₦airaland Forum

GstringAngela:
Was Azikiwe not aware of the Jos and Kano riots? Was he not aware that the North never wanted to be part of a united Nigeria intitally? Why then did he form a coalition government with Balewa's NPC by having an allaince with the same North that had earlier shown open hostility to his people?

So for the sake of argument, Azikiwe's mistake justifies the brutal mass killings of the Igbo?

A polictician(one man) commits an error and his whole tribe should pay for it?

Abeg shift.

kenonze:
Fear women
Fear igbos.


Many people aren't happy with this woman.

And one of the women says...

Disappointing.

Beauty sans brains.

davodyguy:
smh.

I heard this news this morning and was disappointed.

That's why education is very important. No educated Billionaire will do such in a public place, when he knows he has a reputation, except a wannabee Billionaire that goes about seeking attention

I disagree brother. Wisdom and self control has nothing to do with Education. A man, educated or not, either has it or doesn't.

Evacroft:
Pls just be patient with ur wife,mine was crying,if our pastor preaches about salvation I cry,if I watch movies I cry,if I call and u don't pick I cry,we complained to the doctor because of this and I was also crying instead of complaining. No food craving, no nausea. Nothing just crying.if my husband comes home late he will meet me almost fainting from crying. I cried for crying always. D day I lost d baby not even one tear. So bear with her

Was laughing at your crying frenzy till I read the last part. Sorry about that. May grace abound much more in your life. Peace. Nothing missing, nothing broken. Perfect peace.

Your mum didn't mean harm to you. She's been living with a huge burden all these years. She was in matrimonial pain and to cope with that she cheated on her husband. Sin number one.

To cover up one sin she needed other sins : Not opening up to her husband on the owner of the child ; not letting you know of your real dad even when you became of age.

Why would she do that? No, she's not evil, she doesn't hate you nor detest her husband. There is no sinister motive. The reason is just FEAR.

Fear of what will people say? A woman of God? Tufiakwa! She fears a scandal too big for her will unravel and decimate her and all she's built.

Second, Fear of you. Why complicate your life further? If I tell him can he handle it? Won't it kill him? Will he still look at me as a good mother or role model? Will my son still trust me?

You see, one sin has set in motion a complicated network of actions and behaviours and outcomes. Unintended consequences. That's what it's called.

We all make mistakes. We all sin. Even the best of us.

Forgive her. Don’t make things worse for her. Trust me your mum must have been through hell all these years. Even right now. She's been paying for her sins. It's her cross. May God forgive her.

Bring closure to things. Meet your dad. Be a man. It's never the same after a certain age, nevertheless be brave. Half bread is better than chinchin. Besides you never know.

Be strong. Be open. Be forgiving. Have courage. Life may yet have great things in store for you.

Remember, fortune favours the brave.

[quote author=dvee2 post=43817646][/quote]Missing brain can you now read my write up more slowly in the faint hope that you may understand the train of thought?

@ OP your problem is lack of discernment.

That you do not know the difference between the two cases is shocking to me.

Rape is a crime. Crimes happen in the North as well as in the South.

In the Yunusa Yellow case:

A Northern Moslem adult kidnaps a child from Bayelsa, converts her to Islam through the active connivance of the Sharia Commision, keeps her under the custody of the Kano Emirate, sleeps with her while the authorites actively prevent her mother from rescuing her daughter for many many months . Worse, the mother's life is threathened and she runs for dear life...

Here Yunusa, Sharia Commision and the Emirate are key characters in Ese's kidnap story.

Do you see the difference ? Do you now recognize the reason for the outrage in the predominantly Christian South?

truly:
Your use of the word civilisation is limited - every culture is civilization
Civilisation is not what the white man brought!


And also mass cannibalism practised on Muslims by Berom in the North - is cannibalism part of the "civilisation" the Christian Beroms imbibed
What is the cause of the perennial clashes between the Tivs and Jukuns in the North
Both are Christians - why don't we ascribe it to their religion?
Why is Islam the cause of any clash between a Muslim of a tribe and others


Father Kukah is Father Kukah; He is not God Kukah
And what he not making excuses for GEJ the other day - that his thievery should be forgiven be cause he conceded defeat?
Father Kukah is a Christian - I wonder when a statement by Oyegun of APC will be taken as an objective and definitive comment on PDP
I reckon that the Christian who refused to recognise the US Supreme Court judgment on h-o-m-o-s-i-c-k marriage is mixing his Christian faith with the supremacy of man-made law

