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Pray to God for divine direction. Make sure you marry a business inclined lady or someone who's working and understands what it means to make a living, not a liability. A compatible partner will do.

The advantage of marrying early is that you and your children will grow like siblings. But the disadvantage is that marriage institution is weightier than it seems from outside, especially when you're not financially, psychologically and emotionally matured for it.

Think about it and see if you can wait maybe another 5years before making this lifelong decision. For you to have even given a thought to marriage at this age shows you're one hell of a responsible young man and I am very proud of you.

I pray you find a wife suitable for you.

Cheers.

MaDaRa01:
I don't know what's wrong with me. I always find it hard to reply the negative whenever someone ask me for anything that, at that moment, i don't have or won't be able to do.

If someone ask me for help, let say money, to say "sorry, i don't have" dey hard me. I go begin promise that don't worry i will give you tomorrow, when i know that my tomorrow food never sure.

is there any name for such condition?

It's a special kind of ministry. Ministry of Giving, and it's not common. Not everyone who's well-to-do has the mind to give. You don't have, yet you give or promises to give.

I have one thing to say to you: God bless you exceedingly. May He open great and mighty doors for you. May He enrich you so you can be a source of blessing to the needy around you.

Stop promising them when you have nothing to give, otherwise, they may begin to misunderstand it as you're unreliable.

God bless you, bro.

Congratulations to Seun and to all of us Nairalanders. For without us, they'll be no Nairaland.

Try to modify the site maybe every quarterly or bi-annually. Technology is seriously evolving and we can't be stagnated. Put certain measures in place to help the Forum maintain its position as first of its kind in the whole of Africa.

Kudos.

General Adebayo Writes Open Letter To Tinubu

My dear Asiwaju,

I am compelled to write this open letter to you because of the state of affairs of the Yoruba nation. Firstly, I wish to acknowledge that fate has put you in a prime position to determine to a large extent the direction that the Yoruba people will go.

The indisputable truth is that one may quarrel with your politics but your sagacity is never in doubt. Even those who don’t see eye to eye with you agree that you are imbued with unusual native intelligence, uncommon people skills and unrivaled foresight. You, more than any other person, has been the game changer since the advent of democracy in 1999. It is for these reasons that I have chosen to direct this letter to you.

My singular purpose is to tug at the strings of your heart. I am not writing to appeal to partisan considerations but to see, if per chance, I can pour out my heart to you in a manner of speaking. God has blessed you even beyond your wildest imagination. You have installed Senators and Governors. You have removed Governors and even a President. You have also installed a President.

There is nothing you have wished for or desired that you didn’t get. Fortune has smiled on you. Goodwill follows you everywhere you go. You have done very well- more than most men ever will. However, there is one area that is begging for your urgent attention.

This area may well define you and all you have ever achieved. This matter, in my opinion, is the only difference between you and the late sage, Chief Obafemi Awolowo. Let me restate for the purpose of emphasis that this is the area in which the late sage and Leader of the Yorubas stand head and shoulders above you. It is the reason his name has been a constant denominator in our regional and national politics.

It is the reason politicians, friends and foes invoke his name for political advantage and personal glory. It is also the reason why we can’t stop talking about him almost thirty years after his death. What will anyone say about you thirty years after you have transited?

Asiwaju Sir, you may be wondering what I’m talking about?

It is the issue of legacy. According to Peter Strople, ‘Legacy is not leaving something for people, it is leaving something in people’. Legacy is building something that outlives you. Legacy is greater than currency. In the words of Leonard Sweet, ‘ What you do is your history. What you set in motion is your legacy’.

You can’t live forever, Sir. No one can. But you can create something that will. Enough of speaking in parables- I shall now speak plainly.

When destiny brought you on the scene, we were enamoured because you championed the case for true federalism.

It was your belief then that the Yoruba nation will fare better under a restructured arrangement than under the type of unitary government we run while pretending by calling it a federal government. Everyone knows that there is nothing federal about our government at all.

If truth must be told, the Yoruba nation has fared very badly since the advent of our new democracy. And this is not about holding power at the centre.

Let me bring this home: someone passed a comment recently that he would want Biafra to become a reality because he knows the Igbo nation will survive.

