₦airaland Forum

maynation:
Lol.
We all were actually until we found Christ.

God bless you sir.

Ineedtoheal:
Hi Famlanders, Please I need your advice. I beg you all to save a sister. I have to bring this here coz I know it's where I will get wonderful contributions. Again, I am using this new account coz I have friends and customers here. I don't want to blow my cover. Please this is real and not fiction. This will be quite lengthy, please bear with me.

I met this guy in 2013 when I was in year one. It was not a steady relationship coz we barely call nor see so I didn't take him serious. And whenever we see, it was always at one friends house or another. I accused him of being married but he vehemently denied it. Later on I figured out he had accommodation issue after he lost his job. He later rented a house when he got another job with one of our prestigious federal universities here in Nigeria and that was when things became serious (kinda).

We became very serious around 2016 that is why I count it as 5 years instead of 7. But then during one of my visits, I was sleeping in the room when I overheard him talking to someone but the only thing that caught my attention was when he said "I don't even have a girlfriend". Though I didn't confront him, but I thought about it deeply.

Two nights ago, I had a dream where he was getting married to another lady. I was crying while he was still saying he loves me but can't marry me. I confronted him yesterday, he said I am pressurizing him to marry me that was after he first asked what will happen if we don't end up together. He hasn't told me where the relationship is leading to after 5 years. We have been living for the moment. Just for the moment!

Few info about the relationship
1) He will be 40 this November while I am 27.
2. He has always had numerous girlfriends that when he's with them, he doesn't pick my calls though he always apologizes and he's trying his best this year.

3. He always send pictures of other women to his friends to let them know they are the people he wish to marry but never has he sent mine. Though he claims he's not doing it again.

4. From the look of things he's still searching while he wants to have me all to himself. Maybe a second option since the others are not accepting him and I love him foolishly.

5. The relationship is 50 -50 .We spend on each other. He believes it's the woman's duty to do all the house chores but not the man's duty to take care of the woman.

6. On his Fathers burial last year, 3 of his girlfriends came (me inclusive) and we all wore the burial uniform. Together, we served his guests even when we realized we are dating same man. His neighbors were giggling and gossiping but we all decided to be matured and work together.

7. When my sister that raised me died, he didn't come for the burial. his reason was he had supervision that day in school,same person that calls his colleague to cover for him during exam supervision so he could do other things. He also didn't send me any money but he questioned me for not giving him any money for his Father's burial. Even when I paid him excess for the burial uniform. I know why I did that. Mind you, he has asked me before if he can give one of his ex 10k during her Father's burial which I agreed and he sent her the money.

8. I have rejected some suitors who were willing to marry me coz of him. Though he has never encouraged me to accept any of them. In fact he gets angry hearing that another man is coming close to me.

9. He doesn't call often, I do more of the calling though he always return my calls. He can stay for days without calling unless I call. I know I have been the one holding the relationship coz I thought he will change.

10. Sine 2017 till last year, all I did was forgive him coz I love him. He keeps bringing new / different ladies into the picture. I have gone through a lot of emotional stress. He keeps asking me to stay that he loves me but he's confused.

His good side: He's understanding, motivates me to do my best, he doesn't hit me, he is gentle.

Me on the other hand is sometimes stubborn though very faithful coz I love him to a fault. I easily get angry but forgives easily. When I'm angry I talk so much but I don't abuse him. He is simply the cause of all my anger. He always say I am very understanding, a good girl, drama free but yet he doesn't want to marry me and won't let me go too. I have never involved a third party in our relationship except my late sister who said she wish I will walk away from the relationship because I love the guy more, that it won't end well. All my friends thinks I have a perfect relationship because I don't discuss him with them.

Back to last night, I told him I won't call him again coz he said I am pressurizing him to marry me. The truth is I have seen the hand writing on the wall, not today but two years ago but I keep going back. Please I need advice on how not to go back again. The love he proclaims for me is not enough for him to marry. I have wasted enough time already. Maybe hearing the raw truth here will help.

my sister if you know what is good for you,the earlier the better tighten up & bear the pains now,before you commits suicide in the end.


