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TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE RITES IN UMUDIOKA, DUNUKOFIA LOCAL GOVERNMENT AREA OF ANAMBRA STATE

Umudioka town is a community situated in Anambra central senatorial district, which is also under Dunukofia LGA in Anambra State. In this write-up, I will narrate the traditional marriage process of Umudioka Town.
In many parts of the world, a marriage ceremony is mainly an affair between the bride and groom, but in igboland, parents of the couple, their extended families, villagers and towns people play active roles in traditional marriage ceremony.

Ndị Umudioka (also known as Ezebo ) are from the eastern region of Nigeria, and the traditional marriage rite in this part of the counrty is usually very festive and colourful.
In the olden days in Umudioka , traditional marriages used to be arranged by the parents of the future bride and groom, after careful investigations into the background of both families. These days, however, young men and women are now free to choose whoever they want to get married to, with parental approval.
Despite the seeming change in the method of choosing a spouse, the Umudioka culture has been sustained, where traditional marriage is concerned. The process involves different stages.


STAGE ONE: IKU AKA (VISIT TO POTENTIAL IN-LAWS)

When a man meets a woman he likes and wants to marry, he informs his parents of his intentions. The man then goes with his parents and other family members to the woman’s house to notify her parents or guardians of their interest and to ask for their consent to marry their daughter. When going on such a visit, the man will take the following items along ; Wine/Hot drink, kola nuts, one cartoon of beer and one cartoon of mineral, to present to the woman, her parents and other family members.,

When the intentions of the man has been known, the woman’s parents will usually not give an immediate answer and will tell the man’s parents to return at a later date. Before the date of the next visit, the family of the woman will take that time to look into and investigate the history and background of the man’s family. They will use the time to find out about the man’s personality what he does for a living among other issues and also extend their investigation to other members of his family.

It should also be noted that the man’s family would have done a similar check on the woman their son intends to marry before visiting her parents and making their intentions known.


STAGE TWO: ACCEPTANCE OF PROPOSAL (NOT TOO IMPORTANT IN THESE MORDEN DAYS)

When both families are satisfied with their findings on each other’s background, they will meet again on the date set for a return visit. Once again the man’s family will state their intentions and will come along with more gifts this time including palm wine, dry drinks, soft drinks and other items.

At this point, the woman is called in by her family members to be part of the meeting and is told about the man’s intentions to marry her. If she accepts his proposal the gifts that were brought will be shared immediately among the family members. If for whatever reason the woman does not accept his proposal, then the meeting will come to an end and all talks about marriage will be over and done with.

In a situation where their daughter is not around because she does not live with them, the parents will tell the man’s family they will have to get in touch with them later and give them an answer. If they get a positive reaction, then proceedings will move to the next stage which is to set a bride price to be paid by the man who intends to marry their daughter.



STAGE THREE: IRU ỌNỤ NWAANYỊ NA IBU EGO (PAYING OF BRIDE PRICE)

Once both families have decided to be in-laws, the next stage involves the woman’s family setting a bride price which they feel is befitting of their daughter to be paid by her husband to be.

In Umudioka town, bride price is not that high when compared to other towns in the Eastern part of the country. Also what the man will be asked to pay in terms of cash or goods or both may vary from family to family.

It should be noted that setting a bride price does not mean the parents of the girl plan to sell off their daughter, far from it, the bride price just indicates that they appreciate their daughter as whatever is paid cannot be said to be the value of their daughter.

With that stated, there are times when the bride price is negotiated especially if the man and his family feel they may have been asked to pay a lot of money .
The family of the woman may set a high bride price if they feel their daughter has accomplished a lot in life or if she is well educated and has a good job. They can also set a high bride price if they feel she has been brought up and raised properly by them and has the virtues every man looks for in a wife.

On the other hand, the man’s family will also present their own case by presenting their son as a man worthy to take care of any woman as his wife. They can also present other attributes that the man possesses to state their case for a reduction of the bride price.

This can go on for some time before a price is finally agreed. Other items involved in the bride paying ceremony includes, 20 liters of palm wine, two cartoons of beer, one cartoon of Stout, one cartoon of mineral, one bottle of St Remy, Kola nuts to be accompanied with not less than #200.


STAGE FOUR: EWU NNA (KILLING OF KINDRED GOAT)

This stage is called igbu ewu nna, because it is solemn for the kindred of the bride. Sometimes, The groom can combine stage three and four together, depending on the agreements between the two families. Once you have performed this stage, it is assumed that you have officially completed the marriage rites of the bride, because in this stage, a prayer is being said by the elders of the kindred for their daughter and they do bless their in-law. Once you have done this stage, any child from their union is automatically the groom’s child.

