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Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

The handwriting is on the wall dear, kindly and softly withdraw your attention and love before it leads to frustration and depression

Boyziimen l''ll make love to you

Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?

Please how can one go about the business of petroleum exportation to benin?

Oluwaseunshaybi:
It was undergraduate student visa. I didn’t use agent, I got all info from nairaland and voya website
Surprisingly it only took two weeks. I got my passport 1 week after applying and got approval mail the next week

Pls can you share more light on this process, the school, documents to submit, tuition fees and every other thing necessarily needed for admission into the school, thanks.

Lucasmuyiwaa:
What happened was that my Dad collected a brand new iPhone I bought from me February last year all because some uncivilized people like him keeps telling him the phone I use is very expensive and said it’s used by yahoo boys and which my Dad hate the word YAHOO.

Though , I felt very sad wondering why he would collect a phone from a 27 years old Son.

I pleaded to him severally to please give me back the phone and I also sent some of his friends which they value each other to him to please help me beg him to return the phone but he keeps telling them he’s not gonna give me and instead get me a small phone that doesn’t browse so as to stop having internet access.

After many Months of using a small Android phone which is very uncomfortable for me and hoping I will gather some money and get a better phone for myself anytime soon.

I waited for some months but couldn’t afford a better phone cuz I don’t want to buy a very low budget phone since I’m addicted to smooth browsing on my IPhone.

Then I tried to find solution for myself by going to find the iPhone he seized in his room even though I don’t enter his room anyhow.

God so good i got into his room when everyone wasn’t aware and I found the phone where he kept it and took it.

I started having conscience on it and asking myself if I’ve messed up.

I came to Nairaland to ask what I should do maybe to return the phone or keep it with me.

I found out some people blamed me for invading his room and getting m my stuff.

Some people told me to return it and never do that again.

when I was going to return the phone I found out that the whole house are back and it’s not possible to go there that time.

I don’t know what to do because it was a luck that nobody was at home that day.

I reasoned to my self maybe I should go and deliver the phone to him myself fearing if he found out the phone is no more there the issue will escalate and will be too late.

The next morning I took the phone to him and told him I find it using a device on the phone with another phone to track it.

He was very annoyed and said what I did was bad with a very cool voice and gave me the phone back himself.

After few hours he called me and said he put some Saudi Money (Riyadh) in the carton he hide my phone and he couldn’t find the money there and asked me if I took it.

I sensed he was trying to tell me that in order to know what I did was bad.

I told him I didn’t take any money there and I honestly didn’t see any money there.

He let me leave and said he will try to find it very well later.

Then just today he called my married elder sister to come to our house and wanted to have a meeting with us cuz we are just two from our late mother.

From his speech he said he can’t be seeing me not working since I’m a graduate and I should find something doing.

He knew I was into exportation of Petrol to Cotonou before the work stopped due to border close down and too much customs officials on the road.

So he started insulting me I’m just being idle and don’t want to work because I’m getting money from yahoo because he returned my phone to me to have internet access.

I accepted all the insults he did to me and didn’t argue with him not until he said if I’m a good boy I won’t go into his room to take my phone and even take his money he kept there the other day.

I then knew he meant that word that I took his money again and which I didn’t even take or see.

Then he began raining insults on me and begin to lay emphasis on the money that I took my phone and his money.

At this point I was very mad and couldn’t hold myself from keeping silence and then I had to break it.

I told him I can take everything he do to me but accusing me wrongfully I will never take that with a mini voice and suddenly wanted to hit me which I run from him to escape.

On running through the steps, he suddenly grab the big stool in the sitting room and dropped it on my head which nearly hit me . (If that stool hit me I don’t know what will happen to me )

But I managed to escape and he started raining curses on me and insulting my late mother for giving him a son like me.

My sister was there too and all she kept saying was I’m very rude to disclaim the accusations and defending myself and she also start insulting me that how dare should I talk when he’s talking.

After few insults he gave me so he came downstairs and started insulting me again while I stand not too far from him.

He quickly picked up a very big stone and a big plank on the floor threw at me which if these two objects meet me I will still be bleeding by now.

