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Truth be told most of this politicians buy ammunitions for their aides in preparation for victory celebration.

It's just a very sad incidence. I hate when avoidable deaths happen

God forbid

Half minute man

BluntBoy:
Sometime in 2009, I was earning 6k. The lady I was with was the one who practically wooed me, and even asked for marriage. Being a master's holder in Mathematics, and being also a man who knew my mathematics like the back of my hand, she always told me I would do something great in the world.

She was nice and supportive in her own way, but she was rude, and could be insensitive sometimes. I am not a headstrong person but when she was becoming excessively controlling and manipulative, I had to become stubborn myself over things that I felt strongly about. During an argument, she told me that "She was managing me" and I told her that "Not having money does not mean I have to become your slave".

I saw hell. But people out there (family and friends) would be seeing a good girl in her because she was staying with a broke guy like me. Anyway, 2011, I won a scholarship and went for a theology program in Ireland, afterwhich I went for a master's in India. The church was paying me because I was ministering as well as studying. My salary had increased by then. Moreover, I was also teaching mathematics online and contributing to online textbooks for open distance learning. So, I was beginning to earn some money.

So, I sent money home from India. About 200k in naira. That was 2013. It went into her account and I instructed her to give 100 to my godmother. 50 to my dad and to keep 50 for herself. This woman said nasty things to me based on that distribution. I explained my reason for the distribution through email because she would not let me explain on the phone. My dad received pensions from the government and earned from the church where he plays the organ. I sent 100k to my godmother because since I lost my mom, she has been extraordinarily supportive without complaining one bit. Back in university, my dad always sent 8k to me as pocket money. It was my godmother that used to add another 8k to make me live well. And then I told this woman that I sent 50k to her because she had a job. Anyway, next time, I sent another 200k and asked her to take 100k for herself and give 50-50 to my godmother and dad. Just like before, she started a fight accusing me of not being transparent, that I must have sent money to my godmother somehow and was using this distribution to fool her. Then she started her usual tirade about how she stayed with me when I was as poor as a church rat. How many women could do that? Bla bla bla.

Anyway, when I came back to the country, I got a job with a steady income. And I told her to just leave my life for good. Initially, she was remorseful. But when I refused to go back on my words, she began her nonsense tirades.

My point is: Staying with a man when he had nothing is not enough for him to marry you or be good to you when he makes it. How did you treat him when he had nothing? The one that even hurt me the most was the comparison she always made and how she would make it seem like she could leave me anytime and any rich man would be waiting to accept her without stress. It was her favorite way of manipulating me into doing whatever she wanted.

You wouldn't understand, I can't blow my trumpet but I know I am good in my own way though I have fault too. But for every member of his family to stand by me(not money wise) shows my character.

vickydankal:
Past few days has been funny, regarding age, financial stability and economic state a man must attain before talking marriage.

Let me tell a bit of myself. .....

I met my husband in his final year he promised me marriage after a year of service, his salary then was 10k, yes 10k. He proposed and engaged me in his mum's face me I slap you house. My family rejected him at first, because of his dressing, financial status and his house. No much property.

I saw a future with him we will build together, I saw myself as part of his vision builder. I knew my calling was to help him achieve his goals and vision thereby achieving mine.

It took 5 years of struggle, pains, mockery and frustration. But we remained together. Today to the glory of God there's a change of story. We literally feed and pay salary to many of our mockers then .

From mine experience, a good and faith woman has God given discernment to know men with future and also to know if they belong there.

30k is not too small to begin life, though many things must be taken into account. When to begin child birth, number of children, type of housing, property, savings, side hustles etc with wisdom, love, understanding and God's grace backing your efforts you will succeed just a matter of time., that's if you overcome association of village people on time. It is because of excess comfort on the side of the men before marriage that's why many men take their wives as part of their properties.

I have joint account with my husband, most of our major properties are written in both of our names. I have a say in the home, I have earned my dignity and respect. Through thick and thin, so no man can shuush me down. I paid the price in full.

I'm not saying we have achieved everything in my own marriage, I'm saying, if you see a man God fearing, with the qualities you want and with a vision that can house your own vision as a lady, it is not a bad idea. But be ready to be insulted, mocked by family and friends. Let down your guild and roll up your sleeves and work. Forget slay mama and slay queen did later in life. Pay the price...

Too much expectations has kept many unmarried for years. It is not too good to leave all the financial burdens of the home to the man. He is not God, if you are his help meet come low and help him and not expect range rover every birth day.
The amount of salary shouldn't be the only determinant factor. Leadership, management, self control and goals acccessment should be vital on both man and his wife.

In my case I married a man who was earning 8k as salary(2008) I saw a future in him before marrying him. I became an emergency manager. Few years later God open doors his take home all joined together was up to a #100k .

His true colours came forth: nagging, verbally abusive, nagging, etc even said the 3rd pregnancy isn't his own. I nearly aborted but kept encouraging myself only for me to deliver a boy(the only boy and last baby). He womanised with impunity and refused my and my 3 children entry into the house.

I tried everything possible to save the Marriage but no way. I involved his people who rebuked him but he kept them malice saying I stab him, poisoned him now I have charmed his ppl to back me up. I reduced to times two but time healed the wound.

