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Let's see how it plays out, especially since we know Igbos contribute more than 50% of Diaspora population.

So Mr Phoneix won best Actor at the Globe's for his role in the Joker.

I have to watch Joker for the second time, seems I am missing something. Asides those dance steps, body movements don't see anything special in his performance.

Just my opinion though.

BlindedIrony:
Before i start writing, I must say you sound naive. I will tell you why in a minute. Your naivety puts your age from 25 to 35; either that or you haven't had a lot of experience with women. Now, I am going to tell you why I think you are naive.

Firstly, the fact that you want to marry a girl that you have not had the time to get to know; it shows you don't get laid often. It is a syndrome among men in your situation. You can take a step back and think whether you really know this girl. Does your attraction stem from her beauty? I bet it is because you want to lay a pipe in a certain place.

Secondly, the lady clearly wanted sex. She already communicated with you that she has somebody else (a beta male provider), but she wanted you. She wanted to be laid by you because you were not salivating over her earlier like the rest of the 95% of males around her. Women are attracted to men who don't give them approval. She already told you she wanted something with you (and probably hoped you will keep your mouth shut after the hookup). Someone she can bone until the abroad guy comes home.

Thirdly, her attraction level was high. All you had to do was invite her out for a drink the same day she expressed her feelings, and later take her home to satisfy her needs. She already had a high attraction for you, so things would be very easy. You screwed this up with too much talking (probably spending a lot of time chatting or talking on the phone)- now, the alpha personality you projected didn't rhyme with the character she was expecting. She saw you as one, and that's why she was open to you (NB: Women don't usually make that kind of movie especially if you two never have great rapport). She saw you as a distant alpha male working on his purpose, and I sincerely hope you haven't screwed it up that badly.

Now, you have gone ahead and behaved like the rest of the 95% guys she knows. You will be friendzoned. This is because her attraction has probably decreased. Good luck getting what you want. Oh! Also, she has other men screwing her as I write lol You said she had 8 men, and she removed 6, while two (abroad guy and you) only remain. You are so naive about women!

Oh let me know how it goes.

Good analysis, I stan.

PharoahIII:
Our elders say that on the day it is appointed for the goat to die, it asks “what can the butcher do to me?” This op wants to tempt a woman? Ah, would it not be even better to tempt the gods than tempt a woman? This girl dy use op play BTTS. She has put him on a very very long thing indeed, even longer that the River Benue. I can only imagine the shock that he will be in when she finally breaks up with him. The text would read something like this:
...you know I told you right from the very start, right from the onset that I had a boyfriend abroad, and how my whole family likes him, and also how I said I liked him too, and that I could not choose between the two of you. Well, I have now made up my...(this is the point where the op will faint)

No place like Nairaland, you guys "kill" me everyday.

NwaAmaikpe:




Nature abhors vacuum.
The same reason cars are designed with spare tyres is the reason why every man should have a backup lady in his life.

First time in a long while you made sense to me.

urchcoded:
People believe in me too much. From family to friends. Puts me in a frantic race all the times and makes me screw up. I feel Dy think I'm better Dan I really am.

I can relate.

olabrinks:
Late thirties to forties you are no longer in your prime. And if you don’t have substantial money or something very meaningful to offer at that point in your life, no young girl in their 20s will marry you. That’s why when some men talk about having all the time in the world I laugh. It’s better to settle down early with more options, because there’s no guarantee you will make it in life by the time you are 39.

Funny how my cousin and some of us had this discussion. She's in her middle 30s, single, the pressure to bring someone home is too much.

With tears in her eyes, she said that there is someone who is in his late forties, rich asking for.her hand in marriage but she doesn't want to marry an old person, she even went on during another discussion to say that she can marry someone 2 to 3 years younger than her.

If men think they have time, then they are under a big illusion.

People generally think I'm too gentle, soft and innocent.

I love it though, misconceptions give you a leeway to get around people, then shock them when they least expect. But, I don't have such mind for those evils, that's why when I do something unusual, people are really surprised.

SirMichael1:
Are you in Jos South? Let's meet.

Unfortunately, I left last year. I'm open to return if I can find a good job up there.

Kingsasian:
Sardauna lga is on the Mambilla plateau. That is where I am referring to.

My bad. Thanks for the enlightenment.

Investmentfreak:
Wasn’t really easy for me, she blocked me from texting her and calls but we live in same house.. women fear them!

You still with her? What did she say/do when she finally realized you knew?

Kingsasian:
Thank you bro. I served there and passed out last June. Even my ex colleagues from Jos complained that Jos isn't as cold as sardauna lga. I just dey laugh the guys on this thread. Sardauna is the coldest place in Nigeria if not west Africa.

Where do you now place Mambila Plateau?

WorworBoi:
You're welcome. I sent you a PM

Bros!! So fast?

That means the weather at Panshin would be around 3°C. Mangu will be around 5°C.

But Jos North isn't as cold as Jos South.

Preshy561:
This is so sad.
I understand your plight. If there's how you can search for a greener pasture by moving away from her for the main time, please do.
She might think you aren't doing good enough by seeing you home everytime.