He told me with anger that I’m a bastard and cursed me saying it will not better for me and we can never sleep together in the house today and he left and went out.

So my stepmother returned and I narrated everything to her and made her known I’m leaving the house to avoid unnecessary violence again because I’ve been planning to leave the house due to everyday arguments and his nags.

The stepmother told me not to leave the house and rather he will talk to him and calm him down and everything will be fine.

I already made my mind to leave the house and stay at the hotel for some days because my friend which I could go and stay with has traveled last week and said he will be back today.

I got to the hotel and booked the room and having some rests then I saw my stepmother call and she said I should come home and we need to talk.

I sensed maybe she was trying to set me up and I told her I’m at where I’m going to sleep tonight because I just don’t want to come home today.

She said I shouldn’t even think that way and promised me nothing is going to happen.

I believed her because she knows I respected her and I knows she likes me.

Then she told me to come home and sleep and assure me no violence will happen as she just need to talk to me privately which I don’t have idea what else she want to tell me .

Now should I go home or just sleep at the hotel and probably not going to go to that house again soon if I sleep at the hotel today ?

First thing first, pls go back to him and apologize for talking back at him and then when he is calmed, try and tell him to remove the curses laid on you because whether you believe it or not, they would eventually affect your life so please do anything to appease him and get him eraze the curses.

Freshint:
It's true bro.. But I am not going there anymore.. I will channel all my focus to UK now

Why the change of mind?

Vietnaminfo:
What is your qualification?

BSc degree

good4all40:
It's actually 3 months that's 90 days at a stretch

And you will never be treated like a suspect in any point of entry of any country of the World.

Benin Republic passport is a very good passport but also one of hardest to get in West Africa if you are not qualified to get it.

You can be qualified if one of your parents is a Beninoise, marriage and birth. Republic of Benin is one of the countries in West Africa that grants citizenship via birth.

So if you have a pregnant � wife, you can take her there to deliver your baby lol.

Really?

Dhamih101:
I will suggest Egypt for them as a teacher. They will make good money here teaching only English in Egypt. They should be making nothing less than 700 to 1000 dollars monthly.

Are you in Egypt at the moment?
How do one go about their visa?

Vietnaminfo:
I wish to advice you before you are mislead. There is no hustling here in Vietnam apart from Drugs, Scam or doing bussines. Toeing the line of drug or scam is as worst as being dead. There is no job in Vietnam for foreigners except English teaching jobs. Vietnam has passed a new immigration law which added to the required documents one need to have as a non Native English speakers. Before you are allowed to work as a teacher, you need to have a valid work permit, have a decent accent and have experience of asia ways of teaching. To find teaching jobs now as black man is very hard. You can not work on a student visa, Tourist visa and the likes without a valid work permit. The minimum amount paid to Non Native speaker is from $800 which is $8 per hour times 100 hours a month. If you have bussines in Nigeria, you can come on 3 month bussines visa and be shipping goods from here to Nigeria. Tourist Visa for Nigeria is no more obtainable. This information i gave you now is as fresh as early morning palm wine which you can make more enquires on your own. I base there and that is why i took out time to advise you properly before you make a mistake and started cursing your agent. You are free to ask any question you wish and i will answer you here. No one should inbox me please.

How can one get Vietnam visa?

businesshub101:
Ghana is a generally peaceful country.

It's no different from Nigeria because it's also in Africa, but trust me, their system works better than us.

The electricity is pretty stable.
Security is best
You can walk at anytime of the day.

If you're open and sincere, Ghanaians will stand by you.

Just get a good job doing.

Generally, You survive in Ghana if you come do business. No job here like that oh..

Ghana babes love Nigerian guys, but brother.. no cheating cause e no go too help u as Nigerian, rather e go cast u and to go jail for strange land no good.

On a lighter note, Ghana is save for you if you behave sane.

Alright, thank you very much, from your writeup, you said you have been to the different regions over there, please can you tell us more about takoradi as compared to Accra in terms of cost of living and business prospects, thanks.

businesshub101:
I'm still available for all your inquiries.

