partner.
You are unmarried because you don't have money and you lack family support.
It's harsh but true

LiciaT:
He was in his prime and cheated on me, our relationship went downhill from there. If you like buy heaven for me, I do not or will not forgive a cheating nigga. Nothing like peace of mind. He’s a cool dude tho can’t take that from him.

LiciaT:
Let me use myself as premium example. This is going to be a long read but bear with me. 2019 I rented a room self, wanted to get a smart tv so my friend told to go to Alaba that it’s quite cheap. My ex boyfriend then told me to get it at his friend that sells used affordable TVs, I declined and guilt tripped him so he has no choice than to show his support. Monday morning, we got fuel, we spent 4 hours from magodo phase one to Alaba. See as my mouth was running, trying to convince him that we made the right choice, he was quiet all through. We got there and Igbo boys rushed us, took us to different shops but as a self proclaimed street smart girl I didn’t fall for it.I took the poor boy round Alaba. Finally we settled for one shop boasting of tested TVs. Gave us a sharp tv 55 inches for 40k, said we just need to buy some wires like 5k, cox it was working fine when we saw it, so we paid and he called electrician to make sure he got the original wires and fix it. See me jumping up like a stupid girl thinking I’ve won a jackpot. The electrician tested it and said the board is spoilt that we should return it, we did and the guy gave us another, from board to screen to screws and other stupid things I can’t remember. I got frustrated, went back to the guys place with the tv and was screaming at the top of my lungs and the guy said there’s nothing he can do that he’s given the money to his boss, boss said TVs is luck. woh my poor ex boyfriend was tired and tired of talking, then they asked us to go with the TVs cox it almost 5pm and they are about closing and come back on Monday and bring the tv with us. We went the following Monday and the tv they gave us has a line on the screen that wasn’t there when we tested it. Omo at this point I gave up and had already spent like 60k. I refused to follow him back to Alaba, he had to go with an army guy a friend introduced to him, paid the guy to follow him there. Immediately they saw the army, they were all friendly and told him it hasn’t got to that and asked him to add 20k or 30k to get another that if he had brought police, they wouldn’t even move a muscle. The tv they gave him is too colorful and hurts my eyes but it’s working fine and I dare not complain. See ehn in my entire life, me and Alaba, never again! Would rather buy from street than go there and make a fool of myself. I still remember the knowing looks, catcalls and mockery the traders at Alaba was giving I and my ex then. I got ptsd from that event. Till this day, my ex still laughed at our foolishness and my oversabi attitude. �

gasparpisciotta:
Are you obtaining this information for yourself or for another?

The best way is to get your boots on the ground. We can discuss if you are willing to engage an expert to do a proper analysis

iamtardey:
He let what we had die young tho

Brunosamel:
Bro must you throw insult argue, advice and suggest you shouldn't start throwing insult on a person... It's illogical and fallacious grow up big man

MrHighSea:
Eventually,you'll still fall for another.

Brunosamel:
A wise man once said never beg a woman to stay no matter what if she want to leave let her go don't get emotional about it even though it may hurts at first but you will get over it... You've got to move on and focus on yourself... I love her no doubt but I can't give her the love and attention she needs at the moment so she decided to leave she was angry cuz I didn't beg her but only wish her the best as long as it will make her happier...
I don't have any regrets flavour was right after all
"To be a Man is not a day job"

Smiles

abercrombie:
Like the topic says, this lady and I have been dating for a year now, and we are both in our final year due to my expertise in withdrawal method i always stay focused when about to cum, we had our last sex on 18 of july. Just a months back after we went for semester break,she called that's she feeling uneasy and that her breast is getting bigger.

elonmuskbaby:
She's right

People should stop Insinuating small girl big god thrash.women too are innovative, creative and hardworking

Its only a pained or envious man that will think every woman that accomplished something good was because of her vagina

Ceenachi:
I think they're lying.
I can mathematical prove them wrong.
They've been working for 50 years.
Assuming they worked 300 days a year (periods, vacation, rest day, sick leaves)
They worked ~15000 days.
335000 ÷ 15000 = 22.33
Lets round it off to 22 men a day with 23 men every third day.

