₦airaland Forum

ISpiksDaTroof: One million pairs a day is obviously a gross exaggeration...but then again if the amount is not inflated then the news is not coming from the South East.

Janetozi: Obuotuwadi - na so this world be?

achodiminu - i don't want to stay

njonwa - the ugliness of a child

abiaramimegini - what have i come to do?

ebeadiegu - this place is terrible

chimdulam - God escort me back

nogebola! - in this time of Ebola!

Agaheremuzo - i miss road

sweet names.

MsNas: What does this two names mean please?
1. Kodilichukwu: leave the matter to God
2. Kamsiyonna: The way I have asked God (meaning He did it the way I asked Him)

My friend here named her babies those names and has refused to tell me their meanings

phadat: is that the meaning of okwudili, tried asking around for the meaning and got lots of interpretation and I thought okwu in Igbo is word guess that name is confusing

nedu2000: Zimuzo....show me the way
Kamsiyonna (I invented that name as no1 older than 23 answers it)

longerthroat: ROSS BARKLEY OF EVERTON...

OLAADEGBU: Rebuke is not judgment. Constructive criticism is not tantamount to Condemnation. We in Christendom often get that fact mixed up.

PastorKun: Oyakhilome is a cancer to the body of Christ and he is deceiving many and leading them to damnation. I believe this is God's way of exposing him for what he truly is.

joella1: To cut a long story short, it was the best 6months of my "Experience".. I could have kept it going cos I felt zero guilt but I knew it wasn't the best way to start marital life so I let my other guy go(he was very sad about it but couldn't help it)
The sex with my man never improved and I still went ahead to marry him cos I had given my word and he is a solid and dependable sweet soul... I didn't hold the sexual trickery against him cos I was street smart enough to realise that he had to do what he had to do..
The crux of the matter is that the few minutes has gradually over the years declined to 20-30 seconds 2-3x a month.. And it never happens more than once at a time.... He has sought all the help available and nothing WORKS..

I'm seriously considering HELPING MYSELF

P.S--My old flame(married 2years ago) is still very interested!!

snazzylove: @DEEMAIN, it takes a responsible and sane person to really understand my post, and u have proven to be such. God bless you.

babygirlfl: This thread is not the best place for her to give such advice. MizzD explained it perfectly her at the bolded

MizzD: When we women don't have our backs, you men would be the first to scream "women are their own worst enemies". What women are trying to make snazzy understand is she can judge marriages\pregnancies by her own standards which she seem to be emphasizing in her posts.

If this thread were to be a general light -hearted thread- the kinda threads jenny opens to talk about the marriage, sexx, libido, pregnancy, I mean threads not directed to anyone in particular, but just for married folks to share experience and advice, then her post would have been appropriate, but in here, that point of hers doesn't sound sensitive enough. In a way, it could make the Op think maybe she's not doing enough and that is why he hubby is cheating which is not meant to be so. What if she has been advised to keep away from sexx (irrespective of the position) for some time (eg those with placenta previa), is she supposed to force herself to do it and harm herself and her baby, JUST because she thinks she has a sexually Hungry man by her side who would go get it somewhere else if she doesn't?

No matter the libido, I believe a man's first priority is the health and saftey of the wife and baby, not how his intimate desires will be fulfilled.

For a lady who is placed on bed rest for 6months to her delivery, is it justified for the hubby to sleep around since he can't have it? Is marriage ALL about sex??

Assuming a man came here to tell us he just underwent prostrate cancer surgery or hernia or whatever and is trying to heal properly before sexx or even work, and then finds our his wife is about to go and have sexx with another man. Is it sensitive enough for someone to ask if he has been taking care of himself enough to look sexxy for his wife? if he has been managing to have sexx with her irrespective of the condition, or if he still provides financially for the home? And say all of these could have pushed the woman to another man's bed just within months.

Let's even assume the man is hale and hearty and he reads about his wife going to have sex with another guy while he would be home, will you as a guy ask if he has been keeping sexxy enough for his wife, if he shapes his beards weekly, if he goes 10 rounds and makes her climax 50times? if all his boxers are sparkling clean, if he still manages to give her a head the days he's too tired to have sexx?

The earlier we all stop making excuses for cheats, the better. There's a reason it is called marriage-it is for better and for worse, in health and sickness.

This kinda mentality makes victims of cheat think it is always their fault no matter how fit and 'foxy' in bed they are. They will always think they'll never be good enough.

