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sapphiere:
I don't support crime but this your judgement is useless. If God judges this way, you and I won't tpsee the light of the day.

HRHQueenPhil:
unfortunately I did not find any single as a bird

Shortyyy:
You ended up insulting me and jumping to conclusions about me even though you know nothing about me.

You're the one that knows nothing about how the internet works. Just the views they're getting from those videos, one way or another they're cashing out.

It beats me how y'all just condemn people, but y'all do worse behind closed doors.

Do you think men that use half-naked women's pictures on apps like Twitter are doing it for fun? They're using it to earn more followers. Same thing as other social networks. You're the one who knows nothing about how the internet works. Go do your research.

And next time you're arguing with someone, don't resort to insults, it shows how irresponsible you are.

Swtbabyvee:
a real feminist will find it disgusting even . Its making men call women sexual objects

Shortyyy:
Dude please! You talked about advertising by Kim and I'm telling you it's the same thing they're doing. And yes, they're cashing out, directly or indirectly. You don't know how many clients they've gotten so far, and I'm pretty sure the views give them money too. Wtf are you even saying?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with what these women doing. As long as they're not harming you in any way, allow them! Please you hypocrites should stop quoting me, im not feeling fine.

You people will just be taking panadol for other people's headaches.

Swtbabyvee:
i really don’t know why women feel it’s cool to sexualize urself that way.

Ivebeenbanned:
You sound like a fragile man.

Quit talking about submission. Its 2020

blinking001:
Blame the northern elites and their youths for this Bokoharam menace. The service chiefs have ran out of ideas and must be replaced. This guys are sabotaging the efforts of our darling president.

Omar09:
My bad.

Omar09:
Smh

Michellekabod2:
Women have now over taken men in cheating,they are now veterans in cheating . The tables are turned now.

Smart girl

Don't worry Op,when he dumps her to focus on his family she will come back to you.

pocohantas:
I like that she didn’t apologize. Chick might be young, but she is very smart. Way smarter than the so-called boyfriend. From the chats, he is obviously doing all the loving.

Sorry about your predicament. I can’t say I feel any pity for you, but it is a sad situation all the same.

rOsy247:
It's better to date a married man than dating a lazy broke ass boyfriend whose contribution in her life is 0%. It will soon be signed into bill. It's criminal offence.

Relationship is not Poverty reduction program yet you want sex plus other cares coming from her abi. Broke ass boys be there talking about that when your fellow men take good care of their babes. No wonder lots of you keep committing suicide.

rOsy247:
lazy broke ass boyfriends should stop lamenting when their girlfriends find better option o

rOsy247:
buy her phone, no, take care of her needs, no, allow her na to date who is taking good care of her na, no. Op what is really the colour of your problem. U want her to sit with u just to be looking at your face? Will ur face solve any of her needs?

Now she gave u 6k and u collected it o? Is it not same man who u fighting her for that gave her the 6k? If u rejecting her for dating a guy that's taking good care of her why didn't you reject his 6k? Cox obviously he's the one taking care of her. Op having n maintaining a girlfriend requires u living up to responsibilities as her man.

If u can't take care of that babe park one side and allow better person see road care for her. Nonsense and ingredients lazy boyfriend. Don't goan work to take care of your babe, that's how they'll keep cheating on u till u haf sense.

Kudos to that babe for dumping u jor. U don't deserve her.

travelland:
He who finds a GOOD wife, FINDS A GOOD THING AND OBTAINS FAVOR FROM THE LORD.

sharone21:
Okay,....But you as a man can always get as many kids as u want....I doubt if Tonto Dike would want u to 'pester' her life all in the name of trying to see your son to have a place in his life, mind you, this is Tonto Dike's son probably her ONLY child. That is why divorce or separation isnt good.

Fountainofyouth:
Shut da fvck up!!! Look around you and see many single mothers every where taking care of more than five kids SINGLEHANDEDLY, heaven did not fall, nobody bat an eyelid on the deadbeat dad because the usual slang these days is that "the children will look for me their father when they are grown", this particular woman did something rare by leaving the kids this time, all you could swallow is women love only themselves, smh!!!

