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my dear, better quit now before its too late.

trust me, he will certainly beat you out of anger when married

my dear, better quit now before its too late.

trust me, he will certainly beat you out of anger when married

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marriage shouldn't be a compulsory thing, if she is not ready, leave her alone.

Nice one @Op

there is alot of difference. plenty for that matte. sex in marriage is beautiful. Its also a responsibility that must be fulfilled

make your brother catch you first...

ImaIma1:
I have even breastfed my baby while walking on the road before but I didn't expose anything. That's why I said it's a personal thing. Because I used to wear tops that allowed me breastfeed without being exposed and I always carried a flannel. For me, I don't like the exposure. And so I took measures to make sure baby and I were comfortable.

My husband can't be ok with me displaying what he believes he alone should be privy to especially because he knows it can be avoided without hurting the baby in any way.

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Awesome!! you took measures to make sure you are covered and comfortable but some ladies will not take such measures and will not breastfeed with their breast exposed if the place is not secluded allowing the little babies to be crying because of hunger.

my wife told me yesterday that she went to office, needed to breastfeed so she went to drivers office, they wanted to excuse her but she ask them to stay, I didn't bother to ask whether she cover herself or not, she had everything she needed. what happens if she didn't take everything she will need and the guys refused to excuse her, will she still breastfeed? some ladies won't. how will a Lady that doesn't like exposing her breast go out without the necessary things needed to cover herself properly to breastfeed and will never breastfeed with her breast outside. those are the types I have issues with.

#How is (mama) your baby?

SteveOfu:
It's not easy.

in life anything that will last don't usually come easy, its just to rely on GOD and keep pushing by trying your best.

I don't have time for negative vibe around me. If it happens, I will say "thank you, I like my baby the way he/she is", simple

Thank God my baby is cute sha, too much cuteness..

people are different, a reasonable maid will not change because she is being treated nice.

DESAN:
Amen

when one read articles like this, one have no option than to respect them, pray for them and support them. They are trying.

ImaIma1:
Lol...the dinning area, rooms, and other corners in the house have to be occupied so that she can bring out the breasts in front of your friends...I see.

Exposing the breasts is a personal thing and has nothing to do with being a good/great mother. Let's not mix the two up. When I had my baby, I was exclusive for several months and I breastfed everywhere I took her...public places, but I am conscious of my body despite the fact that I am a mother. And covering up was and is my prerogative. Besides my husband didn't like the idea of a woman exposing her body to other men all in the name of breastfeeding.

Another person can decide to just bring out her breasts for her baby and everyone. That doesn't make the person a better mum. The most important thing is feeding when needed. Whether you now expose the breasts or not is a personal thing.

The breasts I have been hiding and protecting all these years, I will now just start exposing it for every Tom , dick and Mariah because I am a mother. Iyooooo!

I can't stop laughing...nicely said "its a personal thing" but I have issues with women refusing to feed their babies (when there is no secluded place) because its an open place and they don't want to expose their breasts. My wife knows about this and I"m happy she is cooperating. I'm not saying expose breast unnecessary but feed the baby anyway you can when the baby is hungry.
being a better mum is relative but personally I feel a lady being responsive to her baby irrespective of the environment is a quality of a good mother.
my brother inlaw was once like your husband, he doesn't like my sis breastfeeding outside but over time, he became OK with it.
Yes, I don't like women exposing too much of their body in public but this is a different case. I was in a public vehicle one day and a baby was crying but the mum refused to breastfeed her, she did everything possible but the baby refused to stop because she was obviously hungry, you need to see the bashing that lady got that day from both men and women. there is nothing she didn't hear on that particular day and to me, they are right to scold her though not to the extreme. if a lady knows she can't expose her breast, she should put measures in place to feed her child when need arises and not starving the baby because she don't want to expose her breast and the place is not conducive.
my dear, with due respect, its my breast, I paid for it and so my baby should have access to it whenever he wants it. Any idiot (guy) around that wants to be stupid, its his own business.

be careful with her.

ImaIma1:
Feeding a baby is not synonymous to exposing the breasts. Your wife could as well go to the dinning table, to the room, etc except it is necessary that everyone has to see her breasts. Because it seems that people believe you must expose your breasts t the public to be termed a nursing mother

what if the "dinning table, room etc" are not available at that point.

I met a lady yesterday in a bank, her baby was so cute so I started playing with her. her transaction was taking time and the baby was crying while she was filling forms. we told her to be fast so she can feed the baby. when the baby cry increased, she hurriedly brought out her breast, collected the baby from me to start feeding her and later on, brought out handkerchief to cover her breast. That is a great mother and expect my wife to do same if the situation warrant it. Who breast help when my baby is hungry and crying? she no fit try am sef

Mrsmansson:
In order not to reveal so much info I wouldn't upload the mail he sent
This was a very nice caring man few years ago oh
Marriage na wa sha

Okay whenever we ve a fight,he would always say the number of kids I want in this life must not come from you alone

So yesterday was another argument

He sent a mail saying;

"I have to tell you this today - the number of children I need as a man I will get and it not a must that you will be their mother; it is only an opportunity that a wise woman shall cease..."


This is not the 5th time he is saying this
I jokingly told him one day,that I need 2 kids,he said 4,the next thing he said is "you can give birth to your 2kids,I can get the rest kids from anywhere

The way I hate him now,I can even plan his death.have been plotting of a good strategic way to kill him,so no one would suspect me
How can someone who claimed he loves me,just turn out to say the most hurtful things to me
So I thought we were in love,I don't understand that opportunity part

its unfortunate he made up his mind from the onset to cheat. pls clear your mind of any form of negativity pls, killing him will only put you in more trouble and sadness. Find ways of making yourself happy and take care of your kids.

