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saasala:
I will tell you something from personal experience.

The 20 year old will never show a sign. She will play her game so perfectly that you will never suspect anything. Afterall you are not in school with her.

Mine was 20 too and didn't suspect anything until I projected her WhatsApp onto my computer via WhatsApp web. What I saw, my mouth cannot say it.

Your twnety year old shinny, beautiful young lass with standing breasts and fresh skin wants to be free, she wants to explore and enjoy life, the university life, the school life, the young girl life. While exploring, she will be fvcked and misbehave. It is normal, dont blame her.

If the 26 year old is living a life far away from reality at her age then she is immature and not fit for marriage. Life should be approached with logic. You must NEVER live in the fantasy world. This will make her frustrate your life.

My verdict: Dont marry any of them. You can continue to yansh them till things fade off if you find it difficult to let go abruptly.

Men!! You have just casted serious doubts in my mind on the young lady so much that I feel like having a discussion with her tomorrow.

By the way, I'm not ynashing anyone. Maybe, I will just cease fire for now.

Can't afford to make a mistake, I mean, I should be married by next year.

Saintly01:
Any lady between 20 and 25 scares the hell out of me, they are at a point in their lives when they think life is all about play, social media, galavanting, wearing sneakers, making countless friends and alot of other crazy things. These class of ladies are a full time job. I don't need VAR to tell me who they are.

Not all Bro, not all.

I'm talking about decent ladies here, not all these marlians.

Saintly01:
We stay in different cities, I have started to bother myself less with random suspicion that my mind creates. Sometimes ladies start to act differently when they become undergraduates, I can not totally vouch for her Loyalty.

I understand. The distance may give room for doubt but if your lady has given u her word, then you should take it wholeheartedly.

I believe these days, people don't say what they don't mean, the days of pretense have long gone.

saasala:
If their character and degree of love for you is equal, then go for the 24-26 years old lady providing she has a skill or anything that can get her an income later. The 20 year old lady will give you heart attack

Everyone keeps on saying this but I'm yet to see her manifest any sign.

The older one has this fantasy life she craves for away from reality and is way too experienced in dating even more than me.

Guess I have to leave it to VAR to decide.

SirMichael1:
You're right bro, I know her offline too. She's nice and sensible. If there's anything I admire her for, it will be her multifaceted personality or should call it multiple personality derangement??

She's got a melancholic temperament and also scatterbrained (Beats me how these goes hand-in-hand.

Lol. Too many issues in this world to add one with multiple personality disorder.

I will gladly pass.

Saintly01:
I am happy for you, your girlfriend has graduated, less worries, especially financial issues. Mine still has a full year to stay in school, I contribute financially, but my biggest cause for worry is Loyalty, I can never be too sure of what she is doing in school. Every action of hers spikes suspicion. I am fed up of this "Monitoring Spirit" kind of lifestyle. When she posts a picture with another guy, Even if there is nothing going on between them, I get all worked up. I am that jealous, this is exactly the cause of our quarrel this evening. This whole thing is driving me nuts.

If your reason is based solely on trust due to distance then that isn't an issue to me. Asides that we stay in the same city, I'm not someone who has trust issues, I wouldn't ask a lady out if I knew I couldn't trust her.

On that level, she clean.

gowonmaharajah:
lol...ya funny ohhhh.to be honest with you.
what's the assurance or wat guarantees u that the lil girl would equally secure a job as soon as she finishes?
just exercise patient with the older one.she'll soon get a job.
I'm pretty sure she is educated,ryt?

Yes she is educated.

Designerdollars:
that lady is very toxic, don't even bother yourself.

I would be stupid to try. I know her here quite well, something's are best not said. I'm surprised she's commenting on a thread like this.

TonyeBarcanista:
Bros priorities are misplaced aswear

Bros let's look at it objectively o.

What if this guy is a need, throughout out his youthful days, he spent his time reading. Got to the University, didn't chase girls, was so focused on his books, graduated with a good grade and at an early age.

After service, had high hopes of getting a decent job, searched, searched and couldn't find any. Even if he found, he found low paying jobs. When he got home frustrated, no one to talk to, no female voice to hear from, the pressures at home is too much, no place to relax or someone to relax with and just tell.him things will be fine.

Now, he's 29, his Finances haven't changed for the better, he's lonely and craves for a feminine touch, he's afraid he may die broke and lonely.

Statistically, he stands a better chance getting a lady than a job, so, he decides to go get a lady to make him happy, even if it's for a while.

Can we truly fault this guy sincerely?

Things are really bad in this country Bros. His Finances may never change and it shouldn't stop him from getting a shot at love, we all deserve someone.

Saintly01:
As a guy, if you fall in love with a student I pity your life, I am in exactly this same university school girl relationship shit. My eye don see something, no jokes.

Hmmmmm. The student girl/lady has a nice character o. Asides the frequent financial demands, what were the issues u faced?

UyaiIncomparabl:
25.

I dey use one eye dey look you.

It's ok.

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Vega100:
Why mentioning me bro? We get problem before?

Sorry, I meant Vega4.

nototribalist:
Once bridge pass CCECC or Julius Berger hand to any other Oluwole quark contractors forget it, Thiefnubuu must chop.


