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ChiomaCa:
I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough

You must not allow him control how you see yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Put the blame where it should be - at the loins and mind of your husband. He has a serious sexual addiction problem. Worse, it is for prostitutes and porn.

Have a showdown talk with him where you draw the line - he should open up to you on his problem and how he came to be this way. He should agree to see a sex therapist and since you are also spiritual people, go for deliverance too. I prefer a two-pronged approach to issues like this.

If he does not agree or is not commited to this, consider moving out of his house and if it still persists consider divorce.

Consider the possibility of STDs, unintended consequences and other spiritual issues that may accompany such serial entanglements with prostitutes. There may be danger ahead. Protect yourself and your daughter. Physically. Spiritually.

Kobojunkie:
That is the wayo lie that your Pastors and mogs told you in order that they might deceive and delude you in the name of God.

Jesus Christ is God's New Covenant Law, the agreement between God and individual men - Matthew 26 vs 28 - 30 - and the terms and conditions of the Covenant were not only concluded but sealed when Jesus Christ died on the cross, declaring " it is finished" right before giving up the ghost.

Jesus Christ finished the mission which He came to the earth to complete, to deliver to the world the New Agreement, Law in the Kingdom of God - God's Truth.
So be sure that any doctrine and tradition which stands in contradiction to the Truth of God as given you by Jesus Christ is a lie against Him, this, again, because Jesus Christ said so - Matthew 15 vs 1 - 14 & Mark 7 vs 1 - 13

I showed you Jesus' own words from scripture and you are here still uttering gibberish. Abeg shift.

Unless you are spiritual and understand new creation realities there are many things we cannot discuss or agree on as Christians.

The letter killeth but the spirit giveth life - 2 Cor 3:6

Be there reading letters and words and arguing blindly over them.

Abeg bye.

Kobojunkie:
But why celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ - in His name - when Jesus Christ Himself gave you no authority to do anything of the such in His name?

Not everything Jesus wanted to tell was told. Not everything Jesus wanted to teach was taught.


"I have yet many things to say unto you, but ye cannot bear them now. Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. He shall glorify me: for he shall receive of mine, and shall shew it unto you."
John 16:12-14
King James Version

The thread caption and content are totally different. Cleverly engineered to convey a sectional narrative.

We see you.

grandstar:
Saturnalia was a pagan god. It wad a graven image. Because you do not see a graven image does not change the narrative.

One, shifting goal posts. Two, irrational hogwash. Three, doctrinal inflexibility as a result of dogmatic brainwashing.

I can change a day set aside for the worship of a pagan God and change it to a day I celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. The earth and the fullness thereof belong to our God and we are claiming it and you and your ilk are in sifia pains as a result? Abeg shift.

grandstar:
In Exodus chapter 32, the Israelites built a golden calf and started a celebration around it and termed it a "a festival to God (Read 32:5-6). " Did Jehovah approve of that ceremony?

The celebration angered God and it led to the death of 3,000 people because despite its claim to be a festival to the true God, it was really a pagan festival! He wasn't fooled.

Christmas likewise, is steeped in Paganism. Jesus is actually the sun god Saturnalia. The gift giving was also a part of that celebration. I think it was to ward off evil.

The first white settlers in America did not celebrate Christmas. They regarded it as a pagan festival.

True Christians are admonished to "stop touching the unclean thing." (Read 2 Cor 6:14-18). You too should!

Why not visit www jw.org and start a free online bible study? It is the best decision you can take, to come to accurate knowledge of the Truth (Read John 17:3). Start Now!

Can you read yourself? You wrote yourself they carved a golden calf to worship. Where did the Christians celebrating Christmas erect golden calves or pagan gods? Is the day not set aside for God?

Why are you comparing oranges to apples?

mrvitalis:
Being a super lion myself I don't see anything wrong here

UNN has never and from what I'm seeing would never reduce is exam standards for the sake of anyone

UNN has the highest quota is Medical science in Nigeria ..and only those who meets the requirements should go to other departments

The likes of soludo and chimamanda also failed out of UNN medicine but went on to do well in life

Lai Mohammed. She didn't fail, she quit medical school for Creative Writing abroad.

A40:
Apparently hyperbole is foreign to you. Players will always find one excuse or the other either to over bloat their accomplishments or to make things bigger than they are

Are we talking about the same players that talk about "going to war" in a non contact and non combat sport. Abeg make I hear word

Everyone was affected by the lockdown no doubt but never you compare people that experienced far more severe losses, people who lost jobs, means of livelihoods to a bunch of players that couldn't be with their family and friends for 5 weeks, as if the same families and friends travel to each city with these players normally.

