₦airaland Forum

lexy2014:
op isn't spoiling people's minds, she's just being plain honest. Its easy 2 say give 2a man or woman u intend 2 marry without any emotions attached.fact is most times, u give more 2a person who u c as d object of ur love much more than u give 2 others. U can't avoid it.best thing is avoid it all together. If u want 2b father Christmas, then leave romance&love out of it.

To me, she spoiling people's mind,
I never said you should give without emotions attached, I said give because you want to, because it's what you want to do. Not because you were cajoled or manipulated, because then you may feel resentful

Jesus had this to say in Matthew 7:6 "Don’t give precious things to dogs. Don’t cast your pearls before swine. If you do, the pigs will trample the pearls with their little pigs’ feet, and then they will turn back and attack you". Even Jesus knew some people don't deserve good gifts.

I understand this that's why I said in my first sentence know who you are giving to

Daeylar:
I think the best way to give is to know who you are giving to and to give only what you can afford to let go

DarkRebel69:
I agree on the point of marrying someone whose values are the same as yours. But then, two individuals usually only have values that are similar in some respects, and that do not necessarily share sameness in all facets. Values change with time too, so I'm not so keen on values as I am on "interests". If our interests interlock like the two equilateral triangles in a hexagram, then I wouldn't mind if our values as regarding some subjects were at loggerheads – say for example that I am pro-life while she is pro-abortion, that I would be willing to over-look.

How are you today?

Values change with time? I was surprised to see that,
Just researched that. I see where you are coming from. I think it depends on what the values are. E.g respect
As for your pro life example, I don't think I would mind either as long as the person is able to look at each case critically and determine what would be best,

Regarding interests, I agree with you on that,
However we don't have to have exactly the same type of interests, we can differ on one or two things,



I'm wonderful. How are you doing?

JeffreyJamez:
Still boils down to Nigerians being the problem of Nigeria. Who votes the government in?.. the Nigerian Government is the perfect reflection of Nigerians as a people.

True

DarkRebel69:
It is in keeping posterity in mind that I wouldn't marry my doppel-ganger if such a ridiculous option were to present itself. I'm quite conscientious and methodical in those kind of matters.
For instance, as it stands now I can only speak English, Yoruba, Creole, and a smattering of some Romance and Germanic languages. Well, my grasp of classical Latin is about 70% (both reading and speaking knowledge), while of Italian it's girthed around 50% (reading knowledge only) – of course I improve on them whenever I get the chance, but as it stands I think and write predominantly in English. So, if I were to marry an exact replica of myself that would mean my progenies–especially if they aren't language enthusiasts–would likely only be bi-lingual i.e. speak Yoruba and English. (Of course I could always hire a multi-linguist for a maid, but it'd be more natural and intimate if the kids learnt from their mother.)

But say I'm married to someone slightly of a different constitution, supposing too that the person were to be a virtuoso polyglot, someone who can moan in Spanish and Mandarin when we're fücking, then that's already an added benefit for my kids.

Besides, my replica would be an out-and-out weirdo. I already have my weirdness to contend with. Why add another weird planet to my Weirdiverse?

You really are something else I like it.

As to the question, someone with the same values as me, yes,
Someone exactly like me, no.

I think the best way to give is to know who you are giving to and to give only what you can afford to let go. give and forget about what you've given, don't keep it mind.
I think this helps if the person betrays you later, you won't be upset about what you gave because you know that you gave because it's your personal decision, it's what you wanted to do and you are happy with your decision.
There is nothing wrong with lending a helping hand IF YOU CAN AND IF YOU ARE WILLING TO . It doesn't make you a mugu, it doesn't mean you are foolish.