That comment led me to deeper introspection as I wondered if the Yorubas can truly survive. Let me cite my first example. From Oyo to Osun, Ogun to Ondo, Ekiti to Kwara and Lagos, hardly will one see any serious industry or manufacturing concern owned by a Yoruba person. I am not talking about portfolio businesses or one-man business concerns.

Most industries in Oyo State are owned by the Lebanese. The native business and industry gurus who dominated the landscape- Nathaniel Idowu, Amos Adegoke, Lekan Salami, Alao Arisekola, Adeola Odutola, Jimoh Odutola, Chief Theophilus Adediran Oni and others- are all gone with no credible replacements. I’m sure you remember the tyre factory of the Odutolas and how Jimoh Odutola was even asked by the Governments of Kenya and Ghana to set up a similar factory in their countries. Chief Theophilus Adediran Oni, popularly called T.A Oni & Sons started the first indigenous construction company in Nigeria.

He willed his residence- Goodwill House, to the Oyo/Western state government, to be used as a Paediatric Hospital, which is now known as T.A Oni Memorial Children Hospital at Ring Road in Ibadan. This sprawling family Estate and residence was cited on a 15acre piece of land, 65 rooms, with modern conveniences, Olympic Swimming Pool and stable for Horses, etc.

People like Chief Bode Akindele started companies like Standard Breweries and Dr Pepper Soft drink factory at Alomaja in Ibadan.

Broking House built by the late Femi Johnson, an insurance magnate, still stands glittering in the mid-day sun as an epitome to a rich history that Ibadan has. The most serious and only notable Yoruba entrepreneur we have now is Michael Adenuga. I say this quite consciously because most of the other names are oil and gas barons.

Most of what stood as testaments of industry in Oyo State are gone- Exide Batteries, Leyland Autos and many others. In its place are shopping malls and road side markets but no nation develops through buying and selling alone- especially when you’re not actually producing what you’re selling. Hypermarkets and supermarkets have taken over because of the need to feed our insatiable consumer-appetite and foreign tastes.

In one instance, an ancient landmark in the form of a hotel was demolished to pave way for a mall. That is how low we have sunk. If our past is better than our present- if we always look back with nostalgia frequently, then there is a problem.

The case of other states is not different. Osun’s case is pathetic. Ditto for Ondo and Ekiti. Ogun State can boast of some factories at Sango-Otta and Agbara axis but most of them are not owned by the Yorubas.

There is no significant pharmaceutical company owned by any Yoruba except for Bond Chemicals in Awe, Oyo State- and its wallet share is very insignificant. For Lagos State, more than 70% of the manufacturing concerns and major industries in the State are owned by the Igbos.

If the Igbos were to stop paying tax in Lagos State, the IGR of Lagos State will reduce by over 60%. In contrast, Sir, go to the South East and look at the manufacturing concerns in Onitsha, Aba and Nnewi. Please don’t forget those were areas ravaged by civil war a mere forty something years ago.

The Igbos have certainly made tremendous progress but the Yoruba nation has regressed. I wish to state that this letter is not meant to whip up primordial considerations or ethnic sentiments but just to put things in proper perspective.

Asiwaju, I will like to also talk about the state of education in the Yoruba nation. Our education has gone to the dogs.

We have a bunch of mis-educated and ill-educated young men and women roaming the streets. Ibadan, for instance, had the first University in Nigeria and the first set of research centres in Nigeria (The Forestry Research Institute, the Cocoa Research Institute (CRIN), The Nigerian Cereal Research Institute Moor Plantation (NCRI), the NIHORT (Nigerian Institute of Horticultural Research), the NISER (Nigerian Institute of Social and Economic Research), IAR&T (Institute of Agriculture, Research and Training), amongst several others). Ibadan was the bastion of scholarship with people like Wole Soyinka, JP Clark, D.O Fagunwa and Amos Tutuola as residents.

In the May/June 2015 West African Senior Secondary Certificate Examination, Abia came tops. Anambra came 2nd while Edo was 3rd.

Lagos placed 6th while Osun and Oyo was 29th and 26th. Ekiti was 11th, Ondo State was 13th and Ogun State was 19th. In 2013 WASSCE, only Lagos and Ogun States were the Yoruba States above the national average.

