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Kobicove:
OK...we have heard

By the way OP, when was the last time you visited Nigeria?

I was still in Nigeria a few months ago.

In continuation of the thread. Below is a video of Tomi Adeyemi


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dp8BcJuGnQ

By birth and heritage, Okonjo Iweala’s children fit the description of a Nigerian-American. Below are their profiles. Typical of my point on ”ambition and success”

Below is a video of three Nigerian-American girls’ virtual date with Falz some days ago.


https://www.instagram.com/tv/CB1VUV1AfFC/?igshid=owzr0qmv5au5

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It is also important to note here that many people find the ”taste” of Nigerian-American girls as unrealistic, childish and condescending. Life is a process. That a man is here today does not mean he cannot be there tomorrow. Hence, many people have opined that Nigerian American girls need to learn how to build with their man instead of looking for largely finished products. They also should not look down on anyone based on their current situation - with time anyone could get to the top. Setting unrealistic standards for your potential significant other could lead to late or failed marriage. [b]

Nigerian-Americans to a very large extent, are Nigerians who were born and/or raised by Nigerian parents in the United States. Most of them were born to Nigerian immigrant families - many of whom migrated to Yankee during the ”visa lottery and green card regime”. Some prominent Nigerian American girls are Tomi Adeyemi, Chineye Ogwumike, Nneka Ogwumike, Arike Ogunbowale, Oyinye Iweala and many more.

In the course of my experience studying and living in America, I’ve interacted with so many Nigerian-Americans and these are some of my observations.

This thread is a response to previous threads on dating African Americans and immigrant Nigerian women(those who migrated to the US from Naija as adults - some in their late 20s and some in their early 30s, 40s etc) in the USA. This particular thread could help guide prospective Nigerian foreign students or immigrants in America - who hope to end up with one of their sisters or brothers that were born and raised in the diaspora.

(1). Most of them(Nigerian-Americans) are more Nigerian than you think.

There is an erroneous belief among many Nigerians back home who feel once people leave Nigeria - they stop being a Nigerian. To be honest, I'm more Nigerian right now than I was while growing up in Naija. For many Nigerian-Americans, the story is the same. Most(not all) of the Nigerian-Americans I’ve met here are so deeply rooted in the Nigerian culture that I'm sometimes left in awe. Many of them have Nigerian flags in their apartments and if you check their Instagram profiles - you are very likely to see the smiley of a Nigerian flag there. And please: don't think ”patriotism is sweet from the abroad”.

There are many Nigerian-Americans who go home every 6months - they know how difficult things could be in Naija but the reality is: once you have a Nigerian ancestry - you and your descendants are forever Nigerians. Thus, you can never disassociate yourself from your roots. Unless you just want to foo.l yourself. I know of Nigerian immigrants (with a US green card) who left the US(sold their properties) and returned to Naija to hustle because living abroad does not feel like home to many Nigerians.

In states like Texas, Maryland, New York, Georgia, California, Illinois, and others with tens of thousands of Nigerians, it is common to meet Nigerian-American girls who eat only Nigerian food(they don't like American food despite being born and raised there). They also know the songs of Davido, Wiz Kid, Burna Boy, Tiwa, Falz, Zlatan, Naira Marley and the likes in manners typical of a Lagos babe. That explains why whenever these Naija artistes come to the US - their concerts are usually sold out. Nigerian -Americans no dey joke with Afrobeat music oo.

(2). Nigerian -American girls are super ambitious and successful

Wait! If you are a Naija guy hoping to date a Naija-Americana, you better up your game now! These girls are not joking mehn. 99% of the Nigerian-American girls around me are all pursuing careers that pay at least 6-figures annually. There was a Nigerian-American girl I met in New York. She had her first degree from Harvard. An MPH(Master of Public Health) from Yale and she's about resuming medical school at another ivy league school. In a system like America, with the field she plans to work in, such a fellow is likely to end up earning at least $500,000 pay in a few years. Her story is similar to that of most Nigerian-American girls here. I have never met a Naija-Americana who is not interested in higher degrees or high paying careers in America like medicine, nursing, tech, finance, pharmacy, sports, business/investment/investment banking, trade, engineering, consulting, etc.

So, if you plan to date/marry a Naija-Americana, you must be ambitious, honest, and hardworking. Otherwise, you go play second fiddle tire.

(3). Their parents and family are heavily involved in their lives.

