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Pweedycutie:
Good day family!!...am Blessing by name and am aspiring to study in India. ..but the problem is I don't know anyone there neither do I know the best universities to study science related courses....
I have searched google but it would be better to hear from someone who is there...
Please help a sister in need. God bless
@ishilove please help me move this to frontpage

Well any of the IIT's (Indian institute of technology) would help or the university of Delhi.

tunde1200:
Sorry I don't know how to write well and I don't want to be insulted also to write as it happens to me is hard

Dude, you might be saving a life.

Wow!

Lalasticlala and mynd44 you need to put this on the front page.

sekundosekundo:
The moment I saw her, there was this ministration in me that she's my wife.

What does that mean?

Ovamboland:
It's one of the most foolish decision of the Nigerian government to abandon coal as a reliable and cheap source of power. Unfortunately many gullible citizens without appreciating the issues involved also jumped into the clean environment debate.

After making our country live in dark stone ages and industry un competitive may such gullible citizens now leave the country as economic refugees and in droves, and guess their destination,same countries burning huge tonnage of coal for power like China, India, South Africa, USA, UK
Does above scenario make any bit of sense? But that's our reality today.

If the Niger Delta had been a peaceful region and we were able to harness other resources to give ourselves a better life than present then we can argue about leaving coal untapped. But just look at the number of Nigerians who will rather dare death by crossing the Sahara or the Mediterranean Sea in dingy boats than continue to live in their own country.
Many of such could have been employed if power was taken seriously by the country.

The problem of global warming is been felt by all countries whether they are burning coal or not. That means we are sharing in the punishment and not benefiting from the gains of burning coal. So why not contribute our quota of green house gases and have better life and respect from our fellow men. Why must we always fail when called for strategic thinking?

Dude, coal is bad. If you think I am lying go to China and see the awful impact of coal on the society.

sekundosekundo:
I met my wife February 6, told her my mind after 2 weeks, we did our trad. July and church wedding September of the same year. I didn't touch her till our wedding night. You know what?, I found out that she was a virgin at 30 and a graduate. I love her so much.

Wait! You got engaged after two weeks of dating?!?!? Wow!!!
Is that a trend in Naija or it was just You?

kimbra:
Is it just the guys?, most girls would desperately tie a pregnancy on the guy just so they're called "Mrs" at the end of the day. It has it's repercussions.

If any guy loves you enough, you don't have to get pregnant before he does what's required of him. My opinion!.

I tire o. Naija mentality sef. The first time I heard the same thing that you were saying I. WAS. STUNNED!!!!! I couldn't believe someone could be that stupid to even think like that.

alexialin:
Well the only one I agree here is: I don't have feelings for the Alhaji. And moreover I get angry when supposedly married men with wife and kids at home will come and be disturbing someones life non stop for sexx. No iota of remorse on cheating on their wives at home. No guilty conscience? All they just want is the pussvy and by tabling all goodies they will give a babe of their choice. Not all babes money, gifts, cars and sweet mouh can buy. Someone like me am very stubborn With issues like this..

Even if am attracted to a married man first instance? I will quickly nip it in the bud. I honestly don't need it.. When fine single comfortable intelligent guys full everywhere. And at the end all I need is just one! Kpere.. Which I have anyways. So what else again?
Refiner control your emotions. You can do it. Everything is of the mind.

Like I said not everyone is like you. One has to know there strengths and weaknesses and strategize accordingly. She did what she could and made the best decision to leave the church which she should be commended for and for that I congratulate her.

alexialin:
She shouldn't flee.

How many times will she continue to flee if married men keeps wooing her.