BTW - how is democracy working for the blacks in America?
Looks like Black Lives don't matter in, and mix with, democracy


And who are you sir?
Your opinion on this becomes irrelevant as long as you are not a Muslim
Why should Clinton be concerned about the constitution of the GOP?
What is modernity? - succumbing to atheism and a practice that animals even will not stoop low to practice?
The problem with Nigerians is inferiority complex; most arguments raised against Islam are forged in the West!
I have not seen anything


Your argument is sophistry designed to obfuscate
What rights do Christian women have that muslim women lack?
And the "mensurating little girls" tag is designed to make the matter emotive = ala "yours daughters and wives"


No need to in so many words
The unquestioning applause suffices


Orchestrated by Christians who always shout Islamisation of Nigeria though the problem is their desire for a Christian Nigerian state
Public schools are filled with ideas and procedures slanted towards Christianity - Christians abhor polygamy and detest a multi-religion state
What is the punishment for all these pastors doing it with underaged girls
Pour anointing oil on their manhood?

Please let it be known that these noise is not about justice for the girls
But a determination for a bad name for Islam

I could puncture a million holes in your argument but what's the point? Religious debates are unwinnable and create bad blood on both sides. Lose - lose. I shouldn't have bothered. Best wishes bro.

truly:
You claim "I know,,,,"
What is the unending discord?
What grain of Islam do you speak of/
please tell us what is the rule in Islam for fornication and adultery

Meanwhile, I take it that you agree that Christianity prescribes cutting off a man's manhood for sleeping with a 13-year old?

Unending discord: Historically, in Nigeria, Islam and civilization has been clashing repeatedly ad infinitum. The result is the many religious riots and carnage and killings in the name of Allah in the North.

Father Kukah: Islam and democracy don't mix well together.

Personally, I think the religion needs to be rejigged to make it compatible with mordernity.

Grain : There are rights and privileges of womanhood conferred on menstruating little girls by Islam that secular society does not and abhors. These things create confusion and are easy sources of conflict in the society.

On Bakare: Never said that. But you are free to feed your imagination however you want.

Tired of the perennial conflicts, aren't you?

mukhcech:
Oh now the pastor recognise Sharia. How ignorant he is. In islam the crime of YUNUSA and ESE is well legislated. No Pastor Bakare u dont have the moral or spiritual jurisdiction to judge based on Sharia. In Sharia, they are both sinners and would be flogged in public(This is Based on the confession by Ese that she was not Kidnapped-I wonder why everyone seem to shy away from that revelation.)

Because at 13 she's too babyish to decide if she's kidnapped or not. Her parents and we adults must decide for her. That's how civilized people view all such matters. A child is still a child. I know this runs against the grain of Islam. It's why we have this unending discord.

Tonye you crossed the line. The problem is not so much about you being Anti-IPOB as it is you being blatantly anti-Igbo. You failed to discern the Igbo psychology and now you have to pay for it.

When you attack the Igbo the way you did you are exorcising the ghost of the 3 million killed. Blood speaks and the living is it's mouth piece. The backlash is as unpredictable as it is uncannily explosive. The same thing happened with the Oba Akiolu debacle.

At the back of all Israeli actions and inactions is the Holocaust. It is the same for the Igbo nation. It's the 3 million dead. Fighting the Igbo on the scores you did is fighting 3 million spirits. It's a formidable unearthly opposition.

Worse, you roped the Ijaw into your shenanigan and created a whole armada of enemies for your beloved land, by yourself alone.

As a politician, when you go all out like that it means you must have counted the cost.

Bottomline, you are not stable yet immature. We've been watching you a long time. If I were to advice my friends on your matter I'll warn them to steer clear you. Period.

janellemonae:
You informed us a fan said it and not jude. I replied U dt "why am I not surprised".

If u think d rest of my post was referring to ur piece of information and not d 'fan' DT wrote d article, all I can say is - you think too highly of yourself.

Reading comprehension.

Your post was open to different interpretations. You could have been sarcastic on me. Mixed messages are the writer's fault. The 'who?' was ambiguous.

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Knowing now you intended no harm, I apologize for my not so subtle attack.

janellemonae:
Why am I not surprised? Bunch of tribalistic igbo fans.

Its on judes page, he can always speak against it like d last time he told pple to stop dissing lola. But this has nothing to do wt lola. Stupid tribalistic fans can say what they like but d girl is stronger dn all dt. Russian women dont suffer fools & are not emotional.