One of the major reasons why they are super successful is because of their parents. Most Nigerian-Americans live in America but they were raised in Nigerian homes. Thus, many of their parents raised them like Naija kids - read your books. Work hard. Be excellent and always aim for the top. Pursue high-paying careers. All of these coupled with the enabling environment and opportunities that America provides make them who they are. Many of their parents give them the specs of the husbands/wives they want them to have. I’ve seen cases where Nigerian-American girls refused to date guys because they were not ambitious and successful enough. In fact, within the Nigerian community here, there is ”elitism”(if you are a young Nigerian chap and you are not well educated or you don't have a good-paying career job, many Nigerian-Americans won't even roll with you. This is a story for another day).

(4). They don't really need your money.

They want you to be successful. Be well educated and have a great career but they don't plan to leech off you. To the basics. Whenever I go out with Nigerian-American girls here, they always want to pay for their own food and drinks. In fact, some of them have offered to pay for mine - even though I invited them for lunch/dinner. I’ve had arguments with a few of them for always wanting to split bills when I was the one who planned the treat. Hence, don't expect them to disturb you for money related to makeup, hair, accessories, and the likes. Although, it is always good to surprise them with gifts and flowers - if you plan to date or marry any of them.

(5).Many of them place a premium on physical features(being tall is a big deal to them)

Especially when they are young(let's say below the age of 25), many Nigerian-American girls love guys with certain physical features like height(6’7 tall), muscles, beards and the likes. They love guys that are athletic and super clean. So, apart from being career-driven, be prepared to hit the gym to grow some mass if you wan see them date.
Although, as they grow older, they tend to care less about these physical features. Regardless, they always love and prefer tall and clean guys who have great careers. Their ideal man is a guy who is physically appealing, clean, intelligent, career-driven and has a great taste of fashion.

(6). They are not your cooks or slaves

This is the American part of them. If you know you want a wife that will constantly cook for you, clean the house and do other numerous chores. Sorry. Most Nigerian-American girls are not for you. You, as a man must learn how to cook as well. Clean the bathroom. Wash dishes and other ways you could be of assistance to her. They are not your typical ”villa girls”. If you plan to date/marry a Nigerian-American babe, be prepared to split the cookings/chores - the same way you will always split many of your bills.

(7). They can be sometimes arrogant and snobby

Many of them can ghost guys for Africa sha especially when they find you socially awkward or not possessing the physical features they desire in their man or you don't look like what they prefer. I find this to be somewhat childish tho. It's part of the unnecessary ”growing class division” within the Nigerian community here.

(. Treat them right. Take good care of them and support them. They are our sisters and brothers!

CAVEAT: These points were made based on my own personal experience. Another person may have a slightly different experience. ONE LOVE NAIJA ❤️.

Emmacolinho:
Oh why haven't you come back to hustle in your father land then? Or why did you even leave at first?

I came here on a scholarship and returning home for ”hustling” in Nigeria is part of my career plans. Nigeria is my heritage and there is nothing that can ever change that.

Emmacolinho:
If you have the means, travel out of this country and NEVER come back. Whoever cursed Nigeria did it from the depth of his/her heart!

Common. It's not that bad. Nigerians are the ones ruining Nigeria. I'm based in the US and I know of many Nigerians who have relocated back home to hustle despite being US citizens.

paradigmshift:
Blame your government.. celebrating the arrest of one man no go put food for your table or make d country better. Your president went to another country to call y'all lazy nko? We are not respected anywhere in the world because of the bad leaders . How many times Dubai police dn arrrest politicians wey loot n buy properties there? Abeg comot

Is Nigeria the only country with a corrupt government?
The major reason why Nigerians are not respected is because of fraudulent Nigerians and their apologists like you who glorify their heinous activities. Countries like Burundi, Indonesia, Venezuela and the likes have more corrupt government than Nigeria but people don't go about branding their citizens as internet fraudsters. When Americans deride Nigerians with terms like ”Nigerian Prince” or ”419”, do they refer to Nigerian politicians or ordinary Nigerians who engage in cybercrime? This shows you who really bring us shame. Smh.

Christane:
despite all the allegations against him ..i just want him to be free
he was only looking 4 z daily bread ...cus it z hell right here in nigeria ..

