Today is our six years wedding anniversary and my wife (a very good wife) decided to surprise me with a gift. She bought a material for me to sew native attire. Of course, she said I would have to settle the tailor charges when I get it made. No qualms. I was so excited and thankful. Then it came, she told me that she also bought exactly the same materials for her two elder brothers. My wife knows that I don't do anko (asoebi). Now I feel belittled and the gift looks more like a slap. I strongly feel that mine should not be the same with anyone else 's. That difference is key to me (even if mine is cheaper and of lower quality). I am her husband and the father of her child, not just any man. She has been my sole responsibility for the past six years and her first ever anniversary gift should not equate me to her brothers in the village.
I gently told her to at least change the color of mine, but she has been moody since, claiming that she bought it since November and kept it with the seller, she only collected it yesterday. God knows that I don't intend to use that material. I might just give it to her younger brother next time he visits.
For the matured men (my elders in marriage), please am I on the wrong here? I am open to honest responses.
I just feel that mine should be different, the price doesn't matter. The value for me is rooted in mine being different. I do things for my sister too, but never on the same level with my wife. Her's is always different to reflect her unique place in my life.
Sorry, not so brief after all.
You are right to feel the way you felt, but you shouldn't have expressed it that way... Most times, ladies don't think as logically as men when ut comes to things like this.
Don't let that cause an issue... you beyond what you feel and look at the heart and thoughtfulness of her actions.
Hidden deep in Yobe State, northern Nigeria, lies a marvel of nature—Yusufari Desert. A place of stunning golden dunes, endless horizons, and serene beauty, it’s a destination that could rival the world’s most famous deserts. Yet, it remains largely unknown and untouched.
Having recently visited this hidden treasure, I was blown away by its raw beauty and tranquility. But as I stood on those golden sands, I couldn’t help but ask: why aren’t people traveling here?
The Beauty of Yusufari Desert
The moment I arrived, I was struck by the sheer vastness of the desert. The dunes seemed to stretch endlessly, their soft curves glowing under the afternoon sun. There was no sound except for the gentle whisper of the wind, creating an atmosphere of peace rarely found in today’s bustling world.
As the sun set, the desert transformed. The sky turned into a masterpiece of colors—fiery oranges fading into deep purples. And when night fell, the stars came alive. It was the kind of night sky you only see in movies, with millions of stars twinkling in complete clarity.
Walking through Yusufari felt like stepping into another world. It’s a place where nature reigns supreme, offering the kind of beauty that can leave you speechless.
So Why the Silence?
Despite its allure, Yusufari Desert remains largely unexplored. Here’s why:
1. Lack of Awareness: The biggest reason is simply that people don’t know it exists. Yusufari Desert hasn’t been marketed as a tourist destination, and even many Nigerians are unaware of its beauty.
2. Access Challenges: Getting to Yusufari isn’t straightforward. The roads leading to the desert need improvement, and there are no dedicated transport services to make the journey easier for travelers.
3. Security Concerns: Northern Nigeria has faced challenges with insecurity in the past, and while the situation in Yobe has improved, lingering perceptions still deter many potential visitors.
4. No Tourism Infrastructure: Unlike other famous desert destinations, Yusufari lacks basic tourist amenities. There are no organized tours, eco-lodges, or facilities to make the desert accessible and comfortable for visitors.
Why Yusufari Deserves Attention
Despite these hurdles, Yusufari Desert has immense potential. Imagine camel rides across the dunes, guided camping experiences under the stars, and cultural tours showcasing the rich traditions of the local communities.
Beyond the natural beauty, Yusufari offers economic opportunities. Tourism here could create jobs, boost local businesses, and improve infrastructure in the region. It could even put Nigeria on the global map as a destination for adventure and ecotourism.
My Experience
Exploring Yusufari Desert was unforgettable. Walking barefoot on the soft sands, watching the sunrise paint the dunes in golden light, and gazing at a sky filled with stars—it felt like a dream.
But it was also bittersweet. The beauty of Yusufari is undeniable, yet its potential is untapped. As I left, I couldn’t stop thinking about what this desert could become if it was given the attention it deserves.
A Call to Action
Yusufari Desert is a gem waiting to be polished. It needs better roads, tourism facilities, and most importantly, promotion. The world needs to know about this magical place.
If you’re an adventurer seeking untouched beauty, Yusufari Desert is calling. And for Nigeria, it’s time to recognize the treasure hidden in Yobe State. With the right vision, Yusufari could transform from a hidden gem into a global attraction.
Until then, it waits patiently—beautiful, serene, and unexplored. Will you be one of the first to discover its magic?
Nigeria was created to be a blessed wealthy nation... Unfortunately,most of the few that get to lead are shortsighted!!!
Hersserbi3: Good afternoon nairalanders, please I need ideas on places kids can visit in Ibadan this festive period. I know of Ventura, ShopRite and Zoo.
I need more ideas. Thanks
Agodi Gardens and Ilaji resort are the only 2 options left
UnfairLife7: I have a cousin sister in her late 20s, she's going out with a guy in his mid 30s. This guy works in the oil and gas sector while this cousin of mine works in the telecommunication. They both based in Portharcourt. She met this guy immediately after her service year and they've been together for over 2 years now.
This guy hasn't asked my cousin out to be his girlfriend neither has he proposed to her to be his wife. He spent so much on my cousin. My cousin has met his parents and some of his siblings. He flew her from pH to Lagos to and fro before Christmas just to attend his friend's dad burial. This guy can spend close to million on a seat for her. He gave her ANYTHING, I mean just anything she wants. It got to a point my cousin started feeling somehow the way he spend.