A married man was disturbing. My life where I work.
I told him subtly to please leave me alone. He thought maybe I was playing hard to get.. Am. I not a woman!? I bet that's he's thoughts and he's one Alhaji like that. Middle age, slim and tall dude and he drives a Hummer and with an X5.
So in his mind, I will fall. And am playing hard to get. This guy pursued me for. 4years! Every time. I clamly rebuff him, he becomes more determined. And me? Am not relocating my biz anywhere for any Randy married man. Instead he will leave for me.
So. On the 4the year, he became nasty, and unruly. Even in public and snaps at me as if am his worker. The last time he provoked me with his nasty attitude cos I know he's already frustrated and loosing it as he never taste the kpomo.
That day I was just fuming. I looked at him and I warned him in public don't ever talk me that way ever again or else! Then I walked away with anger. I was like shey, I should call one of my army friends to beat this alhaji ruthlessly in broad daylight and they will warn him to stay off me.. Or I should report him to police for sexual harassment.

My mind then said I should report to the landlord of our business building before taking such steps. So I went to meet Landlord and I told landlord angrily that am. Bn sexualy harassed here! Because am single does not mean I don't have any man backing me. That he should warn the Alhaji. That next time he harrasses me again. Army men will come here, drag him out and give him the beating of his life with koboko. So he should be warned enough is enough! Have had it!
I won't pack out of here because of him.

Throughout that week up til now it's going to 2years nw he ignores me like plague.

Which is what I like!

So refiner is not relocating to another branch. How long will she keep running..

You face a problem head on.
No retreat No surrender

First of all, what happened to you happened at your work place not a house of worship. Big difference. There are no abundance of jobs in naija unlike churches wey full everywhere. Also your salvation is not attached to any church so it was best for her to keep it moving.

Secondly, when it came to the guy who was pursuing you the truth is that you most likely had zero feelings for the Alhaji while from what this girl has narrated, it looks like she was becoming to close to the guy and thats why she had to leave. She knew she probably did not have the strength to hold out for much longer so she did the right thing and decided to remove herself from the situation.

Thirdly, have you ever asked yourself why the bible says "be strong in the Lord and in the power of his might" and "fight the good fight of faith" but when it comes to lust it says we should flee (not run, but FLEE!). That's because lust is not something you fight (go ask the strongest man who ever lived: Samson). It's something you flee from. She has made a good choice to leave the situation before exhausting from her last reservoir of willpower and she should be strongly commended for doing that. In fact I am happy for her and I even wish i had that same inner strength that she possesses. Good for you refiner.

bokoharam5:
This is so long
I couldn't read it
I got scared by the length

Did you end up reading it?

dovelike:
Yes, this thing has puzzled me for a while but why do guys wait for their girlfriends to get pregnant before getting married to them? This is the trend we see now. Celebrity examples are Tonto Dike, Laura Ikeji, PSquare just to mention a few. Not to talk of most people I know personally. This removes the sacredness of a pure union.

Is it that the pregnancy removes a cloak from their eyes and they realize that they want to get married to their girlfriends (something that didn't know before?) or they just want to do right by the lady, thereby, entering into a marriage they are not ready for.

This doesn't guarantee lasting and fruitful marriage for both of them because they both were kind of forced into it and not from their own genuine will, as it's meant to be.

Man, the thing whither me o.

I remember I first heard it from a naija friend I met who said that back in '09 fast forward to some years ago and i heard that its almost like a trend. The thing weak me sef.

The African mentality can be so exasperating at times.

Splinz:
And this is news, an everyday event?

How did this make the front page when none of my own posts since 2007 have not? What kind of rubbish is this lalasticlala? I have tried to even diversify the the things I post and in some cases dumb-ify them yet nothing. Arrant nonsense!

funlord:

The moral of the story is simply this! "Close your legs to married men!"
P.s:
We no send una!

How about telling Mr. Married man to face his wife and stop pursuing someone else?

SmartyPants:
Hey faggott!! Get off my mentions!