The items for this stage are divided into two, one for men of the kindred and the other for the women of the kindred;
For Men: one big castrated goat (Ewu Hausa), 10 big tubers of yam, one big cock, four cartoons of beer(mixed), two cartoons of malt, one cartoon of Stout, two cartoons of mineral, one bottle of St Remy, 20 liters of palm wine, kola nuts.
For Women (Ife Nkpuke) : 10 big tubers of yam, one big cock, one cartoon of malt, one cartoon of mineral, one thousand naira, one piece of hollandes (wrapper), kola nuts.


STAGE FIVE : ỊGBA NKWU NWAANYỊ (THE TRADITIONAL WEDDING CEREMONY)

In the final stage of the traditional marriage rites, the groom will go to the house of the bride-to-be with his immediate and extended family, villagers and towns people with the above items. Host families will prepare different kinds of indigenous dishes to entertain their guests. Both families and their extended families including members of their communities will eat, dance and drink together.
The traditional wedding ceremony is usually a fun filled event with a lot of happy faces, people gorgeously dressed with a lot of good food to eat and lovely music to listen and dance to.

A major aspect of the traditional wedding is the wine carrying part. This is an aspect of the traditional wedding ceremony most brides will never forget and even the groom as it ignites a lot of fun and excitement.

The bride is given a cup of palm wine by her father or a male member in her family. She is then told in front of the guests that they do not know who her husband is and will like her to fish him out for all to see and present him with the cup of wine.

At this point in time the groom would be hiding among the guests as part of the fun to make it difficult for his wife to locate him. When the wife finally finds her husband, she will kneel down before him and a take a sip of the wine and give him the rest to drink which he will finish. Afterwards, the bride and groom will dance along with their family members.
The following are items for the ịgba nkwu ceremony ; 80 liters of palm wine, 12 cartoons of beer, 2 cartoons of Stout, 2 cartoons malt, 8 cartoons of mineral.

NKWU EKPERE (FORMERLY KNOWN AS ITU NKWU)
This stage is being done within the day of the traditional marriage. After every merriment on that day the groom, bride and few representatives from both families will gather together and say their final prayers and give blessings to the newly married couple. During the ceremony, the bride and the groom will be asked to kneel down. The parents and elders in the family of both the bride and groom will pray for the newlyweds and the for success of their marriage.
The items for these stage are; 20 liters of palm wine, one cartoon of beer, one bottle of St Remy, kola nuts, two rolls of tobacco (isi ụtaba), two packets of cigarettes, Ego ndị Nze #500, Ego Umuokolobia #500, Ego Umuagbogbo #500, Chencheghanata #100, Ego Otiti okpili #100.

When the ceremony is over, the bride will go home with the family of the groom signifying that the two are now husband and wife.

IDU UNO/MMALU UNO (SETTLING THE BRIDE BY HER FAMILY / VISITATION TO THE GROOMS HOUSE BY THE BRIDES FAMILY)
In Umudioka town , "Idu Uno" is practiced. Idu Uno is when the family of the bride officially goes and visit the home where their daughter will be living. Note that the previous ceremony and meetings took place in the bride's family home.

The bride's family buys cooking utensils, bed-sheets, boxes, sewing machine, bed, pillow cases, plates, clothes and other things newly married couples need to start a life and family.

Also, the bride's family along with their extended families sets a date to visit the couple with all the goods they bought. On "Idu Uno" day, the wife's family will give the newly married couple all the things they bought for them.

This is usually done to give newly married couple a head start by defraying some of their expenses. Marriage ceremonies in Umudioka can be a long and expensive undertaking, but they are usually worth every kobo., because our daughters are the best to get married to.

Mgbatogu Victor Chukwudi (Observer)
Umudioka, Dunukọfịa LGA, Anambra State

First of all, Google brought me here. My fiancee is from Oyi in Anambra. Investigations have brought me here as the closet place. Abeg bros, is this the same with Oyi, I'm planning to close this as soon as possible.
Thanks.

BSsniffer:
Many Nigerians think Fulani are clannish. Some are. But there are other ethnic nations that are MORE tribalistic. It is not apparent because they are not in power. Give them power and it will become obvious. The least tribalistic nationality in Nigeria are Yoruba.

#TableShaker

https://mobile.twitter.com/renoomokri/status/1447538520801882114

But this the unfortunate truth.