Cut out the feminism crap, this talk is not good for any victim of cheating irrespective of the gender.

babyosisi: I said women
The worst thing a woman can do to another woman is blame her or insinuate she had a hand in her husband's infidelity
You are a typical man
I don't expect you to understand that

A pregnant woman finds evidence of an impending rendezvous with her husband and a mistress and someone wants to lecture her on keeping herself attractive and satisfying her man
What nonsense

snazzylove: Sincerely I wonder the type of marriage our 'dear sisters' go into these days.

@OP, did you marry your father or your old school teacher that you cannot talk to?
Was he the one that trained you in school or taking care of your parents and siblings that you cannot express how you feel about something he is doing or about to do?

It really baffles me the level of relationship and communication between couples in our modern day marriages. "Marriage is not to be Managed" what happens to friendship, trust, mutual respect, values, morals, openeess, selflesness, d list is endless.

I cannot have a clear evidence, looking at me korokoro, that my dear hussy is about to cheat /phuck anoda woman and I will fold my hands and watch him do it then we come back and talk about it. TUFIAKWA!!! May the gods forbid. Whatever it will take me to stop dat from happening I will do it. For Christs sake we are talking about your hussy here, the supposed father of your kid(s), not some dude you are dating.

I read some comments here and I simply laff, not just becos they are funny, but I marvel at the level of ignorance. Dat man took you to the alter and vow b4 God and men to Love and Cherish you and to be FAITHFUL to you, till death do you part, and here some ignoramus are asking you why you are snooping on your husbands phone. Are you too suppose to have privacy? His privacy should equally be your privacy cos two of you are now one.

But if he must cheat, IF HE MUST CHEAT, why should he leave traces on his phone, that is the height of disrespect and it shows Clearly he does not value the marriage institution neither does he understand the meaning of the vow (convenant) that he made to you and to God and to himself.

Am writing this with so much passion that am finding it difficult to stop.

@OP, I cannot advice you, not that I don't have any advice, but what works for me maybe disastrous in your case. The only thing I wuill tell you is this: you know that man more than anybody on NL, you dated him(probably), you married him. If he is doing this now, he must have done or was doing it when you were courting, but for whatever reason you chose to turn a blind bat. Since he has already gone on the trip , unfortunately, when he comes back deal with it the best way you can. You know how and when best to talk to him, do that in a way that will appeal to his conscience.

Finally, you said you are preggy, are you sure you are not d one pushing him into the hands of that lady, by always being 'sick' in the name of pregnancy. ( We ladies do that a lot). Have you been up and doing in carrying out your conjugal duties? Even when it seems you are 'dying'.

One advice, even when you are feeling so terrible that you cannot do it, don't push him away, cuddle him, bring him close, let him feel warmth do whatever you can for him, if you can give him a job, help him self-service, bear the discomfort once in a while and give him a good phuck. He will always aprreciate you that despite your condition you are still meeting up with his demands (even if not 100%) THAT HAS BEEN MY SECRET. Once dat tension is eased off, most men comes back to their senses.

Food FOR THOUGHT!
MEN ARE LIKE BABIES, FEED THEM, CARE AND LOVE THEM, AND WHEN THEY WANT TO 'PLAY' MAKE THEIR 'TOYS' AVAILABLE, you will have them wrapped around your pretty little fingers .

Best regards!

babyosisi: I am glad at least 4 other women called her out on it
I don't expect you to get it

babyosisi: I don't know why I seem to be picking on you here but most of your posts are very annoying
Stop!
There are actually women who are sick most of the pregnancy in case you don't know and some are placed on bed rest
The few days of respite they have,sex is the last thing on their minds
If your husband will not consider the well being of his baby and the mother above his se.xual needs them it is on him
There are husbands that will wait
There are a bunch of other things a couple can do besides sex
Do you that?

UrbanMystique: yeah typical christians..

jesus watched him suffer and almost shit his bony ass to death, science came to the rescue, he gave thanks to jesus. smh

lofty900: [size=15pt]nigerians always religious in times of trouble. na wa o ![/size]

konjakonja: If you're from Ngwa clan you should know about iko "awara". He was born and brought up in Arochukwu only for him to claim recently that his late father hailed from Isiala-Ngwa. If the elders in the so called Ngwa village has verified his claims and accepted him as a true Ngwa blood, then I stand indifference bro.

jusRadical: Please, is it GEJ that calls for back up for the army?

Is it GEJ that assigns soldiers to duties?

Is it GEJ that plans war strategy?

Is it GEJ that gives bullets to soldiers?

My friend GEJ has his shortcomings but do not commit suicide because of your hatred for him.