If we do an analysis of how Lagos placed 6th in 2015, you will discover that it was substantially because of other nationalities resident in Lagos.

For proof, please look no further than the winners of the Spelling Bee competition which has produced One-Day Governors in Lagos State.

Since inception in 2001, other nationalities have won the competition six times (Ebuka Anisiobi in 2001, Ovuwhore Etiti in 2002, Abundance Ikechukwu in 2006, Daniel Osunbor in 2008, Akpakpan Iniodu Jones in 2011 and Lilian Ogbuefi in 2012).

Sir, there is something seriously wrong about our state of education. From the vintage times of Obafemi Awolowo who initiated ‘free education’, we have regressed into a most parlous state.

Let me talk about roads, housing and infrastructure .

The first dualized road in Nigeria, the Queen Elizabeth road from Mokola to Agodi in Ibadan was formally commissioned by Queen Elizabeth in 1956.

The first Housing Estate in Nigeria is Bodija Housing Estate (also in Ibadan) which was built in 1958. The state of roads in the Yoruba nation has become pathetic.

Our hinterland are still largely rural. Even some state capitals like Osogbo and Ado-Ekiti are big villages when you compare them to towns in the South East. How many new estates have been built over the last decade? Even Ajoda New Town lies in ruins.

We have abandoned the farm settlement strategy of the Western Region and only pay lip service to agriculture.

Instead of feeding others like we once did, others now feed us. We plant no tomatoes, no pepper and the basic food that we require. The Indians have bought the large expanse of water body that we have in Onigambari village.

The water body in Oke Ogun of Oyo State can provide enough fish to feed the whole of the South West. From being a major cocoa exporter many years ago, one can point to just a few vestiges of factories that still deal with Cocoa in the Yoruba nation.

80% of Cocoa processing industries in the South West have been shut down. The Chinese have taken over the cashew belt at Ogbomoso in Oyo State. They have even edged out the indigenes as brokers.

They now come to the cashew belt to buy from the local farmers, sell on the spot to other Chinese exporters who now process the cashew nuts and import them back into Nigeria at a premium.

Sir, there are only 7 major cashew processing plants in Nigeria and you can check out the ownership. The glory has departed from the Yoruba nation.

Apart from Asejire, Ede, Ikere Gorge and Oyan dams built ages ago, where are the new dams to cater for increased population and water capacity for the Yoruba nation?

How have we improved on what our heroes past left us? Maybe apart from certain areas in Lagos State, others can’t even supply their citizens with pipe-borne water.

Our youth which we used to take pride in are largely a mass of unemployed and unemployable people. Have you noticed the abundance of street urchins, area boys, touts and ‘agberos’ that we now have all across the Yoruba nation?

Have you noticed the swell in the ranks of NURTW (I mean no disrespect to an otherwise noble union)? Have you noticed the increase in the number of Yoruba beggars?

There was a time that it was taboo for a Yoruba man to beg- but no more. The spirit of apprenticeship is dead. There was a time that people who learn vocational skills celebrate what we referred to as ‘freedom’. While that is largely moribund now in the Yoruba nation, the Igbos still practice it with great success.

The only thing we can boldly say the Yoruba nation controls is the information machinery- the press. We own largely the newspapers- the Nation, Punch, Nigerian Tribune, TV Continental and a few others.

It is because of our control of this information machinery that we have rewritten the narrative in the country with the misguided self-belief that things are normal and we are making progress. A look beyond the surface will prove that this is so untrue.

We are largely divided. For the first time in the history of the Yoruba nation, religion is about to divide us further- and it is starting from Osun State. You are married to a Christian.

My own father-in-law is an Alhaji. That is how we have peacefully do-existed but the fabrics are about to be torn to shreds because of poor management of issues. Afenifere has been reduced to a shadow of itself. OPC that once defended Yoruba interests has gone into oblivion.

Yoruba elders have been vilified in the name of politics and partisanship. It is no longer news to see teenagers throwing stones at their elders because of their political indoctrination. Even under the late sage, Chief Obafemi Awolowo, the Yorubas never belonged to just a single party- yet our unity was without blemish. Now, our values have gone down the drain.