Ogbeni, Nigeria is not the only country with corrupt politicians. There are dozens of countries that are worse than Nigeria in every ramification but their citizens are not reputed for this nonsense image Nigerians now have all over the world. These guys have ruined so many opportunities for millions of Nigerians all across the world. People know that politicians in most parts of the world are scums - so if your country has corrupt politicians - people won't really use that to judge you unlike when your citizens have a history of notorious crimes. There are times abroad when I introduced myself as a Nigerian and the foreigners there all agreed that Nigerians are fraudsters based on the activities of these stupid yahoo boys. They think we are all dishonest people due to this whole nonsense yahoo boys that will all die a miserable death.
The problem is not bad governance but greed ad impatience. Hush Puppi found his way to Dubai - where he has access to good jobs and stuff. He chose not to work but engage in fraud. And he ended up spending his loot on luxury lifestyle. If you take all these Naija yahoo boys to USA and give good jobs - they will still look for means to scam people. Because they want to drive Benz. Live lavishly forgetting that life is a process and things take time. Most of these people are not looking for how to meet their basic needs. They are all in a hurry to live in luxury - neglecting the fact that people in developed countries largely live an average lifestyle. Nonsense!

paradigmshift:
What of your politicians ode

Ogbeni, Nigeria is not the only country with corrupt politicians. There are dozens of countries that are worse than Nigeria in every ramification but their citizens are not reputed for this nonsense image Nigerians now have all over the world. These guys have ruined so many opportunities for millions of Nigerians all across the world. People know that politicians in most parts of the world are scums - so if your country has corrupt politicians - people won't really use that to judge you unlike when your citizens have a history of notorious crimes. There are times abroad when I introduced myself as a Nigerian and the foreigners there all agreed that Nigerians are fraudsters based on the activities of these stupid yahoo boys. They think we are all dishonest people due to this whole nonsense yahoo boys that will all die a miserable death.
The problem is not bad governance but greed ad impatience. Hush Puppi found his way to Dubai - where he has access to good jobs and stuff. He chose not to work but engage in fraud. And he ended up spending his loot on luxury lifestyle. If you take all these Naija yahoo boys to USA and give good jobs - they will still look for means to scam people. Because they want to drive Benz. Live lavishly forgetting that life is a process and things take time. Most of these people are not looking for how to meet their basic needs. They are all in a hurry to live in luxury - neglecting the fact that people in developed countries largely live an average lifestyle. Nonsense!

Wuuworld:
We know the gist.

Fake news. No medical Nobel Prize winner in that country.

[quote author=Litmus post=90750324][/quote]False. Many Nigerians will claim that bad leadership and unemployment in Nigeria is responsible for high rate of cybercrime among young Nigerians but I beg to differ. Take these idiotic young guys to California and they will rather scam than work! I live in the US and I’m talking based on experience. The major issue here is greed, covetousness and a lack of patience. There are many people abroad - where the system works and they have access to jobs. Yet, many of them refused to work legally but chose to toe the path of internet fraud. Why? Because they want to ride flashy Benz cars, buy expensive stuff and live an underserved luxury life. Life is a process. You can’t expect yourself to start today and get there tomorrow. Things take time - hard work, failures, more work and perseverance. And the worse part is that Nigerians are ignoring the harm being done to the country. Nigerians need to stop celebrating and glorifying cybercriminals. Those guys are ruining the image of the country.

VirginSearcher:
Crime is not specific to we Nigerians alone even though I know say we no dey try, however if the system was good it wouldn't have been so bad like this

False. Many Nigerians will claim that bad leadership and unemployment in Nigeria is responsible for high rate of cybercrime among young Nigerians but I beg to differ. Take these idiotic young guys to California and they will rather scam than work! I live in the US and I’m talking based on experience. The major issue here is greed, covetousness and a lack of patience. There are many people abroad - where the system works and they have access to jobs. Yet, many of them refused to work legally but chose to toe the path of internet fraud. Why? Because they want to ride flashy Benz cars, buy expensive stuff and live an underserved luxury life. Life is a process. You can’t expect yourself to start today and get there tomorrow. Things take time - hard work, failures, more work and perseverance. And the worse part is that Nigerians are ignoring the harm being done to the country. Nigerians need to stop celebrating and glorifying cybercriminals. Those guys are ruining the image of the country.

Oche211:
For this silly reason alone, the management of that airline needs to be sued.
Naira Marley, Fashola...
How those two take resemble?
So the pilot or air hostess or other airline officials too were seeing Fashola abi.

Naira Marley is not his real name. Fashola is his last name. And that’s what will appear on the passenger manifest.

meobizy:
From what I read in the other thread the woman is Nigerian only from her parents' travel documents. If anything she'll associate with African Americans as opposed to Nigerians since she was practically born and raised in the US. Wetin come concern we Africans again? Most of the Nigerians that way are indoors, leaving the heavy lifting of protesting to Akatas.

Her family regularly visits Nigeria - she has a Nigerian passport. Mind you, we Nigerians, who are also American citizens identify as Nigerian-Americans and not African-Americans(it’s exclusively used for direct descendants of slaves).

Juliusmalema:
Xenophobic but here there is terrorism, fulani Herdsmen, tribalism.


