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I don't have time for negative vibe around me. If it happens, I will say "thank you, I like my baby the way he/she is", simple

Thank God my baby is cute sha, too much cuteness..

people are different, a reasonable maid will not change because she is being treated nice.

DESAN:
Amen

when one read articles like this, one have no option than to respect them, pray for them and support them. They are trying.

ImaIma1:
Lol...the dinning area, rooms, and other corners in the house have to be occupied so that she can bring out the breasts in front of your friends...I see.

Exposing the breasts is a personal thing and has nothing to do with being a good/great mother. Let's not mix the two up. When I had my baby, I was exclusive for several months and I breastfed everywhere I took her...public places, but I am conscious of my body despite the fact that I am a mother. And covering up was and is my prerogative. Besides my husband didn't like the idea of a woman exposing her body to other men all in the name of breastfeeding.

Another person can decide to just bring out her breasts for her baby and everyone. That doesn't make the person a better mum. The most important thing is feeding when needed. Whether you now expose the breasts or not is a personal thing.

The breasts I have been hiding and protecting all these years, I will now just start exposing it for every Tom , dick and Mariah because I am a mother. Iyooooo!

I can't stop laughing...nicely said "its a personal thing" but I have issues with women refusing to feed their babies (when there is no secluded place) because its an open place and they don't want to expose their breasts. My wife knows about this and I"m happy she is cooperating. I'm not saying expose breast unnecessary but feed the baby anyway you can when the baby is hungry.
being a better mum is relative but personally I feel a lady being responsive to her baby irrespective of the environment is a quality of a good mother.
my brother inlaw was once like your husband, he doesn't like my sis breastfeeding outside but over time, he became OK with it.
Yes, I don't like women exposing too much of their body in public but this is a different case. I was in a public vehicle one day and a baby was crying but the mum refused to breastfeed her, she did everything possible but the baby refused to stop because she was obviously hungry, you need to see the bashing that lady got that day from both men and women. there is nothing she didn't hear on that particular day and to me, they are right to scold her though not to the extreme. if a lady knows she can't expose her breast, she should put measures in place to feed her child when need arises and not starving the baby because she don't want to expose her breast and the place is not conducive.
my dear, with due respect, its my breast, I paid for it and so my baby should have access to it whenever he wants it. Any idiot (guy) around that wants to be stupid, its his own business.

be careful with her.

ImaIma1:
Feeding a baby is not synonymous to exposing the breasts. Your wife could as well go to the dinning table, to the room, etc except it is necessary that everyone has to see her breasts. Because it seems that people believe you must expose your breasts t the public to be termed a nursing mother

what if the "dinning table, room etc" are not available at that point.

I met a lady yesterday in a bank, her baby was so cute so I started playing with her. her transaction was taking time and the baby was crying while she was filling forms. we told her to be fast so she can feed the baby. when the baby cry increased, she hurriedly brought out her breast, collected the baby from me to start feeding her and later on, brought out handkerchief to cover her breast. That is a great mother and expect my wife to do same if the situation warrant it. Who breast help when my baby is hungry and crying? she no fit try am sef

Mrsmansson:
In order not to reveal so much info I wouldn't upload the mail he sent
This was a very nice caring man few years ago oh
Marriage na wa sha

Okay whenever we ve a fight,he would always say the number of kids I want in this life must not come from you alone

So yesterday was another argument

He sent a mail saying;

"I have to tell you this today - the number of children I need as a man I will get and it not a must that you will be their mother; it is only an opportunity that a wise woman shall cease..."


This is not the 5th time he is saying this
I jokingly told him one day,that I need 2 kids,he said 4,the next thing he said is "you can give birth to your 2kids,I can get the rest kids from anywhere

The way I hate him now,I can even plan his death.have been plotting of a good strategic way to kill him,so no one would suspect me
How can someone who claimed he loves me,just turn out to say the most hurtful things to me
So I thought we were in love,I don't understand that opportunity part

its unfortunate he made up his mind from the onset to cheat. pls clear your mind of any form of negativity pls, killing him will only put you in more trouble and sadness. Find ways of making yourself happy and take care of your kids.

Assurance and reassurance. your words and assurance will go a long way. Everyone time is different, patience is key.

marriage is not only to produce children, children are just added blessing. marriage is to be enjoyed by the 2 partners involved. I told my wife these same things before we got married.

