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EmyLeo:
ohhh, wanted to ask what's with bryan and sister abigail??

Let me watch his match and see.

pu7pl3:
That should be your note to self

But I tried na

Bryan is annoying me sha
He needs to stop supporting Sammy and Kevin.
After disturbing A.j match he now gave a handicapped match to them for smackdown championship?

Is bryan the heel or is it those 2?

I'm glad Becky is back though.

makydebbie:
When I'm not vegetable Bailey.

Give Bayley new year break na LMAO ,
this is different year we cannor be behind this year you must watch and post in our thread

I agree with you at bold, I feel the friendship must have gotten to a different level before you can start having feelings and not casual friendship. My own is, I'm against the best friend movement.

Well since that's your own opinion I don't mind.

Was waiting to see people bash wizkid with the normal olosho, ashawo and hoe comments for having 3 babies from 3 different women but, as expected just because wizkid isn't female, we won't see such stupid comments here.

Some are even attacking the women. but barely any condemnation for wizkid.

Nigeria the misogynist country.
Mtchewww.

Martin0:
Same to you!

Martin0:
let's learn from each other !

All right

Martin0:
Honestly I don't know why I still find my friendship still connecting with you!

Last year is gone!
Let this peaceful friendship I ve got move on and let learn from each other!

Well then, Happy new year

Tozara:
Hmmm. What's your objection?

I may have an objection to it, now I'm checking to see if the objection is valid if it's not I will discard it..

I agree with this also, I like the part in bold. Although I think I may have an objection to it. But I like it

Tozara:
I do not disagree with your write-up. Like you said, it's exclusively about male besties. And neither do I deny that when you get close to a girl, you might start having feelings for her. The issue is with Mariinee's assertion that, in any boy-girl friendship, it's EITHER lust OR love. This makes no sense. And I'm not really particular about the PERCENTAGE of men who're like that---but saying the percentage of men who are NOT, is INSIGNIFICANT is an argument I won't accept.

A lot of things can lead to friendship, and even if a lady is not attractive or sexually appealing to you, does that stop you from becoming friends? And if you do become friends, why would you start developing feelings towards her, or lusting after her, when she's not your type of girl to begin with? Or is it being argued that a man would fall in love, or lust after any kind of girl at all, as long as they're close friends? Of course, there are some who would, but is that the case for all men? I have many female friends---close friends, not casual friends----but do not have any romantic affection for any of them, because my feelings are towards someone else. Doesn't this fact destroy her argument? It's very possible to keep females as close friends with no strings attached.

Another thing is that friendship is a spectrum, not a ladder with distinct, well-defined steps, so where does it begin and where does it end? We all know that friendship comes in different degrees---and even close friendship comes in different degrees, so the issue of male besties might be considered a special case - and indeed, for some, it may no longer be regarded as mere friendship. But we all have a general idea of what friendship is, and that's what I'm talking about here.

Tozara:
Good morning, dear. How're you doing?

I'm good and you?

freeze20:
No, you are misteken. Fulani herdsmen are criminal; IPOB are terrorist.

Lol

makydebbie:
Sorry guys but lemme butt in.

Sorry dear, lemme push you out (just joking )

When I created a thread concerning this topic you all are currently arguing about, most of the guys agreed with me. We were on the same page nau, what happened? Why did you leave my page without telling me?!

https://www.nairaland.com/4025368/friendship-opposite-sex
Help yourself.

Tozara and edimolu, even in my writeup, I said, there will be some extremely rare occasions when the guy wouldn't even like us (the ladies) but then, being 80% emotional, we would start getting emotionally attached to the guys and we would start catching feelings.

Now it's left to the guy to see it as an opportunity to leave the friend zone or remain there. It's very very rare to see a guy and a girl being 100% platonic. Unless, the guy is gay, they're not compatible, both are not physically attractive or one is married and lastly, they're both in a relationship which isn't even an excuse because when you get close to an extent, you'll start catching feelings, one of you. You may not necessarily agree with my writeup tho, because I spoke exclusively about male besties.

From what I understand from what tozara is saying,
I think he is saying that it's ridiculous to make blanket statements saying that no man can be platonic friends with a woman or vice versa (correct me if I'm wrong and that's not what you were saying)
It's simply ridiculous, you cannot use your experience of people you know as an example then proceed to proclaim it as a rule or as the truth for every single person living on this earth, because that's what you're doing when you use words like all or none or no.
It just doesn't work.