SA is far ahead of Nigeria in all ramifications. South Africa remains the anchor of Africa.
There is no indices for nigeria to beat that...

SA remains the pride of Africa.

Nigeria has a larger GDP and better economy than South Africa. Nigeria’s major problem is political corruption. Economically, no African country is a match for Naija.

pDudd:
Some people have been asking me to balance this equation because it seems like I am bashing Akata women and leaving my Nigerian sisters who reside in America. This thread is to state what to encounter if you are going into any kind of relationship with Nigerian women in America. I don't know about Nigerian women in UK, or anywhere else so I can't talk about that one.

This thread is not to bash Nigerian women in any way. So if you feel offended at any point in reading this, I'm sorry well in advance.

But I must tell the truth.

Hateful replies are welcome. I nor send anybody

What are your thoughts about Nigerian-American girls? Do you mind creating a thread on dating/marrying them?


Based on my experience tho, Nigerian-Americans(especially those who were born and raised in Yankee by parents who immigrated to the US via visa lottery and spent time with their grandmothers) are the better option for a Nigerian foreign student in the US. Tomi Adeyemi and the Ogwumike sisters are classic examples. Most of them(particularly those with strong connections to their Nigerian roots via bold parenting) behave more like ”White Girls in a black skin with Nigerian heritage”.

Staphylococcus:
If you want your village people to unite with you and have full access to your soul in America, Just date an American breed Nigerian


Your appetite for suicide will skyrocket.

Nevertheless, Their are very goo ones but very few. Infact, their counts is close to 0

Based on my experience tho, Nigerian-Americans(especially those who were born and raised by parents who immigrated to the US via visa lottery and spent time with their grandparents) are the better option for a Nigerian foreign student in the US. Tomi Adeyemi and the Ogwumike sisters are classic examples.

drips8:
I read some articles where he claimed that he was called an African monkey and old white people would give him dirty looks and I can believe that. The UK is really racist but it's more covert than that of America's.

Exactly. My cousins were at the protest in London. I laugh when people think Gboyega was acting. A lot of people were crying at that protest - Nigerians who experience racism and discrimination every day. It’s sad when people who have never lived outside of the country try to downplay the emotions of those in the diaspora - who daily live through the pains and stigma. As I am typing this, Anthony Joshua is about to lead a BlackLivesMatter protest in Watford.

1Sharon:
Yes he is. He's putting on a show..it's not genuine.

Watch the full 4min video, if you don't see it, forget it.

How well do you know Gboyega? I’ve been following him since his college days in the UK. He has been at the forefront of black activism since he was young. Go and watch this documentary about blacks in the UK that was shot years ago. He has always been emotional about the black race. He faced discrimination as the son of Nigerian immigrants in the UK and he always been at the forefront of change. Maybe you should read more about him and check his history - even his tweets years ago.

1Sharon:
What is this guy doing?? Why is he faking the tears?

He is not faking any shit. He has always been like this if you know his history.

truthsayer009:
Was this about Black Women really?

Someone explain to me, why do they need protection during protest in the UK, the securities in UK aren't even that violent.

You should watch the full video to understand the context of what he is saying.

Bbbwings:
Nigerians always famzing

He actually reps Nigeria - if you check his Instagram page. During his speech while receiving this award, he thanked Nigerians for their support.

Always claiming. Who respect Nigeria? People are shamed of this zoo country, so is Giannais. Have you ever heard him utter Nigeria? SMH

He actually gave a shout out to Nigerians for their support during his speech while receiving the award.

Jaqenhghar:
No need to get all upset over this nah. I eat Chinese food doesnt make me chinese. I dress in a suit doesnt make me European. He will talk of his cultural background because that is all he knew growing up but I believe actions speak louder. In 2k14 he applied to play when he wasnt that big. Recently he was seen working out at the team American camp and will likely join them in their next outing. The Nneka too represents the US. Giving shoutouts and talking about their background but when it was time to bring glory to one country we all know who they choose.

You see, you are not sure of what you are talking about. This is not Nneka but Chineye. And who told you OLADIPO has not brought glory to Nigeria? When he represented the country during a competition less than three years ago and he won the MVP during the tournament as a Nigerian representative?

He may end up playing for US national team later in his career but that does not make him less Nigerian. So because Hakeem Olajuwon played for the US national team now means he is no longer a bonafide Nigerian? What makes OLADIPO less Nigerian than you? He was born in the US(so is Davido, Banky W and many other famous Nigerians). He plays in the NBA? So is the current captain of the Nigerian national basketball team. Has he ever denied being a Nigerian? The answer is no. There are several videos of him introducing himself as a Nigerian -American and he has even represented the country before. So, I do not understand how you are making it seem as if he has never associated with Nigeria. By your logic, the fact that I live in the US now means I am no longer a Nigerian or if I give birth to my kids in a few years and they decide to play in the NBA like OLADIPO, that means they are also not Nigerians even though they have Nigerian blood flowing in their vein. There are reasons people adopt identities like NIGERIAN -AMERICAN. It is to show their ancestry, heritage and nationality.