With what you said,he has shown you from day one,but you kept pushing. Even if I were the one I'll say what he said.there's an adage in Hausa that said,Kore da hali yafi kori da sands.meaning to drive with character is more than drive with cane.he's shown you & you kept gluing him.


It has happen to be & I thank God he was the one that left & got married, but the big thing is today I would have been a widow without an issue. Mine was eight years relationship that was toxic. The gut was terrible. I was with him,right from when he was a private soldier, until he gain admission to NDA, prior to his finishing, he started misbehaving, he left & got married.


That next year he finished, I cried like I'll die bit I never thought of committing suicide cos I know who iam.but when i cried,i told him i cried tears today but your own turn will be blood & that was all.two weeks into the weeding he got an accident while traveling with his friends for their friends wedding, he was unconscious for two weeks,before saddle to wheelchair, for one year all this the lady was not intimating his mum,everything the knew through me,cos his friends were telling me to informed his mum.at last when when was to be operated upon as he had spinal cord injury. He died without leaving the operating table.he died without an issue, & his mother warned him about the girl,none of his family members went for the weeding, except his grandmother & his anty.


Pls leave now,before you regreat like I did too.he can decides to tell you he wasnts to marry you today,which could be lie,as he doesn't k ow what he wasnts yet,he can engage you while still scouting &makes lord of the ring.pls forget about emotions & leave before its too late.

Charmingrascal:
This nonsense has to stop

How can a Police Officer of the Federal Republic Of Nigeria in his complete regalia be holding a fan for one teenager.


Is he an escort or a maid?

This is an insult to The NPF!


A Police Officer is not suppose to hold the bag or any other hand props of the person he is guarding. It is an insult

you're right,but you know what? I don't blame them I blame the Nigerian government & the top police officer's as they never regard their uniforms to be anything. Everything is in shambles in Nigeria & I believe this officer is older than Daniel's.

Napi wet them dey tie for small children nyansh ani na wetin.

Brother abeg even if transport no even dey collect am for that amount, cos Nigeria now ehn.no be wetin person fit play with for work issue ooo.

2kaybiel:
It is not advisable for you to take this job my brother just let me have the job abeg.

yes it is good for just you.lol.

Ruggedniggaone:
who dey call this grandpa 20 years old?

hmmm.I Wonder too ooo.I been think say na only me see the old man.

nairavsdollars:
and what's the big deal in that

hmm.abi ooo my brother, how this one come be news or big deal?

Awol1:
Call the devil by its name and it flees.

lol

Righteousness89:
May they keep on Fighting and Confusing themselves

Amen

kendrick93:
Corona virus kills mostly the elderly and those with weak immune system....
So those with health issues like cancer or severe health conditions are at risk..
Any child below 9 years of age is safe too.
Take an example if Buhari for instance gets infected he's a gonna unfortunately....

I wish it will come here for those old ones that refused to die & want to live forever crippling the country, though I don't pray it comes here ooo.but even if it does,its just for the old hag's in government.

festacman:
If the facts in this story are accurate, then Gbajabiamila is a fathead. An insensitive buffoon. A shameless pretender. A scam democrat. A vain 'hand-faller'.

This kind of story makes one wish he could rent THUNDER to scatter things. SMH

know ye thee, that in any rumor there must be some iota of truth.

GOFRONT:
Chaiii....Wait oo.

Na human being they Wrap like goods wen Cargo plane wan carry??

Ordinary 20K casket, His football club can't afford for him??

Na wao......No respect for the dead anymore....

he's a Muslim & Muslims don't bury their corps in casket but this local mat is what they used to convey the body to the burial ground.even if dangote or Mr president should die today with their money this is how they'll all be buried

itsme01:
stop taking weed...

Osinbajo / Zullum 2023 , Bola Ahmed Tinubu / Ganduje 2023, Fayemi / Elrufai 2023

Tinubu & gandollar,two old everlasting criminals.

LosC:
Victory belongs to Jesus..

And he alone.

