₦airaland Forum

it was beautiful seeing them dropping from that war plane yesterday.

Samantha123:
It's not a crime if a person is never married, some don't want to get married.

And as long as a lot of people see it as an achievement, they'll keep shoving it on the others because this is Africa where people don't know what it means to mind their business.

But I guess at the end of the day we're all entitled to our own opinions.

Agreed, some people don't want marriage and its very fine. Honestly I respect people that decides never to marriage, its better than going into it unprepared or unequipped
I have said it before that I don't like people being coerce to marriage. I don't think the coercing is because people see marriage as an achievement, I think the problem is majorly from parents and relatives but I think that too is gradually reducing.
Yes we are entitled to our opinions but non is perfect, we learnt everyday and me, personally, i'm always open (eager to learn and hear other people's idea).

Samantha123:
Sir be honest here, you can't get married without any money.

Firstly, you have to pay a bride price.
Secondly, get money to prepare for the wedding.
Thirdly, after the wedding you have to make sure that there's money for food in the house.
Fourthly, you have to build a house or rent an apartment and this requires money.
Fifth, you can't bring a child in this world as a married person without any source of income, unless you just want your children to suffer.

Same thing should apply us, we should not just sit and wait for a man to come and marry us because we think it's an achievement.

I partially agreed with most of what you highlighted but Truth be told, one need to have something doing but its not like one should have millions or earning in hundreds of thousands of naira before they marriage. a lot of civil servants earn less than 100k and they are doing well. Marriage is more than just money. Also we should cut our coat according to our clothing, we do unnecessarily things most times especially when it comes to marriage; ladies mostly.
Again you mentioned that ladies should not see marriage as an achieve but maintaining a good marriage is an achievement though. Obviously its wrong to sit down doing nothing expecting to get married, its very wrong, what if such person never get married. Though for some people marriage is top priority in their to do list and to such persons they might see it as an achievement and you can't blame such of them, whatever makes one fulfilled should be an achievement (come to think of it, some are super rich, doing great but can't find good spouse for themselves,so one should give his/herself a little thumbs up for finding one).
what I don't like is shoving it on people, it shouldn't be so.
#Good morning.

it might not be anything, most women does that. some with light on and curtain raise self. My woman do that alot

Samantha123:
The bottom line is that marriage is not an achievement, but a decision.

Marriage is an achievement my dear. Marriage is sweet but not easy, it needs effort, sacrifices, work etc for it to work so its an achievement.
Also a lot of folk here will mention money when you talk about marriage as if its the main thing. money is the least thing one need to have a successful marriage and a lot of people are doing well with little amount of money.
Though I must put it that marriage is not for everyone.

Hmmm, serious matter. Thank God you are not married to her already bros, its your decision to make but her excuse no add up at all.

early marriage is good especially when the kids stated coming early....you grow with your children. You'll get to where people will be asking if your children are your younger ones.

Samantha123:
Such comments can really piss me off sometimes.

Marriage is not and can never be an achievement without any financial success.

a lot of marriages are doing well without much finance, stop basing marriage success on finance. Marriage is not a money thing, many rich people today are out if marriage.

if you can make hair and into wigs, you will do very well (make enough money).

Soure:
I still can't bliv Adekunle stayed

seriously?

You did no wrong

Our traditional way of marriage is not for everyone. They are things that comes with marriage, so if anyone cannot cope its better not to enter it or probably be specific before marriage.
In as much as one has to be understanding (in this case you dad should have understand that she is tired if properly communicated) traditionally, its the duty of a wife to take care of home which includes food.
These are things they tell the woman during traditional marriage, especially by her own people.

when you become a man, you Will understand. There is something I learnt a long time ago; what is between a woman's leg is the same from one person to another. Anything else is your mind.

This is bad. Men, we really need to put somethings in place (like education insurance) if we can afford it to enable our kids future to be secure.

I love this man, very calm, highly learned and simple.

