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nnokwa042:
what Saudi citizens enjoyed in a 2 months Nigeria citizens will not enjoy it in 20 years so don't even bring Saudi into this matter ,Nigeria is rotten northerners will sure Somalia is better than Nigeria

What are you saying?

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No oil corporation in the whole world is totally transparent.

ARAMCO won’t even welcome press anywhere 100m to their fence let alone their premises.

Same with Petrobas, petronas etc.

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

Bro I’ll advice you to think twice before concluding the green card stuff.

I will write this in CAPITAL

IF YOU MAKE THE MISTAKE TO IGNORE ALL THIS AND COMPLETE THE FILING TO THE US? IF SHE DOESNT GET YOU DEPORTED EVENTUALLY BEFORE SHE SEPARATES FROM YOU THEN YOUR PARENTS PRAYERS ARE STRONG.

Jayslicky:
The first thing I would advice you to do is to go and have a DNA test for that child, with what you explained here I don't trust that your wife, she is a big time pretender and pretenders are capacable of commiting dangerous sins.

The love between you two had quenched for a long time but you refused to see it, it all started from that her birthday, she felt you really didn't take her as your most important thing in life, I think that is when she started getting closer to her ex, I suspect that your wife and ex still had a short time relationship before getting married to you, she did that because she realise her ex was not ready for marriage and she was pregnant, so she decided to get married to you.

You can both go to see a counselor and let him know where you guys are lacking in your marriage, maybe you are not doing something right that is infuriating your wife but just hope she still has any iota of love for you, if not the marriage is as good as dead.

He doesn’t need to waste double money. The US embassy will do it. If the child is not his, they will disqualify her automatically.

My concern is that what does her ex do and she does he stay.

Does he have the capacity to enter the US anytime? If yes then he should consider withdrawing her inclusion in the green card.

BlackPantherxXx:
No sugar daddy without a potbelly.

It is a prerequisite. I am growing mine too

Young babes need a man's pregnancy to rub

Ode Leemao

Wetin u Dey grow. Na yam?

Ok

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throwaway:
I haven't seen it anywhere that's why I asked. Besides stating dat Nigeria is the largest rice producer in Africa is bad interpretation f statistics. Rice production per capita is a better stat to work with. Nigeria doesn't produce enough rice; which is why it's the 2nd largest importer globally.

If you bothered to read my initial post well to the end, there won’t be any need for this.


This is all included in the post. Try and read again and let me know if it’s not there.

throwaway:
Nigeria, largest producer of rice in Africa? Do you have sources?

Google is your friend my broda.


You don’t have to take everything I said. You can make your own research and then counter what I said.

Holla911:
I beg to disagree with you at this assertion. Accolades should be given to keke and D1 of primetime tv for there sacrifice to the Nigerian music industry and also to dokpesi for funding primetime tv projects.

Who cares about Keke and D1 during the time American music was raving.

You forgot Keke and D1 came to manage Tuface after he had left plantation boiz. And plantation boys were on the airwaves wen obj placed a ban.

Keke and D1 were like the Dangote of music industry. They spotted the opportunity in the government policy and went for it. They’ve been in the entertainment industry for a very long time before the ban without much success cos they couldn’t compete with foreign musics.

Hate him or love him that unity and promotion of local content is the handwork of OBJ.

I remember back then when he(through NBC) banned foreign musics and movies from Nigerian airwaves. B.C.O.S Ibadan used to show Indian films on Friday, Chinese films on Wednesday and American films on other days. They all stopped and were forced to show Nigerian films. AIT started showing English(Igbo) films. Then we also started hearing the likes of Olu maintain, Hedris abdulkarim, tony tetuila, plantation Boiz, tony one week etc.

He didn’t stop at that he encouraged comedians like Alibaba and the likes by constantly having a comedy slot on FGs public programs. These actions gave rise to Nigerian entertainment industry but the music industry exploded far more than anyone could’ve imagined given the advancement of the US music industry then.

The idea may not be his(originally) but kudos to him for the courage to implement it and follow through.

I can’t help but to bring the other things he banned that we are now enjoying massive local production.

Cement importation was banned.
Dangote, BUA Group and Larfarge took advantage of it and became what they are today. Today, we not only export cements, but we export cement companies as a whole(dangote cement company). Jobs for Nigerians and savings on forex. Higher foreign deposit. Stable currency.