Have you checked your own life to know if its from your side,maybe you offended someone, or someone is jealous of your growing business before you labelled her this unprintable name.


Maybe you went to all these home destroyers,fake so called men of devil not of God & they consulted their gods & he told them the woman is a witch.you need to come together with her & pray or get a good living church to council you & pray for the calamity that has befallen you.


To me I believe that lady is innocent of all the allegations going on in your life. Pls seat back & think twice.sorry for your unfortunate lost,may the lord replaced everything in double folds.

adecz:
Lazy husband!!

don't say that pls,its very possible he's those types of guys that will say I'll never touch a woman no matter the offense, I believe he's gentle, but the surprising issue here is,Was he drugged & weak,or sleeping before the act was carried out,even at that he can't just be up & watch her commits this heinous crime on him,or someone helped her to perpetuate this act. Someone are not supposed to have husband's in their miserable lives.

Samunique:
Made some arrest

Buhari will release them sharp sharp !!!

hmm,must you say that before their supporters will come & bombarded you here.when everyone knows that the regime is for the entire Fulani's in every part of the world,as they do as they like & go Scot free,since its their grand petron that is on the throne.

Honestly I think you traid& I think you're the cool & patient type of guy who don't want to do anything cos of what people will say.but I say you really tried to have condone such a woman with such character, if she had made someone of her match or those who don't care about what the outside world will say,you for done tear race comot from the marriage or divorce her.well,its now left for you to decide cos she won't change

Olalan:
How can people be this babaric........did he rape her? Two adults have consensual sex and you brutalized one of the party involved.
BTW married women now seems to be masters in the game of cheating in this generation.

you're quite right, after all,the woman. Should have been the one that is to be beaten, cos I believe they've been doing it for long & she's enjoying it.so she should be blamed in this aspect.

IamPatriotic:
Wise family of a vagabond child!

I thought they'll use Biafra's colour as their ashobi.

neweraomo:
What the fvck u saying,people spend money on homosexual!! I don't understand why people will spend money on same gender sex pass normal sex

yes is true,why do you think bobrisky get all the money he flunts? Is from people in high placese with power that patronises him that's why he has not been arrested or anything said about him in Nigeria.

Colorado1:
Ahh



...no be small thing
See as those kids line up to vote

na everything children dey partake in north, even during the general election, children of ten years came out to vote too,with nobody saying anything. This is north for you.

WorWorBoy:
This guy look like a criminal.

only criminals knows criminals

ruggedtimi:
even diri's deputy has a case to answer

to you

BlackfireX:
Fake news ,...


Bayelsa is APC , APC is bayelsa.



The supreme court was bribed

just like it was bribe in IMO abi.

This is the irony of life,this people are being celebrated in in life & death,what about the hereafter. What is going on with their souls now,maybe they are crying in pains & anguish to be given second chance to right their wrongs but its too late.no one can tell what's going on with their souls now, but here people are happy celebrating. Oh! the one thing that makes God to be the supreme ruler & judge.

festacman:
Why are are rejoicing? I thought Supreme Court is bias. I hope American Embassy and EU mission are watching this hypocrisy.

when it happened in Abia why dint you say this? Or is it because you're an APC, that you feel your party has been cheated here.

12345baba:
I smell lies

na you sabi

taylor89:



And to think this was the so anticipated messiah to right the wrongs of GEJ





To every hand that rigged and supported this menace to power especially the zombies may TEARS, SORROW never depart from your households

amen.this is pay back time,Jonathan is relaxing watching with smiles all over his face.now they're appreciating him when its too late to cry.

khingTony:
Sowore Fighting a Lost Battle

na you know lost battle

Haymaykar:
The killers will know no peace in their life... But seriously we are just age mate...

I wish its always like we all proclaim & course them.I wonder why nothing happens to them after every evil they commit.I don't know why the blood of the innocent people they kill don't avenge.because even the blood of Abel cried in the wilderness when Cain killed him.this killers always go free & work amongst us.woe unto them,may their end be miserable in Jesus victorious name.