This is some painful sh*t to read. The elders say, "that someone who was insulted and told the he/she would be useless and that person actually ends up being useless is worst than a fool"

Continue.

This is some painful sh*t to read.

wirinet:
So it was Joe igbokwe that turned IPOB to a terrorist organization?

Please next time read digest before go on an attack spree.



Thank you.

Truth be told, Joe Igbokwe had this coming for a long time now.
But it's shameful to watch as ipob gently turn from a peaceful organization into what it is today.

MelesZenawi:
See the terrorist Ipob organization (ESN) celebrating in onitsha after murdering not less than 7 persons including Dora Akunyili husband.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsySuYTI26o

They came under pretence of fighting non existent Fulani herdsmen in the bush, how many times have we ever seen Ipob-ESN terrorist In the forest fighting the fictitious herdsmen.

They were the persons doing the killings on first instance, today they are now moving from city to city wasting innocent lives.

Maybe late Dora Akunyili Husband was a terrorist fulani herdsmen who attacked a forest in Nkpor with his cows and killed the community members.

I never knew a day like this will ever come, a day I will say I'm ashamed of being an Igbo man What a shame. Ihere eme gbuola mụ ebe a.

MALIGNANTGuest:
What are they really complaining about?

I wonder? The students wey vote am dey mad? There are so many people that look way older than their age, this girl should be in her mid-20's, so what's all these noise about?This shaming just has to stop. The hypocrisy of Nigerians is out of this world, and it's becoming disturbing.

FutureIsFemale:
A Nigerian man who had accused a pastor of destroying his marital home by marrying his wife of 12 years, is set to tie the knot with another lady, WonderTV Media reports.

Barely two months after the accusation, the Nigerian man, Ben Bright Orlu, has found love with a new lady.

In early August, Ben had called out Pastor Moses Adeeyo of World Bank Assembly in Eneka, Obio/Akpor Local Government Area in Rivers State for marrying his wife of 12 years.

Mr. Ben Bright seems to have moved on and is set to remarry.

Ben's pre-wedding photos and traditional wedding invite were shared on Facebook by a Facebook user who celebrated the couple.

Ben’s wedding to his new lover, Justina Oko, will take place on Saturday 25th September, 2021, in Unwana, Afikpo North Local Government Area in Ebony State.

Acknowledging the congratulatory message from the Facebook user, Ben’s shared the post with the caption “Than”.

https://.com/man-who-accused-a-pastor-of-marrying-his-wife-sets-to-wed-a-new-lady/

These people, as in all of them, the pastor, the ex-wife, the man, the new wife, the church members......... Infact all of them have no shame.

nairavsdollars:
laughs...Hope the Olu of Warri didn't place a curse on him sha

You guys have terrible imaginations sha. But finally Ayiri don old pass this kin thing sha.

Chizuru01:
Many African Women are not just good at leadership. Just watch out.

It's either they are over strict even in places they shouldn't or they over loot the money.

I just had to search for this comment from 2019, guy you be prophet. This woman don finish Uniben.

Karemarealty288:
Ayiri ....A story of grass to grace to Royalty and back to commoner.....na him yansh dey wan open so...

The last haven't been heard of this, expect more drama in the days to come. But I foresee the total and utter destruction of the structure called ayiri, that guy over do. He is about to meet his Waterloo.

Who are these guys deceiving? There is little or no oil in the Gongola basin of the upper Benue through, even a layman can understand these indices. At worst they may have gas reserves but that's even doubtful.
These guys should just continue siphoning money in the name of exploration.



God is watching.

fergie0o1:
SOURCE

We tried to warn the Americans, but nooo! Trump is a slowpoke and needs to be disgraced out of office. Well, this is the beginning of sorrows for the Americans, Biden is an over paid political coward. Yes, Trump initiated the withdrawal of American forces from Afghanistan, but he would not have handed over power to the Taliban along with American military hardware. Biden/Harris is a cocktail of disaster.

Is this man suffering from dual personality disorder?

Femi Fani-Kayode [PHOTO CREDIT: @realFFK]
Femi Fani-Kayode [PHOTO CREDIT: @realFFK]

‘Shame on you’: Fani-Kayode tells Zamfara deputy gov over refusal to defect
Mr Fani-Kayode, a member of the PDP, accuses the Zamfara deputy governor of disloyalty for refusing to defect to the APC with Governor Matawalle.
BySamson Adenekan August 25, 2021 3 min read
A former aviation minister, Femi Fani-Kayode, has condemned Zamfara State Deputy Governor, Mahdi Gusau, over his refusal to join the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC).

