₦airaland Forum

Some people are so quick to blame berti for the misfortunes overwhelming nigerian football, but the truth is that our problem has degenerated into all aspects of our football, from players attitude to nfa's incompetence. unless drastic measures are taking to sanitise the whole structure then we will keep going down that infamous road. even if ferguson,ancherlloti or any world class coach takes over the super eagles,with the present structures they will never go far. the local coaches experienced it what makes the foreigners immune to it.

@ThiefofHearts
I'd be best for you not to continue, again I think it's funny that a place known for open sex in luxury buses is now acting like they are above public kissing

I still repeat my question have u seen anyone? Do u have one,two,three experiences where u caught anyone in the act? Whether u accept it or not we are a moral people, with a sound culture and values. We swallow hook,line and sinker everything western. It may work for them but for us it is not our culture. If u want to engage in PDA go ahead but remember do not try it in NAIJA.

Have u seen anyone or ur are working on hearsay, even if people do engage in such an act they dare not do in the full glare of the public.

Kissing in the public is not the culture in Nigeria, kissing on the other hand is part of our lives, we just do not go on public rampage about it, if u want to kiss please spare us the details and do it in private.

I do not want to be dragging this issue back and forth with u, my only opinion is that u treat each individual as a seperate person and do not believe because one individual behaves wrongly, it can be assumed that all individuals behave likewise.

Besides try meeting the right people and try being the right person and see if ur view will not change.

@ThiefofHearts
Yes the same good moral country known for ritual killings

Seriously who are you people fooling with your so called "morals"

There are still a few decent people who uphold values that are proper, please do not assume that we are all alike.

@ThiefofHearts
keep fooling urself

better a wise fool than an inconsiderate fool.

Let us not be quick to photocopy everything we see in some cultures, it is not perculiar to our culture to be seen kissing in public, it is strictly reserved for private moments, or else why can we not imagine ourselves engaging in sexual intercourse in full view of the public, let us behave ourselves. Nigeria is a country of morals lets not destroy it by throwing caution to the wind.

My man i am sure when u posted this subject u did not bargain for the scolding u would receive from people, the truth is that they are right in their rebuke, u need to deal with ur insecurity or else it will cloud ur thinking and destroy ur relationship with ur lady and those around u.  Be grateful for the relationship u have and look for ways to better urself, even if u get a job where u are paid a million naira a month there is no guarantee that it will make all things right, the absence or presence of money does not guarantee hapiness in relatioships. Insecurity is ur problem deal with it.

Dear Misright if someone does not believe in any of the things u listed then there is no point calling oneself a christian. It is all about faith: Faith is the appearance of things yet hoped for, the conviction of things not yet seen.

I agree that there are things in the bible that may seem far fetched, but then so are many things that occur in daily living which cannot be explained away. Trying to rationalise God is like explaining the internet to an ant, no man can understand God, we have not even understood why we behave the way we do. Rather we should focus on knowing this God that do such great things and not dwell on questioning if he did do the things he said he did.

p.s stop rationalising and start believing.

I personally know how to cook and enjoy it, if the love of my life can't cook i will simply put on my apron and teach her, but this must have occured before marriage.

If u were my sister i would so flog u with koboko till u come to ur senses, do not try it, do not waste ur life over a man whose wave length is incompatile with urs. Go and do something with ur life, get a degree, build ur personality, mature in every aspect. Relationships are not fairy tales, it is hard work and u must be ready for it. A word is enough for the wise, but in ur case u have gotten a basket load of words. Those advocating for u not to indulge in this fantasy listen to them and go do something positive with ur life

I think a lot of people have given u enough advise to guide u properly, but have u learnt anything from ur experience and what measures are u taking to forstall a re-ocurrence?