Massive. I didn't hear about this, I for go make history.

Thinking about that alone can give him sleepless nights and bring death before the 2 years self.

Nothing compare to making legit money oooo.

funny how many Nigerians will willy do whatever he did damning the consequences!

This is romantic. A wedding to remember.

Sheistoopretty:
Lies! Lies!! Lies!!!

na everything be lie for una eye. Meanwhile of what use is it for me to lie? the subject reminded me of the incidence and I decided to share it. I got tired of keeping condom that will eventually expire and I will buy again but from that day, I got a good reason not to get tired if keeping condom because I won't wish my enemy the psychological trauma my guy went through.

Baronthecelebri:
Hahhahahahha wahala �

I dey tell you. no be small wahala that day ooo

I remember one guy for sch, he was coming to me house, he meet one babe for road, they got talking, he ask babe to follow him go see his guy. they came, I wasn't home, they went back to his house. my guy notice condom don finish come nack raw. After babe go, he wan die, na there everything come dey play for his head; how he meet babe for first time and less than 2 hours nack raw.


#Guys....na God go save us.

virginprincess:
No,but it is very difficult for a guy and a girl to sleep on the same bed without anything happening.

very possible, I have done it.

ObosiUkwalla:
Dear Abuja residents..

So i have a relative who relocated to abuja as he got a job offer in the city.

He has been house hunting, he finally got a Two-bed room and one parlour apartment in Lugbe Area. He was asked to pay 980k in total.
The rent is 800k. Caution is 100k, Agent is 10% of rent = 80k

I humbly want to know if its worth paying for or should he keep looking? Abuja residents, pls help a brother out

Personally, I don't like Lugbe. he can still go round to check. They are good houses around abacha road mararaba that the price can be a little lesser

Because of dream?? na waooo

Odebayo4010:
You talk well,i like you points

Thank you

famozine1:
Hahaha u gat a point

Thank you.

raphretle:
So supposing an unmarried woman decides to artificially inseminate herself because she is approaching menopause.. Then she gets pregnant.
Is it a sin??
Note: Fornication is not involved.
What would be the stand of the church on such issues?

1. the donor is suppose to be a good person in character and deed.

2. religiously I don't know, ask God to show you a sign but it might not be cool religiously though but like I said, I don't know.

3. Also, Why not approach a good guy you know have good treat and discuss with him. He can father the child and will be it. you can also give him access to the child, it will mean a lot to the baby. From your post, you sound financially OK so let him know training the child won't be a problem but if he won't to contribute, fine. A lot of guys wants children but don't because some don't have the means while other sets don't want to marry.

4. Adoption is also very cool.

Is like things don dey change oooo, before na only rugged and stubborn students dey near NANS election venue.

terrezo2002:
Send me a message on WhatsApp. I want to pray for you tonight.

I will be so happy but unfortunately I'm currently not on whatsapp

Tesi109:
Good day everyone I am a single mom and I am looking for any kind of job that will accept me coming with my child and also will provide a place for us to stay I have suffer alot even if it's a househelp I will do it or a nanny job or a gateman I can do it please

try schools meanwhile where exactly do you stay, which part of Abuja.

Ginaz:
i don't know how i should have gone about it. i wasn't shouting, didn't use demeaning tone, there was privacy, she sat down while i was talking to her and her body language was comfortable. of all things i said to her, it was "you don't smell nice" she choose to pick up.

I'm confused ! what's another word to use in replaced of "you don't smell nice".? i felt embarrassed she took offense when i had good intentions about her wellbeing.

People are even saying buy gifts, buy that!

ha! saying the truth is very expensive these days!

to me, they is nothing bad in your choice of words, its just her insecurity and please don't feel bad, you did the right thing.
My issues is you would have held her and give her a piece of your mind for giving you attitude instead of being grateful to you, that is if her action is not based on the fact that she is shy and can't face you because of what happened