Oluwole Companies that can't build road that can last for 2 years, want to bid for a long bridge like 4th mainland bridge? If not the most corrupt country in the world call Nigeria, who else who do this.

Something that they should carry and give JB they are doing pubic procurement/advertisement.

Even CCECC no reach to do this one, trust me.

I'm currently at the page for choosing School of choice and course of choice, how do I go about it?

So people don't want to live along Lagos Ibadan expressway axis?

It's ok. Time is coming when even Ota, Sagamu, Abeokuta will be choice cities and it won't be long.

My Brother, listen to Life is Beautiful by Vega100, you will feel better.

No one ever cares where the sun goes when it sets, they just expect it to rise the next day.

Same with humans, when you are struggling, they don't care, they deal with the present vibes anyone can bring. When that is done, they move over to the next.

So f**k it, take it in, and when u rise, do not get a damn about anyone or their opinion.

Weselion:
JAMB form is not out yet.

Okay.

Hussein01:
please, has JAMB 2020 registration started?

Can't confirm right now.

This is a very foolish move. My younger brothers school have paused their jamb registration because of this.

Complete trash!!

chioma134:
Everyone has a price, even you

Does everyone have a price? Yes

Including myself? Yes

But, I have limits, I won't go beyond it, especially when it involves the lives of millions just to please a few.

Mr Femi has completely sold his conscience. That, I will never do.

Alex Badeh.

The man who said they knew where the chibok girls were but couldn't rescue them.

The man who said the mutinies should be killed for protesting poor logistics and welfare.

Alex Badeh, the man who left many soldiers to die in Borneo and focused on looting funds meant for the insurgency.

I lost an uncle, a soldier in Borno.

What a man sows, he shall reap.

Where is the Femi I used to know back then?

The Femi of the Sun Newspapers who would speak the truth not minding whose ox is gored.

The Femi whose column I looked forward to every weekend, giving me hope that Nigeria could still be rescued.

The Femi who stood like a shining star fighting through the pen for the betterment of Nigerian's.

The Femi who was brave, fearless, intelligent, of a sound mind and sound judgement.

Where is that Femi?
Where is Femi Adesina of old?

Fountainofyouth:
You are very slow.....

Men!! Been seeing your comments on this forum, I hope you aren't like this in person?

I am so certain that you are a Yoruba girl.

isthatso:
He is not being sexist just a realist.

There are also male jobs that I am sure women would not like their husbands doing.

E.g police, soldier ....higher probability of getting killed, being away from home for long periods, likely to patronize prostitutes.

Male masseuse, male hairdresser etc Do you want your husband massaging other women? Can you handle women constantly looking for your husband in the name of business?

Night club owner nko?

This is not insecurity it’s just practicality. I don’t agree with the person or those who are against corporate jobs but it depends on what the job entails, like I said if you have to chase business for the company e.g marketing account officer....it’s a no because that’s exposes her to male predators! It doesn’t mean a woman or a man won’t cheat, your wife can be at home as a housewife and be sleeping with your neighbor, but why sanction an occupation that predisposes him or her to opportunities for cheating especially as a woman when whether you want to or not, men will always make a move?

Seems you're part of the few wise ones on this thread.

You've said it all.

@ Op, carry on with your plans, to think most people criticizing you have never been married is just laughable.

ubunja:
lmfao. once a man says all that "I can't live without her" "she's from God", "She's a queen" I just roll my eyes and know its pure infatuation and obsession. True Love is very calculated and very realistic.

Ubunja himself, the first of his kind, protector of the realm and King of the Seven Kingdoms.

Many guys don't know that they can have up to 5 ladies, all showing a certain level of care and love. What marriage does is, it makes you chose one out of the many.

Just like if I get a job @ Microsoft, it doesn't mean that I am not good enough to work at Linux, but my commitment to Microsoft won't allow me (if it's full time).

So, that " I can't live without her" "she's the best for me" is B.S.

There are a million out there that can do what 1 can do, even better, one just has to be calculated and realistic in choosing the final one.

seunmsg:
And was it not also thrown out now that a northerner is is the president? Should Buhari’s tribe also start crying of hatred?

The truth is like Jonathan, this reform is needed, but, with some stringent clauses like removal of immunity clause.

Melian:
Na wa for the igbo girl too sef, there's no rich igbo man to cling to.

Come on. How many unmarried women do we have in the East and how many Igbo men are well to do?

Let's not go.down that road.

Gosh!!

What's wrong with you? Behaving like an 18 year old.

Who told you that you can't live without her and she's the best thing to happen to you? Negodu the epistle you wrote because of woman.

If u don't have money to marry her, free her na.

You are just being worried about nothing.

The most important issue (your finances) is staring u at the face and you are crying over a lady. See, let me just tell you basic reality, you don't really need a woman to love you, what you need is for her to respect you.

That means when she sees you, she sees someone who can defend her morally, financially, be her guide tru wisdom. Has your ego ever been inflated just by a woman telling you she loves you?

Wake up man.

Wasn't this also proposed by Jonathan that everyone shouted him down?

Our hatred of a certain tribe won't allow us see d truth.