Enough respect to all single mothers out there. May God strengthen you all and put permanent smiles in your face

SteveOfu:
My dad refused me getting married to the love of my life then saying he is too old( 34yrs) and much exposed for my age .He was a personal assistant to Abia state Governor then. I was only 16 and felt I have arrived been fiancé to such person.He cherished me. Truthfully,he never touched me.

Few weeks after,,he traveled for business promising to convince my dad on his return. My father's refusal made me stubborn, I didn't want be around my home cos their over Christian life was making them see everything in another view,i cannot confide in my late mum without getting this look of you must be like a rev in this home. so i ran to my girlfriend's house. She was about 4yrs older than I was then but my body structure made us look like age mates. She convinced me to follow her to PH for her birthday party. Didn't know I was been arranged for her boyfriend's brother.
I was drunk ,first time anyways and he took advantage of me. By morning he was apologizing and professing love and wanting to date me... begged me to take him to my home I refused. I was confused,the love of my life is coming home the next week.how will I face him. I went home,my parents were angry with me but still didn't care to know how I feel, what I wanted but happy I came home alive.

Two weeks later I noticed I was pregnant,i opened up to my man and he said"mummy,do not ever ever tell anyone what happened,this child is mine and it's going to be reason your dad will let me marry you." We hide the pregnancy till it was 6 months,then he came again but my dad stubbornly turned him down again claiming my people don't give out a pregnant woman in marriage till I deliver.

After the delivery of my son whose birthday is today too ,my dad said he is free to marry me but without the boy. He made some underground plan to send us to his mum abroad if after talking to my dad with some relations and it didn't work out. He traveled to his village(Item) to get an uncle to help talk to my dad only for him to come back poisoned,he died two days after 6 months after,i got admission for a preliminary course in fedpoly campus. My parents took my child and I went back to school.avoided men like plague,finished my study then proceeded for my OND. After my OND finals, I went home for my aunty's burial,there I met my daughter's father. He tried everything for us to date and I refused then went ahead to tell him my story. He felt pity on me (so I thought Sha). He started visiting me in school more often, giving me listening ears and all that I lack from home.
I decided to give him a chance.

One month into the relationship, I took in, told him and he asked me to get an abortion because he is from my late aunty's compound,I ran to my cousin who is also his cousin and he called for a meeting. This guy who has been pestering me, traveling all the way from Abuja to Oko to see had the guts to tell everyone present that i am a good girl but he has a fiancé he wants to marry.
When asked the way forward, he said he will do what my people call "agbachaa afo ime"(no English na for it but a kinda way of he has nothing to do with the child and the amount for that was 20k then). I didn't know if I should start crying. I cursed him in tears.
My mum said her pain was she nursed this boy in question while babysitting her elder sister's children in that compound, his own mother pleaded with him to take me as his wife but he was adamant. My dad rejected the money,we left. He warned him never to smell our compound.

I had my daughter 29th January 2004 ,her dad had accident that day, shop burnt, container lost in the sea, the girl left him one month later for his friend then he ran back to me. Begged for marriage but no, not for me, all I did was lift the curse, out of joy he said he will never get married till I do and he kept the promise. My mum started pestering me to accept a suitor, to please her I did in 2013 and by 2016 the marriage ended.
So now,i am happily single.I don't ever want to get married.

This is how I became a single mum of 2 champions,though I will never let anyone I know go through it..

wao, but why giving up? in life, never say never

choice, everyone have his/her choice.

great features, great phones but most Nigerians buy phones based on their budget that's why infinix and it's brothers are popular here.

you did read the terms and conditions before you start?

my experience is actually a positive one, I able to raise money for myself without touching it through them.

ImaIma1:
You won't mind if your friends come to visit you and you guys are all in the sitting room. And then your wife brings out her breast...nipple and all showing...not a single form of covering and she puts it in the baby's mouth. All this in the presence of your friends. You won't mind?

i won't, feeding my baby is the first priority. my Friend's wife too does that sometimes when I'm around and i dont see anything wrong with it.

PrimadonnaO:
I always think about that part. Will I one day put my hand into my dress and fling out my breast in full public glare, all in the name of breastfeeding baby?