Hes just a shameless agbaya. He haf do wt d stealing. He should let his brothrrs have creative control if they want to and should stop insisting they split earnings equally. Hes a bloody manager. Even kris jenner only gets 10%.

Are you smoking something? Can't you read? Where did I go wrong? By asking that a false and misleading thread be pulled down? Gerrarahia abeg.

Can't the mods pull this thread down?? Is it too difficult for people to realize from the screenshots that the hunters and dogs parable were from a fan and NOT from Jude as stated by the OP?

[quote author=AprokoMan post=42785941][/quote]Thanks man for removing the veil from my eyes. Smh.

franchizy:
Im igbo and i support this action of the military and police.
We the well meaning igbos will never support the Biafra agitation.
we remain Nigerians forever.
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I'm repulsed by this statement of yours. You may not support them nor support Biafra, which is okay by me, as the Igbo nation is a repulican one and people are free to hold different opinions on issues but how dare you endorse the killing of your own innocent brothers for peacefully protesting their freedom? Since when did engaging in a peaceful protest become punishable by death?

You say this shit when others are condemning the murder of innocent Zakzaky Shiite followers and the killing of innocent blacks by white police in the US?

Have you lost your soul? Are you confused of your roots? Don't you know your history? Where you not thought? Tufiakwa! Retrace your steps sam sam nwanne. Onye aghana nwanne ya.

Hi Rhemaa, I am a Therapist and I can help her.

She is suffering from trauma. Her body remembers the horrible events of that day subconsciously. She will treat every sexual advance as if rape is about to happen. Sex and rape have become linked in her mind. A Therapist needs to work on breaking the power of the traumatic event over her and also deal with her skewed perception of intimacy and sex.

She should be okay in a few sessions. There are newer, more effective techniques for these things.

I stay in Lagos. Contact me if you need us to talk more.

I support the Prof on this. A hate speech targetting an entire tribe is condemnable.

At the same time a solution to the Fulani herdsmen issue should be implemented. And justice dispensed.

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This story and the comments here make me think about old and recent issues.

Many of those who support Prof Chidi's position on this are still the ones who claim Igbos (an entire tribe) planned the 1966 coup to dominate the rest of the country. A coup planned by few soldiers (4 Igbos and a Yoruba).

That coup is this 'celebrated' as an "Igbo coup." A tag pregnant with meaning.

Till today, when we say apologize to the Igbos for the pogrom and the 3 million killed in the war, they say No. The Igbos caused it and deserved what they got.

Today, Fulani herdsmen are on rampage and the mantra by the same people is "Don't use the sins of a few to paint a whole race bad or punish them."

Where is our sense of justice?

Smh.

And they wonder why people like Nnamdi Kanu is getting massive following.

We have very wrong foundations in this country. We'd better fix it now before it's too late.

Happy Independence Day Nigeria!

DedeNkem:
I guess you're a University undergraduate, and yet your English grammar is shamefully reprehensible!

Reprehen- what?

No sir, her grammar is good enough. She spoke informally, casually and she nailed it.

My submission.

Mznaett, young girl think about your life, your future, your destiny, your purpose. In a little while, you may be making the same mistake Esau made - sacrificing your destiny and purpose for some fleeting pleasure.

You are already moving with the wrong crowd and exhibiting some habits that may push u to the point of no return.

Retrace, retrace, retrace your steps now before ...

Two words too much for the wise.

Sir, the problem was not really the brains you employed but you. You, and the late Yaradua, had no business accepting Obasanjo's greek gift of running this country. You were not ready. You did not have the capacity nor the vision nor a plan.

... and it showed big time.

Sir, a leader casts his shadow on his nation/organization no matter the people around him. The Nigeria you left behind was a reflection of you, Mr Jonathan.

Morals, values, character, vision, charisma, truth, integrity, all wanting...

May your likes never taste power again.

qintus:
Mind you that the Igbo hav resolved to build their fatherland BIAFRA the British zoo in Africa called NIGERIA has expired so stop deciving yourself the zoo now belongs to hausa/fulani so others should find their way

You are guilty of the same generalization I accused the guy of. There are many Igbos all over Nigeria, all over the world. The best you can say is that there is a Biafra movement with a large following ongoing and that the Igbo consciousness is on the upswing.

I don't like generaliztions it distorts the reality, the truth.

Bye.