It's myopic to say the least.

I agree with this.
Blanket statements are ridiculous

Tozara:
[color=darkgreen]F9!!!![/color]

MYOPIA ALERT:

Naezara:
I've noticed people like drawing conclusions from their own life experiences and passing judgements based on them---then they try peddling their own 'truth' as reality. But like I'll always say, "THE WORLD IS BIGGER THAN THAT".

Life has so many sides to it, and you only know the side you've seen. In one case, all the sides may have the same dimensions---the same length, breadth or height---while in others, the dimensions might differ.

You can make general assertions about a square by seeing just ONE side of it---since all its sides are equal. But can the same be said of a trapezium?

Sorry, I'm not one of your male friends, neither am I like them. And they do not represent my gender in anyway. You're making your judgements on a dubious basis. It doesn't work that way.

I can also tell you that most of the chaps I move with are like me---if I should use that as a basis for passing my own judgement, I might as well claim that only a tiny percentage of my gender do what you're accussing us of. But, how do I know? From my own small circle and little bubble of existence?

You might be right about the behaviour being common with a large percentage of my gender, and you might also be wrong. That, I don't know for sure, and I can't accept your own experiences as proof, since it might have more to do with your personality and the kind of people you move with.

And even if your claim is true, how is your argument in support of Mariinee? 'Cause you're, more or less, admitting that it's just a large percentage of men that are like that, suggesting the existence of a significant number of men who are NOT, while she ridiculously claimed that it is applicable to ALL men----NO MAN can be in a platonic friendship with a woman.

Her argument remains ABSURD.

SomeoneNice:
..
Thanks.... Love urs

Sorry for the late reply, thank you
Happy new year

[color=Purple]This is how a reasonable country takes care of illegal migrants, they even gave them money and time to leave.

All those defending the inhumane acts of Libyans with those stupid statements of "how else should they treat them, they have the right to treat them.anyhow since they came to the country illegally ", please hide your stupid empty heads in shame.[/color]

The Israeli government has issued a notice for thousands of African migrants to leave the country or face imprisonment.
The migrants will be given up to $3,500 (£2,600) for leaving within the next 90 days.

They will be given the option of going to their home country or third countries.

If they do not leave, the Israeli authorities have threatened that they will start jailing them from April.

The UN refugee agency said the controversial plan violated international and Israeli laws.

Israel's unwanted African migrants

The Israeli government says their return will be humane and "voluntary".

The order exempts children, elderly people, and victims of slavery and human trafficking.

A spokesperson for Israel's Population and Immigration Authority told the BBC there were currently 38,000 "infiltrators" in Israel, of whom just 1,420 were being held in detention facilities.

Israel uses the term "infiltrators" to describe people who did not enter the country through an official border crossing.

Many of the migrants - who are mostly from Eritrea and Sudan - say they came to Israel to seek asylum after fleeing persecution and conflict, but the authorities regard them as economic migrants.

Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has claimed that an unchecked influx of African migrants could threaten Israel's Jewish character.


http://www.bbc.com/news/world-middle-east-42541515

Tozara:
Hmmm.

Hey, let me tell you her radical plan. Promise not to tell anyone




[color=white](She has a button )[/color]

Hope you saw it?

lawman88:
Thank you all for your advice. Me and my wife appreciate your views. I'm not against seed sowing, I felt I should be informed. I hardly turns down her request and I don't discuss my family affair with neighbors or parents, I just posted it here to get random views. I have gave consent to hard request: She begged that we should suspend sex from 30 December to January ending for her to do her church 21 days prayer and fasting in her church and Our Daily Manner fasting and prayer and I gave consent, though it will not be easy for me. She has apologized for not telling me before sowing the seed and I have accepted. No love lost...we wish u a prosperous and a praying year....

@ first bolded, wow,
@ second, hope she also promised to never do that again?
Wish you and your wife the best.

Tozara:
Against me? I'll smash her bones.

Do you watch?
This is not Allah matter sha

MorataFC:
Alexa is too proud
Asuka all the way

How is she proud? I like her, she is interesting can fight, can hold her own.

EmyLeo:
did you watch last night match?

