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DoyenExchange:
Keep on coming

Toks2008:
The phrase " I don't want my children to suffer what i suffered" indeed is an innocuous one but could this mindset be the reason why our children are becoming more redundant and dependent on us?

I have made a research and i realized that most of the people making a mark in many sectors of the nation never had a silver spoon upbringing yet they made it big in life.

Don't you think it makes sense to really let our children experience some form of hardship in order to groom them for the unforseen future?

A friend just shared this.
LETTER TO NIGERIAN PARENTS

Dear All,

Let's be real.

I wish to start by adding the benefit of my time as a student and then resident in the UK. Living in Abuja now. The first thing that I discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to support themselves – including the children of millionaires amongst them. It is the norm over there – regardless of how wealthy their parents are. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did the same – except status – conscious Nigerians.

I also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline) speaking on the Biography Channel. To my amazement, he said that his young children travel in the economy class – even when the parents (he and his wife) are in upper class. Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound sterling. A quick survey would show you that only children from Nigeria fly business or upper class to commence their studies in the UK. No other foreign students do this. There is no aircraft attached to the office of the Prime Minister in the UK. He travels on BA. And the same goes for the Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use.

These practices simply become the culture which the next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate Middleton (the wife of Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close to it. But there’s one core difference between them and us (generally speaking), they (even the billionaires among them) work for their money, most of us steal ours

If we want our children to bring about the desired change we have been praying for on behalf of our dear country, then please, please let’s begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and most importantly be content and not having to “steal” which seems to be the norm these days.

We have Nigerian Children who have never worked for 5 minutes in their lives insisting on flying “only” first or business class and using the latest cars fully paid for by their “loving “ parents.

I often get calls from anxious parents”my son graduated 2 years ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist!”

“Oh really! So where exactly is “THIS CHILD?” is my usual question. “Why are you the one making this call dad/mum?

I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but between you and me, chances are that the big boy is cruising around Abuja with a babe dresses to the nines, in his dad’s spanking new SUV with enough “pocket money” to put your salary to shame. It is not at all strange to hear a 28 year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his or her life in Nigeria but “earns” a six figure “salary” from parents for doing absolutely nothing

I see them in my office once in a while, 26 years old with absolutely no skill to sell apart from a shiny CV, written by his dad’s secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver at his beck and call and he is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the inevitable question- so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer comes straight out – N250,000.00. I ask if that is per month or per annum.

“Of course, it is per month”

“Oh, why do you think you should be earning that much on your first job?”

“Well, because my current pocket money is N200,000.00 and I feel any employer should be able to pay me more than my parents.”

No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to expect something for nothing, as if it were a birthright. Even though the examples I have given above are from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed from Abeokuta to Adamawa.

Wake up mum! Wake up dad! This syndrome – “my children will not suffer what I suffered is destroying your tomorrow. You are practically loving your child to death.

Henry Ford said “hard work does not kill.” We are getting everything wrong in Nigeria now, including family setting. It is time to prepare your children for tomorrow, the way the world is going, only those that are rugged, hard working and smart working that will survive. How will your ward fare?

Please forward to as many Nigerian parents as u can.

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Aufbauh:
Boy, forget that hypocritical storyline of GEJ handing over peacefully.....He gat no option than to hand over after a deserved defeat or better still consider his handing over as one of those his clueless move not knowing the fate that will befall him on buhari's assumption.

Where the civil war wan start from? ur keyboard or nairaland?Smh!

Adonis3:
fingers crossed

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DoyenExchange:
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Akolawole:
Good reaction bros but you have NOT finish your assignment...

You need to call your neighbour to round table and open the scripture to him/her. That any Church one goes that ask for money(no matter how little!) before one see the shepherd is NOT church and cannot be church of Jesus Christ.

Chrisx1x:
yes.ogwashiku poly hnd form=13k,otefe poly hnd form=10k,i don't know about ozoro poly hnd.reg expires nexp month

dorocent:
it's really disturbing and sad when you pay every month light bills but yet you don't have what you paid for. I still wonder when will all this stop.

cindyrocks:
Nigeria shall be great again very soon.

bicmitchum:
Hehe. Was just laughing all through. Thanks for the comment anyways.

She has not friendzoned me. We make out time and again. But I think I have grown serious affection for her mainly because she is so smart. And yes, somehow, she gives me a tough challenge. I guess that's why I always want her around.
But I think you have a point here. If I show her the chats and confront her, she'll point to the fact that we are not in some serious relationship and she should have her freedom.

bicmitchum:
Hehe. Was just laughing all through. Thanks for the comment anyways.

She has not friendzoned me. We make out time and again. But I think I have grown serious affection for her mainly because she is so smart. And yes, somehow, she gives me a tough challenge. I guess that's why I always want her around.
But I think you have a point here. If I show her the chats and confront her, she'll point to the fact that we are not in some serious relationship and she should have her freedom.

bicmitchum:
This girl is probably the most intelligent girl I have ever met. That she is intelligent/smart is in no doubt. She schooled somewhere in the UK and is now working for her dad in Nigeria. We met some months ago and it's been a really good time. Finally I met someone who really challenges me to the bone. We get into arguments on interesting topics and it's such fun. Technically, I could say we are dating. But definitely not marriage-dating or anything of the sort.

Anyways, she uses my computer or other devices from time to time and always makes sure to sign out and erase all traces of use. Because I'm smarter , I installed some kind of keylogger on these devices and obtained her passwords. For some weeks now, I have been monitoring her conversations on all social media platforms she is on. The revelations have been mind-blowing to say the least.

I travel often and can be away for several days, sometimes out of the country. During these times, we still talk of course. But what did I find on her chats? She's been rolling with at least three different guys when I'm not around. And worse still, she's been having unlimited sex with them (she loves sex). Of course, she has always played like I was the only one. The bad news? She is now pregnant for one of these guys. On her chats with him, she goes on about how "her dad is going to kill her". Some other times she is "concerned about how this will crush her reputation." It's almost eerie how I see in real time their planning to take out the pregnancy, lol. Really funnily strange.

Perhaps it wouldn't have been any strange if this girl isn't one who looks as innocent as a baby duck. It's indeed incredibly baffling. I can't even quantify how much respect I had for her. Somehow, I still do and want to continue with her. Maybe? But the thing is, she has continued to deny seeing other guys. Not once has she admitted to this each time I subtly hint at it. Should I confront her with the evidence I have?

Coyotejack:
Hip hop noe pay again ba
U think say Na gospel go pay for u.....
YIMU