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@Familyplug, this is no joke, if you can remain strong, trust God and work hard, they will come for you, to apologise and you end up being their saviour or one they can't do without.

Also know that we are all beautiful in our own ways. Talking about this will help you a lot. Try chatting with your sis husband on whatsapp and screenshot it or call him and record it as evidence. He should be reported, only God know how many more he has raped.

Talk to a professional if possible and please yourself alive. Life is yours to live, live it to the fullest.

mehn!!!

Good luck.

waooo

What a habit? How do one forget a big child?

I think its wrong, you should face your partner not the other party unless if its a case of using force.

Bold... I like that. look nice on her...African

This is just the beginning.... Congratulations to both of them.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Be strong chairman, its painful but God will see you through.

please calm down, don't make any decision now, take your time.

Before any decision, put your children, the innocent child and everything into consideration.

secondary, I know most people will not agree with this but please, if you finally decides to separate or let the child go, please do it quietly. Only few very close circle should know.

All the best.

NobleAngell:
We all know that peer pressure are social pressure among members of same age group to adopt some manners and values in order to be accepted in that peer group. Some peer pressure among the males include drinking, smoking, cultism, womanising etc. While among females, we have drinking, prostitution, flirtin with lecturers etc. Now my question is dis; which of these 2 groups yield easliy to pressure?

female mostly

Karen2024:
As soon as my child is a year old, to his or her room.

be calming down please, some 1 year are still sucking.

What other option do she have than to wait or self service or better still, one of them should resign or transfer so they can be together.

Its not easy being alone as a married person, I don't encourage it, the temptation can be very 'loud'.

Happy birthday brotherly. Wishing you a beautiful, fulfilling day and age. Have fun

ceeceeuwa:
My 3-year old few years back put his baby sister who was less than a month in his bicycle carrier. I was in the bathroom bathing when I had the baby's incessant cry,I opened the door to peep only to behold the sight. I didn't know when I ran out of the bathroom unclad. Thank goodness the baby didn't fall out. His explanation was that the baby was crying and he needed to make her happy.
Mother's should not leave their young ones unattended to. Even now that they are a bit grown,I make sure I check on them whenever the house is getting unnecessarily quiet.

hahahahaha.

This is very true. kids do a lot of harmful things to their younger ones unknowingly all in the name of petting, playing or caring after them.
Unfortunate most parents still make mistakes of asking them to look after their new siblings while they (parents) do one or two things.

That should mean doing another section (probably oversea) which should be expensive.

I don't see anything wrong with it though, its even very small, women that gave birth through CS have bigger one and they wear it with pride. I love it, its sexy and I love such women

Goodluck but be careful whatever you decides

it was beautiful seeing them dropping from that war plane yesterday.

Samantha123:
It's not a crime if a person is never married, some don't want to get married.

And as long as a lot of people see it as an achievement, they'll keep shoving it on the others because this is Africa where people don't know what it means to mind their business.

But I guess at the end of the day we're all entitled to our own opinions.

Agreed, some people don't want marriage and its very fine. Honestly I respect people that decides never to marriage, its better than going into it unprepared or unequipped
I have said it before that I don't like people being coerce to marriage. I don't think the coercing is because people see marriage as an achievement, I think the problem is majorly from parents and relatives but I think that too is gradually reducing.
Yes we are entitled to our opinions but non is perfect, we learnt everyday and me, personally, i'm always open (eager to learn and hear other people's idea).

Samantha123:
Sir be honest here, you can't get married without any money.

Firstly, you have to pay a bride price.
Secondly, get money to prepare for the wedding.
Thirdly, after the wedding you have to make sure that there's money for food in the house.
Fourthly, you have to build a house or rent an apartment and this requires money.
Fifth, you can't bring a child in this world as a married person without any source of income, unless you just want your children to suffer.

Same thing should apply us, we should not just sit and wait for a man to come and marry us because we think it's an achievement.

I partially agreed with most of what you highlighted but Truth be told, one need to have something doing but its not like one should have millions or earning in hundreds of thousands of naira before they marriage. a lot of civil servants earn less than 100k and they are doing well. Marriage is more than just money. Also we should cut our coat according to our clothing, we do unnecessarily things most times especially when it comes to marriage; ladies mostly.
Again you mentioned that ladies should not see marriage as an achieve but maintaining a good marriage is an achievement though. Obviously its wrong to sit down doing nothing expecting to get married, its very wrong, what if such person never get married. Though for some people marriage is top priority in their to do list and to such persons they might see it as an achievement and you can't blame such of them, whatever makes one fulfilled should be an achievement (come to think of it, some are super rich, doing great but can't find good spouse for themselves,so one should give his/herself a little thumbs up for finding one).
what I don't like is shoving it on people, it shouldn't be so.
#Good morning.

it might not be anything, most women does that. some with light on and curtain raise self. My woman do that alot

Samantha123:
The bottom line is that marriage is not an achievement, but a decision.

Marriage is an achievement my dear. Marriage is sweet but not easy, it needs effort, sacrifices, work etc for it to work so its an achievement.
Also a lot of folk here will mention money when you talk about marriage as if its the main thing. money is the least thing one need to have a successful marriage and a lot of people are doing well with little amount of money.
Though I must put it that marriage is not for everyone.

Hmmm, serious matter. Thank God you are not married to her already bros, its your decision to make but her excuse no add up at all.

early marriage is good especially when the kids stated coming early....you grow with your children. You'll get to where people will be asking if your children are your younger ones.

Samantha123:
Such comments can really piss me off sometimes.

Marriage is not and can never be an achievement without any financial success.

a lot of marriages are doing well without much finance, stop basing marriage success on finance. Marriage is not a money thing, many rich people today are out if marriage.

if you can make hair and into wigs, you will do very well (make enough money).

Soure:
I still can't bliv Adekunle stayed

seriously?

You did no wrong

Our traditional way of marriage is not for everyone. They are things that comes with marriage, so if anyone cannot cope its better not to enter it or probably be specific before marriage.
In as much as one has to be understanding (in this case you dad should have understand that she is tired if properly communicated) traditionally, its the duty of a wife to take care of home which includes food.
These are things they tell the woman during traditional marriage, especially by her own people.

when you become a man, you Will understand. There is something I learnt a long time ago; what is between a woman's leg is the same from one person to another. Anything else is your mind.

This is bad. Men, we really need to put somethings in place (like education insurance) if we can afford it to enable our kids future to be secure.

I love this man, very calm, highly learned and simple.