That should have been op's advice, Instead of trying to spoil people's minds from giving.

illuminated93:
If I do anything for my gf or anyone,it's not really because I owe such person a duty or something, it's just because I'm the bigger person,and if I don't like,I won't do,no matter the noise.[/b]I don't do things for people because I expect a payback,that's a poverty mindset. But the idea is this, never allow emotional blackmail as a way of getting you to do stuffs

That's the most important thing, give because you want to and not because of emotional blackmail. Nice

LordKO:
[b] Dear, mind games is only for small-minded people. If I cannot be of goodness to a lady/person I termed a friend then, I have no reason keeping her close. Pretense and hypocrisy aren't my thing. Nothing justifiably inhibits someone that has the wherewithal, from genuinely changing for good, the cause of people around him/her (blood relations and friends in particular and genuine needies in general) simultaneously.
My previous submission stand.

I love this

rookidmart:
Honestly it serves her right.

It really does, why not ask if you.can preach before you do?
Even after being warned she continued,
Disturbing people

izzou:
Nah.

Am just a police escort vehicle


If your bedroom or home isn't like this, don't invite me. I won't come
cc: Daeylar

i won't
Nigerians and falling of hand, nobody even wants to consider that it may really be her bedroom

Explorers is back
So much news about hurricanes and explorers was silent, I wondered

prettyboi1989:
my prayer is that alexa will lose her title to either nia jax or sasha. Emma isnt title material, she's a joke thats always worried about twitter trends

Nia jax holding the title for a second will be nice,
Will be a change,
Lol, you don't even want to consider a possibility of Alexa retaining her championship,
I'm not here for sasha to win again, she can win later after nia. I just need to see someone new hold the title,
Nia or Alexa, after the dance of sasha and charlotte, I can't see another dance of sasha and alexa
I haven't even taken Emma seriously as a wrestler, I will start now,
How long will bailey be out?

pu7pl3:
His issur with shane will be solved at HIAC... dude is a great wrestler man i like him

All right then, waiting for hell in a cell

prettyboi1989:
Alexa used to run away from fights, hardly defends her title and she doesnt fight like a professional. every time she will be slamming her opponents head on the floor of the ring. no real skill

Hmmm,
I will take your word for it while I rewatch some of her matches,

pu7pl3:
Thou shall not say such about kevin owens

Seems like he go better during the time he and Jericho separated and I stopped watching for a while, because the kevin Owens I knew before,

Debroslink:
I think Vince just fired Shane on Smackdown.

The man treats his daughter better
I don't want Shane to go, he and Daniel make a good team.

Debroslink:
Smackdown is short and straight to the point. It's so hot right now that Vince is set to make an appearance next week Tuesday.

Only problem I noticed is their women storylines which is pointless @ this point. Only babe hot right now is Carmella. But that babe needs to cash in now to move stories forward.

Will be nice to see Vince,

I remember when all Carmella used to do was to refuse to fight and to run around the ring then run away, now she's here

prettyboi1989:
Alexa bliss is part of the lower class o, i wish they hadn't brought her in from smack down. she is the female version of Kevin Owen. Emma beat Sasha banks this past Monday, now they will be in a fatal 4 way match with Alexa and Nia Jax. the odds are so against Sasha.
Well the women's division is trying but my main babe sasha dey Bleep up

Really, please explain, also explain what is lower class please.

Kevin Owens is terrible, could never wrestle on his own, lazy asß , I stopped watching during the time he and Chris Jericho started fighting and he was moved,
but can Alexa really be as bad as him? Why do you say so?

I heard sasha and Alexa have real beef, they don't like each other in real life, I guess that's why Alexa was moved, to play out their drama onscreen, but I'm not sure

I don't really Stan for Sasha, seems like she gets a lot of love but I prefer charlotte, but I won't take it away from sasha she seems like a really good wrestler, lol, I always thought charlotte was better that's why I preferred her,

Lovely pictures op,

zinachidi:
lol, lyanna, benjen and brandon.

And " A lannister always pays his debts isn't the lannister words" I knew people will say that.

So i didn't even get that one
Chaii

Lol, I forgot Brandon,

prettyboi1989:
the only reason i miss charlotte is because of sasha banks performance. sasha has beem underperforming ever since Charlotte was shipped to smack down. charlotte was d only person who brings the best out of sasha, but now sasha gets beaten by lower class fighters.