There's nothing the average NBA player faced that the common man did not deal with 5 fold so don't tell me playing in freaking literal Disneyland with a 5 minute commute between court and hotel with no fans to heckle you and hurt your fragile feelings is comparable to what people in the real world were dealing with. Get out ma face with that brehh.

Your beliefs and worldview bro. Can't help you with that. I am out. Bye.

A40:
Come on that Bubble ring was sweet. They were literally in Disneyland with the best facilities, no travel, no pressure of fans and the chaotic atmosphere they bring to the equation. Just 5 minutes stroll from your hotel to the court. They were more or less on a vacay

No way anyone can sell that emotional torture and stressful conditions BS to us in the real world. They need to GTFO with that

You know we've been through this debate before A40.

Many players have said the Bubble environment (a lockdown within a lockdown, without family and friends and fanfare) was stressful for them, you who wasn't there says it's a lie, that it was sweet. What you are doing is called hallucination o

Tales of what the 2020 pandemic and subsequent lockdown did to lives, mental healths,relationships, families, communities still pervade our consciousness and you spew that athletes were supposed to be immune from all that?

This world experienced panick attacks and depression and mass burials and hopelessness and helplessness and the NBA called off the season abruptly in fear and trepidation. You remember that, don't you?
So someone saying it all affected him and stretched him as an athlete is all far fetched? Fear God o.

Android17:
LeBron played a handicapped Miami Heats and claimed that was his most difficult ring. Hoohoo. Shannon 'not too sharp' and similar Lebtards were chorusing such a dumb narrative like it is the gospel. When they tell you "LeBron had to win 2 games on his own" I laugh. Without that Kyrie injury, GSW were settling for a sweep. Maybe they don't remember, but Cleveland lost the only game Kyrie played in (and yes Kyrie played 43+ mins - even more than Curry did). Providence allowed Matthew Delly to be moved into the starting line up and he was the one who was turning the series over. Incase people forgot, Bronny had a big game 1 but his team still lost. So the notion that his big numbers was solely what got his team those wins can only be from the archive of someone who watches the back of his TV. Matthew harassed Curry so badly he was turning over the ball 6 more times than usual and GSWs ORB was 10-15 lower than Clevelands. We were getting abused physically. LeBron called them the grit squad. Even when Curry had a decent game 3 he was still very inefficient with negative +/-. Meanwhile Della was having Cleveland highs of +15 and +13 in those 2 games. LeMAO never came close. Yet "he won those 2 games on his own". Iguodala's MVP was not about defending LeBron. That was just lazy analysis (Lebron's numbers barely shifted). Iggy was inserted to that starting line up to frustrate Matthew. That was what opened the series for GSW and it was blowout after blowout till fade. People who swept the 60 win ATL Hawks in the ECF should stop telling us about Kevin Love. He was injured game 1 of the first round against the Celtics. They did fine without him. I have since shown that Kyrie played full minutes up to OT and his team lost. Cleveland always needed someone to take Curry out - simple. Tyronn Lue who worked with David Blatt took notes and that was his strategy for all the years that Cavs and GSW went at it - even when Kevin Durant was riding Curry's coattail. That same Kevin Durant that had just frizzled a 3-1 lead to a player he is 8 inches taller than and supposedly carried to 2 rings. Stupid things we have to read here from not too sharp people.

Your map of the world is not the only map in the world. There are 7.9 billion other maps. Quit talking down on people and show some respect boy!

Lebron saying his Bubble ring was his most difficult ring was not necessarily because of the Heats. The emotional torture and existential fear of the year's corona pandemic and the stressful conditions of the Bubble itself and how all these affected him and stretched him to his limits as an athlete was what he was referring to.

Saying Iggy's MVP was not because he defended Lebron well is a blatant lie. Without Iggy shutting down Lebron in that series nobody would have awarded him any MVP, take that to the bank.

Your other points remind me of the recent Messi and Ronaldo fanboys ballon d'or argument - pure bias points against the one you 'hate'. Just emotions.

@OP, don't do it. Think of the pain and misery and shame and opprobrium your dying this way will cause your loved ones

No matter what you are going through there could be a solution out there. Just hang in there. May you receive supernaturally the strength and might and courage you need to overcome this night.

Best wishes

Datboredberry:
I'll wait till 2am... Then, may I continue?

You have a disturbed and warped mind veiled with intelligence.

etidy:
I disagree with this biased media driven narrative. After 4 or more rings, 4 finals MVP and 6 years with the warriors. This whole narrative would have died.

The solution to criticism is winning, winning enough and people will forget how you won.

Well, I respect and defend your right to that opinion. It wasn't just the media though. Many NBA fans, emphasis on many, felt that way about those KD's rings and called him unprintable names. Even this thread has scars of battles fought on that score.

