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Seun:
Fellow Nairalanders,

We have noticed the use of ethnic slurs and other derogatory names by a small but persistent group of political actors and trolls.

This practice of derogatory name-calling adds no value to the forum. It's bad for our mental health, our harmony as a community, and the reputation of Nairaland. It's simply toxic. It's absence and the absence of the people who use those slurs will not be missed.

Therefore I have decided to ban the practice entirely. I have instructed dominique, mukina2, Lalasticlala and Mynd44 to ban anyone who uses an ethnic slur or derogatory name on Nairaland. The antispam bot will also contribute to the effort. Please report any case that you see.

- Seun Osewa, Founder of Nairaland

This is great, Seun. It's a step in the right direction.

The next step will be to ban any one that verbally abuses or uses derogatory words on the female gender. We birth. We give lives. We increase humanity. We make and keep homes. So it's very unfair to read some unprintable names they call us, only here in Nairaland! It might look simple, but it's a terrible offense against the female gender and humanity itself.

Some of us are low-keyed business tycoons, some are captains of industries, Managing Directors, Chief Executive Officers. Some are doctors, lawyers/barristers, Engineers, to mention but a few. Some of us are here just for the fun of it, and not because we're jobless.

It hurts me as a woman to see some Nairaland boys (they're not men irrespective of their age, because men are matured and don't usually resort to any kind of violence when handling the female gender), raining abuses on the women folks. Calling us whores and every negative word they can think of.

Please instruct the Mods to also look into those derogatory comments aimed at belittling or body shaming the female gender. And issue long term ban to anyone found culpable of such.

Thank you, Sir.

It then means that you have to up your game cos, your very very very good might not even be good enough for her. Try harder.

And let's say you're presently in a courtship with her, why not have a serious heart-to-heart with her. There're things that we shouldn't let slide in a relationship, especially the one leading to marriage. And one of it is congugal satisfaction in marriage!

If you know you won't be able to cope, if you know you're not sexually compatible, if you know it'll force you to be unfaithful to her during marriage, if you know her interest in sex will eventually deteriorate instead of improve, sort it all out now. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. Moreover, a stitch in time, they say, saves nine.

To be forewarned, is to be forearmed!

Think about it.

Shalom!

A strange visit to the house

A woman in modest dress, accompanied by her husband, dressed in a comfortable but cheap suit, got off a train at Boston Station and went to the Harvard University principal's office.

They did not make an appointment. At first glance, the secretary decided that those people at Harvard had nothing to look for.

"We'd like to meet with the school principal," the man said in a silenced voice.

"He'll be busy all day," the drought secretary answered.

"We'll wait," the woman said.

The secretary ignored the visitors for several hours hoping that at some point they would be disappointed and leave on their own. However, when she made sure that they wouldn't go anywhere themselves, she decided to harass the director and inform about their visit.

"Maybe if you accept them for a minute and wake them up, then they'd rather leave? " she asked the director

The director sighed angrily and agreed. As important as he is, he certainly does not have time to accept people dressed so modestly.

When the visitors entered, the director immediately measured them with his stern and arrogant gaze. The woman turned to him:

- We had a son, he studied at your university for a year. He loved this place and was very happy here but sadly passed away a year ago unexpectedly. My husband and I would therefore like to leave some memory of him on the territory of this university.

The director was not happy about it at all, but on the contrary he was very irritated.

- Lady! - he replied impudently, - we can't build monuments to everyone who studied at Harvard and died. If we did, it would soon be a cemetery.

- No, I didn't mean so - the woman quickly objected, - we don't want to build a monument, nor a statue, we want to build a new building for Harvard.

The director looked at the faded checkered dress and a cheap suit and exclaimed, "God, do you people have any idea how much such a building costs? All Harvard buildings are worth over seven million dollars together!

The wife hasn’t said anything in a minute. The director had an ominous smile of joy. So they will see her out of here after all!

The woman turned to her husband and said quietly:

- Is it so cheap to build a new university? So why don't we build our own university?

The man gave a nod in agreement. Harvard director faded and looked confused.

The Stanford spouses got up and left the office without further ado.

In Palo Alto, California, they established a university that bears his name - Stanford University in memory of their beloved son.

(Wikipedia: "Stanford University was founded by a train tycoon, US Senator Leland Stanford and his wife Jane Stanford. The university is named after their only late son, Leland. Leland Stanford, Sr. told his wife, "From now on, all the children in California will be like our own children"... )

yarimo:
And if you check very well the haters must be from his tribe. The bitter and developers tribe.

Unfortunately for you, they are Ghanaians. So what do you have to say now?

Good day Nairalanders. Please I have found an influx of email from you guys and just want to make it clear that I am tired and absolutely not interested in having any kind of relationship with any Nairaland Male, especially from the Romance and Family Sections. So stop sending me mails.