Importation of vegetable oil was banned
Now we have mamador, Sunola, Grand oil, Power oil, Devon kings oil etc produced locally. Jobs for Nigerians and savings on forex. Higher foreign deposit. Stable currency.

Importation of Poultry products were banned
Now we have Zartech, Tuns, Obasanjo farm, Ajanla farm and scores of businesses in either small scales or large scale. Jobs for Nigerians and savings on forex. Higher foreign deposit. Stable currency.

Pasta was banned which gave dangote and flourmill the opportunity to produce spaghetti locally. When last did anyone saw a foreign produced spaghetti in any Nigerian shop.

Same goes for noodles. We now have dangote noodles, Indomie noodles etc produced locally.

Obasanjo went as far as arresting shop owners and supermarkets that still displays and sells those banned products then. A lot of people went bankrupt through poultry products seized and destroyed. Today we are the ones enjoying the long term effect.

PMB came in he banned importation of rice. Today we are the largest producers of rice in Africa. We are also the largest importer of rice in Africa. Meaning we are not yet there but we will get there.

Again they have restricted access to forex for milk importation, enemies of progress have started antagonizing it.

If you know what is good for you as a Nigerian, start your own RUGA on that your family land. That 2million you want to blow on a wedding that may crash after two months, go and buy 10cows and let them start producing 100liters of milk each per day. That’s a total of 1000liters of milk per day, 30,000liters per month and 360,000liters in a year. Get a company to sell them to and start expanding.

If you have N2million you’re not using come and borrow me o. I have RUGA to start in my fathers compound.

CodeTemplar:
This danjuma man is not smart at all. In his story he claimed that he arrested Ironsi, the commander within a few hours of some officers shooting some Igbo officers in Abeokuta. Who empowered him to arrest his superior? Just admit your part in the coup and stop telling shaft lies.

Did you read this part

You were his senior?


Oh yes! But when it comes to coup-making, there’s no rank. The coup is a bandwagon of hierarchy. This was his unit. He knew the boys; I didn’t know them. But he knew me. He used me…

This below is where I expect you to spot the lie

You were his senior?


Oh yes! But when it comes to coup-making, there’s no rank. The coup is a bandwagon of hierarchy. This was his unit. He knew the boys; I didn’t know them. But he knew me. He used me…

He’s trying to deflect blame from himself. Trying to play the victim.

Lots of Nigerians that are sexually active are carriers.

udemzyudex:
These guys are stealing this money and claiming to be injecting it.

This is not assumption and judgement?


When i said get an education I knew what I was saying

udemzyudex:
What you don't know is bigger than you.

Then ask those who know better than you.


Assumptions and baseless judgements won’t get you the knowledge.

udemzyudex:
These guys are stealing this money and claiming to be injecting it.

With this your mindset, you expect me to respond to you?

Get an education first.

udemzyudex:
Are you one of those people seeing the impact?

Yuceeluv:
How about you educate the "illiterates" and explain in lay man's words, the impacts it has made/will make. Not everyone is good in every area. Some people are gurus in economic issues and dumb asses in IT issues. Some are dumbasses in IT issues, yet gurus in Politics.

While some are dumbasses in all, yet gurus in romance issues . You'll see them giving very good advises on romance section.

So before you call anyone an illiterate, prove you ain't one

That’s why I said they’re disgracing their generation.

If you know you’re not good at something then you keep quiet rather than make poor judgements. They not only make poor judgment, they condemned.


An average Nigerian have no business with dollar. If not for the way we’ve polarized everything with our culture of worshiping the currency. You earn Naira, everything you buy is in Naira so why are they disturbed about dollar especially when they know nothing about it.


On the impact. They won’t feel the impact cos the main aim is for them not to feel the impact. Let CBN stop injecting dollar today they will feel the impact.

See these illiterates disgracing their generations up there.


They want to see impact. What is your business with the dollar. Those who have business with it are seeing the impact.

anonimi:
Have you heard that cowards die a thousand times before they really die?
Or that being bold & courageous trumps having just charms?
Are you aware that if snakes move in groups it will be difficult for humans to kill them anyhow?
When will we blacks have some sense and get cracking at working collaboratively to make ourselves better


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Ok sir.


You talking about coward dying a thousand times and you put a picture of a dog being submissive just because it’s black and not taking chances with gun. Didn’t you see the contradiction. Or are you saying the dog is a coward too?