Femi Fani-Kayode [PHOTO CREDIT: @realFFK]
Femi Fani-Kayode [PHOTO CREDIT: @realFFK]
In a Twitter post on Tuesday, the former minister, who is a PDP stalwart, said the official was disloyal for not joining his principal, Bello Matawalle, to decamp from the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) to the ruling party.
The Zamfara Governor, alongside the state, lawmakers and commissioners officially joined the APC in July, months after the defection of Governors Ben Ayade of Cross River State and David Umahi of Ebonyi State.

“When a Governor decamps from one party to another, shouldn’t his Deputy go with him? Is that not what loyalty is all about?, Against his better judgement @Bellomatawalle1 picked you as his running mate & made you Deputy Governor & now you undermine & betray him?

Governor Bello Matawalle of Zamfara and the deputy governor of the state, Mahdi Gusau.
Governor Bello Matawalle of Zamfara and the deputy governor of the state, Mahdi Gusau.
“Shame on you!,” he said, throwing many of his followers on the platform off balance.

Mr Fani-Kayode is a prominent member of the PDP.

The former Minister, a strong critic of APC and President Muhammadu Buhari, has on different occasions denied speculations of him joining the ruling party.

With the court injunction restraining Uche Secondus as the chairman of the main opposition party, the former minister expressed doubts that the main opposition party could resolve its leadership crisis before the 2023 general elections.


“Even if the order is lifted in a few days the leadership crisis in the party just does not seem to want to go away.

“For how much longer can the centre hold?

“Looks like a meltdown to me!”, Mr Fani-Kayode said in another tweet posted on Tuesday morning, hours before the party crisis took a worsening turn.


While the ex-aviation minister posts were still attracting torrent of criticisms from his followers in his comment section, two national deputy chairmen of the PDP, declared rights to Mr Secondus’ seat following the court order.

Relying on Section 45 (2) of the PDP Constitution, the Deputy National Chairman (South), Yemi Akinwonmi, postponed the party’s NWC meeting indefinitely as he declared himself national chairman pending the determination of the restraining order on the embattled chairman.

In defiance of the other, Deputy National Chairman (North), Suleiman Nazif, declared himself national chairman at the party’s headquarters hours after, citing the health condition of Mr Akinwonmi.


“On this note, distinguished NWC members, I hereby take full charge of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) as Chairman in an acting capacity.

“We have waited this morning for the Deputy National Chairman (South) who has been incapacitated, who has not been attending NWC meeting in the last nine months and I believe there was a communication between the deputy national chairmen (south),” PREMIUM TIMES reported him, saying.


Mr Nazif’s Tuesday’s declaration arguably fit into Mr Fani-Kayode adjudged comments on the PDP leadership vis-à-vis his recent visits and outings with some key members of the ruling APC.

The former minister was reported in February by the Kogi State governor, Yahaya Bello, to have dumped the PDP following his meeting with him and the APC interim National Chairman, Mala Buni.

Although Mr Bello took credit for Mr Fani-Kayode’s alleged defection, the latter denied ever making such a decision. He said his meeting with the duo was borne out of national concerns other than personal property.

“It is right and proper for us to talk and to attempt to join hands across political, religious and regional lines to save Nigeria.

“The fact that I am in talks with leaders from a cross-section of political parties, including the ruling party, does not in any way derogate from this and does not mean that I will ever change those from views,” he explained.

Aside his more recent meetings with other members of the ruling party, the ex-aviation minister was again trolled on social media giant, Twitter, for attending the wedding ceremony of Mr Buhari’s son in Kano last week.

Flanked by governors and lawmakers from the APC, pictures of Mr Fani-Kayode at the ceremony ruled the Twitter space as more Nigerians question his credibility and political leaning.

Months earlier, he had attracted public criticism when he insulted a Daily Trust correspondent who had asked at a press conference ‘who was bankrolling’ his frequent trips across the nation to meet political figures across party lines.

The vocal politician later apologised publicly to the reporter.

https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/481165-shame-on-you-fani-kayode-tells-zamfara-deputy-gov-over-refusal-to-defect.html

jaybenugo:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J47s3F-tK6Q

Hungry dey sha

ebukajay184:
Former Nollywood actress, Regina Askia, who is 53 years old, shared a throwback photo of herself at adolescence, IgbereTV reports.