Sorry about the situation.

God bless you, may your home be filled with love, Amen.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

You're vile and filled with hatred in your heart.

The thickness of concrete on that road is second to none, that road upon completion will be SOLID!!

CastingCrowns:
I am idoma.. Dont know if u ve heard of it.. Am sorry i cant seem to access my mails.

Yes I have, if my history is correct, the Idoma's are the second biggest tribe in Benue asides the Tiv's right?

How else can I reach you?

Prec1ous:
I will advise people going into 2020.

Please trust your instincts. If it says something is wrong, then it is. Please verify.

Mine has never failed. Very apt!

I agree, always trust your instincts. It's always right.

May God help us all. Amen

I've come to realize that ladies are the same (online and offline). They think the same, reason the same, act the same, sometimes, I wonder if there is a central server or a satellite where they all receive same signals/instructions.

If Ladies, in consensus say it's when you have money that you should think of settling down, then so be it.

Unless, you are a disruptor, then you can change the general consensus and become a reformer.

Anything else, is just beating around the bush.

To answer your question, when you are financially stable, then u should get one. Like I said earlier, exceptions do exist.

Midas01:
Reverse psychology doesn't work with people with a good self esteem who know what they want in life.

Secondly it doesn't work if you didn't love the person in the first place

You are absolutely spot on Monsieur.

Shugargal:
Most women are bisexual in nature, just forget the pretence. if the lady is beautiful, just forget it. I Don wine am finish.it will pain the guy because he will be expecting me to be mad but I will disappoint him by changing the topic. I can't kill myself.. lol.

Ladies, is this true?

My recent observation.

If a lady isn't a virgin, isn't financially stable, isn't economically up to date and hides under a banner of religion.

My brother run, run for your dear life. Even if only two of these conditions exist, still run.

If she isn't a virgin and isn't financially stable, don't even run, fly!!!

chigoizie7:
Speak for yourself.


Out of over 2 million members of which male are in majority. How many have approached you for you to give such conclusions that a whopping 95% are sex starved. Have you had an encounter with over 950,000 male Nairalanders?

Somebody will just open mouth and be talking trash simply because they are privileged to talk.

Same question ran through my mind. 95% without any proof of research? Fallacy!!

chibestjerry:
I learn many things ooo...
1. i need to be stingy; like the way i gave people money this year if i had save the money eh... i could have been 60% step ahead in my goals...

2. How much am worth; i learned that people see you the way you want them...

3. Fear woman; run i repeat run; women have this mentality of claiming right over your money just because of the word "i love you"

4. Fear woman again; now remove your shoe and run

5. Avoid kpas and woman.; Womanising is the worse addiction so stop running now and start flying

6. Help; he that giveth receiveth

You're a clown.

SBL28:
This is quite disturbing.

Very disturbing

Can someone who read Economics go for an MSc in Petroleum Economics?

See eh OP; there are two kinds of people I can't stand, those who get angry easily, and those who aren't respectful. Somehow, the later is always synonymous with a person who has the former.

When I was in school, there was this course mate of mine, an Igbo girl. She was rich and very annoying, also gets easily angry like your GF and disrespectful. Due to the fact that I no too hold and was kinda brilliant, I sucked it in.

She would buy me food and all while we studied together. She's a good person, but my Dear, anytime you do a small mistake, you would see her other side. Wahalai, I suffered, I was even older than her but she was always there when I needed a helping hand.

This continued till we graduated. I thought that small child attitude has left her but I was wrong. Few months back we kinda reconnected and she suggested we see, I proposed a fast food, she agreed. Later she suddenly changed that she wants to see a movie, I said ok, let's meet at Ikeja, she said no that she wants the mall at Surulere, I said ok, no problem.

Few days to the event, I was short on cash on and notified her that we move it to the following week, she snapped and told me to forget about everything, me I kuku lock up. She didn't reply my messages for about 2 months.

One day, I decided to try again, I sent her a message apologising for what happened the other time so as not to spoil the friendship, she said I should first send her money before she forgives me. I just laughed it off.

My advice is you stay away from that girl, her type will give you too many dramas, insults and headache.

godfrey01:
Dating a girl in her 20's, you will be apologising for the rest of your life till she mature...

Not true Boss.

RayMcBlue:
I've watched a lot of sword fight scenes of Movies and TV shows alike, and one thing that sets them apart from other genre is the consistent blood and gore excitement. At least, that's the general idea until The Legend Of The Seeke came into the picture. I've never seen a dryer sword fights in my life. No blood ever flowed, Choreography sucked, and to make matters worse, the Protogonist was a weakling that cannot do without the Confessor: a woman.

When the TV series got scraped at the end of the 2nd season due to poor ratings, I was one of the folks that heaved a sigh of relief. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

I understand, perhaps, the producers wanted it that way. Nevertheless, it was a great show, fantastic storyline, couldn't see where they lost it, everything were on point till the final episode.

I have seen wack shows go beyond Season 2 and Legend of the Seeker ain't one.