Draymond Green, his own team mate and team's vocal leader, had to spell it out for him in black and white in case he was impervious to the mounting disrespect to his name. "It's Steph's team. It's our team. We built this shit. You hopped into our team to get your damn rings." Do you realize the implication of this paragraph alone to his legacy? Read it again. Slowly.

Even KD himself said so himself, that he felt like an outsider, like he didn't belong there. Interpretation: it wasn't his team.

So I still stand on my own opinion. No matter how many rings he won with the Warriors he would still suffer the very same disrespect. He realized this and left the team, first emotionally, then later physically.

etidy:
In retrospect if Durant doesn't get a ring with the Nets , he will deeply regret leaving the warriors.

Imagine leaving a reliable, welcoming, unselfish MVP level player like Steph curry for a crackhead who is now threatening to waste one of the remaining peak years of your career all because of his personal stubbornness.
Curry is the exact opposite of Kyrie character wise. i suppose KD likes Chaos

I disagree. The Warriors was and will always be Steph's team. The media knew this. KD knew this. No matter how many rings he won with the Warriors, he knew he would never get his due respect in this league except he leaves the Warriors bandwagon and builds plus leads his own team.

PS: Respect is hard to get in this league. Even Lebron, after he got his Bubble ring, had to demand for one, " Give me my damn respect!," e get why.

It cuts both ways, madam. Most men can't handle the imbalance. Most women can't handle it either. They were cultured with a paternalistic programming, remember? So she begins to act all masculine around the home and most men are driven crazy by that shit.

"Why can't she still exhibit those attractive feminine energy that drew me to her in the first place", they ask?

Roland17:
Your responses prove you may not have any experience with dealing with kids who suffer or have suffered bullying. Your analogies in comparison to responses are far off apart. First, you misconstrue scenarios using "Big" kid, hopefully, you have leaned that there is no such thing as "Big" or "Small" kid when you are dealing with issues like bullying. A child that brings a gun to gun down 10 people after repeated bullying proves a failure in the system, not the victim. The victim will suffer the consequences of the mass shooting but I can assure you that the entire system that contributed to that failure will pay for it.

I am debating this analogy deviating from the adults and that is why your analogies do not match. Children/ young people have brought guns to school for lesser issues, worth more a situation where they are retaliating the emotional/ mental torture associated with bullying. It is similar to blaming a rape victim because you could not keep your hands and private part to yourself because she wear mini-skirt pass you. Suddenly the person that has been raped is at fault and is being blamed. This is sick bro!

The definition of overboard is not yours to define because you are not the victim of the emotional and mental torture associated with bullying. We have many adults whose lives have been derailed because they were victims of bullies, physical violence and rape. Hold the bullies accountable! Hold the system that allows bullies to thrive accountable. The victims of bullies, rape and violence have a respectable right to defend themselves. Please be careful when you use analogies especially when they have to do with kids.

Guy bone this your talk. The analogy was to bring out the folly in Shaq and Chuck hyping and glorifying immoderate retaliation on national TV when kids are watching and could pick the wrong values.

On that episode clips of Shaq and Chuck viciously mowing down their victim in a basketball game were being shown and they were glorifying it to show their support for fellow big man Jokic.

Kids are watching. What are we teaching them? That excessive retaliation is okay?

In my analogy, the big kid I used there represents Chuck and Shaq and Jokic.

The sensible thing is to condemn both the bullying and the culture that seeks to make heroes of immoderate retaliation or mass shooters.

Glorifying excessive retaliation like Shaq and Chuck did would send the wrong message to these kids and to society at large.

That's my last point on this.

Roland17:
This analogy is so wrong in so many ways! First, it infers that because a kid is big, he/she can not suffer bullying. Secondly, it shifts the responsibilities of the result of bullying on the victim instead of the bully! Come on man! The problem is the bully here.. Someone who is notorious for cheap, dirty and dangerous plays! The victim has every right to defend himself. To you, bullying is about the physical act..naaaaaa..Bullying is more about the mental control than the physical act.

If a child has a history of bullying kids or targeting a particular kid, the school is aware, friends are aware, even the family of the bully is aware they are raising a bully. Keep your hands to yourself! It is the safest place it can be. You are not going to get sympathy for trying to bully a big kid who retaliates! He did not create himself, he was not the aggressor and most importantly, the same right you think you have to hit another kid, is the same right the kid has to defend himself! For once, call out the aggressor!

There are appropriate responses to bullying and inappropriate responses. The right response to being taunted or bullied by classmates is not bringing a gun to school and mauling them down. A child should be taught how to stand up and defend himself without going overboard. Gunning the person down or doing a mass shooting should be a no no.

steady986:
When people start using too many "what ifs" in an argument you know they don't have any valid argument. "What if he injured his ribs" "what if he fractured his knee" "what if he broke his head". All moot points. If he didn't break his head then he didn't break his head. When he breaks his head then we can talk about how he broke his head.

