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If not for abusive marriage and probably a chronic cheat, divorce shouldn't be an option

na just heart break, he will survive. I pity the lady, her lover guy will soon ditch her. her eyes go clear.

Heathrow44:
Thats naija women for u, they would rather die dan walk out of a marriage without stealing and reaping where they did not sow, during d whole of d relationship my money is my money and ur.money is our.money and yet she said she made him.who he is today, typical naija girl mentality

how did you know she did not sow? how many women today can start a home and build with a man from zero level. We should appreciate people like her, its unfortunate she is late.

missimelda01:
So I get this awkward reaction when a man asks for my position in my family and I say I'm the first child. I really want to know what the issue is...is it just the bride price??

Some parents will never allow their first child to marry far.

2. Responsibility: some guys are afraid of responsibilities, in Africa we marry the family not just the person.

3. marriage rites. I know a guy that wanted marrying an IMO lady, first daughter. his colleagues from the east were the first to discourage him though they love themselves dearly, Bros no gree oo. As first daughter that is a graduate, we heard you will pay tire.

but love conquer all

CeeJeckydivah:
I no dey hear say woman dey die under man o. Na man dey always die untop woman.

because na man dey always wan impress, some take a lot of substances though they are not physically OK. Again, watin most women dey do, na to just lay on dey bed na.

highchief1:
pregnancy no Dey fear me na hiv.if I give u belle I advice u to remove it u no gree it means maybe e get wherr u keep money.u can’t force upkeep money from my bank na.

lol, funny guy. They are both not pleasant, though HIV is worst. Some women are codedly looking for baby, both singles and married ladies, so trust me, if e enter, lie lie, they won't remove it. For the married ones, when it enters they won't even let you know, they quickly take it to Mr at home.
Almost all women know what they are doing, they are very strategic unlike men

statesman6:
You don't know anything. Women like going far away for there secret to be safe. You can see a woman shading men that we're scum but codedly them dey bang her steadily. Another thing I noticed in women is that do there shit far away to avoid catching feelings

so if I may ask you, between sleeping with an anonymous person and paying an uber man that all their details are documented, which is more secretive?

Stargurl20:
I guess that's why. But make I no lie, I feel bad at times, coz I feel I should be the most loved as her first and only daughter, but unfortunately, we do not always get what we want

jealousy jealousy... see you. You should be happy. technically so. You may not be what you're today or be as sound as you're today if you were treated maybe more specially. Most children that were overly treated special and were not allowed to do anything can hardly survive on their own, imagine a girl in such situation. Your mom is a good mother, you really need to thank her for not spoiling you. Today you may not be Able to cook, take care of your house or do anything. you may not even have the least of courtesy for others, so you should be grateful and not feel jealous.
Also try to train your children in such way too, the only difference should be that you don't show them that any of them is special. Most parents that do that do it unconsciously so you have to be meticulous about it.

Odebayo4010:
The enjoyment and the money they will get wouldn't let them Realize until they lost there Glory

God bless you jare.

advanceDNA:
Dont get stuck up in 1992..this is 2022...some women pay for sex....if ive not seen it ...i wont say sooo.... u think say na girls wey dey look for men to buy her her iphone we dey talk

Oga make we dead this matter....no need to argue

hmmm, have you seen a Lady that don't have men around that want her, both married and single, super rich or average. Yes, I agree they pay for sex especially for the ones that are restricted or lack time and exposure but most times, its questionable.

highchief1:
I Dey always turn down.it’s like a woman begging me to sex her raw I have never accepted.i do raw when my instinct tells me to go ahead.

that one too is questionable, why is she asking for raw? maybe for pregnancy, you may never know. Thank God you didn't agree, believe it or not, most women know what they are doing, no matter how innocent they want it to look like

Stargurl20:
Lol... Yinmu. It's a clear thing. Although she's not mean to me, but I know she loves my immediate younger bro most

you think so, you don't know so, you'll be shocked. Women usually have strong attachment to their first male child though.

Awesome!!

highchief1:
bros e no easy again.most men are no longer comfortable so they don’t think about sex.it takes a happy mind to have an erection.so now women have to put it to us.u won’t understand.

hmmm, I understand but not free sex. Only very few guys will turn down opportunity for a free sex.

advanceDNA:
Go abuja or come island where many divorcee and rich mama dey wey no fit stay husband house cos of pride ....they do coded runs alot...women pretend like they dont fvck so some keep their sexcapades ddiscreet by paying

which abuja? na story bros, most will rather collect money from guys though they have or start a relationship with someone before sex rather than paying for it.
you guys are getting it all wrong, most lady, married or not, meet men everyday trying to have sex, so why then should I pay another guy for it.

Stargurl20:
Too much petting kwa. Well, my own different o.... In fact, I sense my immediate younger bro to be my mum's fave sef. It's clear cut. Even when she scolds him, she scolds him with love

don't be jealous jor, lol. I won't believe that though. she was probably being careful not to get you 'spoilt' as her only daughter.