I'm no expert, but that's physically impossible for any woman
But…..
This is not something that I would be announcing to the world. Just me I know

sirjamesjnr:
Feel so bored after a bit of work, try having a conversation with my fiancee, she was busy with work....wahala loving a career lady . Then I remember my buddy who works in a bank. Place a call to him, we went into a long conversation and he hit me with a piece of very bad news, he made it clear to me that he is not interested in his fiancee as a woman anymore. He still loves her as a person. In his words, I will compensate her for all her effort. I was numb for some minutes.


Then I ask him, if he is okay, clearly he sounds normal. He let me understand, they had some beautiful moments and they still do. She is still beautiful as ever, sexy, classy, well manner and their sex life are improving by the day but he has lost the flame. I advise him to take a vacation with her, or better still talk to a counselor. He wouldn't have any of it. His mind has made up. I remind him, the sacrifice both have made, the care and whatnot, then I let him know he is a bad influence.


After I drop the call, I have a deep thought then; I’ve come to see love as a process that happens in stages. I know, I know — analyzing love is so unromantic! But, it’s such an important aspect of life and I have gotten it wrong before; I definitely do not want to repeat any of those painful mistakes. I do know that Love is like a bridge between two people. It is a bridge that can bear much weight and endure heavy storms. But it can be broken. Neglect and betrayal are the worst offenders. But if tended and properly maintained — if valued and cherished — love can last a lifetime. So, I set my quirky brain to work at thinking about romantic love in the hopes of getting it right with my fiancee. I grab my laptop. After reading some stuff, I drew lines separating seven distinct stages that I could identify:

1. ATTRACTION — This is the initial attraction we selectively feel for another person. It’s often called chemistry. Whether it’s caused by intuition or some combination of things, I can’t say exactly — but some people attract us more than others.

2. CONNECTION — This is what happens when we seek to explore the initial attraction we feel by interacting with the other person. Sometimes it’s asking them out on a date or when they visit the water cooler at the office to chat them up. I remember feeling thirsty whenever my ex is taking water at the dispenser. good old days.


3.INFATUATION(deep sexual feeling) — As the frequency of connection increases and attraction is confirmed and strengthened, Hormones are released in our bodies and we enter an intense phase of desire to be with the other person. This is the phase popular folks recognize as “love”. We see the other person through rose-colored glasses and their every move, look, and action delights us, no matter how absurd. We are blinded to their faults and exaggerate their good points. I got to know this phase lasts about 18–24 months before the hormonal inducers begin to subside. This is often long enough to get married, entangle finances and even have a child or two. But inevitably, by the end of 24 months, they’ve “lost that loving feeling. Whoa, that loving’ feeling… and it’s gone, gone, gone, whoa oh oh…” A lot of people think that the end of stage 3 is the end of love, but it’s not so

4. REALITY (AUTHENTICITY) — Now that the hormones have dropped back to normal levels, we stare blinking at the other person wondering what we were thinking back in stage 3. Suddenly, we realize that it wasn’t that the stars and planets had somehow aligned and brought two lonely souls together in a perfect match beyond anything anyone in the history of the world has ever experienced; we are two different persons, with different needs and desires, different outlooks and goals — this is in stark contrast to our fantasies of romantic bliss forever. A lot of conflicts tend to surface in this stage. We say things like, “How could I have been so blind?” Or we add a bit of blame and accuse the other of deliberately deceiving us or changing into a different person. Really, it’s mostly that, without the masking hormones, we notice that they’re not meeting our needs the way we want them to. Sometimes we even push their buttons and aggravate the situation just to prove the point. Lingering in this stage for too long is a mistake — it tends to make us bitter. But it’s one of the natural stages of love and it’s necessary. Like the other stages (except the last one), it’s transitionary.