These are the same people that complain nonstop about how the NBA has gone soft. They tell us how back in the day guys were hacking people. Now someone is playing hard and they're saying " what if he died". It was a dirty play, we get it, but miss me with all this "what ifs". We know a play that has the potential of becoming life-threatening or career-threatening and this was not one of them.

My brother, I just tire for some argument here!

Most of us argue emotionally. Our heart decides who we like and what we do and our head conjures up all the logic it can to defend that position and make our decision appear sane.

We get it Jokic is likable, Markieff is not but can we be a bit objective?

A40:
Stop making malaria analogies. When you're in the heat of battle there is no telling how you respond. The ideal situation is for the initial offender not to try you in the first place. What's the correlation between taunting and mass shooting as revenge. Stop dealing in extremes to make jejune argument

What was sportsmanlike about the initial foul? Or is the victim the only one allowed to show emotional intelligence? There is a reason there are self defense laws so dead this agenda

That is why emotional intelligence or control is taught these stars and taught in all endeavours.

Why the over celebration of Jokic's immoderate retaliation? Since when did two wrongs make a right? Why not call the two out?

There is a reason those convicted of manslaughter go to prison. You were provoked but you are still responsible for your actions.

birdman:
But these are not kids. This is a grown man's game. When you hit Jokic the way Morris did, you are sending a message. Jokic showed emotional intelligence imo. He could have clocked Morris with a punch to the temple. Or body slammed him. Otherwise you are seen as soft, and folks will test you in the playoffs where you cant afford to miss any games.

Speaking of kids, same thing. Yes, you should report things to the teacher instead of taking the law into your own hands. De-escalate if you can. But if they corner you and are about to inflict damage on you, game on. Do what you need to to get out of it. Then be the frst to report the whole story to the authorities anyways. Dont just lie down there and eat a beating trying to be emotionally intelligent. There are no rewards for coming home with a broken head. Bullies bully you until you clap back. Such is life.

No sir, he didn't. He did worse. He went hard from behind and made his neck snap. He gave him a neck injury, a whiplash. He could have killed him.

Like I said before I understand why Jokic did what he did but I will not justify it. Jokic went too far, just like the retaliating kid.

Second, I will not go on National TV and glorify and celebrate Jokic's disproportionate violence like Shaq and Chuck did. It is condemnable and is not what the NBA represents.

A big kid gets bulied by a classmate and he comes to class the next day on a shooting spree and kills 10. Intention, retaliation. Shaq and Chuck on National TV: "they got it coming. Don't mess with a big kid," and "if you hit a big kid, if he retaliates, it's all fair because the force is going to be different," literally glorifying the act, extolling violence, gloating even.

I say hogwash!

What happened to the virtue of sportsmanship? What happened to emotional intelligence? Are we not supposed to be trumpeting these?

Does sports analysts and broadcasters not have a code of conduct?

And kids watch these programs. I just wonder what we are teaching them these days.

And we are wondering why society is so decadent.

A40:
Lmaoo killed him?? Like barging into Jokic like that couldn't have broken his ribs and punctured his lungs, His flopping was what led to the Whiplash. I would sympathize with any other player not the Morris brothers, two of the dirtiest players in the league. Literally

Maybe if he apologized like a man instead of turning his back on him like a kitten he would have seen the retaliation coming. Any basketball court in the world if Morris tried that he would get knocked out whether he faced him or turned his back

I disagree, bro. How can he flop without knowing what was coming behind? It was the weight of the big man(Jokic) + the force of the push + the fact that it was unexpected (so he didn't brace himself to absorb the impact) that caused the whiplash.

Look at the pictures below and tell me it was flopping.

Markieff gave him a hard foul. Thumbs down Kieff. Is the punishment for a hard foul death? Jokic could have given him a serious neck injury or worse killed him. His head snapped back: a whiplash can lead to serious complications.

Reaction >>>>> Action.

I understand Jokic's intention though, he wanted to send a message to the NBA.

Fair enough punishment by the NBA in my opinion.

Let me help you psychoanalyze.

Which of your parents was physically abusive to you during childhood? Which of your parents does your wife remind you of?

You may have married 'one of your parents', psychologically speaking. It's why I advise friends to treat and resolve traumas and baggages before getting married. Unresolved traumas lead to a lot of irrationalities in a marriage.

Go for therapy.

Kobojunkie:
Again, Christianity does not provide you a way of "accessing the spirit". Please try to speak only of that which you are indeed knowledgeable of.

Bye sis.