Does he feel uncomfortable with the fact that u are done with school, is he edgy when around ur friends who have finished school? Does he strike u as a guy who is focused about his life? What are his priorities for now? There is so much i can ask u, but the truth is apart from the love u have for him which is good, there is still so much to consider, that u love someone does not necessarily mean u must marry him/her talk it out with someone u are free with and who is much older and married, do not feel it has to be this guy or no one else. there are still a lot of people out there u are bound to meet. be sure u are ready for whatever decision u will take.

opuro how can u explain understanding without the trace of love?

the lack of money does not guartantee marital bliss, the presence of money (lots of it) does not also guarantee marital bliss, what guarantees marital bliss are the two parties in the marriage, in a joint effort working in every conceivable way with the strenght of God to make their marriage work. any marriage based on the wrong foundation will eventually colapse, if the foundation is not good the building will never be good.

individuals differ what one hates may be overlooked by another, but all the same it is important that u discover the preferences of the person u are involved with so that u will be able to relate better with that person, besides GUYS   we too should let the ladies know what puts us off in relationships, they can not be the only ones doing the revelation alone. as for me a girl that is not original (forming) puts me off big time.

fellow libras i hail u all,15th october,libra to the core

love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person

any time i think of u i smile
any time i smile i think of u
i don't know if its thinking of u makes me smile or
smiling that makes me think of u

i do not blame him for stepping aside, it is obvious even to blind,deaf and dumb individual that there is nothing free and fair about the elections. the basic problem with most political parties is the absence of ideology, many parties assemble to fight an injustice or a ruling party.

what pat utomi and others like him should do is to plan ahead. build your party with solid idoelogies, do not wait till election time to affect the society, start putting up programmes, projects, seminars that will target the populace and disabuse their minds from the opinions of nigeria as a failed state. project that within eight or more years your party should have a solid structure, with credible leaders who can take up positions in government, this way you will be better prepared.

what is happening in this country cannot go on forever, people are begining to wake up to their responsibilties and with time nigeria must and will change.

Inec had the effontry to declare Andy Uba victorious in anambra state,imagine an election where key figures in the state did not vote,its a good thing that the governor kept announcing that there where no elections in anambra state and various individuals attested to that fact. i am hoping that when the chips are down men and women will not go into hiding and allow this daylight robbery to hold sway. i look forward to the outcome of this issue. Iwu is a disgrace and every other person who perpetrated this sham called election. Nigerians never forget, but do we ever learn?

i agree with you kliverpool, a lot of relationships are based on what u have rather than the character/personality, and when we start on the footing of materialism we are bound to encounter difficulties along the way, money can't buy u happiness,trust,loyalty,fidelity,peace.God will help us.

celtel network is a complete washout, they have not realised the potential for abandonement from nigerians, one day they will wake up to realise that they no longer hold water in the nigerian communication industry

Love in Marriage can appreciate but its a lot of hard work from both parties but where only one person is struggling to hold the centre together it can be a misery adventure. Its just human nature to go gis-gis for new things and if you don't work on maintaining what you have to preserve its freshness or appeal the interest wanes and of course it depreciates and then your tolerance level comes to test. For africans, its not easy to walk away at this stage so they stay but window shop.

well said.

Dirax what are u agitated about, whoever wants to leave in fairy tale land should be left to do so, look for people who are living in reality. besides a percentage of those who live by the dictates of romance novels are young girls who have not left the childish level. a mature lady knows the difference between fantasy and reality, and lives by the latter

most men and women forget that to get the best out of anything in life you have to give,build,invest,sacrifice a lot to it. marriages die because both partners go to sleep and forget to continually pour oil into the lamp of their relationship. they would rather trade blame on who caused the relationship to wither than work on the solution of either reviving or sustaining the relationship. marriage can work and do work if both parties commit to the building of the union.
love goes beyond feelings and fluttering of the stomach or racing heartbeat, you must invest yourself to make it work. married people can look for ways to reinvent those moments that stole their hearts away.

hello onyii,i saw your post.it is possible to meet serious and sincere igbos on this channel,but at the same time do not hold back in meeting people from other tribes you might be suprised by the outcome. i am igbo and if you are interested in having a friendly chat with me do let me know on this forum,then we can decide whether to exchange email addresses or keep talking through this forum.

p.s i hail from ubahudara in uli under ihiala l.g.a,anambra state. all the best.