WowSweetGuy:
the ladies know d kinda man they like to have sex with...their own fantasy

maybe a fantasy as you said...

colizee:
Maybe for anonymity

she can readily get an anonymous guy almost everywhere for sex without paying. Haven't you heard stories of anonymous sex in clubs, transits, fun places etc. Its just some few minutes of gisting and probably few minutes or hours of bonding if all that will be necessary.
I have share a story here about a friend of mine that met a lady on the road while coming to my place, they got talking, came to my place together, I wasn't home so they went back to his place which is close by, condom was exhausted and he went raw, people that are just meeting themselves for the first time. So for a lady, any lady can have anonymous, unplanned sex with the next guy without paying

oglalasioux:
It's because the guy is lying. No such thing happens. The closest to this happening is ladies trying to get into relationships with drivers so they can use them as their personal drivers for free.

Abuja woman offer you money for sex? Maybe in a parallel universe not here.

Thank you jare.

highchief1:
read ur Bible well it was written that a time like this will come.It’s no longer business as usual for women.if u know what some of us men go through.

that is marriage not sex, they are 2 different things. Most guys are not ready to marry but will hardly turn down opportunity to bed a lady.
An average lady have numerous guys around that are looking opportunity to have s*x with her.

The person that wrote all these on instablog is evil minded, how can someone sit and arrange all these evil in his/her. Mehn!!

Stargurl20:
Lol...married by next? Lol ... Don't crack me up pls.

I'm the first born of my mum and her only daughter. I've two younger brothers

no wonder! crack you up how? in life anything is possible. you can meet a guy you really fancy before end of the and may end up been married before end of next year. Never say never.

Only Daughter, too much petting and love! you will be shock she won't bother you. As only daughter, I believe she won't stress you, she might talk about it but she won't bother you much. You no get problem sef...by the time you will tell her 'mummy you want me to rush and do mistake', she will be the one apologising and telling you to take your time.

Stargurl20:
Thank you

you're welcome

[quote author=Stargurl20 post=117619951][/quote]hmmm, wow! I understand you pretty well, you can't obviously go into a relationship you're hoping to take to next level without any likeness, fondness or love for the person, such relationship won't last.
you're not asking for too much and I believe soon you will see someone that you will be all over him. Its not too much to ask dear.
its good to be a realist, a lot of fake people and relationship these days, setting things straight as is ought to be is bae. Its always good to go into relationship with a friend, someone you like, you respect or you're fond of so that when 'love' reduces or vanishes (if love use to vanish), other things like the friendship, respect, fondness etc can keep the Union going.
you don't need to be worried too much, you're also not doing anything bad. preparing and planning for your future is not bad, it put you a step ahead and may prevent bad incidences in future, only you should be praying more and worrying less while you go about with an open mind. you should consider making more friends, even when you want a relationship with someone, its good if you guys can take it from friendship level....

Stargurl20:
I foresee it, especially on marital issues

you shouldn't assume that, I know a lot of parents that don't put pressure on their kids.

running won't solve anything, they have your number and they know your address, so they can visit anytime and continue from where they stop.

When it happen, make them understand, asked them, if they want you to rush, make mistakes and end up divorce? just calm them down and on your own, try to go into good relationship, when they see you in a good relationship, they won't pressure you but in all, never settle for less in the name of pressure, stand your ground but don't push them away, parents will always be parents

#What makes you believe you won't be married by next year?

(are you the first child or daughter).

blackpink22:
I'o

You're an adult now, talk to them, know their fears and try to assure them. don't blame them, parents will always be parents but let them know its better they give you free hand but let them know who and who is your friend, in that case its a win win situation. some 23 years old are married but don't tell them that and stop praying stupid prayer because of your parents trying to keep you safe, pls go edit your post and be careful what you carelessly wish or hope for.

marriage is not for children or feeble minded.

We take a lot of things, that's what we signed up for so we are not complaining. Peace of mind and happy home is the goal...

1. Its not every family that put pressure on their daughter, what made you think your family will put pressure on you, my family don't and no one cares.

2. For whoever that want to pressurise another, distance won't be a barrier. its just to develop thick skin and make such person to know that their is time for everything and mounting pressure on people makes them do serious mistakes.

Bimbilla:
What is the implications of sleeping with a married woman's?

its very very tempting, just pray you don't fall for such temptations and don't judge those that fall for it, its not easy oooo, na help of God

doggedfighter:
Being caught by her angry husband and facing whatever punishment he metes to you .

Aside that nothing.

are you sure? even if we don't want to go spiritual, kama is a bitch you know, if someone is not fortunate enough.

As a guy, when a lady wants to offer you money for sex, you should think critically about it, because on a normal day, a lady will have so many men around (admirers and even strangers) that wants to get down with her, both married and single, so why will such person pay you for it, something she can easily get anywhere and anytime for free.