Unlike oyinbos in America who wear Nigerian cultural wears but do not claim Nigerian ancestry, OLADIPO and co do both.

Jaqenhghar:
Every year the Americans and a few other countries celebrate the chinese new year with a lot of chinese themed events. I guess that makes them Chinese too.

You are actually funny. Do you know OLADIPO in 2014 applied to play for Nigeria’s Basketball team and he was told to hold on then? In fact, he later represented Nigeria in a basketball competition a couple of years ago? (I attached a video of his interview below)

Mind you, most Americans(who are not Asians) don’t celebrate Chinese New Year. OLADIPO’s AUNTY and I once attended the same church in Baltimore. They are all Nigerians in every area - including dressing, culture and food. I still have pictures of his mum, his AUNTY and his twin sister in Baltimore last year. I’m a Nigerian in the US and the fact that my cousins or siblings were born in Georgia and Canada does not make them less Nigerian than anybody else. OLADIPO is the same as Davido and Banky W - who were also born here in the US and spent a good part of their lives here. Holding dual citizenship does not make much cultural differences.

Below is a video of OLADIPO and Chineye Ogwumike - who are both Nigerian-Americans making reference to their Nigerian roots. OLADIPO represented Nigeria in this competition.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WMU4m_XMh4

FuckAllTheMODs:
See this one, he's only a Nigerian through his mom who is an Igbo woman, his dad is from Sierra Leone... keep dreaming o

That’s actually not true. His mum is actually both Yoruba and Igbo. Even his Dad is a Yoruba man that was raised in Sierra Leone. His aunty and I once attended the same church in the US. His Mum is partly Yoruba and she gave all her children Yoruba names. OLADIPO is actually a twin - his sister’s name is Victoria.

Jaqenhghar:
speaking of your root just shows you understand where you came from. Doesn't mean you identify as that.
Same way a Black American can be knowledgeable of his roots and speak about it but he identifies as an American . That is his identity

OLADIPO actually identifies as a Nigerian. If you check his Instagram page - you will see pictures of him celebrating Nigerian Independence Day, Nigerian culture and stuff like that.

Truthbites:
Nigeria too claim. The Dr probably suffered all his life here and relocated abroad. Today una de claim am. He's American, 'Beach' pls...!

Nigerians abroad don’t see things this way.
He does not claim to be an American doctor. He was born and trained in Nigeria. Americans don’t see immigrants that way. Even the Nigerians who were born and raised here in the US are still referred to as Nigerians or worse case scenario: Nigerian-Americans.
Read about this doctor below - he travels to Nigeria every month to offer free medical services. Regardless of how long you’ve been in the US, you will always be a Nigerian.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2019/10/03/africa/dr-sulaiman-free-surgeries-intl/index.html

easyelliot:
Unfortunately, calling him Nigerian at this point does nothing. He is an American doctor doing great things, chikena.

He does not claim to be an American doctor. He was born and trained in Nigeria. Americans don’t see immigrants that way. Even the Nigerians who were born and raised here in the US are still referred to as Nigerians or worse case scenario: Nigerian-Americans.
Read about this doctor below. Regardless of how long you’ve been in the US, you will always be a Nigerian.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2019/10/03/africa/dr-sulaiman-free-surgeries-intl/index.html

Jaqenhghar:
Just because he is of Niggerian origins doesnt mean he is representing Nigeria. The only flag he is flying is his own ...and the flag of the country that ebcouraged him to be who he is.
Send hom back to thay shithole to share his knowledge, he wont last a week

This is not true. There are many Nigerian doctors here in the US who travel to Nigeria more than 6 times a year to offer free medical services to Nigerians.

In fact, this particular neurosurgeon(in the CNN link I will share below) travels to Nigeria every month to offer his services. The fact that you are in the US does not mean you hate Nigeria. Many of us here even owe everything we are to the Nigerian people.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.cnn.com/cnn/2019/10/03/africa/dr-sulaiman-free-surgeries-intl/index.html


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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7wX3UuC4jm4

Flexherbal:
Our leaders should create an enabling environment for all. Other countries are not better that Nigeria. They only have good leaders.

Exactly! Leadership matters but citizens also need to play their own roles.