Wow!!!!! See the guy who was giving "godly" advice to another woman hahaha. By there fruits we shall know them. Thanks for showing your true colors hahaha

legalalien:
You enjoy and ntertain his company. If you rebuke him, he would never try coming close in his life. There is no man in his right sense rebuked that continues. It has not reached acid or even much talk. Just rebuke him with seriousness.
Note: you are not the only one he does this too, he has others he has dealt with, your not the first.
Watch and pray....... and slap yourself very hard 3times or more. And pray for strength.

It happens to us all. Are you single, if yes. God would send you someone soon. Hold on.

Pass:if your married turn the slap to 5slaps, 5heavy knock that can mke you faint

So you are blaming her for his tendencies? Typical Naija mentality to blame the victim. How about blame the guy who made a covenant with another woman to spend the rest of his life with her but is now looking like he is trying to get uncomfortably close to another woman?

elantraceey:
Why do I have this feeling that you're actually enjoying the attention?


Your heart is not with that church if you're going to leave just because of a man.

What's wrong with her enjoying the attention or admitting her weakness? At least she has made efforts to run from it and you are blaming her for fleeing?

Sorry but her salvation is not attached to a particular church and if the shepherd of that church is not willing to protect the Lord's sheep then she should run.

SmartyPants:
Refiner tell us the full story. The real reason you want to leave is not just because the man won't stop, it is because you actually have feelings for him. Not judging or trying to shame you here, but a problem correctly identified is a problem half solved.

You have correctly identified distance as the solution, however it is not necessarily physical distance but rather emotional distance that will work.

Or will you go through life leaving every church or quitting every job because a married man likes you?
You are still emotionally vested in him, so for as much as you might ask him to stay away with your words, your body language is probably saying something else. Deal with your feelings for him and the problem is solved.

Sorry but your salvation is not attached to a specific church. She should flee before she starts to reciprocate his feelings.

SmartyPants:
Didn't you read through her opening post?

Primary evidence:

1. She stated that the guy likes talking to her. This implies she was doing some talking back.
2. The man called her his best friend openly, which ordinarily a man would only do if he has enough reason to believe that he enjoys at least a close friendship with the lady in question. Interestingly, in her OP, she never denies this friendship.
3. She never makes mention of having any issues with this man's closeness to her. Actually form her write up, her only problem is the look the woman gives her.
4. She mentioned that the guy keeps a seat for her. Which she voluntarily used to occcupy ostensibly until the noticed the uncomfortable look from the wife.
5. The wife was begging her "with her eyes", which means to the wife, the young lady is complicit, which implies that she may have behaved in a way that demonstrated some form of reciprocity.

Secondary evidence:

1. Young girls are impressionable and easily attracted to leaders. Especially charismatic young leaders.
2. Further, the easiest way to make a woman fall for you and stay fallen for you, is to show her emotional affection. This guy has done that to the point where he considers her his best friend.
3. I have discovered by practical experience, that women very easily cross emotional lines without admitting it. I have had my friends girlfriends saying funny things to me, i have had my girlfriend's friends saying funny things to me, and even observed my some of my girlfriends behave in funny ways to other guys.

To reach that level of friendship, where the man's wife became uncomfortable and the man could openly do the things he was doing, it takes two to tango. Fact.

Wow! Typical Naija mentality. No matter What it's always the woman's fault.

Even if it's her fault at least she has left the church so how is she at fault? Why not blame the fact that a guy who said till death do us part to someone else is seeking to be close to a single girl.

becca4216:
u dont have to leave d church cause of him report him to the pastor and even his wife no be person go tel am mk im pac well #trytalkintohim#

Did you not read the part where she said she has spoken to the pastor?

alexialin:
refiner, you have fallen for the guy ,damn!. And your feelings is suffocating you.. Hahahahahahahah jeez!
The murderous look your getting from his wife is sending shivers down your spine. Lol .

Mehn! The guy na bad guy.
He knows your weak already for him.. Lol.

Better stay put in that church and sort your racy heart beats when he gists with u.
The guy is fucvking married. Put a firm stop to the series of gists. U do have with him. Ain't worth the stress.
And try have a boyfriend or a single guy as a bestie that u really like and can gist with every time It helps.