Asiwaju, I believe I have said enough.

The task is Herculean but I believe Providence has brought you here for such a time like this. It is time for the Yoruba nation to clean up its acts. What do we really want?

How can we quickly right the wrongs? The Yoruba nation is in a state of arrested development.

The Yoruba nation is gasping for breath and crying for help. Will you rise up to the occasion? I am aware you understand that all politics is local and charity begins at home. Our fathers gave us a proverb: ‘Bi o’ode o dun, bi igbe ni’gboro ri’.

I know there are no quick fixes but I also know that if there is anyone who has the capacity to do something about our current situation, that person is you. This should be the legacy you should think of. Your legacy is our future.

Yours Very Sincerely,

Adebayo Adeyinka

Iyin-Ekiti.


Source: theglittersonline.com.ng

Shalashaska:
Supreme Court judgement, extended the validity of the Central Bank of Nigeria currency redesign policy to December 31, 2023.

Buhari and Emefiele didn't say anything to validate supreme court's order. So it remains an illegal tender until they approve.

You know how some Powers-that-be could flaunt court order and nothing will be done about it.

ahnie:
A customer who came to patronize me this morning paid with old #500note.
I majorly deals in transfer,than physical cash.

I was reluctant at first to collect it from him,but the condition I saw the man,I was forced to accept it,and secondly because I don't know if the persons I buy from would agree to collect it as a means of payment.

I hope I have not made a mistake by collecting it.

As at last week when I visited the bank, GTB were still collecting old Naira notes (N200 and N500 notes), but you need to fill CBN form from their portal and attach to the money. You can make further enquiry on this.

And please, aside the approved old N200 note, others are no longer legal tender. Stop collecting them.

Thank you.

Ehisod:
Make your offer, if it's okay, it's yours.

Can I see the pictures of the items?

That will enable me make an offer.

Thank you.

Upon everything you listed, you for help me advertise printer nah. I need printer, jor.

How much for the stabilizer?

That giant 2 ceiling fans nko?

God bless all who plan to help, and especially those who have started helping already. May your source of income never run dry. I pray to join soon.

And for you, Op, you're a great and kind brother. May God lift you up so much for your wisdom and ability to garner help for your kid sister. Posterity will treat you well, you'll see.

victooman:
l notice that irrespective of how many times l brush and scrub my teeth, the yellowish stain never seize to vanish.

l don't smoke, eat too much chocolates but honestly my teeth color is damn annoying.

Please what is the natural remedy for this Nairalanders?

If you live in Lagos State, visit the dentist section of Broad Street General Hospital, Lagos Island. Their fee is very affordable.

If you're coming from Obalende/TBS axis to CMS, tell the conductor to drop you at Water Boy bus stop. Enter through the hospital left gate. It's the building on your left. This is to avoid too much trekking because of ban on Okada.

I hope this helps.

You're a fulfilled woman, Grandma. Seeing your son attain the position of a Vice President of Nigeria is indeed a great blessing.

I wish you happy birthday and more glorious years spent in perfect health, Grandma.

Hmmmm. "He who brings in an ant-infested wood into his house should not complain when the lizard visits him" (Chinua Achebe's Arrow of God). To be forwarned is to be forearmed, Ogbeni.

Don't apply to be any woman's play thing, because you go wash plates and pants tire. Verbal abuse of different kinds and dimensions will be flying in from all angles. Even your mouth no go fit talk am. You go just siddon, with your hand on your chin, dey hiss up and down. You better be careful what you're asking for. Moreover, you're even too young to enslave yourself, bayi.

Quit been lazy and a joke. Get your ass up and look for something lucrative to do. When you make money, even women themselves will be fighting for your attention!

You wan turn yourself to gigolo. I pity you sha.
Na you sabi ooo.

litigator:
Haba! Facebook bawo? How and wen?

Be Kia ful ooo

Olohun, I read exact same story on Facebook days before I saw it on Nairaland. The man himself commented with his picture visible on his profile.

Goddyrichie:
all ur generation bastard iku ma pa yii

At least I have seen your picture, you dispicable son of a disappointment that doesn't respect his elders. As young as you're all you do is abuse/curse who could conveniently feed and cloth you, simply because we're in a faceless forum.