She captioned the photo on Instagram;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CS0UGTYMRzY/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Those eyes...... Gaddamn!!!

I know many people will be foaming from the mouth like rabid dogs after reading this news. Wetin Igbo people do una sef?

Men was I stvip that year. Kai,

Na wa. PSG don turn confirmed cheat. Kai PSG just built a freaking war machine not a football formation. What is this one na?

Activist001:
sloppy never been pregnant but has a postpartum belly.

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I felt that one! Kai!!!

AprokoGirl:
Man laments the cost of food items in the market as he shows off what he bought with N78k [color=#000000].[/color]

Source: https://www.instagram.com/p/CSJHqSNMWKD/

This uncle can lie ehh! It's either he is lying or person don cash out for im head.

WillyWonda1:
I got an opportunity to get a leave at the oil rig where I work and then joined the company chopper to osubi Airport in Warri.

Then I went home. I already had someone clean the house, so j just slept lazily. So it's Saturday, no light, it's hot, I want to go sight seeing around after a Long time at the rig.

So I settled for a Jetty around my hood and do the locals before evening cruise.

So this guy walks up to me. He greets me
He: Senior braa, I hail
Me : Shakes him.

Then he just started telling things he had before he was wrecked by his babe from Ghana.

Then he just drops the bombshells
Him: Senior braa.... Even if na H. (#100). I go use am package. So I just laughed and gave him#3k. He just shouted EWOO!!��.
Mehn see prayers. So I sat him down and asked him to order for anything. And I told him to get high as much as he wanted. I don't have friends.

I'm a very low-key person. I just want to feel free. It's been long.
And I'm linking up with some colleagues this evening. I'm thinking of calling him along make he enjoy life small.

I can snap pictures later on sha when they come.

As a Warri boy myself, I'll advice you to stop at the 3k for now. With that 3k, you just recruited a loyal soldier that can die for your mata. But just keep him on observation mode for now.


AREA no bi as before ooo!!!

Wait ooo, so 2 thousand dollars will make you a millionaire in nigeria?


I rest my case.

ogbiwa:
https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/world-news/china-shows-fearsome-new-autonomous-24545401

and we are happy fighting over cows in Nigeria.

Mtchewww!

It was an honor to have existed in an era where you made waves and Sound Sultan has that unique ability to mix comedy with his songs while passing across heartfelt messages through his lyrics.

Rest in perfect peace, the sultan of songs

Oggolden001:
That imagination you're talking abt is some what part of me already. From all the comments i've read, i knw my ground already its just remaining which tent to pinch first. All am sayin is that i need a brief abt civil maths how HARD Is it? After this my survey i will show this to my dad so we could making a lasting decision

Well, there are 4 options or more(depending on the University) in civil engineering.
1. Structural Engineering.
2. Water Resources Engineering.
3. Highway and transportation Engineering.
4. Public Health Engineering
5. Geotechnical Engineering (few schools offer this option).

You usually choose a one to specialize on in your 2nd/3rd year(again depending on the University). If you hate mathematics, run very far away from Structural Engineering and Geotechnical Engineering. Water Resources, public health and highway engineering doesn't involve much maths, but you must pass some courses in structural before you can go deeper into these other three.

So make your choice, either way as far as it's engineering you can never escape the mathematics aspect of it.

Oggolden001:
A degree in architecture nd that in civil engineering which is more sustainable in the nigerian society? Please i need advice bcuz i'm finding it hard to choose btw this two. Heres me like, i b average maths student wey like to draw alot especially building related drawings/environmental drawings too. Heres my jamb subj comb, maths, physics, chem nd english. Please advice from experience persons in the field will be veryly appreciated. (if there is any word as such)

Listen, if you know you don't have a crazy imagination, don't go for architecture, just respect yourself and enter civil engineering. Because as an architect, you need to be imaginative enough to bring out drawings that can wow your clients.

Denmark, please do us a favor and win this game.

If england win, we no go hear word for 2years.

galaxylauncher:
This is where oil rig workers live in while off shore oil and gas exploration.

House boats are designed for offshore oil exploration and logistic support services.

Houseboats ranging from 100Man Houseboat, 60Man Houseboat and 30Man Houseboats.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vdwAJoR02c

That year. Believe me no way of making this money is easy.

I once spent the night in a naval houseboat when it was attacked by militants. This life no easy sha.

mystery22:
Rule one:Never visit a girl in her house

I made this mistake years ago, but God in his infinite mercies allowed me to survive that incident.



I go soon write book on this other gender, believe me it will be a blockbuster.