LastProphet:
Ibos say it was a propaganda so that means thee relatives are not humanbeings, they cant be real, or are they hired by jonathan to make 'Nigeria ungovernable for PMB?'

Ibos? So Oby Ezekwesili is Hausa? Doyin Okupe who was attacking her for speaking up against an irresponsible government is Igbo?

Abeg, use your tongue to count your teeth.

I hope Oliseh has outgrown his temper.

His playing days were sometimes punctuated with temper leaks on and off the field.

Just saying.

Abagworo:
Ikwerre changed the names back to Ikwerre. You can't come to another man's land and change his name to whatever suits you. Ikwerre disagrees being Igbo and the dialectal variation lends some credence to the claims. We need to actually let them be. The reason I have been contributing to this thread is not to claim Ikwerre is Igbo but to correct a flawed rewrite of history.

One love bro.

The kite and the eagle should both perch.

I'm out.

Abagworo:
Ihuruoha is simply "face of the people" or Ihuoha or ifuora in central Igbo. The "Hn" or "whn" was conceived in autography to address the nasal and accented pronounciation.

The origin and uniqueness of Ikwerre would not have been a long discussed controversy if common sense was allowed to come into play. Migrations came from everywhere with Etche and Owerri being very significant but the most solidly placed and easily proven root is Cross River Igbo area rather than Western Igbo or Bini.

I write this because I feel more connected to Ogba and Ukwuani and I notice a lot of similarities aming us but never Ikwerre.

Ok, good point about the authography. But the rate at which Ikwerre changed Igbo names after the war lends credence to my fears.

There is nothing like uniqueness. Abiriba , Onicha, some Aro and many others in Igbo land are believed to have migrated from somewhere into Igboland. That does not make them less Igbo than anyone else.

Where are u from?

mcvaeey:
n the words of K.O. Amadi (1993), “Traditions suggest that Ikwerre is a nickname given to Iwhnuruọhna people…..

The name of the grand ancestor is Akalaka. Their relations in Rivers State are Ekpeye and Ogba people. The reigning Oba of Benin when Akalaka, the ancestor of Ihruọha (later called Iwhnurọhna) fled was Oba Ewuare (Ogwaro).

It is noteworthy that the pedigree and name of Ikwerre people, Iwhnurọhna, obviously took its root from this original name – Ihruọha. Chief Solomon therefore establishes a very vital historical link, which has been missing in literature on Ikwerre origin that would assume more significance in the discourses of Ikwerre genealogy in the future – the fact that Akalaka was the direct father of Ihruọha (Ikwerre). Iwhnurọhna, in Ikwere parlance, means the face of the community (town, city or village).

Read the above. Akalaka a Benin man gave birth to Iwhnurọhna = both the name of the father and his son are Igbo names and yet he's from Benin.

See also:

Iwhnurọhna

Ihruọha

Impressed at the ingenuity at bastardizing and creatively mispelling Igbo names. See gymnastics. Quite astounding.

Also,

"Iwhnurọhna, in Ikwere parlance, means the face of the community (town, city or village)."

Iwhnurọhna = Ihruọha = Iruoha =
Iroha = face of the community (town, city or village or public or public face in Igbo.

Wow.

So tomorrow someone can say my name is not debola, it's dhebolar and insist on its accuracy.

Anyway, no comment.

Failure is an orphan. Success has many fathers. Focus on yourself. Build your house well. If u do, others will identify with you. They will even beg you for citizenship. US is a case in point.

O gwu m, n'onu.

@OP where is the source? Who is the girl to you?

What a story! If this story is true, it's a sorry world.

She that has ears let her hear!

Do you even understand what trauma is? Trauma is a shock or wound to the system: to
our psychology, body, biology or our soul.

If a male/female child who has been designed by God not to experience sex till adulthood, gets abused, their body and psychology experiences a devastating shock/trauma whether they are consciously aware of it or not.

The child's mind path is corrupted or made dysfunctional for life except there is quality intervention along the way.

Violence does not necessarily mean physical. There's something called psychological violence. Rape, forced or unforced bielongs to this scheme. Rape is evil. Rape is gaining the most intimate of accesses into another's body and soul without their permission.

A child's conscious mind is not developed enough to give this permission. A child cannot give permisson.

A male/female child by definition is thus raped by any sexual encounter.

Even some raped girl- children 'enjoy' the sex and even beg for more from their adult rapists. Does that make the rapist less culpable or the crime less than rape or her life less destroyed? A child may not be able to tell a right from a wrong, an evil from a good- it's the nature of a child.