This is a faceless forum and I also want to maintain a faceless identity and pseudo name here. Moreover, I'm here to read comments, contribute if need be, and catch some cruise, and nothing more.

I cannot forgive myself if after all the insults I receive here as a FEMALE, and all the demeaning names you call my gender, you crawl behind, send me emails and expect me to accept and be friends with you? GOD FORBIDS!. For what purpose, exactly?

Next time that happens, I will publish all your monikers here! Take your friendship to where it's needed please. My kind of men are rare in those sections - academically intelligent, tech swavy, diligent, calculative, brilliant, business oriented, respectful, hardworking, exposed, resourceful, and very busy making money, to mention but a few. They're not laid back, uncouth, gossips, promiscuous, disrespectful and abusive, etc. Above all, they're well brought up.

Thank you for your understanding.

Seun:
Dear Igbo People,

I sincerely apologize for allowing a toxic political banner advert which said, "Lagos can never be run from Anambra; go and vote" to run on Nairaland for several hours on Wednesday, March 15, 2023.

The mischievously worded banner advert appears to have been part of an ethnically divisive political campaign aimed at securing Lagos State for the ruling party by instilling fear in Yoruba people, making them believe that Igbo people intended to "take over" Lagos State.

Such ethnically divisive political campaigns have no place in a forward-thinking democracy, and for this reason, the ad should have been taken down instantly. No harm was intended, but my lack of forethought about the ethics of that type of advert led to a disappointing outcome.

We should have had a clear policy against accepting negative and ethnically divisive ads on Nairaland, we should have communicated it to all advertisers, and we should have taken down any advert that violated that policy instantly. This will all be in place before the next election.

We made almost N16,000 from the ad. We will double it and donate it to victims of political violence in Lagos.

Please, do NOT give up on Nigeria. The times are challenging, but TOGETHER, we will overcome.

Sincerely,
Seun Osewa.

Medicine after death! The aim of the advert has been achieved already, so what's the need for an apology?

Just visit families that are intermarried with Igbos or Yorubas, and see the tension you lot created to once happy family. Even the children are affected.

Let the God of vegeance take His place in this matter!

IyaebeTheGreat:
Coming from a randy man that’s sleeping recklessly with a girl he won’t marry.

Don't mind the yeye guy, jare.

OmoGomesIlorin:
I meet this lady in December 2019 and by 2020 we had the opportunity to connect with each other on a friendship level. From my interactions with her and observations, she is cool-headed and calm, intelligent and ambitious. Her skills match someone I dream of marrying. She is from Anambra, state - Umuoji

However, as a low-budget guy, I am weighing my options due to stereotype of demanding for a gargantuan bride price.

I want to know if what people are saying online is true or exaggerated


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Oga leave what people are saying online and go meet her family one on one to know what is obtainable in their family.

When it gets to the stage of marriage, some of you will be looking for uneccessary excuses to disappoint.

For the years you have known her, a serious suitor would have gotten all the information needed, ready.

Tragedy in Ondo as 75-year-old woman sets her son, daughter-law and two grandchildren ablaze

A 75-year-old woman, Iforiti Oloro, has allegedly set her son, daughter-law, and grandchildren abl@ze in Ondo State.

According to reports, the tragic incident occurred at Aponmu, a suburb of Akure, Ondo’s capital city, at the weekend.

It was gathered that the septuagenarian living in the same compound with her son, Victor Oloro, woke up in the middle of the night and allegedly set the house on f!re while the family was asleep.

A resident in the community, Bayo Adegboyega, who confirmed the incident, explained that the residents noticed the family’s house was on fire on Saturday, March 18, 2023.

“We noticed that the building was on fire around 2:00 a.m., and all the family members were at home. I had to join neighbours close to the building in putting off the fire by breaking the windows to gain entry,” he narrated.

"Sadly, by the time we entered, the man (Victor Oloro), his wife (Racheal), and two children ( Toluwani and Blessing) had been affected by the fire.”

He also mentioned that the burnt family members were taken to a state hospital in Akure but were rejected due to the degrees of burns suffered from the fire incident.


"So, we rushed them to the Federal Medical Centre in Owo, but unfortunately, we lost the last born on arrival while on Sunday night, the man and his wife died. Only the firstborn is alive but in a critical condition,” Mr Adegboyega added.

While describing the incident as “bizarre and shocking,” Mr Adegboyega said the residents later learned that the grandmother allegedly set the building on fire.

"It was yesterday (Monday) that we got to know that the old woman got some dry palm fronds and the little petrol her son kept in a gallon, spread it around the house, and set the house on fire. While confessing, the woman said she set the house on fire because her son and his wife were allegedly starving her of food.”


