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Mr Aboki: Madam.....


Tell your friend that she should do the right the and end the relationship..

If your Boy|girl friend, spouse, fiance(e), partner or wife has to write a letter, sign an undertaking, bring witnesses or give a collateral to obtain a loan from you, then you have no business being together.

The fundamentals in every relationship includes;

- Trust
- Communication
- Care
- love
- Respect
- sharing
- forgiveness
- e.t.c

Its obvious that these dont exist in this relationship. The fact that she has experienced a disappointment from a previous loan (does not necessarily mean she should hold it against him). Except she wants to have a relationship that is filled with grudge.

The only reason why any person would need some sort of guarantee for a loan is because they dont trust in the ability of that person to keep to his side of the bargain.


Your friend is in a bad relationship... #Period!


There are no guarantees in love, life and relationships.. If not, a guy should not do anything for his girl without demanding some sort of guarantee of repayment. Some men pay the tuition of their partners through school only for the girls to graduate and dump the guys. Same way many women invest their lives in one man only for him to up and act a fool.


This story annoys me to my bones.. If the guy is still dating her, he is the bigger fool. Not because of the money, but simply because he is marrying a cun|t.

It would have been better if she said she didnt have the money rather than ask for a collateral.

I agree with you. You've got some good points there.

gluv01: Let the battle begin!
Two wealthy tycoons...meanwhile i'm still waiting for Dangote's son

Wetin you wan do with Dangote's pikin?

Sijo01: Now, you'r going out of line and loosing your mind as well.

Well,then drag me back.

pasqal09: Give 400K freely?

I didn't know. The OP didn't state the exact amount of money in her first post,so I assumed it wasn't much that he was asking for.

Well,she shouldn't give him. Signing the collateral won't even help much. Rather,let him go borrow from the bank. Whatever collateral he signed there,would be sure and secured.

[quote author=Bleble-swag]dat guy no wa pay dats y im act lik dat, na dis kind tym wey money dey hard dey dey do 'is because i luv u o!' 4 money issue, abeg make im dey e yard.[/quote]English please!

Iaz93: If a lady asks her bf for money and the guy dares mention collateral or any agreement of when she'll pay back, that guy will be labelled Stingy, selfish, and so on... but now see!

Chai! Stingy gf!

Don't mind them!


You are dating somebody,you should be able to trust that person. If the man has,he would spend alot on you without asking for collateral,and if you have,don't hesitate to lend or even give him freely. Why ask for collateral?

jay bee: What prompted her to ask for collateral or him signing an agreement?

I would be mad as well if i was in his shoes as that single action can be interpreted as she not trusting me as her partner.

What i always ask people to do if they aren't comfortable loaning someone money is, give what you can afford or just categorically state you don't like loaning people money

GBAM!!!

The boss has spoken!

freecocoa: So my man asked me to lend him some money 3 days ago, I agreed under the condition that he'd sign an agreement stating when he'll pay up, plus collateral incase he ends up not paying as at the agreed time.

He thought I was joking at first but became angry when he realized I was serious, now its causing problems for us, at first I felt like I did the wrong thing but seeing the way he's reacting to the whole thing is making me angry.

I tried getting him to talk about it but he said asking for such meant I didn't trust him and I said no, I trust you but this is different, I'm doing this cos I don't want it to cause problems for us later, he left angrily and we haven't talked since then, I tried calling but he won't answer, now I'm thinking this would lead to a break up cos why react this way if he really intended to pay?

My people abeg, what crime have I committed here? I'd really love to know if I did the wrong thing hence my asking for your opinions, thanks.

P.S I'm representing the lady involved with her permission.

Just tell us that you are the lady in question.

Rubbish! A thread had been created for this story recently. Sorry you are late.

Sijo01: In that case, connect a hose to the b.reasts and...

No! I would really prefer urz. You've got nice,suckable b.reasts that could cure my malaria.

IamTitanium: ehhya, i understand ur pain, don't beat urself up bruh. Not all of 'em will go now, so there'll still be some left to help drill ur assholeee



you of all people should knw now, . Have u asked urself a question? Why am I homophobic? Why do i bother myself so much about someone else's sexxxual orientation? How e take concern me? Why do I hate gays? Studies have shown that Most guys who are Homophobic are Gay!
So i'm not surprised.


wow, doffs hat . You seem to knw alot about these people. You sure u ain't one urself??

Would you shut up there! Or you think that by with this useless epistle you put up there,you could easily harass me into professing to be gay? If that is your intention,then I'm sorry to tell you that you fail woefully.

We haven't had electricity in my area since on Sunday. I hope they expedite work on that plant quick.

kavey10: How nah! scrutinized bawo.

Read the article again! What I gleaned from the article is that they won't just give you asylum just because you claimed to be gay. They would scrutinise you to prove that you are really gay and that you are being persecuted in your country of origin.

All I can say is,good riddance to bad rubbish! Let them collect all the gays in Nigeria and Africa as a whole,we don't care! What kinda rubbish and disgusting s.exual orientation is gay?



And when I say Gays,I mean,Lesbians and Homosexuals. Lesbian is the term used to refer to female gays,while Homosexual is the term used to refer to male gays.

Vivly: What? Nigerians and their love for foreign countries? Some trek across borders, even to poorer third world countries. Most people are sure going to pretend to be gay to seek asylum.

They can pretend all they like,but when they go for visa,they would be heavily scrutinised to prove they are gays and are being persecuted in their country of origin. Atleast,that is what the article says.

Sijo01: O'boy, you well?

Seriously,I no well. I'm suffering from malaria ode the b.reasts.

homesteady: You really want a fight here!

Exactly what he is looking for. I don't think I have his time.


I wonder why he hasn't saw fit to respond to you. He must be afraid of you.

drey22: didn't see nothing

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homesteady: Can't see nothing!

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Austeenx: [color=orange]Okay, despite the wardrobe malfunction, I still couldn't see the pü$$ý. [/color]

Perverts!

And while all these were happening,where was Future?

mayapop: you!

You!

olatomiwa: Jegede, I absolutely disagree with you. Jegede is an average actress while Nelson is a very good actress. There is no comparing the two. AND Nelson is soooooo se**y, she is hot!

Does she give you or.gasm when you watch her films?

[quote author=god_of_music]Where did that Jegede girl go!!! I stopped watching Nollywood movies since I stopped seeing her on set. . . I mean, as men na. . . We need a B.reast and beautiful face like that to keep us glued to our screen



#TeamGOM[/quote]

See how porous our borders are?


Even a handicapped individual can killed people?

Investigation into this scandal should be carried out soon,and whoever is indicted,should face the law. No more postponement.



By the way,how come the Minister still attend the Federal Executive Council meetings even though she is under investigation?

Corruption everywhere!!! I guess that exposed corrupt officer would be seeking for revenge on the Comptroller General when he retire.

Sijo01: Goshhh, those stuff go dey heavy her, I swear.

Don't u envy her? You wished you had bigger b.reasts?

Abu Mikey:

Milk Factory

But you no go taste even a single drop of the milk!

I hope the revenue allocation formula would be favourable this time around. For goodness' sake,too much money is being allocated to the central government with little or nothing to show for it. The new formula should allocated like 30% or 40% to the central government,while the state and local government share the rest.

Abu Mikey:


Oh English, why have thou forsaken this boy?

Kai! Mallam!

homesteady: Is he a member?

Ya,ofcoz. But he is not an active member.