Rape victims, male or female, are often traumatized for life and exhibit strange, self- or others-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviours as adults to cope with life. That, my friend, is called trauma.

craziebone:
i agree with you when you said you felt no trauma. I do not think a guy would feel any trauma when he was introduced to sex by a woman at the age he wasn't supposed to be introduced to it. This is because, she did not overpower or overwhelm him pe se.

It is the same thing when a guy has sexual activites with a minor girl when he didn't overpower or overwhelm her. He he touched her and the girl gives in, then the girl is not going to suffer trauma very much, but that dosn't mean the whole thing is permissible.

All of these bring me to the conclusion that the trauma people feel from sexual abuse has got nothing to do with peniis and vaagina very much. The trauma comes as a result of being overpowered and overwhelmed that you just cannot do anything physical to stop it. This goes for both men and women. This is the reason why even though i believe the number of stories here represent the prevalence of this epidemic in the real world, i do not trust the men here when they say they suffered trauma. They are claiming trauma because they want to bring up male issues too so as to get back at the so much vile they hear from feminists when ever male of female rape cases come up. You can't blame them, can you?

Wether male on female sexual abuse or the other way round, trauma doesn't come in very much when there was no overpowering and overwhelming.

The only damage that is being done when a man lures a minor girl into sex or a woman lures a minor boy into sex, is in the orientation about what sex is. The whole experience tends to give the minor a false idea of sex which they carry into adulthood and become a problem to the rest of the world and also to themselves.

However, i disagree with you when you said you will kill that man who molests you. Well, that is possible, but most times, victims of such experience are completely broken in will and physical strength.

Anyguy who would rape you is definitely stronger than you. It may even be a group of guys, whish would make the whole thing harder for you. I am sure you've seen "Game of Thrones". You saw what happened to Theon Greyjoy after he was abused and tortured? He was broken completely in physical strength and psychological will even to the point that when his sister came to rescue him from the kennel, he couldn't o with her, accepting that kennel to be his rightful place. He also accepted the name "reek". When Sansa gave him candle to give to that ally, he turned around to betray Sansa even though it was absolutely possible to carry out the plan and it would work! That's what torture does to the human spirit; it breaks you completely! And rape, especially when it involves an over powering of any form that is not seduction, has the same effect too. So i doubt if you will be able to stand up to those guys who would rape you.

TRUTHTOPOWER:
Hesitant like is golden where insults are freely dished out. be that as it may. nothing would give me joy than to see culprits serve jail terms or some of community service as punishment. I know an ex NANS president now in jail for collecting less than 1m under disputed circumstances of studentship and unionism. There are more suspects outside jail than I side jail yet the jail ie bursting at the seams. in any event, some will go to jail for evasion or obstruction of justice. But let's hold our noses to collect our money. It is always to be remembered that even if we preach with fire sons of Lucifer will eventually go to hell. N.B. accept, patriotically, my 'provional like' lol.

Lol. Your provisional like accepted.

TRUTHTOPOWER:
To speak against corruption is to speak against south? why not insist on investigation of all leaders wealth instead of let by gone be by gone. the gospel of 'bygones' is half truth.restitution is the full gospel truth. I am not interested in anyone going to jail, for all have sinned. but let anyone with tax payers money return them conscientiously and go home - and sin no more!

I gave you a hesitant 'like' for this because I'm interested in looters and evil men going to jail. I have the same disdain and bias against them as I have for terrorists and Boko Haram. They are the cause of terrorism and kidnappings and the underdevelopment in this country.

Loot the commonwealth, return the money and go to jail. Loot small change, return the money with a caution to go home and sin no more.

Brugo:
Getting emotional and consoling the ladies won't take the problem away. That's stùpid. There are triggers for rape among lovers / friends. Address those rather than screaming murder. If you refuse to see the sense in preventing but prefer damage control then I have no further words for you as I have addressed these issues already.

So you can't point to your disclaimer again? I chose you particularly out of the legion because you were the most arrogant of the lot.

Next time you see a topic on rape you'll be nicer and speak with more balance.

The major culprit is the rapist. Chase him away first, jail him, rebuke him 1st on the thread. Get mad at him. He has no defence. It's why they are thrown mercilessly in jail easily in other climes. Then you can creatively and sensitively talk about steps to avoiding rape to the womenfolk.

Not the patriachal and mean, it's-your-fault-for- being-raped hogwash being peddled by you and your ilk.