5. DECISION TIME (RESOLVE) — Even if you’re already married and obligated by now, you still have to face this stage. Now that the hormone-induced romantic mists have cleared and you have taken stock of the actual situation, you must recommit... or not. There is no ceremony for this and you may or may not discuss it with your partner — but it happens nonetheless. It’s at this point that some couples conclude that “that lovin’ feeling” is gone for good and they exit the relationship, looking for fresh love — another infatuation experience. Fortunately, for many, the benefits of staying together outweigh the discomforts — and pressures to flee the relationship — and they stay together, if even for convenience. Often, some kind of negotiation takes place — a mutual truce with terms. Note that if back in stage 4 you discovered that your paramour is an ax murderer or a child molester, Serial cheat, or something else along those lines, exiting the relationship may indeed be the right decision. Otherwise, the decision to stay becomes an invitation to the next stage: intimacy.

INTIMACY — At this stage, you see the other person for who they really are and they see you for who you really are too. And you accept the good along with the bad. You’re no longer wondering if your love will last — you know it will because you’ve made a conscious decision to love and trust them. As George MacDonald said, “Few delights can equal the presence of one whom we trust utterly.” This stage of love is not accessible prior to stage 5 as you’re both still wearing masks up until then — some conscious, some unconscious. But now, you are vulnerable to each other; you know each other’s panic buttons, but you protect them rather than push them. The feelings of stage 3 are rekindled but instead of feeling fleeting and momentary like hot sparks, they are like deep glowing embers of a fire that never goes out. Now, it seems like before, when you were infatuated, you were splashing about in a puddle of shallow water — whereas, in intimacy, you are swimming in the great deep.
UNITY — In this final stage, two have become one. You know each other’s thoughts and feelings, needs and longings; his needs are hers and hers his.

So, how do you know when you’re not in love anymore? Is there a possible way to go back to your ex and make things work?

Golden147:
Smile, yes bro...

Maybe because I didn't add I have got a house (4 bedroom flat) land properties too... what I don't have now as a man is car bro... anyways I won't dig deep about myself... I know myself just want to be sure of my marriage...
In my community a young guy at 22 that knows what his doing can get marry and settle perfectly fine...
What delayed me till now is my education.. I hope you understand now?

Liballo:
You are not Emotionality, Psychologically and Financially ready for marriage.
Do you think marriage is a child's play ?
And, to the issue of her siblings always demanding is a Red flag....... You can always choose to ignore it. But don't come here to disturb us about how your Wife's siblings are trying to run you dry. Like a thread a man made sometimes ago complaining about how his Wife's relatives eat like gluttons.

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

HRHQueenPhil:
When am looking for love and money, GOD when?

Am inviting u, attend if u dey lagos

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

FarahAideed:
The bottom line is that I am certified Genius and if e pain you I can't do anything about that

MusicMod:
20 gb Mtn data is up for sale.
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Ruben225571:
No bro, don’t be sad, it’s would be over soon!! As long as is for holding!! Cheer up!!

Although, I would have suggested if BTC would dip to 30k$, You should have sold when it’s was 33k$ or 32k$ and rebuying and add more to your wallet!!

Like, buying Sol at 29$ when btc is 32k$, sold your sol and buy when btc is 30k$ and get sol at 25$ or 20$ as some people and me say. Though as long as you’re for holding long. Cheer up.. I do strategize this dip, I can’t be losing so much! I can’t be marry to coin. Never.. if i buy sol at 25$ and I see that is going to 20$, I would sold at 25$ and buy at 20$ in other for me to hold more coins. Hope you get my little secret.. though you’re also major to this game.. so do what’s best for you bro.... all in all, cheer up...

OpenHeaven2019:
They guy that he was waiting for it at $30, I’m sure he didn’t buy.

If Sol get to $20, you would be too scared to buy.