Hello, thank you for this nice thread created to enlighten us all about Ghana relocation, please I'd like to know the pros and cons of living in Ghana, the best place to settle among the regions where one can comfortably do business with much issue and then the kind of business that sells well over there and lastly the benefits of marrying their women or getting a kid there, thanks.

TheLastQueen:
Am from Akwa ibom. I own a Nigeria restaurant and live alone

Hello pls give me your digits, I need to talk to you.

Hello good morning all, please I am in need of a job, I have BSc chemistry and have several years of experience working in schools and other firms.

emetisuccess:
Leave that part, just come to Akwa ibom and experience life in heaven.

Tell us more about it

grafixdon:
I'd advice you move to osogbo instead, I've lived in both states and I can tell you that the cost of living in Akure is too expensive, foods are very expensive, they hardly have light. Go to osogbo, you'll love the atmosphere, very quiet without gbas gbos, and the light there is better than any state in South West.

Whatever decision you make, I wish you best of luck

Tell us more about osogbo

emerged01:
I didnt see this coming. I opened this thread to gain something but I felt bad seeing knowledgeable people behaving like animals.

Pls can you tell why you are relocating to Akure before someone's son make the mistake of going to Kano

LordLugard1:
Today I tender My Resignation From The Nigeria Police

My name is pc Ukwu Chiemezie. I was enlisted into the Nigeria Police on the 1/2/2018, prior to joining the Nigeria Police I was working at a warehouse in Lagos earning at least N5000 a day but for the sake of my future I decided to apply to be recruited into the Nigeria Police Force.
After all the screening exercises I was enlisted and to move to training college within a week. We had 6 months training after that we pass out and I was posted to Anambra State. I started working in Anambra without accomodation. I had to took a N60,000 loan from my brother to rent a one room apartment.
I worked for 4 months before we were paid together with the areas.
Federal Government paid me N45,000 monthly so I was paid N180,000 for the four months.Out of this I paid my brother the loan of N50,000 I got from him. I used the rest to purchase furniture for the room.
Do you believe that since that first payment I have not been able to buy anything again?
Monthly salary of N45,000 is equal to a daily salary of N1500
Out of the N1500 since l am at work most of the time, I worked 12hours everyday. There are some officers that work for 24hours. So because of this I eat outside most of the time.
A plate of food is N400 times 3 square meals is N1200 and the remaining N300 is what I used for transportation.
That's how I spent the daily N1500 Federal Government is paying me. Nothing remain to buy drink like other Nigerians, nothing to buy uniform as we are not being given. Nothing to save. Or even for hospital if I am sick, not to talk of assisting my family and friends.
I was doing better when I was working in a warehouse earning N5000 daily or more occasionally.

Nigerian Police is the worst paid security organisation in the whole of Africa with little or no pension.
As I'm writing now I'm owning my landlord 2 years rent. Where will I get the money?
You can only survive in the police force through corruption. If you refused to be corrupt you will pass through financial hell.
The government had left police on the mercy of corruption.
Every police officer in Nigeria is on psychological strike.
There can never be a better security in Nigeria with this treatment mated out to them.

I had three option and I have chosen one

Option 1
To be corrupt so as to be able to meet up my financial obligations

Option 2
To be attached to a politician so as to become his/her house boy in other to get tokens from them

Option 3
To resign from the work.

I have taken option 3 and have said bye bye to a job that I cannot pay my house rent or go to the hospital if I am sick.

Where is the warehouse please?

antivirushop:
i know an importer that brings in different designs of shirts upto 20000pcs everyweek, many sllers from lagos,abuja,kano,aba,benin are trooping in everyweek to buy these shirts. if,u,need let me know, only serious people not, time wasters

I need o but how much does he sell, let me know, also how much can one get an accommodation in Nkpor axis?

Jhaybreel:
I have been selected. I wrote my aptitude test on Saturday 5th March 2022. They review applications every 2 weeks, if your application is outstanding with the required document intact. Workforce will contact you for aptitude test.