Lol, I like Alexa hope she is not part of the lower class , I think she is very smart, and troublesome. Lol

Apart from nia and Alexa and hanging out with bailey who has sasha really wrestled?
She always beat Alicia fox so who beats her now?

Yes I do like sasha and Charlotte matches, Charlotte had no mercy, very ruthless fighter so sasha had to keep up,
I prefer charlotte thought

What do you think of the women's division now?

pu7pl3:
Ahah common those guys work harder than the guys on raw abd smackdown they are entertaining now

Really? All right I will give them a try

zinachidi
Damn I'm a terrible fan I only know 2
5) and 8 )
5) lyanna, benjen
8 ) a lannister always pays his debt
In fact I only know 1_
No 8 ) I don't know the last sibling

prettyboi1989:
so i guess we have a new female wwe fan amongst us. was the first lady here

Lol,
I watch wrestling on and off,
I didn't even know this thread existed, just noticed it,
Wow, it's even been here since January.

I think the reason 205live seems boring may be because of the way it was started, I think it started from cruiserweight division which they did on raw and most people want to watch raw because of the stars on raw and instead of launching it as they hoped it became more of a distraction and now I no longer even care about it.

How do you see the women's division on both sides?
Do you miss Charlotte on raw?
I think raw needs more women,
Alexa, Sasha, Bailey, Nia Emma and the black girl, I've forgotten her name,
Naomi, Carmella, charlotte, Natalia, Tamina, Becky

Wow, the same number of women, I thought raw had less women, or is it that raw women are more boring?
Or maybe because I only see nia sasha, Alexa, and Bailey (before she got injured),

prettyboi1989:
raw is 2hours, smackdown is 1hour plus. i dont download 205 live cos my heart isnt there. there is really no need to download it because the highlights are shown on monday night raw.

You can get raw from this link, its only accessible on mobile device unless u use a mobile user agent when accessing it on a pc.
http://mp4mania.rocks/showcat.php?catid=9

Thanks a lot,
Never knew raw was 2 hours
Yeah 205live just seemed boring, I didn't care for anyone there

prettyboi1989:
i download raw a day after its aired. i source it from different sites

Thank you, I asked because you said its 2hours and I don't think I've seen it for 2 hours, not that I look at the time,when watching
Do you also download 205live?

prettyboi1989:
nahh even before they launched 205 live, smack down was like 1hour. i like raw cos there's alot of variety in it.
ladies and gentlemen boys and girls, i present to you wwe all time greatest stars

Please what channel/where do you watch raw, smackdown and 205live?

maasoap:
Not if he was sued by the wife herself. You can't assassinate someone's character in such manner to the extent that you claimed that you have nude pics and just turn 180° to tell the trial judge you were joking.
Even if IPOBs are fond of calling Nigeria a zoo, it doesn't reach that level.

That's the only thing I don't support, he should have dragged the person who made the joke and kept his wife out of it.

bolubillionaire:
These new age comedians are just getting it wrong... I dont recall d likes of basketmouth, I go dye n Bovi getting into all these kinda mess.
First it was seyi law, now this one.
These niggas should watch out or else their careers will pay for it.




But the funny thing is that they will use these happenings to create rib-cracking jokes.

Basketmouth that made a nasty joke about rape and was dragged by Nigerians because of it.

nobleblood:
For a man who is never short of words, why the silences?. Guess its never funny when the joke is on you.

Lol, true

This is shocking lol,
The girl has a strong mind, to dress like this for a pre wedding pic, but anyway, the man loves her like that.

This is nice, thanks for letting us know

Bootybuttchic:
Too many poor and little minded people on here!

So you dont know instagram feeds can be filtered in other to prevent seeing explicit photos!