They even showed it now just watched a few matches here and there, not really,

True. @bold
@ purple, sometimes I really don't understand if they expect you to fly off the road or just disappear from the road? It really confuses me. You can even have an accident, just as long as you bounce off the road.

MissWrite:
The reason a lot of Nigerians have short fuses is that most of us have our backs against the wall and are frustrated beyond measure. Nothing works: epileptic power supply, no water, bad roads, and on top of all that agberos harass you at your place of business to demand illegal taxes and start confiscating your belongings if you object. Politicians shove you off the road with their fifty-car entourages and don’t even care if you’ve run into a gutter. Policemen extort you at checkpoints even if your papers are intact; they come up with ridiculous accusations and can’t even be bothered with proving any of their claims. Road safety officials will insist that drivers adhere to all safety regulations but will not mount the same pressure on FERMA to fill potholes. Nobody at PHCN can do simple arithmetic to subtract the amount you paid last month from your current bill; they only know how to add. People are out of jobs but positions are being filled by corpses. And somewhere at the center, they rob the nation blind. It’s one ridiculous story after another.

I think we can blame them, why are they so angry all the time? Why can't they calm down and get themselves together and look for a solution? Meaningless anger that doesn't solve any problem,

[b]We can’t blame people for being angry and volatile; [/b]it’s as a result of the lack of confidence in our systems. And we take it out on each other because we can’t do much else. Or so we think. If you see how quickly bottles are broken, or a tire is tossed around the neck of a robbery suspect you’d swear someone’s orgasm depended on the stench of singeing flesh.

It's what APC did. Change begins with you, I have never heard anything so annoying,

And instead of facing our leaders to demand better governance, we are (once again) cowed into providing for ourselves. They shouldn’t be let off so easily.

Fela called them well, suffering and smiling. Sometimes is you tell them let's try and make a change. They will start telling you that the world is bad and has always been bad, mtchewww any excuse to do.nothing

What I believe Nigerians should do is not to sit on their hands and hope (or pray) for things to get better, because they won’t on their own, what I believe we should do is to protest. To come hard against injustice. To put tribal and religious sentiments aside and to call out perpetrators

.

They actually enjoy getting mad at ecach other it's the only kind of entertainment they get. Very sadistic and scary.

Don’t get mad at each other; get mad at government.

pu7pl3:
Daeylar the miz returns next week

Your dearest will be coming back
I miss miz small, sha, I've not had anybody annoying me in a while, and miz is funny as hell,

I just remembered when he was taunting john and nikki

MorataFC:
very tough match

Where Asuka won I still love my Alexa sha

MorataFC:
Happy new year to all wwe fans
Jason Jordan won the first fight of the year
#raw#

Happy new year,
Wish all wwe fans here a happy new year,
.you guys should drop comments more frequently this year

Richy4:
I was surprised a lot of people saw nothing wrong with what she did.. as if marriage was not between the two of them..

Because religion is involved probably.
It's very wrong, took such a major decision without regard for her husband, couldn't put herself in his shoes. How will she feel if roles were reversed? She would probably be livid, Today it's all her salary she gave, what will she carry to give the reverend next time? Today her reason is because she wants kids what will be the reason next time? And because the holy spirit told her to? What will the spirit tell her next time?
She was very selfish in this case, acting like she is still single,

Something is really wrong, op feels there is no pressure from any side, so what is eating her up?, they need to talk, I feel he can be angry, very angry honestly, what she did is messed up, but I like the way he is calm, they really need to to talk to each other and listen to one another,

Assuming she has no saving, whose salary and income will she be depending on till the next pay package comes..?

Her husband?

Since they are a young couple, assuming the man got no house of his own and was planning to start doing a housing project with half of his income with the hope that the wife will contribute, that means the plan will not materialize because she has handed her pay to a priest..

I think they in a traditional sort of marriage where the husband takes care of bills and she takes care of the home, even though she works her money is not needed because the husband has enough and is happy to take care of her and everything concerning finances. From op's vibe, I don't think money is an issue,
Or he is just being really really calm.

MissWrite:
Lol! I'm not going to live this one down, am I?

, shey you see?