Hello brother, pls can you link me up to the site through which I can apply, thanks?

babaalagbo1:
Many factors can affect your erection,that can lead to erectile dysfunction too....if you're having any issue with your erection at all,either due to masturbation,pornography or stress...i have herbal solution to that,contact me and you'll be glad you did....there's also newly formulated concoction using BURANTASHI root and other local ingredients to complete it's work and make it very effective.you'll last several hours,controls your weak erection,Erectile dysfunction,always experience your early morning erection and also premature ejaculation.contact me for yours,delivery nationwide.you will thank me later.

How much is it?

BKsoul:
Go and buy ginger sticks.

What does it do and how do one use it?

MercyQuinn:
Aboki they sell on wheel barrow in the market

Ok

MercyQuinn:
The normal coconuts and tiger nuts blend it together

Where can one see these dates to buy?

MercyQuinn:
Buy dates tiger nuts and coconut from any malam around
Blend it together and drink the juice before sex. It’s the girl that will be begging you to cum

Really?

Ade3131:
@ Op,

I've dated 2 none Nigerian African girls. One a South African (now an ex) and the other a Tanzanian girl (the one I really want to marry). So far, They're both sweet in their respective ways but the only challenge I'm facing right now is how to get married to the Tanzanian girl and reside in her country with her because of her job which we both agreed she should keep.

Her country has a very strict law for immigrants and have Nigeria on her blacklist. Meaning people from here are required to come to Tanzania only through referral visa or what we call 'visa by invitation'. And marrying a Tanzanian woman doesn't amount to having a citizenship status like it is in other African countries, and this has been our greatest challenge right now but we both really want to end up together.

I will be glad to hear any advice you have for us please. Thank you.

where are you based at the moment?

gibzzhd:
Ignatius Ajiru University. They are very fast. I started the program in April and just finished 2nd semester exams. I'm done with course work and all that is left is my project then I roll over into the M.sc program. I most admit that it's expensive. Tution is #145k and so far I have spent over #300k. But no regrets because they are fast here unlike the overrated uniport that you would spend 2-3 years doing the same program

Wow,that's nice, please I'd like to discuss mor with you, can you drop your email address so as I could mail you.

gibzzhd:
My encouragement woul be the way I have encouraged myself. I work in a school we're most of my colleagues have 2.1,2.2 and even Masters. My principal is on a PHD program and her salary isn't far from mine. So why my worries after all. I'm doing a PGd program and most of my colleagues are working in Federal and state agencies and even banks. One is working in NLG with the same 3rd class. So I told myself with the right placement your certificates don't matter. So any one who is telling me I can't work in a good place because of my result just don't want to help.

Where are you doing the PGD and how much is the tuition fee?

Janadozz:
I am a third class student having B. Sc in Physics. Before my I have been teaching before admission, during studies and after graduation. I spent most of my time in school for knowledge not education.
Today I teach in one of the best schools at Oyigbo. I am very good in sciences.
Please leave certificate and get knowledge.

Una no dey find teachers for the school,I dey look for teaching job o I still study chemistry.

Dizzyish:
Please I need advice, any advice.
I graduated with a 3rd class in Chemistry from three years ago (I only blame myself for that) and after I finished my NYSC a year ago I just plunged into a depressive state in regards to my mistake (my education) and my future (career) sometimes breaking down in tears when I think of things I've taken for granted in my life.

I started working on myself a few months ago and I've made some progress I proud of but every now and then it's easy to be overwhelmed with self doubt.
I made a cv without work experience along with a cover letter a few days ago and applied for a few entry level jobs like graduate intern, sales, restaurant supervisor etc via jobberman and the companies email but I'm not too sure I'll be getting any calls from them.
I didn't come here to get sympathy just an honest advice or opinion on what to do.

Can I do a pgd in chemical engineering or just chemistry or pursue a business or computer/tech course, are there jobs I can get with my degree maybe to get skills and work experience?
I deeply appreciate any advice. Thank you.

Drop me your email address let me mail you right away,I need to talk to you and it's very important.

Benard5050:
Pls msg me privately on WhatsApp.

Drop your WhatsApp digits pls

walkbrazil4k:
Different countries have their rules

Why are writing this your stories scattered all over the place,why not concentrate on travel section and share your experience in a meaningful way please.