Like it or not, those kids will one day grow up and look for their mother, love her, and sing "sweet mother". If you all dont like it, start killing yourselves one by one, rada rada.

LadySarah:
Keep quiet!

The children are for both parents not for the woman's family. If she isn't around then the man should take care of them.
If she was around they'd still suffer financially or was it not rent that kept them outside.

The man should take care of his kids and stop blaming the woman or send them to his mother.

Hisduchess:
I hope no one will claim head or call the other tail in this kind of your arrangement abi.if yes then that settles it.

elektra:
The only time cheating bothers men is when it is a woman doing it.
Look at this OP, he is not even the one being cheated on, but it worries him so much he had to open a thread about it.

The woman left the kids for her husband. Who should she have left them for? Are the kids not bearing the man’s name?
There are many women tired from raising kids by themselves, have you ever noticed anyone of them? The moment you see one man raising his kids you come to open thread.
You men should get used to raising your own bloody kids.

MissGodOwn:
No it's something but I think the man was too proud, he should have listened to his wife n both of them would have found a solution to the problem.

Being responsible, helping your wife's business, providing for the home and Children , staying faithful to your wife etc is bland and nothing..

MissGodOwn:
No it's something but I think the man was too proud, he should have listened to his wife n both of them would have found a solution to the problem.

Being responsible, helping your wife's business, providing for the home and Children , staying faithful to your wife etc is bland and nothing..

funmisticqueen:
the issue ehn, is let me be attracted to the man first. Men are coming but I am just not interested. My exes kept insinuating marriage but I couldn't just picture myself with them and I broke it off. I think I am commitment phobic. Marriage scares hell out of me, being a baby mama is worse. Going through a pregnancy and having children sounds traumatising to me.

Maybe I should be a lesbian or asexual

funmisticqueen:
I get that I have an unconventional way of passing my message across, but take that iota of truth and work on it.

I am angry at male folk because they continue to fall below my expectations the more I get to know them, either platonically or romantically.

I miss the men of our fathers' generations who did exploits. I grew up seeing that but today, men behave like naira Marley, Bob risky and Davido and it's sickening to see.

No ex of mine has treated me badly. I usually dump them when they fail to rise up to standard even with my help.

funmisticqueen:
I don't believe in coddling grown men. I may sympathise, which I don't with op.
I never said that the tribulation was his fault. I only told him to stop wallowing in self pity.


From adversity, you either rise or stay downtrodden. This is trial by fire and tough love. My words may be iodine tincture on an open wound, but it helps it heal.

Break and mend, do and undo, cry, scream in pain, laugh with madness. Sort each emotion as it comes. Go through it and heal. That is how to come out of this.

@Op strungup79

I believe that if a man can make it once, when he is downtrodden he can always rise back up. So you can do it. Success leaves a lingering aftertaste that is never forgotten. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.


I will keep pushing you to the edge with my words for that is my way and I know no other.

Come out of the sunken place, do this for you, not for your wife or anyone else. You deserve better than seeking sympathy and spreading misery.

funmisticqueen:
Good point, but if you look through that entire post I merely pointed out that her husband drove her into the hands of another man by his actions. He hit her self esteem and she got attention and validation outside. I never said her not cheating is wrong but merely empathized with her because I saw her perspective when no one else did. If a man did the same thing every one will blame the wife.

I merely told op to prove himself to be a leader and a contributor to his marriage and stop wallowing in self pity, but all men chose to see my comments as insults. Contribution is not only financial. We live in a patriarchy. Men already have so much going for them. To whom much is given, much is expected. But these millennial men are disappointing.

Why should I be fair in an unfair world. I am simply speaking the odds in my favor. If that makes me less objective and a villian or maleficent then so be it.

MariaAngeles:

You're insensitive and wicked!
You make it too obvious that you're going through issues.

patjane:
I won’t say anything till I hear from your wife.. sometimes we judge matters to suit us. Let’s not be too fast in passing judgment ..