The issue she's having with him is that, he can go for days at times weeks without communicating with her. Then the moment he reached out to her, he'd spend heavily on her. He's not a married man. He's single. Although he has jokingly told my cousin that all what he's doing for her is absolutely nothing . My cousin doesn't earn up to 100k in salary while this guy earn millions. He jokingly told my cousin not to catch feelings for him as all what he's doing is nothing but unfortunately it mean a whole lot to my cousin. This guy isn't freak about sex. She can count the numbers of times they've had sex together. My cousin is confused why is he spending this much on her if he doesn't see her as his girlfriend or wife to be.
If not that my cousin has been to his office once and always goes to his house. She'd have think the guy is either a yahoo boy or into drugs due to how he spent on her. When he flew her to Lagos to his friends event, they spent a week in Lagos. The girl was in her parents house while the guy was in his parents house in Lagos. The guy didn't asked to meet her parents but he took my cousin younger siblings out for shopping, gave them money and also get stuff for my cousins mother.
My cousin understand the guy has other girls as a successful young handsome guy. She's just worried the way the guy is doing. She's really confused and doesn't know what to do.
Smokeybrain: Good day nairalanders. My landlord increased our rent from 1 million two bedroom flat to 3 million. What can we do as tenants? . Some suggested we take him to court.
Make Una chuk mouth abeg
If you're in Lagos state, the court is your best bet!
RealityKings1: how did this even start? ok some weeks ago i met this girl. She seem to be the more of an extrovert and me an introvert. i kinda liked that about her, atleast maybe i can escape my loneliness which was becoming too much fun. while we were still getting to know each other, she stylishly chipped in how she was in a contribution where they contribute 50,000 every month and another one where they contribute 30,000. Well, since she didnt expressly asked me to come join the contribution, i told her how beneficial it was for her. I made sure not to ask anything about how it was done or the entire process involved. she seemed disappointed
Then the 3rd day when we met, after few discussions she brought up the contribution stuff again and told me instead of the 50,000 she would like me to join the 30,000 own. she claimed the 50k contribution is almost over... danmmm perhaps she resized me and calculated ,''if he cant do 50k own, he should be able to cough out 30k''
I wanted to be nice so i played along and asked her what was the procedure involved and if i needed to sign documents to signify participation. she laughed and said there was no need for that since there were just 15 people involved. ''ill just send you an account number to transfer to, then you'll send me a screenshot of the payment'' i asked if her co-contributors were her coworkers, family or freinds. she said they were friends. 'ok i believe you babe'
Danmmmm she has been pestering me about starting since then.
KingintheNorth: What's your Advice and opinion about this. This is actually true life scenario and I'm posting for someone anonymously.
A guy and a lady planned to travel to the UK on a student visa together they contributed and paid the deposit. The plan and agreement was that the guy will study then the lady will work to help with the tuition fee payment of £18k 50-50. then after school everyone will go their way.
Before they traveled, the lady was subtly catching feelings for the guy but the guy was having none of it because it's just contract for him.
When they got to the UK last year, they both moved to different cities , the guy started school and she got a job and started working.
When it was time to pay the balance of the tuition, the lady refused to contribute to the payment. Claiming she doesn't have money and if she must pay it, she will have to move in with him and start acting like his wife.
The guy refused and reminded her about the agreement. She insisted on her own ideas. When she saw that the guy was not bulging she blocked him on all social media so he was not able to reach her for sometime.
When the pressure from school became too much , the guy started hustling day and night breaking his back and still covering his lectures and assignments.
The guy was tempted to remove her from his visa because he's the main visa holder and she's the dependant but he didn't , hoping that she will still fulfill her own part of the agreement.
She remained incommunicado untill the guy managed to pay off all the tuition, passed all his courses and finished school.
Few months after he finished school , she reached out and was acting all friendly. Apparently the company she was hoping to get a sponsorship from disappointed her so she was trying to buy her way into jumping on the 2 years post graduate visa the guy was about to apply for.
Remember, out of the £18k tuition , she only contributed £2k for the deposit and refused all further payments. Now she wants to give the guy £2k to take him on his post graduate visa.
The guy refused and removed her from his visa because of her wickedness and untrustworthiness. Her visa expired and as she was not able to see a sponsor,she was asked to leave the country .now she's in Nigeria swearing for the guy. Threatening to report him to her village juju etc.
Educationalserv: There something unexplainable over 17000 innocent kids are killed in Gaza 10000 In Ukarine and Russia .I can't comprehend how this is allowed/ Approved to happen . If I was supernatural and powerful I will never allow this happen and it In direct opposite to my description as very compassionate.
Think deep .don't come quote any further verses here think rationally . I hope the universe end this Wars
The power of free will... Even in the wild when covering for wildlife documentaries, it is not ethical to interfere with nature. For example, you are a wildlife guide, and you saw a lion killing a baby dear as meal, no matter the compassion and sympathy you have, you just allow nature to take it's course. So, if the freee will of man is taken away, we all become dummies... We all have been given the power of CHOICE!!! It is left to us what we do with it...
kennylagos: I want to start a secondary school at Ibeju Lekki. I have some dozens of students to stàrt with. I need a partner who can finance it. You can PM or check me on my profile if interested.
Agriculture › Re: Travel Out Or Cocoa Farming by dawnomike(m): 9:31am On Dec 29, 2024