I doubt. I'll probably pump milk into baby's bottle. Can't fling breast outside in public.

are you kidding me?

my wife does it and it's cool.

I don't bother to check talkless of catching

1, my wife
Having female friends doesn't mean you want to have sex them

your husband is the jealous type. Try to understand your partner and try not to do things that will bring suspicion


My my chat even chat with her ex, what is there to kill myself about?

both of you need serious heart to heart discussion about it, get her to talk about. thank God for you for not cheating on her. They have to be a way round it somehow.

doitforyou:
Lalopeto, the bolded is the answer. Most Nigerian marriages are dysfunctional. Husbands love and trust their mothers/family/friends/side chicks over their wives, wives pour all their love unto their children. Nigerian men are okay with the physical submission of their wives and could care less about her emotions. It’s easy to get physical submission from a Nigerian woman but it’s near impossible to command her to submit emotionally, Nigerian men have to put in the work to get emotional submission. The “work” is what Nigerian men refuse to do.

Some husbands pls, don't generalize it. Some husbands trust their wives more than anyone else

They is no excuse to cheating.

Children or no children, a good woman will not deny her husband sex.

RiyaGoddess:
Amen! I pray for their total deliverance in Jesus name

Amen

AwkaetitiBabe:
Yes o. I guess u your boss

kind of

JoanHicks:
How come rich dudes don't complain about girls being hard to get

If you know you know

personally, I think they patronise prostitute more

AwkaetitiBabe:
Mine is inside my box gathering dust...

7yrs after graduation, I've not gone to collect my result. Funny right?

midnighter:
Extreme version of rubbish... there should be jubilating people from every region in the federation rushing to welcome her if she is serious

She is not only the first lady of the north

What is the essence of gathering to take a family photo and tagging it "jubilation"? In fact let me post the pictures I took with my mother after she returned from a long trip to the market

....Total and arrant rubbish

This your name eee 'midnighter'

Simplep:
May God forgive us all

Amen

chiommy123:
May God help us. Its easier said than done cos even in the body of Christ brothers pressure the sisters into committing fornication and out there when you say you left someone cos of sex people look at you like you're not serious

you're right, its always not easy but with God all things are possible. Anything morally and biblical right is not easy, you will hear and see things but if your mind is made up, it will pass

RiyaGoddess:
Two nights ago, I saw a headline on gay sex. It was a gory narration of a person first gay sex. What I read that night really messed my mind till date. I really weep for everyone still in that web. I still think what I read was a stylish way of promoting gayism though that might not be the writer intent but some persons might read and be curious as the narrator in that thread said some persons are Bicurious Lols.

What I am going to say below will offend some persons I'm sorry but the truth must be told.

Anal Sex, Homosexuality, Lesbianism, what is God take on it? Is it a sin? Is it wrong? Is it an abomination?

Now go with me to the book of Romans Chapter 1 verse 26 and 27. I will read it in different translation so we can all understand what it says.

Romans 1:26-27 The Message Translation.
Worse followed. Refusing to know God, they soon didn’t know how to be human either—women didn’t know how to be women, men didn’t know how to be men. Sexually confused, they abused and defiled one another, women with women, men with men—all lust, no love. And then they paid for it, oh, how they paid for it—emptied of God and love, godless and loveless wretches.

Romans 1:26-27 New Living translation
that is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this sin, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved.

Romans 1:26-27 New King James Version
For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. Now what is this penalty? Read it again, they all received PENALTY, DUE PUNISHMENT, THEY PAID FOR IT... What is that Penalty?The penalty is all the diseases, malfunction, infections derived from this shameful act etc.

Ok the key thing that I want you all to see here is that, GOD GAVE THEM OVER ! So anybody into homosexuality and lesbianism,God has given them over to degrading and vile passions to a reprobate mind. My dear, it is not a natural mind that thinks of sex with same gender. Please open your dictionary and check the meaning of vile. God gave them over to their vile affection. So I want us to look at what the word vile actually means. Sincerely if you all know what it means,then you will understand the gravity of what Paul was saying there.