You did not blame your father's commandant (or whatever). You did not blame chief of army staff. You did not blame the army generals but you are blaming GEJ for the number of bullets given to your father. Did GEJ tell your father's superiors not to give him enough bullets?

Get real my friend.

konjakonja: His ngwaness is not pure. He says he is an ngwaman but I see him as an arochukwu man.

onyfrank: 4rm Umuru in isiala ngwa!

TheIROKO: MAYBE HE CAME TO NIGERIA WITHOUT THE KNOWLEDGE THAT HE HAS EBOLA BUT URINATING ON THE MEDICAL STAFF TREATING HIM AFTER HE WAS TOLD HE HAS EBOLA WAS NOT ONLY WICKED BUT ALSO MISCHIEVOUS.

Oluwaseytiano: In order to work in the UK, most citizens from
outside Switzerland and the European Economic
Area – the EU plus Norway, Iceland and
Liechtenstein – are required to meet a certain
number of criteria that take into account their
skills, their financial position, their personal
circumstances and various other aspects of their
lives, ostensibly to make sure they won’t be
more trouble than they’re worth.
Footballers are no different, only they apply
through their prospective clubs, who act as
‘sponsors’ for the duration of the desired visa. In
England, the criteria (which are very similar to
those in Scotland, Northern Ireland and Wales)
are as follows: the club must be a member of the
Premier League or the Football League; the player
must compete only for clubs in those leagues; the
player must have participated – if available – in at
least 75 per cent of his national team’s senior
competitive internationals during the last two
years; that national team must be in the top 70 of
the Fifa rankings when averaged over two years.
There is no such bureaucracy in Italy, Spain,
France, Germany, Russia, the Netherlands or – as
far as I can tell – any other league in Europe.
Essentially, Britain’s immigration laws prevent
talented youngsters from outside Europe getting
their break in this country. For example, Hugo
Sánchez, Mexico’s greatest ever footballer, joined
Atlético Madrid; Ronaldo opted for PSV; Gabriel
Batistuta went to Fiorentina; Javier Zanetti chose
Inter. Not a single mercurial American has started
his European career in the UK.
That’s not to say there are no young players
from outside Europe in the Premier League – far
from it. Arsenal have quite a few on their books,
including Joel Campbell, Wellington Silva,
Denilson and Ryo Miyaichi. With the exception of
Denilson, they all failed, initially at least, to get UK
work permits. As a result, Arsenal were forced to
loan them to clubs across Europe. Denilson and
Miyaichi have since gained visas, but Campbell
and Wellington Silva are currently seconded in
Spain, at Real Betis and Alcoyano respectively.
There are loads of other examples of players
whose transfers have been delayed or cancelled
due to work permit problems: Argentinian
forward Sebastián Leto didn’t play a single
competitive match for Liverpool in his two years
with the club because his Italian passport was
revoked; Jason Scotland was unable to re-sign for
Dundee United in 2005, having fallen out of
international favour (though St Johnstone
managed to get a permit weeks later); São Paolo
youngster Henrique’s proposed move to QPR in
January was cancelled when he failed to get a
visa.
That’s why the exceptional young talents of this
world don’t move to England. Sporting reasons
play a part, but the fact they might struggle to
secure a work permit doesn’t help. Take
Alexandre Pato: the then uncapped Brazilian starlet
was able to register, and play, for Milan as soon
as the first transfer window opened following his
18th birthday. If he had signed for Arsenal, say,
he would probably have been shipped off to
somewhere like Celta Vigo or Levante. Of course,
there’s no harm in loaning a player out for
experience, but real superstars aren’t interested in
that kind of deal. And why should they be?
In fairness to the system, players don’t always
need to meet the criteria for international
appearances. If a work permit application is
rejected, clubs can appeal to a panel – consisting
of FA, PFA and league reps, as well as three ex-
pros and managers – who consider whether the
player is “of the highest calibre” and will
“contribute significantly to the development of the
game at the top level in England”. Pato might
have qualified in this way, but his passage would
not have been assured.

Kanwulia: LWKMD!!!
Is this s joke?
Na wetin I dey read so?
So these women nor dey use dem fingers 'mast--ur--bate'?
Abi nor be to shout 'oooooo aaaaaaah'. . . .SQUEEEEEEEEZE BOBBY AND "CLITO" weh-weh. . . .SMELL MY FINGERS PUT FOR MOUTH . . . .then wear pant go sleep be the main tin?
I sabi dat wan well well o!
YEYE WOMEN!
Shioooooor!!!!







Na which kain LOCAL women be all these?