I know that the age you're cursing will be far from you. And this is my last comment to you.

jeff1607:
After 3months she decided to file for a missing person! Your own husband?


This story doesn’t add up

It's a true life story of a man lifted from Facebook. Someone asked a question and the man's answer became a sensation.

The Op here would have acknowledged the source by pasting the link.

Fineman2:
Please nobody should call me a simp


We are not of the same tribe, so could that be the reason she changed her mind?

No, it has nothing to do with tribe. Maybe her boyfriend/ fiancé visited unannounced and is still with her.

If after today she doesn't call to apologize, just pack her go one side and face better things in front, jare.

Freethought:
I have been on the same prepaid meter with my landlord since i came to this house 2 years ago, he charge 5k monthly for electricity and I've paid deligently for the past two years.

Last week Saturday he brought an electrician to the house to install the prepaid meter he got for both of us (me and the other tenant). We were not informed about this step until that saturday they brought the meter.

Long story short, we discovered there's a debt of 53k on the meter (estimated bill since he registered for the new meter)

Now, he's asking us to pay the bill ourselves since he collected the meter for us. Mind you, he never for once stopped collecting the 5k.

I want to believe one or two nairalanders have been through something similar to this, that's why I'm here to seek help on how to go about it.

Is that why you are sad? Cheer up bro and pay, if you have the money. When you've made up your mind to pack out from the compound, look for a way to recoup your money. Short and simple.

Confused human beings!

Goddyrichie:
ur father is a bastard omo ale

Born throwaway!

Eagba:
na you love davido, no say people.

Many people do anyway. Not just me. I'm one of his very big fan.

jaxxy:
Even Beyonce and jayz no proud reach am. Lol

I don't know why he's that way. People love Davido mostly because of his kindheartedness and humility, but Burna Boy? I wish he'll learn humility sha.

Goddyrichie:
because e get money pass ur papa

Must you mention my father?
I simply asked a simple question.

Oh! Sorry, I just heard you're a bastard!

Burna Boy is always proud. Why?

Karleb:
You do not have sense.

My female relatives are not on Nairaland cursing guys for not helping women.

Go to their different houses and ask them. Or do so through phone calls and WhatsApp messages.

Are you such a slowpoke that you can't make use of your brain? Must I spell out everything for you? Or did I tell you they must be on Nairaland before you could ask them.

Because we're in a faceless forum you prolly think you're talking to a fool like yourself, right? You think it's every woman you would abuse? Since you lack home training, don't worry, I'll teach you some manners.

Karleb:
How many women that's not your relative have you helped.

Mumu like you. If women actually help other women, there won't be guys trying to sleep with you people before they assist.

Ask your female relatives the same question.

Freshtruth:
shut up you dirty pig no be your Toto money you take help people

I'm very sure you're referring to your mother and every female in your lineage.

Karleb:
You be idiot.

How many girls have you helped in your life?

Ode gidi!
I help people even though I am a woman. I'm not narrow minded like you.

Freshtruth:
There is a girl i met 2 years ago she is very attractive we re just friends she is in the university 200level , she came to my house to ask for help to pay her school fees i said no problem the money she is looking for is 25k, i brought the money to her and show her i told we should lolo and i will give her the money she refuse and shed crocodie tears and walk out of my house. Funny enough she had boyfriends opon boyfriend the blood sucker is now pregnant we saw 3wks and we talk i dash her 5k when she was lamenting to me the guy that got her pregnant ran away.

Karma awaits you for not helping that girl. She didn't come to beg that you buy her wears or wig. She came pleading for assistance in her education and you boldly turned her down because she refused to sleep with you, thereby truncating her future?

May posterity be fast in judging you! May help be far away from you in times of dire need.
And whosoever that will quote me to utter rubbish, may same fate befall them!

[quote author= post=120352204]Here comes the evergreen LAMBA.

Just like another one that says "where were you before I met my wife?"
Lamba upon Lamba.
Our darling Naija ladies,
Be Wise!

We Rise. [/quote]This particular story is from Ghana. Let Nigerian females breath for some time while you concentrate on advising the Ghanaian lady this time. Ok?