Assurance and reassurance. your words and assurance will go a long way. Everyone time is different, patience is key.

marriage is not only to produce children, children are just added blessing. marriage is to be enjoyed by the 2 partners involved. I told my wife these same things before we got married.

Enough respect to all single mothers out there. May God strengthen you all and put permanent smiles in your face

SteveOfu:
My dad refused me getting married to the love of my life then saying he is too old( 34yrs) and much exposed for my age .He was a personal assistant to Abia state Governor then. I was only 16 and felt I have arrived been fiancé to such person.He cherished me. Truthfully,he never touched me.

Few weeks after,,he traveled for business promising to convince my dad on his return. My father's refusal made me stubborn, I didn't want be around my home cos their over Christian life was making them see everything in another view,i cannot confide in my late mum without getting this look of you must be like a rev in this home. so i ran to my girlfriend's house. She was about 4yrs older than I was then but my body structure made us look like age mates. She convinced me to follow her to PH for her birthday party. Didn't know I was been arranged for her boyfriend's brother.
I was drunk ,first time anyways and he took advantage of me. By morning he was apologizing and professing love and wanting to date me... begged me to take him to my home I refused. I was confused,the love of my life is coming home the next week.how will I face him. I went home,my parents were angry with me but still didn't care to know how I feel, what I wanted but happy I came home alive.

Two weeks later I noticed I was pregnant,i opened up to my man and he said"mummy,do not ever ever tell anyone what happened,this child is mine and it's going to be reason your dad will let me marry you." We hide the pregnancy till it was 6 months,then he came again but my dad stubbornly turned him down again claiming my people don't give out a pregnant woman in marriage till I deliver.

After the delivery of my son whose birthday is today too ,my dad said he is free to marry me but without the boy. He made some underground plan to send us to his mum abroad if after talking to my dad with some relations and it didn't work out. He traveled to his village(Item) to get an uncle to help talk to my dad only for him to come back poisoned,he died two days after 6 months after,i got admission for a preliminary course in fedpoly campus. My parents took my child and I went back to school.avoided men like plague,finished my study then proceeded for my OND. After my OND finals, I went home for my aunty's burial,there I met my daughter's father. He tried everything for us to date and I refused then went ahead to tell him my story. He felt pity on me (so I thought Sha). He started visiting me in school more often, giving me listening ears and all that I lack from home.
I decided to give him a chance.

One month into the relationship, I took in, told him and he asked me to get an abortion because he is from my late aunty's compound,I ran to my cousin who is also his cousin and he called for a meeting. This guy who has been pestering me, traveling all the way from Abuja to Oko to see had the guts to tell everyone present that i am a good girl but he has a fiancé he wants to marry.
When asked the way forward, he said he will do what my people call "agbachaa afo ime"(no English na for it but a kinda way of he has nothing to do with the child and the amount for that was 20k then). I didn't know if I should start crying. I cursed him in tears.
My mum said her pain was she nursed this boy in question while babysitting her elder sister's children in that compound, his own mother pleaded with him to take me as his wife but he was adamant. My dad rejected the money,we left. He warned him never to smell our compound.

I had my daughter 29th January 2004 ,her dad had accident that day, shop burnt, container lost in the sea, the girl left him one month later for his friend then he ran back to me. Begged for marriage but no, not for me, all I did was lift the curse, out of joy he said he will never get married till I do and he kept the promise. My mum started pestering me to accept a suitor, to please her I did in 2013 and by 2016 the marriage ended.
So now,i am happily single.I don't ever want to get married.

This is how I became a single mum of 2 champions,though I will never let anyone I know go through it..

wao, but why giving up? in life, never say never

choice, everyone have his/her choice.

great features, great phones but most Nigerians buy phones based on their budget that's why infinix and it's brothers are popular here.

you did read the terms and conditions before you start?

my experience is actually a positive one, I able to raise money for myself without touching it through them.

ImaIma1:
You won't mind if your friends come to visit you and you guys are all in the sitting room. And then your wife brings out her breast...nipple and all showing...not a single form of covering and she puts it in the baby's mouth. All this in the presence of your friends. You won't mind?

i won't, feeding my baby is the first priority. my Friend's wife too does that sometimes when I'm around and i dont see anything wrong with it.

PrimadonnaO:
I always think about that part. Will I one day put my hand into my dress and fling out my breast in full public glare, all in the name of breastfeeding baby?

I doubt. I'll probably pump milk into baby's bottle. Can't fling breast outside in public.

are you kidding me?

my wife does it and it's cool.

I don't bother to check talkless of catching

1, my wife
Having female friends doesn't mean you want to have sex them

your husband is the jealous type. Try to understand your partner and try not to do things that will bring suspicion


My my chat even chat with her ex, what is there to kill myself about?

both of you need serious heart to heart discussion about it, get her to talk about. thank God for you for not cheating on her. They have to be a way round it somehow.

doitforyou:
Lalopeto, the bolded is the answer. Most Nigerian marriages are dysfunctional. Husbands love and trust their mothers/family/friends/side chicks over their wives, wives pour all their love unto their children. Nigerian men are okay with the physical submission of their wives and could care less about her emotions. It’s easy to get physical submission from a Nigerian woman but it’s near impossible to command her to submit emotionally, Nigerian men have to put in the work to get emotional submission. The “work” is what Nigerian men refuse to do.

Some husbands pls, don't generalize it. Some husbands trust their wives more than anyone else

They is no excuse to cheating.

Children or no children, a good woman will not deny her husband sex.

RiyaGoddess:
Amen! I pray for their total deliverance in Jesus name

Amen