Someone told you he’s a killer and immediately shot someone dead in front of you don’t you know he’s not afraid to use it.


Being brave is not stupidity. Being brave involves having the wisdom to know when to tap out so you can live to fight another day.

Harddiskng:
It was because he was “white”. Does an average Nigerian know the meaning of the word “Diplomat”.

Foreigner my foot, which laws do our leaders obey? Nothing i hate more than a foreign having to audacity misbehavior in my country and still claim rights.

I don’t not support jungle justice but left to me that foreigner should have been burnt there and then. Yes, I said it.

Foolish evil Nigerians have the guts to raise their hands and take their own brothers life over petty crimes and let this one go. I am embarrassed to be a Nigerian

I understand you bro but then again even if it’s a black man or even a Nigerian at that, remember the guy had a gun and just shot someone dead.

Who go wan near am? Na gun o, no be cutlass him use o. GUN.

yungmill:
there is functional and absolute immunity, Nigeria grants absolute immunity so there is no distinction between personal and official duties immunity covers all so the bearer can't be prosecuted. However modernized countries have moved on to functional immunity which means a diplomat only enjoys immunity in exercise of formal duty not personal e.g like owning a private business and expecting immunity to cover you from paying tax and following the industrial or union rules of said business. Once you step out of the confines of carrying out your assigned duty you no longer enjoy immunity.

Thanks for this.


But we don’t know the kind of immunity the home country of that guy gives his diplomat. One cannot tell it might be like Nigeria’s too.

Empiree:
ofcourse I know you are sick people in nija naw

Lol. Why you excuse yourself na bro. Thought you be our bro

Harddiskng:
Hell no!!!

This is Nigeria. A man steals a phone and his fellow Nigerians burns him to death.

A fellow Nigerian is shot dead point blank and they do absolutely nothing to the culprit because he is “white”.

Not because he’s white. The way you treat your people, you can’t treat a foreigner in such a way. Patrick sawyer was a black Liberian diplomat. He entered nigeria with a diplomatic passport despite being infected with Ebola. Nigeria knee Liberia was having an Ebola outbreak but you just don’t subject a diplomat to the same treatment you do to ordinary citizen.

The same reason Atiku was able to enter the US on the entourage of the Senate president.

BTW don’t say nothing is being done. The incident just happened today and you know Nigerian security outfit for what it is. Very slow to react.

Harddiskng:
Hell no!!!

This is Nigeria. A man steals a phone and his fellow Nigerians burns him to death.

A fellow Nigerian is shot dead point blank and they do absolutely nothing to the culprit because he is “white”.

Not because he’s white. The way you treat your people, you can’t treat a foreigner in such a way. Patrick sawyer was a black Liberian diplomat. He entered nigeria with a diplomatic passport despite being infected with Ebola. Nigeria knee Liberia was having an Ebola outbreak but you just don’t subject a diplomat to the same treatment you do to ordinary citizen.

The same reason Atiku was able to enter the US on the entourage of the Senate president.

BTW don’t saw nothing is being done. The incident just happened today and you know Nigerian security outfit for what it is. Very slow to react.

yungmill:
you are very wrong bro it depends on the type of diplomatic immunity the country practices

Educate me bro


No man is an island of knowledge.

Empiree:
I am sure if nigerian diplomat commits crime on their soil, he will be arrested first and detained for as long as it takes. Diplomatic immunity does not prevent arrest and detention. It is while in detention both countries negotiate. This is proper procedure. But in this case in nigeria, stupid immunity begins just for being White. This has nothing to do with Buhari. It is Law enforcement that needs to get to work and do the needful by taking fingerprint, mugshot and detain him while suspect country negotiate his bail. If Nigeria fails to do with due process, then, this is not a country but a group of different people packed like sardine on a land called nigeria to figure out things themselves without rule of law.

You just described an ideal scenario in a sane country.


The way you see this country you think say we well?


My broda we no well for this country na

You can’t do anything to him. He’s under diplomatic immunity.


It’s only when his country gives us the permission to prosecute him that we can.


Same thing applies to any Nigerian with diplomatic passport in any other country.

Very good

Very good

Davash222:
Screening Ministers without portfolios. Doesn’t make sense to me.

This was exactly what I was thinking as I scrolled to your comment. It’s just senseless.