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[quote author=Reelmii post=121913389]interesting....not nice tho,, makes it look like he is repeating cloth....and please if u are a lady,, try to wear other colours,,, that u work in the banking structure does not mean u cant play with colours wen u are not at work or on official duties...

My opinion tho......variety is the spice of life🤗[/quote

Yes that's how it looks, unless you're close to the person to know that he or she actually has many other wears, but unfortunately, of the same colour .

I change colours when I am on ankara or lace, but if you ever see me on corporate wears, it must be in dark shades. Like I don't feel comfortable wearing other colours of corporate wears. In fact, you can't even see me wearing them,no matter how beautiful there are.

Thank you.

Reelmii:
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Why is peter obi always on black...him no dey wear other colours of cloth

I think it has to do with his banking background. Dark shade colours are always the colour code. And the damned thing mastered some of us. Like I can't wear any corporate wears outside dark colours of black and ash.

mysticwarrior:
A very wise woman has spoken.

Thank you, Sir.

luminouz:
Babe....
Excuse my forgetfulness!! I don't remember your moniker oh.

Abeg remind me

I am your old time Nairaland friend.

"Die without a sister, you said"? What if mama has hanged her booth already? Kuku marry and birth female children nah.

I'm even happier that your mind of understanding has been enlightened to recognize the importance of a girl child! You deserve an accolade, Olohun. When you birth a female child, you'll know how sweet and caring female children naturally are, right from their toddler's age. And then you'll see that we're not all Oloshos like majority of the menfolk here believe.

Wifey123:
I definitely feel that the cultural differences cause big misunderstandings. Maybe he made a mistake and I’m not the wife that he wanted.

However, to be clear, I did not use the F word. My husband did. He will cuss me out when he’s mad at me.

No, don't think that way. His behavior might be as a result of frustration and disappointment over what Nigeria has become. It should be more of a transferred aggression than regret.

From the tone of your comments, I can see a woman who really wants her marriage to work, who's not offensive about the slap her husband gave her, who even admitted to being the offender, you know.

Like someone righly said, send him a text message. Tell him how sorry you really are, promising to never ask him to shut up again, or be disrespectful to him. Conclude by telling him that he should try and find something to eat because you wouldn't be happy knowing that he hasn't eaten any food yet. He'll be like; oh, she still cares so much about me eaten sef. Believe me you might be the one just reminding him he has not even eaten yet. And then conclude your message by telling him to take care of himself and that you miss him.

Don't choke him with several messages. Don't call him now because he might not even pick your calls. Don't appear so desperate, but don't also let the misunderstanding to linger.

Our culture forbids us disrespecting our husbands, even so much as to order him to shut up. If you're a Nigerian, by now, you would have been invited by the elders for a family meeting. It's that serious here.

Also, be prayerful. Any marriage built on Christ the Solid Rock, withstands any rocky storm. There's no perfect marriage anywhere, and yours is no exception. But if it becomes violent, then you know what to do.

I earnestly pray that your marriage works.

Ok. It's such a pity. Does he have a close friend that visits once in a while? Try to see if you can get answers to your questions through him.
Whatever answer you get, will inform your decision.

Can you imagine? Exodus of Nigerian trained doctors to foreign lands, yet, our government care less about it. More might be at the airport already on their way to Europe or America as I type. And some are processing their relocation, yet our government is not even bothered.

Same thing with IT and other Tech guys. No wonder banks are experiencing unending network/link issues, because the good hands have left and are still leaving the country every day.

Omotaday:
Haaa lol 😂

Wahala.

I deleted my post cuz the guy was already accusing me 😄 Anyone who used to go out in Manchester can decode all those locations he mentioned

This must be a joke. Please, let’s be serious. I know no godamman thing about this. Please!!

For now anyone who knows where Op was referring to in his write up, and is a male, is a suspect . And you mentioning Manchester when Op never even mentioned it, Egbon? Don't you think you're implicating yourself further?

Let's stay action until we're able to detect the real nigga, ok?

I had similar experience years back as INEC Adhoc Staff. And after that, I vowed never to take part in any government temporary work again, be it as INEC Adhoc Staff, or as the upcoming National Census Staff (or whatever they're called).

Those greedy supervisors would rather everyone died than for them to exhibit an iota of integrity.

luminouz:
*Sighs*

I don't usually do this because when I advise guys, they never listen, too blinded by love to realize a woman is only loyal to her emotions, not your sacrifices. So I let these niggas burn.

However, I'm still a man and I realize you are in a dark place now. Do reach out to me and we will talk this out, if you want to. You need steps out of this and I can help, if you want

Twale baba luminouz. Ekun jo meta. How Ibadan nah?

acorntree:
Call him out now so that nairalanders can help you talk sense into him. What's his handler.