Let's see the meaning of vile; Extremely Unpleasant, Morally Bad, Wicked, Little Worth of Value, Foul, Nasty, Nauseating, Abominable, Dreadful, Offensive, Disgusting, Distasteful, Sickling, Mean, Stinky, Wretched, Disgraceful, Hateful, Shocking etc.
What I want you all to know about anal sex is that, there is a muscle in the anus called phalas or something. I don't know the right spelling but doctors in the house understands what I mean or anyone can help me with the right spelling. Now the primary purpose of that muscle is to keep the anus closed after going to the rest room to excrete waste. That is the purpose of it and once that thing is destroyed, you leave your anus opened to Hepatitis, opened to HIV, opened to all kinds of infections and diseases. That place was designed by God to be an outpost location. It is actually an outpost location. It is an outpost for things to go out. It is not a place for things to go in through. Shey una dey get am so? Poo comes out through the anus and not go in abi una think say God wey create you even put anus there no get sense ni? THE ANUS IS NOT MEANT FOR THRUSTING!

Now to all husbands demanding anal sex from their wives please for God sake Stop it ! It is 100% wrong. You are not in anyway different from the men having sex with men. God didn't design the woman anus for sex but instead, God designed the woman by giving her the vaginal and clitoris. The clitoris is not in the anus neither is the vaginal in the anus. That is why a man forcing/ pressurizing his wife for anal sex is a wicked man knowingly or unknowingly. You are hurting that woman and you are not pleasuring the woman. As a fact, you are only pleasuring yourself and that's why you always need a Vaseline to enter into the anus simply because the anus wasn't designed to receive thrusting. So please desist from this act. Stop/Stay away from anal sex you are only hurting yourself by doing that and you are hurting the woman, or the man or boy you are having anal sex with.

Now everything God created, the devil will always bring a falsification and adulteration to that thing. For example, those who say they were born that way hahahahahaha I laugh in heavenly tongues, Nobody as in NO HUMAN WAS BORN A GAY! Take it to the bank. The truth is that everything God created the devil adulterate and anal sex, same gender sex is one of the adulteration of the original. Please guys stay away from it. As in run away from it. Homosexuality, Lesbianism, Flee from it! Sex is meant for a man and a woman, husband and wife Not man and man, woman and woman. So please let's stop it. It is part of what is called abomination. Anal sex/Same gender sex is not just a sin, it is an abomination! Sexual pervasion is an abomination. 2 some, 3 some, 4some, 5 some and what have you are all abomination! All these things are all abomination!

The truth is, when you begin to accept something unpleasant, it means something has first of all happen to your nature. I mean when you begin to take as pleasant something that is originally unpleasant, what it means is that something has happened to your nature that now makes you to accept what is against the law/norm as normal. So as I have said, please run away from it biko. You really do not have any reason to be gay, no reason to be homosexual, no reason to be a lesbian or Bicurious as I learnt in the other thread I made mention of. You have no reason to have anal sex with your spouse not for any reason under the sun! Wives if your husband is pressuring you for anal sex, please threaten to report him! I am certain he wont want anybody to hear of such disgusting act...There is no pleasure in it. That pleasure you think you are getting, let me just tell you, it is a demon that is getting that pleasure through you. It is a demon that is just using your body to satisfy its own demonic intent. Take note of that! Anywhere something like that is, if there is already a demonic activity, it is no longer natural. That is why it's said to be unnatural, it is against the normal cause. A person engaging in anal sex, homosexuality, lesbianism, all other sexual pervasion, it is an evil spirit that is working through you/persons to satisfy its own personal cravings so please run away from it. Stop it!

And if you are already involved in it, be it before or at present/Now, Please Repent from it. Go for deliverance at any of the living church around you or you can write to me please take note that everything discussed will be treated confidential and with empathy. Please get or seek help/delivered because you are on another level. I am not even talking about the normal sexual offences, yours is tertiary. You are not in primary or secondary, you are in tertiary. IT IS WORST! If there is anything above tertiary, I would have used it.

I pray this message ministers to everyone trapped in this bondage in Jesus name.
God Bless you.

Shilekunola.

God bless you my dear. I wonder how a man will see another man to be attractive sexually. May God help our generation

Onyi22:
So, I should go to church without a bra?

No, go to church and talk about Brest cancer awareness.

missjo:
These people turned something so serious into a joke. I am offended.

pls don't be offended, just focus on the positive side which is the awareness.