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DO I BLAME HIM? HOE WILL HE KNOW THE EXTENT OF THE BITING ECONOMY?

Sitting beside my late husband (47) as he breath his last almost eleven years got me shattered. Thanks be to God and brethren from the church. It took years to overcome the grief.

This is really pathetic.

dealslip:
Wow! Sehinde Arogbofa. Many don't know he was an author of many fiction literature books. I recall we used his book Scoundrels in Uniform as our Lit in English book in JSS 3 many decades back.

This is the younger brother, the writer is older.

Police is indeed your friend.

I beg, when is this law going to be passed in Nigeria?

This is unbelievable! How much is the phone? You can buy the phone back, but can you buy her life back? May God help this generation.

Melezenawii:
STRANDED: Professor, who renounced Nigerian citizenship, expelled from his new country

Mr Ijeoma arrived in South Africa in 1998 to study at the University of Pretoria. He is now accused of bigamy

Having earlier renounced his Nigerian citizenship, Edwin Ijeoma, a professor of public sector economics at the University of Fort Hare, was left in the cold after his South African citizenship was revoked by the country’s ministry of home affairs. He is now stateless.

Mr Ijeoma, who arrived in South Africa from Nigeria on a study permit in 1998 to study at the University of Pretoria, was found guilty of fraudulently relying on a bigamous marriage to a South African woman to obtain citizenship by naturalization, local media Times Live reported.

The don was granted permanent residency in the southern African country the same year he graduated from the University of Pretoria, after being exempted from immigration restrictions due to his marriage to a local woman two years earlier.

By 2005, the academic, who obtained a PhD in economics in 2003, was granted South African citizenship through naturalisation, but in 2007 he divorced his South African wife, ostensibly because the couple was unable to conceive a child, according to Times.

Thereafter, the newspaper added, he was joined in South Africa by a Nigerian woman, Anne Tomo, who, in her application for permanent residence, attached a copy of her 1993 marriage to him in Nigeria, tipping off home affairs officials that Mr Ijeoma had committed bigamy.

Officials said on both occasions when Mr Ijeoma made submissions to immigration authorities in South Africa, when he was asked to indicate an immediate family member still residing in Nigeria, he listed Anne Ijeoma as his sister – not his wife.

Officials held that Mr Ijeoma’s sole mission in marrying the South African woman was to acquire citizenship, and he has now had his citizenship revoked by the ministry of home affairs.

The verdict followed a suit he filed against the home affairs ministry before the Bhisho high court.

The court’s acting judge, Mickey Mfenyana, upheld the initial judgment from 2020 which found Mr Ijeoma guilty of falsifying his marital status to the department, thereby making his South African citizenship null and void.

The judge further held that her ruling cannot be appealed, adding that another court will not differ from her finding as Mr Ijeoma “was disingenuous, if not dishonest, and that there was no reason to interfere with the minister’s decision.”

Ms Mfenyana further held that Mr Ijeoma had presented contradictory reasons for his bigamous actions.

“That as an African man, he believed he was entitled to marry more than one wife; and that he represented himself as single because he was not aware that South Africa recognised customary marriages,” Times quoted Ms Mfenyana as saying.

The judge noted that Mr Ijeoma concealed his marriage in Nigeria from officials on three occasions: when he applied for permanent residence in South Africa, when he got married in the country and when he applied for citizenship.

That, the judge held, was highly improbable for an academic, “who by his own admission is of good and sound mind and an intellectual giant,” to have remained “ignorant of the implications of not disclosing his Nigerian marriage” throughout his stay in the country and his encounters with immigration matters.

In defence, Mr Ijeoma told the court he obtained a permanent residence permit because of his “good and sound character” rather than his marriage to the South African woman.

He argued that the human affairs ministry failed to consider his intellectual contribution to the country as a result of his research as an academic, and his role at the Africa Union’s New Partnership for Africa’s Development (NEPAD), where, according to his LinkedIn profile, he is a pioneer research specialist.

Ms Mfenyana rebuffed this saying it was stated in the exemption certificate he got that marriage was the basis for his exemption. She also recalled that in 2015, Mr Ijeoma pleaded to home affairs to have compassion on him, that he obtained citizenship by naturalisation as a result of the marriage

https://twitter.com/36Kinniun/status/1726187905255666140

If you think you are cunningly smart, you will end up outsmarting yourself.