I cursed him with every fiber in me, cursed him while naked with tears, etc and finally moved on taking care if my kids. His life shattered, he is shamelessly back using the children as cover up. Paying their fees and other things. But I am done and dusted with him. I am trying to secure my future first before I will know whether to consider him or not.

Some men can be so mean

Onari shine ya eye wella

Ndibunna:
Sorry Itorobong

Do you know him? What a way to end with this year. My Calabar is turning to something else.

They are looking for money to lavish at Christmas village

9jii:
Na so bad luck de 4 some people life everyone de 10k above u com get 2.

It suppose to be like that but almost everyone in my establishment is paid btw 2-5k.

IPPIS wahala

They only added 2k despite all the bruhaha

Nigeria is truely a failed state. I can't believe that just to add #2,000 to my salary is what the federal government was delaying all this while upon all the strike upon strike by NLC.

I weep for Nigeria my country.

Shai this people na confirm SCAM

Miss USA and miss America?

Who go school well abeg explain for me

That particular time she was talking a one-off I AM SORRY would have solved the matter but you kept mute hence her continued talking, gbooom!! You slapped to calm her down. Very bad. If you are not properly warned and threatened this first time, I but you, you will still repeat it again.

There are some families who don't tolerate domestic violence on their children. If you married from such family sorry they will shake you till you regret for life.

Don't relent in apologising.
Just know that this is now beyond you. Keep apologising. Go to them with a respectable personality and sort things out. Though temper is still high but with time they will reason when they see your remorse.

I know of a lady whose husband and his family slap and treat as they like, because of her mother inlaw. The girls mother came fully prepared with one of her sons. She acted like and iron lady ready to fight the whole family. Mother inlaw and father in-law ran into the house and locked the door while the husband ran away. I went in and settled the issue. From that day till today, that lady had peace of mind in her marriage.

In you case that's how domestic violence starts from the first mistake to second deliberate act till it becomes a routine. Just believe everything will be sorted out.

Also know communication is a key factor in marriage.if you had communicated with her I think it would have solved alit of problems. Her talking was meant for good though not in the right way. I pray you sort things out early and easily

Taribo West of those days.

That's when the playing of football was for the pride and glory of the nation not now that it is for the glory of their pocket and the choosing of players is now based on godfatherism

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

If this will restore your sanity then you better do it. I know you must have put things in place .

I married a man who claimed to be a 'christain', after marriage he showed out his true colours. Almost took my life due to frustration and emotional abuse but finally took that great decision of freeing myself from him.

He thought I wouldn't survive but I have conquered and he is begging but I have no plans of going back until I fully establish myself. This is after he had told my family and his own family all kinds of lies against me. Imagine saying I poisoned him and almost stabbed him to death when I have never thought of that. Only God made his people not to believe him and he kept malice with them all. Infact claiming I charmed them. I am living my life to the fullest, no compromise

All I will tell you is that YOU OWE YOURSELF A DUTY TO MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY.

Mercy your face looks like you are pregnant. If so your hubby na sharp shooter, Okocha part2.

Sharp shooter. You score goal sharpenly.

Congrats to you guys

Emarc16:
Plz what's the cost of operation?

I don't know cos as a public servant, I was operated under National health insurance scheme. I did not pay any money at all

It's a minor operation. I removed mine in September this year

Just passing

I inherited extra brilliance from my dad and legitimate hustling from my mother.

I no dey shame to do any kind of biz that will fetch me legit money though I am a public servant, I no send at all. My brilliance dey pave way for me wella.

Dad(late) and mom thanks

Those guys are lazy, abandoning of their parents corpse will be used against them in future.

Tradition is tradition.: You can't bury a corpse in a land that was given to your fore Father's except you bought the land but they don't want to listen. How can 11 children bring such disgrace to their parent.

The village head had earlier told them not to bury there but they want to disobey her because she is a woman, what happens to taking those corpse to the general cemetary then later fight for justice.

They waited to dig the grave the same day of burial because they know it's gonna bring some problems.

They aren't even ashamed that people are trooping to go see those corpse they abandoned.

A clear case of post partum depression. The symptoms must have been showing but no one took notice of it.

Last last poverty na bastard

The story is not complete;
What concerns auctioneer with rent matter?

The Landlord's daughter was withdrawing money from where? Bank account, from the house or collected from the tenant?

And many other questions

I actually saw something like this some years ago in a street. They said two neighbours had misunderstanding and the other went and invoked milipeded. You need to see giant milipeded all over the house, pots, plates, and the whole compound. Crawling all over. The more you kill the more it increased.

The same week I had a little misunderstanding with a neighbour, he sent over a 100 cockroaches to my house in the night.

Powers dey oooo but God pass them all.

I wonder why they don't use such powers on those putting us in bondage in this country

When acting was acting.

When entertainment was entertainment.

unclothedness, sex, and all kinds of rubbish has taken over the entertainment industry.

Good she died at old age.

The Nigeria law system is so slow. A man has made a confessional statement or convicted himself with his mouth, why was the case dragged for 3 years.

War in Babylon

INNOSON rice