And many of you are claiming you uses nokia phones at her age?when did phone enter nigeria?where you hoping to use an iphone in the year 2000? Had you even seen a computer before? Because you may have been less privilesged doesnt mean you shoukd hate on priviledged people,i will keep saying it ,nairaland has been occupied by hungry,angry and frustrated people! If mark zuckerberg was born in this country there wouldnt have beena facebook! Too many shallow minded people in this country....tomorrow they will blame the government! please keep queit....only a fooool talks just because they think they should and on nairaland when trying to get likes...

An 11year old having a social media account makes the mother irresponsible? You are really delusional and also a slowpoke ...

The girl is by no way posting a nude picture of herself moreover she sings and would need media hype as much as possible!

That paedophile is the ome you should be attackimg and not the mother slowpoke! Its people like you who support rapists and accuse the victim of not dressing properly and deserved to be raped!

You are one of those people whom the media has given space to vent out every crap that manages to get out of your dead beat head..please stop coming to nl to spew trash! 10year olds visit nl....and they may think you made sense....i see your post on the front page most times and you have nevr made sense,the new front page chasers are usually dumvb posters!

Grow up please

Thank you jare,

Some times I'm so shocked when I read posts on nairaland,

The girl sings, she needs publicity, the mother is doing all she can to help her daughter be great yet she is called irresponsible.

Yet not one word of insult or rebuke for the man who went to write that on an 11 year old's page. Not one. Rubbish. It's so annoying.

We do victim blaming so much in this country it's disgusting.

It seems that the mum manages that account or even if she doesn't do so that she monitors it very closely yet they call her names, a mum who is trying her best to make her daughter succeed.

One even came to say use Nokia touch light till the end of secondary school
I shame when I read that comment, honestly, shame catch me

It seems Nigerians don't believe in starting them young,

Maduawuchukwu:
Dear OP nobody said that a woman should marry a man who is financially broke. Even me too will not try that;provision is very important in human relationships. What we criticise is when a woman says she wants to marry a very rich man knowing fully well that very few men in Nigeria in their 30's can be "very rich" not because they are not hardworking but because our economy is messed up. We should learn to curtail our ambitions with our environment's reality. The failure to do that is why everybody guy is going into Yahoo, ritual killing and drugs and many women even the married ones are doing olosho. Anyways sha, all na talk; I see women from even rich homes marrying normal bankers who earn not more than 120k in a month.

The point of the op's writeup is that women should be free to choose the man they want without any criticism from anyone.
That's what you aren't getting,
Even If it's a billionaire the girl wants to marry she has every right to say so
You have no right to try and curtail anyone's ambition because of your own personal views neither do you have the right to criticize anyone for their choices just because you do not agree with it
That is the op's point.

MrBrownJay1:
yes it does, so long as [b]A) you desire marriage and B) only consideration needed is from both participants

there are no RIGHT way to marry someone... we are all different and what works for Paul, may not work for Peter. the minute you use Paul's marriage to dictate what Peter should do, is the moment you would have failed in this union. YES, listen to advice from people who have been married but ultimately YOU must decide what you want. some people are happy in polygamous marriage, while others are happy with just one wife; some are happy with NO children while others are happy with 10; some are happy with an equal partner while others would rather be under their spouse... marriage is an adventure, some succeed and others fail.

there is a huge difference between offering guidance AND forcing someone to do what they are not willing to do. as i said, let each and everyone live their own lives, because at the end of the day, THEY are the one who will live AND suffer the consequences of their actions (aka marriage).

such a sad statement.... but then (reading your post) i understand where you are coming from. people like you need guidance, while other are mature enough to make their own mind.

do you think it is proper for parent to disregard their children desires, for their selfish ambition?!
do you think getting married gives you knowledge?! do you think because someone has been married for +20yrs, they are automatically expert on marriage?! do you think marriage of the past have a place in society of the present/futuure [/b]

Lol, you are making sense that's why I keep posting these smileys
Every sentence

Mrbrownjay1

carzola:
Ronaldo bring your
ass lemme leak it..


i can turn Gay for this guy..

Na wa