This is rather dicey especially if there is no will. Honestly speaking, the property belongs to your mom if the documents bore her full names with your late dad. Your mom should be very careful 'cos there are some men out there who target widows with inheritance. They pretend and offer fake love to the woman, once she is caught in the trap, the next step is to rip her off all that she has and take off.
The best thing to do is to get your father's family involved, and if she still insists on moving him to the house, then, request for your share of the property.

Addiction is a bad thing, and can also be manipulation. Genuinely move closer to God, look for something worthwhile to divert your energy. Suicide is not the way out, let God help you to face the challenge, and overcome it. Peace be into you.

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

Everybody has one past or the other. Just look at it this way, supposing she did not tell you about her past, wouldn't you have gone ahead and marry her? For a woman to open up to you her very dirty past, that means she not only loves you, but also trusts you. I salute her sincerity to open up to you, many girls out there will never do such a thing for fear of losing you. She is a good woman whose vulnerability was a abused, and taken advantage of. I've seen women who were tagged prostitutes when not married, but immediately they get married, they turned a new leave. If you love, go for her, and train your heart to let the past stay with the past.

fineboynl:
I’m in a serious situation. i have been dating this young widow for a while now without any issues.

But From the day I slept with her i have been noticing some things i don’t want to talk about.

Many things have been going through my mind concerning her.

From the igbo/Yoruba and all other cultures in Nigeria. What should a widow do before she start sleeping with another man? Should she returned the bride price?

Because I’m considering cutting ties with her and go for deliverance.

You don't need to return any bride price to the late husband's family. It would have been more honorable you marry her before sleeping with her. Whatever you are experiencing may not be connected with her being a widow, but some other things. If you know you don't want to marry her, please don't play with her emotion, losing a spouse is enough pain!!

PoloG:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2023/8/two-married-men-allegedly-gang-r-at-pe-11-year-old-girl-in-abia.html

And some people were asking for settlement?
What a shame!!

dre11:
https://punchng.com/why-i-dumped-farida-sobowale-after-n100m-wedding-estranged-husband-odulaja/?amp


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Could this be vendetta?

LilMissFavvy:
What you did to that lady is domestic violence. She is supposed to speak to her parents so that they can encourage her to quit the relationship asap. She is blindly in love and doesn't know she can dump you and will always get a better man. She is the one who needs advice, not you.

You are on point, real men don't beat their women no matter what. There are better ways of settling matters of this nature, from the look of things, she may end up regretting marrying him 'cos at the slightest provocation, she may be punished. It is no longer a relationship between two lovers, but between the master and the house maid.

Do not despise the days of little beginning,. Many successful couples started with this type of beginning yesteryears, and they're having good lives today ( I can relate). That a guy is stinkingly rich today does not guarantee that he will die a rich man tomorrow, and for the fact that a man is struggling to make ends meet today does not mean that he will die a pauper. Many ladies had missed their God sent partners because of matters like this.

You say boyfriend? Cultist? Ok nau, kwantinu!!

I wonder how much this guy wants to offer this girl that has lost her values. It's high time mothers started teaching their daughters the need to be financially independent, and the female child to know that there is dignity in labor. God helps the female folks to hold in high esteem their dignities.

For the future sake, don't do it. Fate can be funny sometimes, know that you can not claim this child in the future. If they need assistance, it can be arranged between them, and their doctor to arrange a donor who has similar look with the husband to donate his sperm. They don't need to know each other. I know of a couple who did this, and they have three children. The secret is between the doctor, and the couple.

Topmaike007:
Keep kwayet the Ekwere deserve it..if they built this nation will that have befall them ??

Well said, only God knows how many people had died due to no good medical facilities in the country. We have all it takes to give the people good medical facility, but no. If you have lost a beloved one due to no medical facility, you will understand better.

Ralia the sugar girl.

So sorry, your father caused your travail.

Law and order are in deep slumber.

I pity the boyfriend.

This is heartbreaking!

Hmmmmmm! This one is strong o.

Hmmmmmm! This one strong o!!

That's better.

Man is man's enemy, imagine, people are suffering to get their money in the bank, and some set of people are using this to enrich themselves, taaaaaaa!