Best of luck

Wrong! She should flee from the church. There is many churches around.

robosky02:
@ refiner

its very simple

straight forward answer

1. don't leave the church

2. make his wife your best friend. be more close to her than he can imagine

3. distance him or ignore him when ever he is alone, act as if you don't see him.

4. when ever he comes to you, put his wife before him, example when ever he comes close ask him how is your wife MORE

5. if possible when he gets close, tell him your fiancée is calling you fake the call and leave

Wrong! That's playing with fire.

refiner:
Good evening nairalanders...everyones advice will be greatly appreciated...

I've been attending this particular church for three years now,he's been there before i came,he's newly married too and his wife attends same church too...it all started around march last year,he started getting close to me,at first i took it as nothing but as days pass by,he comes more closer to me...

He loves talking to me more,he sometimes keeps chair for me which i always decline and when i sit somewhere else,he tries sitting there too,he touches me whenever he laughs...

The other day we attend a youth conference,he was one of the cordinator,he openly said that i am his best friend,good thing his wife was not present.

Caught his wife staring at me most times,pleading with me seriously with her eyes,i felt sorry for her,she has noticed the unusual closeness between i and her husband,tho she has not approached me about it.

I have tried all my best to distance myself from him but he ain't succumbing so i have decided to leave the church,i don't know if i have taken the right decision,leaving the church because of a man.

I've also told the pastor but after warning him,he still continued after a week or two...
Please your advice will be appreciated...

My sister flee o.

HarunaWest:
dont leave ur place of worship.
Explicitly tell him that you are not comfortable with him around you that if he keeps that up, you might ave to report him to the pastor and your folks.. trust me he will pick race. chao

Wrong! She should run. In fact she should flee.

baddestchic:
this topic reminds me of this... about 5years ago this kinda thing happened to my family friend but in his case it he stole from the company to please his wife


honestly speaking the multinational company found out, police came to pick the guy up from home but the night before they had gotten info that the people he did it with police had to come to pick them up by midnight this guy left his family 3kids and a wife took a bus to ghana he didnt even have the time to take part of the money that he stole so he left like that, early in the morning police came and when they didnt find him they took his wife. i dont know how she did it but by the time they froze the account there was really not much left
the guy suffered in ghana she sent 40k to him do you know how much this guy would have stolen from them

finally he met a woman and she helped him, he left for the states.

but thinking about all these... my spouse comes home that he stole just $20 from the government am going to break his head because money goes and comes. do you know what the nigerian government under this our stylish military /democratic government will do to him

Wow! Stealing to please ones wife.

doyinbaby:
In the first place God will not let me marry a thief.

Amen.

Henry240:

By 2008, the US Department of Defense employed 155,826 private contractors in Iraq – and 152,275 troops.

Read the link. Actually you know what, let's leave it at that.

I repeat, you said height of the coalition. That was not the height of the coalition. Stop making up numbers.

Henry240:
Like I said previously, you can google up all I've posted and see for yourself.

I did and like I said the sources were all coming from an organization known for brutal atrocities and lack of respect for human beings and transparency so stop making up numbers in your head and no!!!! evacuation is not the same thing as "rescue".

Henry240:
During the Iraq war, private defense contractors providing security and support outnumbered troops on the ground at points. Contractors can enhance US military capacity but also entail risks. US experience with private security contractors holds several key lessons.

https://www.google.com.ng/amp/www.csmonitor.com/layout/set/amphtml/Commentary/Opinion/2013/0319/A-lesson-from-Iraq-war-How-to-outsource-war-to-private-contractors

You said "at the height of the coalition" that mercenaries were a majority of the boots on the ground not at some points so stop shifting the goalposts because that's a big lie bruh.

Besides, a lot of this private contractors where American soldiers who were looking to make a quick buck after leaving the army.