I will change (APC kind of change sha )

Yes, may be killing a rapist might not be an issue with people. But I would still have killed a person. I'd still be a killer . Maybe not a murderer; a self-defender instead . But still a killer of a person. And once one, always one. I just don't see why that's necessary when I could have defended myself without actually killing the perp.

I see your point.

Killing is a baptism into a very disturbing realm. Even a kill-or-be-killed scenario would cost a person serious rehabilitation to stall monsterization.

Well, you make it sound very grave. I guess that's how it is,

But people have different views on the issue

I think some people feel that rape is a grievous sin, so they may feel justified, but I see you point,

, yeah? But I was only referring to the average Nigerian now. I know most of us don't consider ourselves to be the 'average' Nigerian, but still....Nigerians can know how to vex! Sometimes the reaction from a total stranger can be so over-the-top, you'll be wondering if they've been waiting for you since.

Whether they've planned your matter and were just waiting for the right time LMAO you'll be very confused, very shocked, you'll just be staring like a goat all you are think of is "but I don't know and I've never spoken to this person" or "I thought this person and I were very friendly," then depending on the people involved some people may vex back, and before you know fight had started, imagine if their were guns, stray bullets everywhere. People running around. Scary actually,

Some People in this country are angry with so many things and for some reason won't take their anger to the right source , so just wait for the right person's head to do transfer of aggression on.

gbosaa:
So she showed a might seed to the Catholic Church using her December salary because she wants to conceive?

I think you should sow another mighty seed to RCCG using your January salary.

Tell her you did it so she can deliver twins.

LMAO

Richy4:
can you just imagine OP opening a joint account with the wife in future?

Lol, disaster waiting to happen.
What she did is very wrong, op has every right to be pissed off.

MissWrite:
Thank you. And done.

Lmao! @whisper. You! But yeah, it should be so. They should do the due diligence to ensure nutters like us aren't approved for gun ownership. But you know the integrity of our systems. This is too sensitive to just let slip through the cracks.

Lol, you even agree, but I see your point.

MissWrite:
Actually, it wasn't that serious. I was just building up to something with that. So I exaggerated the annoyance a bit so that I could play on gun control being his saving grace.

Am I sure this is true, or you were really looking for a button

;Dplease o! Don't be afraid of me. I wouldn't hurt a fly . That's not true, I have hurt flies. But I won't hurt people. I actually doubt that I would even shoot a robber or a rapist when faced with one; I would hesitate for sure.

Not a robber. As long as the robber doesn't touch you, or. Hit you, that's different,
A rapist though? Some people may not have any issues with that,

And I know that the moment I do kill someone, I would be a changed person forever. It doesn't matter how that death is rationalized (manslaughter, self-defence, temporary insanity) it amounts to the same thing, and it's bound to happen again, and the next time would be easier. It is safer (for me) to use weapons that incapacitate but not kill; with a Taser gun I won't think twice about going for the jugular. I had to make that example with myself earlier, so that he gets it that there are genuine insane people walking the streets who should not be armed.

All right, I think he was just annoyed earlier.

I know, right! Lol. And they know exactly what they're doing. Too bad yelling back "Man!" doesn't have the same effect.

You can do it to be annoying, that will pain them

Sorry for laughing? Babe, I love you for putting this in context.

Lol, I don't know if that button was Still in reach I had to

GavelSlam:
I'm not asking you to be white.

I'm asking you to think.

Nobody looks down on the Chinese or Japanese because they've located themselves.

For now you are still lost in the stone age.

punchlines left and right, this thread is funny

GavelSlam:

Doesn't surprise me that Africa is behind on every index of development.

If you even believe that someone can make wealth from human secretions then we have a problem as a nation.

Little wonder there's been an increase in cases of human mutilation but no corresponding increase in wealth of the nation.

Think with your head.

You lot are too primitive.

LMAO
Will they listen, bunch of fools.

Bollinger:
Sorry bro. You are very mistaken. How is it possible that in the two decades i've lived here, i have yet to hear one person talk about witches and wizards? Meanwhile it is part and parcel of your very existence. Do you ever wonder why there is so much disparity in your society and ours? It is exactly because of the way you think which perpetuates the rot you live with and are accustomed to. Learn to think like a normal person living in the modern age and i promise you your life will forever change. One question; why do you guys even bother to get an education? It's seems like wasted funds to me. If i were you, i'd rather have spent the money in a village with a native doctor degree.