Also read Omotaday's comment. He's likely the guy. His first post was empty, but his second post gave him out. Even the Op quoted him. Just two comments away from yours on Page 10. Scroll back.

He might have more than one moniker, though.

Insultme:
Are you the guy?😂🤣.
Even if he is not on this thread at the moment, someone is going to narrate the story to him one way or the other, that is the reason I tweaked some things in the story, although I gave out lots of information already but still, it can be anyone.

You're indeed wise. Even this too shall pass.

And in all you're doing, please don't let your studies suffer because of a certain promiscuous wife!

DOVgadgets:
I don’t know if you’ve gotten the said printer but I have three for sale if you are still interested
Location is badagry
Quote me if you are interested
Thanks

No I have not gotten, and I am still interested (and it depends on the price too), but Badagry is too far for me.

Thank you.

Faber:
Go get yourself a hubby or boyfriend. You supposed dey in a guys arms by this time of the night, but here you are ranting online...

Any girl at your age still single, no hubby, no kids is a failure to the F gender 😎

And if not that common sense is not common after all, I would have asked if you don't have sense to know that you and I might be in a different time zone.

Or I could be a student burning the midnight candle;

Or a nursing mother who woke up to tend to her infant;

Or a writer who derives her inspiration in the dead of the night.

Your shallow brain is too small to grasp all of the above and I don't really blame you for it, ok? Yahoo yahoo and gambling have emptied your skull of any reasonable thoughts.

My first response to you still stands anyway.

Faber:
Go get yourself a hubby or boyfriend. You supposed dey in a guys arms by this time of the night, but here you are ranting online...

Any girl at your age still single, no hubby, no kids is a failure to the F gender 😎

God bless you, Sir.

Let the ONE who has the final say, answer you in Jesus Name, Amen!

"And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it's time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women
And if we don't we'll have a race of babies
That will hate the ladies that make the babies
And since a man can't make one
He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one".

-Tupac Shakur
Keep Ya Head Up

VoidLife7:
Amen

Thank you so much for the best wishes.

You are welcome.

God will surely bless you for your kindheartedness.

SpecialAdviser:
Thank God you had the courage to mention Buhari. V
Before now, coward Tinubu Urchins will spend all days calling Emefiele up and down. How can someone be so myopic to blame Emefiele without saying anything about his useless boss Buhari. Can't BUHARI just sack him?

Why all these wrong directive of anger towards Emefiele? It's a big Shame

What majority of people don't realize is that it could also be a subtle way Buhari is using to syphon money out of Nigeria to Saudi Arabia, since his tenure is almost over. Otherwise, why the prolonged silence, and why is he not ordering CBN to do the needful? Why is the president so nonchalant about the sufferings of Nigerians?

We can all see there's more to what we're currently going through as a country.

GOTVee:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, I think I must give kudos to our Muslim brothers and sisters for living by the tenets of islam. No Islamic ruling nor nation will give a nod to this madness and we wonder why they are more morally up right than we Christians? Weird acts and cultures are common amongst Christian nations yet we think we are more righteous. Sometimes I regret being a Christian

You forgot to mention that they might be just a minute number of Christians in some of those western countries that practice such weird customs and traditions. They have the satanists, the Buddhists, the cultists, the atheists, the voodooist, the traditonists, different religious sects, etc.

You can see from the list above that Christianity might only occupy just a very few percentage in such countries/nations and shouldn't be known or addressed as Christian countries/nations, in order to avoid giving Christaindom a bad name.

You don't need to regret being a Christian. Just live the life that's pleasing to God and make sure you evangelize Him whenever you're in a position to do so.

A structured organization shouldn't ask such a question during interview, because that's the function of Job Evaluation. I doubt if recruiters still remember it's key role during interviews, anyway.

SimpleGuy001:
Hi, What are the best residential areas in shomolu?

You can try Palmgroove, Onipanu, Anthony. The advantage of living in the aforementioned places is that you'll have two routes to Island.

Either you pass through Ikorodu road to Lagos Island, or you pass through Oshodi/Gbagada/Oworoshoki/3rd Mainland bridge.

Whichever way, you'll be at an advantage. But try confirm the light status in such places. Otherwise, you're welcome to Surulere.

Villa12:
Yes. Op is kind and loving. From the writeup i think the girl isn't his biological sister but he took her as his flesh and blood. I wish the young girl success in life.

As for Op, i believe God will see him through and make him a blessing to his family

RoyalRoy
Seun
This should be in front page

Yes, they're not direct siblings but he's still so kind in making sure her destiny is not truncated.

I pray both the young man and his 'sister' find a permanent help to greater heights.